Sincerely P.M.

And the letter ends here.

[sincerelypm]

12/2019

I am pushing and challenging myself in areas that I did not challenge myself before. It’s uncomfortable, I’m tired, but I’m going. Keep going and keep on searching.

[sincerelypm]

The return of me

Hi, to the empty vastness of Tumblr friends.

It’s been a long time and every time I’ve posted something new in the last few years, it’s always emphasizing on how much time has passed. As I get older, I continue to talk about this relative figure of time. It’s so dynamic really - we count the minutes, the hours, and the days as each year goes by.

I laugh about it with friends, but in actuality, the form of time gives me anxiety. Time is a limitation, but it also is the expansive experience you make it...right?

You think you have all this time in the world, and then, something happens to trigger you to say, I don’t have all this time anymore. I am at XYZ age and I need to do XYZ by this time. It’s such a funny thing, really. 

[nostalgiaunicorn]

[typette-deactivated20150825]

I remember posting somewhere once in a thread about why girls aren’t exploited in animation anymore where some guy said, “all the disney girls are drawn to be generally attractive, but I don’t think there are any eye-candy men… or are there? Are there any Disney men that lots of girls like?” and I mentioned Roger. Tons of girls replied agreeing with me and the original guy was like “wait, Roger? from 101 Dalmatians? What’s attractive about him, he’s tall and lanky and has a big nose, he isn’t muscley at all! Wouldn’t you all prefer Gaston or something? Or do you girls think his big nose is indicative of something else?” and I was like “no, you idiot, he’s a silly, goofy guy who likes animals and can play a bunch of instruments, that’s why he’s attractive. What’s the matter with you? Gaston, seriously?”

This is why we need more girls in animation. And more guys like Roger apparently. 

[fandomsandfeminism]

This is why I laugh my ass of whenever dudes talk about how men are “objectified” by the media too. Because 9 times out of 10, what men think is “women objectifying men” are characters like Gaston.

And Gaston is NOT a woman-driven fantasy. Gaston is a male wish fulfillment fantasy. Gaston is not what women want, he is what men want to be. He is hyper-masculinity to an extreme degree, dripping with sexism and testosterone. The fact that men think that Gaston is what women want says an awful lot about those men. 

While I don’t want to generalize, female fans tend to prefer a very different kind of male hero. We like the Rogers, the Milos, the Hercules. Genuinely kind, often awkward men who are sometimes vulnerable and respectful to women. 

Yes, this is a generalization. I own up to that. But I think it’s important to remember that there is often VERY big difference between what MEN want to be and what women WANT in our media. 

[bemusedlybespectacled]

Reblogging this again because fucking this. And hell, even the muscley dudes (see: Khal Drogo, Hercules, Thor, Captain America) are loved, not because they are muscley, but because they are sweet and loving and adorable. We love Thor because his mispronounces “Hubble” as “Hooble,” not because of what he can do with a hammer.

[bubblyskootch]

Reblogging for the awesome comments.

[lumiereswig]

I’m just here to say I love the animation of Roger so fucking much.  look how fucking smooth and graceful and agile he is. 2d animation is amazing and i just want to hug it

[tinydooms]

All of this. 

[rapacityinblue]

Okay, listen, to return briefly to the idea of Gaston: Beauty and the Beast is actually the first animated Disney screen play written by a woman. Linda Woolverton, the screenwriter, got a lot of attention for creating a self-proclaimed feminist heroine in 1991, but she also had a *lot* to say about Gaston. She didn’t stumble into that villain by mistake. She crafted him based on her own experiences with men and even her ex-boyfriends, and said: “To Gaston, Belle wasn’t a person; she was a possession. And I think it’s great for little boys to see that Beauty doesn’t choose him. Not only can they look at Gaston as an example of how not to treat women, but they can hopefully be taught by the Beast, a macho guy who is comfortable with his feelings and gentleness. He could teach a lot of men, in fact, about sensitivity.“

Not only is Gaston not a woman’s fantasy, he’s literally a woman’s horror story.

[shieldmaiden19]

Reblogging for:

“The fact that men think that Gaston is what women want says an awful lot about those men.”

“Not only is Gaston not a woman’s fantasy, he’s literally a woman’s horror story.”

FREAKING YES

[doctorbluesmanreturns]

Reblogging because there was the whole post where extreme MRAs were saying that Gaston was the true hero of the story and that Belle should have picked him instead of Adam.

[sincerelypm]

Curious if I could just start openly blogging on here again since I’m positive no one uses it anymore.

I used to write some weird shit but I’d like to get back to just writing about experiences. 

[sincerelypm]

It’s been a while Tumblr. Does anyone I know use this anymore?

I should blog again.

[observando]

When you fall in love, it is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake, and then it subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots are to become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the desire to mate every second of the day. It is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every part of your body. No … don’t blush. I am telling you some truths. For that is just being in love; which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over, when being in love has burned away. Doesn’t sound very exciting, does it? But it is!

Louis de Bernières (via observando)

[wordsnquotes]

I wonder if, as you get older, you stop missing people so fiercely. Maybe growing up is just focusing on what you’ve got, instead of what you don’t.

Jodi Picoult, Leaving Time (via wordsnquotes)

[g1g2boo]

#ultramoire #3xgry #airmaxalways about time I rock these babies 😏✖️

[missisangele]

[beyoncebeytwice]

bye is this a screenshot of an instagram of a screenshot of a tweet that hasnt even been tweeted yet

[constantlyabnormal]

My theme song.

[pinksalmons]

[artistluv]

When the honeymoon stage ends what happens

…………

[ceraycarter]

You’re more honest with each other. Bodily functions are something to laugh about. Sweatpants and tee shirts are a regular thing. They know what you look like without all the makeup. Being “laid up and watching Netflix” is the only thing you’re looking forward to after work. You don’t go on fancy dates as often but you trade that for quality time. You find yourself being more vulnerable and you open up more. They become your best friend. You will able to talk about anything. You won’t be worried about impressing their parents, you’re just gonna love them anyway regardless of how their parents may feel. You will have inside jokes that no one else will get. Sex is not as often but, twice as passionate. Little fights will happen, but you’ll learn not to sweat the small stuff. You’ll learn what compromise really is about. You’ll dream about the future together. Grow together. Be on each other’s team. See their ugly crying face, and be the one to wipe the tears away & do something stupid to make them life. things are amazing after the honeymoon stage. However, it’s a time about giving up your walls and open up some doors you have locked a long time ago.

That’s why some people don’t make it past this point, because they don’t know what unconditional self-love means. Remain open and optimistic, love will never fail you.

[vygandonut]

who the fuck?

[sincerelypm]

I used to reminisce a lot on things that used to make me happy or sad. Now, I simply know my self worth and sense of security with friends, family, and my significant other. 

I know my successes and I know my failures. I don’t need anything else that may cause stress in my life. 

[11anothergirl11]

A person’s tumblr tells a lot about them. It shows what kind of images they see in their head, who they love, who they hate, even what they think about other people.But most of all - has all the words they never said to people, all the words they couldn’t have said but should have said.

(via 11anothergirl11)

[micdotcom]

Watch: President Obama defends #BlackLivesMatter in his strongest comments yet.

[observando]

Do your own thing on your own terms and get what you came here for.

Oliver James (via observando)