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Once a boy looked very sadly at me after a little bit of conversation. ‘you’re so smart’ he said, ‘I feel like I couldn’t keep up’. And then he did that sad boy face where you’re supposed to agree to tone yourself down. So I said ‘probably’ and fucked his mate.

bisexualpiratequeen

some top advice from a slut, here, 90% of the time when some boy looks sad and tells you you’re too ‘x’ to keep up with it’s a ploy to get you to cut bits off yourself so you can come down to his mediocre level; instead, agree with him and fuck his mate

the-memedaddy

sleepbby

god… the romance of sitting in a room with the person you love, each of you doing your own thing like reading a book or playing a game…. silent but full of love and warmth

How do you deal when

The voices are screaming at you that you’re worthless and a waste of space and can’t do anything right? I’m fighting it because I know those things aren’t true but I’m getting tired of fighting. It’s exhausting arguing with my emotions all day. And then having to try to explain for the umpteenth time to my family that I didn’t waste the day playing video games. That the video games are allowing me to escape my own mind and the voices that are telling me to kill myself.

mooniicorn

“If autism isn’t caused by environmental factors and is natural why didn’t we ever see it in the past?”

We did, except it wasn’t called autism it was called “Little Jonathan is a r*tarded halfwit who bangs his head on things and can’t speak so we’re taking him into the middle of the cold dark forest and leaving him there to die.”

iamthethunder

Or “little Jonathan doesn’t talk but does a good job herding the sheep, contributes to the community in his own way, and is, all around, a decent guy.” That happened a lot, too, especially before the 19th century.

rosslynpaladin

Or, backing up FURTHER

and lots of people think this very likely,

“Oh little Sionnat has obviously been taken by the fairies and they’ve left us a Changeling Child who knows too much, and asks strange questions, and uses words she shouldn’t know, and watches everything with her big dark eyes, clearly a Fairy Child and not a Human Like Us.”

The Myth of the Changeling child, a human baby apparently replaced at a young age by a toddler who “suddenly” acts “strange and fey” is an almost textbook depiction of autistic children.

To this day, “autism warrior mommies” talk about autism “stealing” their “sweet normal child” and have this idea of “getting their real baby back” which (in the face of modern science) indicates how the human psyche actually does deal with finding out their kid acts unlike what they expected.

Given this evidence, and how common we now know autism actually is, the Changeling myth is almost definitely the result of people’s confusion at the development of autistic children.

vicecommanderhijikata

Weirdly enough, that legend is now comforting to me.

neddythestylish

I think it’s worth noting that many like me, who are diagnosed with ASD now, would probably have been seen as just a bit odd in centuries past. I’m only a little bit autistic; I can pass for neurotypical for short periods if I work really hard at it. I have a lack of talent in social situations, and I’m prone to sensory overload or you might notice me stimming.

But here’s the thing: life is louder, brighter and more intense and confusing than it has ever been. I live on the edge of London and I rarely go into the centre of town because it’s too overwhelming. If I went back in time and lived on a farm somewhere, would anyone even notice there was anything odd about me? No police sirens, no crowded streets that go on for miles and miles, no flickery electric lights. Working on a farm has a clear routine. I’d be a badass at spinning cloth or churning butter because I find endless repetition soothing rather than boring.

I’m not trying to romanticise the past because I know it was hard, dirty work with a constant risk of premature death. I don’t actually want to be a 16th century farmer! What I’m saying is that disability exists in the context of the environment. Our environment isn’t making people autistic in the sense of some chemical causing brain damage. But we have created a modern environment which is hostile to autistic people in many ways, which effectively makes us more disabled. When you make people more disabled, you start to see more people struggling, failing at school because they’re overwhelmed, freaking out at the sound of electric hand dryers and so on. And suddenly it looks like there’s millions more autistic people than existed before.

shrinky-tink

I need to save this

interstellartooru

i’m so in love with domestic sweetness.

cooking dinner with the one you love while they wrap their arms around you. taking quick kiss breaks in between folding fresh laundry. washing each other’s hair in the shower. giggling and rolling around in the fresh sheets you both just finished putting on. dusting while showing off your latest dance moves and having your sweetheart show off their vocals.

it’s so comforting to have someone that you just enjoy making a home with. because chores done with someone you love isn’t such a chore after all.

the-exercist

Healthy New Year's Resolutions That Don't Involve Weight Loss

Rather than focusing on losing weight in 2019, let’s think about what we can gain. What can you add to your life to make it more satisfying? What new practices would make you happier and feel better? Consider some of these healthy resolutions for the new year:

Get more quality sleep

Eat vegetables at every meal

Wash your bed sheets regularly

Meditate

Spend more time outside

Actually eat your fruit before it goes bad

Get back in touch with old friends

Bring your own bags when grocery shopping

Don’t watch tv or use the computer during meals

Support local farms and food producers

Take vitamins

Learn to knit or sew

Stretch and improve your flexibility

Volunteer to register voters

Concentrate on improving your posture

Make doctor and dentist appointments regularly

Cook and prepare lunch instead of relying on processed foods

Replace your toothbrush

Clean your kitchen and dishes after each meal

Stop biting your nails

Compliment someone every day

Regularly donate unworn and ill-fitting clothing to a local shelter

Wear sunscreen every day you’re outside

Clean your pantry and throw out expired food each month

Quit smoking

Explore local museums and parks

Put your laundry away

Get an eye exam and update your prescription

Cut down on the amount of plastic you use each day

Re-try foods that you hate, but haven’t eaten in years

Delete a social media account

Moisturize and remove your makeup before going to bed

Attend town hall meetings

Keep a journal

Floss

Focus on changing your behavior instead of changing your body, and then every step will be a step forward.

uptional

“One. Do not promise when you’re happy. Two. When you are angry, do not respond. Three. Do not decide when you’re sad.”

— (via coral)

sarahtaylorgibson

Productivity culture will deceive you (especially if you are particularly high-functioning or a former Gifted Kid) into thinking that any use of your time that can’t be monetized or leveraged for your personal advancement is worthless, and I’m here to tell you that’s the devil talking. Do shit because you like it.