bella

she/her ⟢ 20’s ⟢ angel of color ☭ writer. mdni

[bynine]

starter babies

[scramratz]

toxic yaoi but its the two wickies from The Lighthouse (2019)

[weedstoner]

we really need to push back on this increasingly common idea that an adult and a child can never have anything in common and should never be interacting outside of very specific, strictly monitored circumstances. growing up my mom would take us to the park and she would also play with the other random kids who were there, I don't think you can do this anymore. I spent most of my 8th grade lunches hanging out alone with my english teacher talking about books and life and culture, I don't think this would be allowed anymore. the potential for someone to exploit a child and do harm will always be there, but I think acting like children can never benefit from a friendship with an adult really just harms children in the long run. as a child/teen who dealt with severe mental illness, to this day I still remember the impact that kind adults had on me growing up.

[stoneantler]

No one is coming to save you is about how you can't suffer in silence and privacy and hope that someone will magically show up one day and say, "oh I noticed your suffering. Let me fix everything for you." It is not a statement that no one will help you. They will. You have to ask first tho. And then, unfortunately, you have to put in the work, because in almost all situations you will receive help and assistance, rather than unequivocal rescue.

[alchemistdoctor]

I am begging you. Please learn about stress/discomfort tolerance. Practice raising it. You need this to survive. If someone online can ruin your day with a throwaway comment, you desperately need to understand discomfort tolerance and consciously, systematically build that shit.

Also! Stress tolerance is such an important skill that having a learning disability in that area is a major symptom of a whole lot of other disabilities/mental illnesses! Struggling with it is a huge part of life! It sucks!

Am I saying everyone with misophonia needs to listen to chewing noises all day? No. But you need to find ways to tolerate it enough that you don't treat others like shit if they make a mouth noise near you.

No, you don't have to read the fic with your trigger tags. But you do need to be able to handle scrolling past the tags without being upset.

It is hard! But not having it also makes you so so so easy to manipulate. That grandma is racist AF because her mom raised her to be uncomfortable around black people and she never fought that discomfort. Trans people make so many cis people uncomfortable and that discomfort turns into bigotry real fast.

Letting your discomfort dictate your actions and beliefs about things is a great way to become a terrible person. Learn. Discomfort. Tolerance.

[kuv8sh5]

the cutest

[11th-tweet-kids]

[nicollekidman]

personally would be really happy if horror movies started being about sex again

[bleedingspiral]

[gelotime]

John Economos is a bad bitch but yall ain’t ready for that conversation yet

[badkunz]

chasing the adrian

[killbilled]

I've come to the conclusion you suffer from a particularly severe form of toxic masculinity. What? I have a fucking vagina. How could I have toxic masculinity? Ms. Harcourt, I have to say, I find the insinuation that only men can suffer from toxic masculinity a bit sexist. Sexist? You have every symptom. You suppress your emotions. You're aggressive and prone to violence. Oh yeah? Yeah? That shit's in the DSM-III there? The toxic masculinity? The DSM-5 now. You do your best to maintain a hard appearance. So my face? I'm getting some sort of a bullshit non-existent diagnosis based on my face? I'll give you a diagnosis based on your face. You're a fucking cunt.

[maxdibert]

A bit tired of people speculating about why Chris is so distant with Adrian. Hello? He’s distant with Adrian because Chris never chose Adrian as his best friend. The fact that Adrian is a dumbass who goes around killing graffiti artists and has weapons in his car to play with explosions used to work for Chris in the past. But when Chris is going through an identity crisis and wants to change, the last thing he needs is someone so disconnected from their own actions that they don’t give a damn about killing people, because Chris does care about killing people.

His relationship with Leota illustrates this perfectly: Chris chooses Leota as his friend, and he does it at the moment she shows herself to be understanding, assertive, and empathetic toward him. Chris literally tells her in the first season that he’s never felt what it’s like to have someone who has his back and no, he’s not talking about a comrade-in-arms, but a friend. Someone who listens to him, understands him, and, even knowing he can be an idiot and an asshole, still chooses to be there because she sees beyond the persona, beyond the criminal record, beyond his “white straight man douchebag” comments.

And Leota gives him that. That’s why Chris develops such an emotional attachment to her so quickly, why he considers her his best friend, and why he opens up to her about everything. Because Leota understands emotions and doesn’t judge people for them, she’s a humanist who sees the best in everyone, even if that person is kind of a mess. She’s the most human and emotionally stable person in a world full of broken people and he knows that and likes her for that.

But above all, it’s because Leota has traits and qualities Chris wishes he had, and therefore her opinion matters to him. Whether she agrees or disagrees with him on moral or emotional issues carries real weight. Comparing that to his relationship with Adrian — who’s basically just a fanboy worshipping the Peacemaker persona that Chris himself struggles with — is absurd. And I say this as someone who loves Adrian as a character, but he’s not the kind of person whose relationship someone like Chris is going to value deeply, at least not while Adrian keeps seeing him as an idol rather than a human being.

[silktomb]

i miss adrian and the way he danced…so lithely that i thought him an eel…

Reblog to let prev know their presence is wanted

[podcastwizard]

some royal jewels were stolen from the louvre which is unfortunate for historical reasons but you gotta appreciate a classic crime. so many crimes are online these days it’s nice to see heist culture is still alive

[eroticlamb]

kate bush featured on top pop (tv), march 1978 ꩜