[lilacbreastedroller]

what people usually mean by “makeup is an art form” is they use 11 shades to contour themselves into the same face

[lilacbreastedroller]

like i know i’m a huge nasty ogre and in the terrible event that this post got more than 20 notes someone would inevitably tell me my brows are ugly as tho that has any type of bearing but listen. makeup does so much more to promote conformity than it does to promote artistry.

[lilacbreastedroller]

i dont mean this as like “you sheep all look the same and you’re not REAL artists” i mean literally makeup tutorials and makeup that most bosses expect you to wear and contour that basically paints a new “universally attractive” bone structure over your own aren'tp particularly creative. and to protect that under the guise of “artistry” is sad and limiting and it enables multibillion dollar corporations led by men to continue to make women feel like shit and it enables our bosses to pay us less or not hire us for not performing that “artistry”

[fathomking-deactivated20230501]

like literally when catherine earnshaw said “i wish i were a girl again, half-savage and hardy and free, and laughing at injuries, not maddening under them; why am i so changed? why does my blood rush into a hell of tumult at a few words? im sure i should be myself were I once among the heather on those hills.”

[hundondestiny]

I do truly feel bad for the young people who have been indoctrinated with the idea that “bisexual means two genders only and pansexual means all genders” because their entire identities as pansexual people has been built on a cisheteronormative lie that sought, with some success, to paint the bisexual community as bigoted towards trans ppl and exclusive of non-binary/third/mixed gender people. 

There’s a difference between choosing labels because linguistically they describe you more fluently than others, and choosing labels because you have been told that there are material differences between them. There is no material difference between pansexuality and bisexuality. “Two or more genders”… extends to “all genders”. “Genders like and unlike one’s own” extends to “all genders”. There is no real-world, physical difference between the two experiences.

And this notion that bisexual people have ever, as a community, hinged the definition of our sexuality on transphobic standards, ie. “only cis men and cis women”, is biphobic at its root. It’s not true. It has never been true.

it is important to learn our history beyond what ppl on the internet tell us tbh like if you are a young LGBT kid, you really should take a trip to a library and read some LGBT history books. Google some. anything to get yourself some primary knowledge on what it means to be LGBT.

thanks for coming to my ted talk

[claudinsky]

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But it’s October now, babey! Ha ha ha!

[trender4trender]

if your feminist politics are predicated upon the idea that women are inherently pure, nuturing, and incapable of hurting anyone, i hope you realize you are buying into a central tenet of patriarchy. it’s especially sinister imo when white cis women believe this because this has historically been a designation afforded only to the white cis women whom the sex/gender system in the west was constructed around, and tbqh the notion of the harmlessness of women becomes incoherent when you look at how women treat marginalized groups they are not a part of and in some sense they have power over.

[xenosagaepisodeone]

sure he’s well versed in leftist theory but does he do the dishes

[communitygardens]

this is such a succinct critique of  male leftists who think of it as theory only & won’t even get off their ass to clear the table

[rifles]

The act of dealing with sweaters, putting them on and taking them off, is hardly ever perceived consciously. When the object, i.e. the sweater, is stretched so that the body of the wearer can find its way into this envelope, when it shrinks so as to adapt to the body’s contours and to create a shape or lack thereof, an essential plastic process takes place –  Erwin Wurm, 59 Positions, 1992

[yourbigsisnissi]

When people tell stories about how their parents beat them, it’s always interesting to see their face change because they expected me to say “me too lol” but I instead say “I’m really sorry. You didn’t deserve that” Last time a co worker who also has West Indian parents was telling me in a joking way how he remembers being beaten with a belt because lied about his report card. As he was laughing it off and saying he deserved it, I just said “wow that’s awful hun. You didn’t deserve that.” And his whole face changed. Like it hadn’t occurred to him that it’s messed up that a part of remembering his childhood is remembering how badly it hurt to be beaten so badly at such a young age. Another time I had a friend, non West Indian parents, who talked about how she made a mess on a dress that her parents got her. It was really expensive apparently and she spilled red juice on it. She talked about how she was ordered to take the dress of and was beaten with a belt too without any clothes on. And she was laughing and said “I was a bad ass kid lol” and I said “no hun you were just a kid”. And she looked at me and immediately stopped laughing and just sat there like “yea…I was just a kid. I don’t know why they did that to me” My mom was raised in a household where she was beaten so badly….I just don’t understand how she is so loving now growing up in a home where she got so little love. They called it discipline, but once she became a social worker she began to see that it was abuse. That she grew up terrified of her parents, although they thought it was respect that my mom felt. It was fear. We have to get comfortable challenging what is often seen as cultural norms. We have to be a generation of people who are not ashamed to say “I would never beat my child”.

[emmacharlottewatson]

brie larson + endgame press tour looks™ (part 1)

[gemwort]

more mapcrunch but this time i don’t pay attention to what colour things actually are at all

[one-abuse-survivor]

Me: I’m scared I might secretly be an awful person and I’m just fooling everyone into thinking I’m good.

Therapist: the fact that you care so deeply about being a bad person is proof that you’re actually good. Bad people don’t mind being bad.

Me: oH NO, I have fooled her too,

[labias]

Oh my god

[loveserum-deactivated20191021]

life is too hard. it’s too hard!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i would like to be a cloud. 

[sheholdsyoucaptivated]

“MY ARROGANCE KNOWS NO BOUNDS AND I WILL MAKE NO PEACE TODAY, AND YOU SHOULD BE SO LUCKY TO FIND A WOMAN LIKE ME” | Jenny Holzer, “Projections”

[klexquisite]

Important note : this is a projection by artist Jenny Holzer, but the text comes from a poem by Arab American writer Mohja Kahf, ’Ishtar Awakens in Chicago’. Holzer used Kahf’s work with her full agreement, I believe they’ve collaborated several times, but please check out the full context of the poem below.

My arrogance knows no bounds And I will make no peace today And you shall be so lucky To find a woman like me

Today neither will the East claim me nor the West admit me Today my belly is a well wherein serpents are coiled ready to poison the world, and you should be so lucky.

All I have is my arrogance I will teach it to lean back and smoke a cigarette in your faces, and you should be so lucky

No I will make no peace even though my hands are empty I will talk as big as I please I will be all or nothing And I will jump before the heavy trucks And I will saw off my leg at the thigh before I bend one womanly knee

I am poison And you will drink me And you should be so lucky.

[jackawful]

One of the most healing things I’ve strove (striven?) to do in my life is viewing sex as just another thing people do, among a host of other things like eating and pooping and playing with cats.

Our entire society, feminists and puritans alike, pushes the idea that sex is uniquely powerful and dangerous, capable of inflicting The Worst Trauma or the Highest Fulfillment, and that’s…just flat out untrue. Other experiences can cause similar trauma: violence, disasters, war, instability. Other experiences can result in transcendent pleasure: trance states, live music, non-sexual intimacy, tattoos.

I think this is where the disconnect in perception about sex positivity comes from, because the phrase itself makes people who already view sex as being uniquely powerful think sex positivity means viewing sex as uniquely good, when actually…it’s mostly about taking sex off that pedestal. Normalizing sex. Making it into just another thing people do. Because that’s the first step in making sure people can engage with sex on their own terms in a healthy way.

Taking sex off its cultural pedestal was the thing that allowed me to overcome the deeply-instilled shame I developed from being raised within Christian purity culture, and from being queer, and from existing as a woman. I think a failure to do that, in feminist circles, often leads to an overblowing of the (very real) harm that sex has the potential to do at the exclusion of other problems facing women and other marginalized groups, which often leads to more shaming rhetoric - just rhetoric that shames different people for different reasons.

Sex is not the enemy and it’s not our savior. It’s just one more thing people can do with their bodies.

[literallyaflame]

someone: an alarming number of young girls are being pressured to contour and highlight their faces so that they look 10 years older, which is already not great, and then they take all their selfies with an app that makes their faces slimmer and their skin lighter and their eyes bigger and this is MAYBE not great for their self esteem

a grown adult, somehow: makeup is a choice, IDIOT, and Snapchat filters are ALL for FUN, I don’t ACTUALLY wanna look like a DOG haha………. society is fake and kids can just CHOOSE not to be influenced by the things that are thrown at them 24/7!!! i am very smart

[holly-warbs]

swim