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im gonna lose it if i see one more post saying “LET [GROUP OF PEOPLE] GO TO PRIDE !!” like Who are you talking to ?? do u think there are bouncers checking credentials and throwing people out ?? what exactly do you think pride is like

curseworm

pride is literally overrun by cishets who just see it as an excuse to get trashed in broad daylight and u still think theres some sort of judge and jury that decides who is or is not Gay Enough to get in ? its literally held on open streets you can just walk in

curseworm

cishets at pride: puking in the grass, dry humping on the sidewalk, harassing lgbt people

tumblr users: the elite homosexual authority rule pride with an iron fist. plead as we may they will not grant us lost souls shelter in their kingdom. their daunting armies turn back all those deemed unworthy of entrance

meeraria

I’m sorry to say this gay joe russo, but the first LGBTQ+ character in mcu is in fact Agent Jimmy Woo who asked Scott Lang out, with his whole chest, seconds after he released him from custody

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enoughtohold

alternate narrative: it’s actually fine if someone found me a little weird or even off-putting. i am a little weird and it’s no big deal

motherboxing

supporting questions: how many genuinely delightful people who you like spending time with are, themselves, a little weird? perhaps even capable of being interpreted as off-putting? would you characterize those peoples’ weirdness as inherently bad, or something that makes you not want to be around them? or do enjoy their weirdness because that’s part of who they are? if someone came up to you and was like, “ew, that friend of yours is so weird, what’s their problem” how would you react?

enoughtohold

“you can only be queer if you share my exact personal vision of liberatory politics” vs. “self-identification as queer is SACRED and questioning any use of the term for any reason in any context ever is evil,” please fight while the rest of us take a break and get mimosas

enoughtohold

not that anyone asked for my pedantic opinion but the new yorker’s ultrapedantic policy that a dialogue tag using “like” needs a comma shoved in the middle of it drives me up the wall

god damn it, “to be like” is a phrasal verb meaning (roughly) “to say”

writing “he was, like, ‘hey’” suggests that “like” is just filler and the intended statement was “he was ‘hey.’” but he wasn’t “hey.” he was like “hey” and yes i will die on this hill

enoughtohold

you’ve heard of “not like the other girls” misogyny, now get ready for “not like the ‘not like the other girls’ girls” misogyny

abarbaricyalp

Bullshit. The only rebuttal I’ve seen to this is women collectively defending other women, regardless of if they’re still in their ‘not like other girls’ phase. Women who realize that this phrase is an insidious bit of internalized misogyny are always very quick to defend and educate other women.

MEN on the other hand have again weaponized this turn of phrase/self acceptance movement into the misogyny as pointed out in the original post. Stop blaming girls for narratives concocted by assholes.

enoughtohold

idk how bullshit this post can possibly be when it barely even contains an argument but sure, let’s get into it

women absolutely do this in a misogynistic way. not always! but it happens. ironic though it may be, one can definitely end up seeing “women who don’t support other women enough” as an acceptable category of women to bash.

and one can also be overbroad in defining that category. unfortunately, some women associate gender nonconformity with failure to support other women. they assume that women who don’t wear makeup/dresses/etc., or who express frustration with the pressure to do so, must have a problem with women who do wear those things. but that’s not a fair assumption, and it’s not supportive of all kinds of women either.

also, while “not like other girls” sentiment usually involves some level of internalized misogyny, so too can it be a reaction to other women’s outwardly directed internalized misogyny. many girls feel alienated from “other girls” in large part because other girls have not supported them, have told them that they’re not a proper girl, that they’re too weird or too fat or what have you — that they’re doing it wrong. these factors can be present at the same time, and interact. and regardless of the chicken-or-egg origin of any particular case, you see how this can create a vicious cycle of women disparaging other women.

and sure, men use both sides of this coin in their misogyny (“you’re not like other girls” as a compliment, for example) and that’s not women’s fault. but that doesn’t mean women’s expressions of these ideas are always faultless.

enoughtohold

i’ve heard from so many women who saw certain kinds of anti–“not like other girls” feminism and started to think they had to like pink and dresses to be a good feminist… even if that message was completely unintended, this still happened and i think we should care about that at least as much as we care about the supposed cabal of feminists who want to ban pink and force everyone into shapeless grey uniforms or whatever

enoughtohold

a bunch of girls: you’re not like us… you’re weird… a freak… lol ew

girl: oh. i guess i’m not like other girls

the internet: WHOA THERE why do you hate women so much omg you’re not special grow up

enoughtohold

sometimes “i’m not like other girls” just means “i don’t fit in with the other girls at my school which is my entire world because i’m a kid, and i’m trying desperately to spin that in a vaguely positive way to salvage any remaining shred of self esteem” so idk, perspective maybe

enoughtohold

i didn’t take refuge in “not like other girls” thinking as a kid — i was too laser-focused on trying (and failing) to be normal — but i was mercilessly bullied for being different, a wrong kind of girl. and i know that sure, we all agree bullying is wrong. but i virtually never see that behavior identified as misogynist. i don’t see popular internet posts asking women to examine why they mocked and shunned other girls in school for being the wrong kind of girl, and what that might say about how they view women. i very much doubt anyone has ever sat down one of my bullies and said of their bullying, “your internalized misogyny is showing.” i had and have internalized misogyny too; we all do. i just want to see as much attention to the “you’re not like us” form as i see for the “i’m not like you” form.

enoughtohold

if you only talk about anti-semitism in terms of vague “hate”… but then at other times when you’re listing forms of hate, you leave it out…… That’s Suspicious

protectthomasbarrow

Anna: What’s the most inspiring thing Mrs. Hughes' ever said to you?

Thomas: Don’t be an idiot. Changed my life. Whenever I'm about to do something, I think, 'Would an idiot do that?' And if they would, I do not do that thing.