I hold a lot of controversial views, some of which I don't feel comfortable putting on my other media. This account is for that, and to rant into the void about what's bugging me.
I think I just had a revelation? About what poly might mean for someone who experiences an intrinsic need? Maybe?
Is it something like… you have various sets of needs, and different people fill different needs for you? For instance, say one of your favorite ways to express romance is through cooking meals together. And you have a partner you love dearly, but they just don’t get much of a kick out of the kitchen.
So, whereas the mono person would either just accept that they can’t cook meals with their partner, or work out some kind of halfway point, the poly person just *finds someone who likes to cook meals.*
In no way does this diminish the love for the first partner. It’s just a different kind of solution.
Anyway this is all me guessing about things I don’t understand, and it’s late and I’m tired, and I don’t know why I’m not asleep yet. I’m pretty much done posting on this blog; not a lot of reason left to it. But, hey, answers maybe for the people out there like me of six months ago, hm? Stay strong out there. Stay in love.
Because black lives only matter when they are killed by a white person.
Because they have effectively silenced every other minority group trying to bring media attention to their issues.
Because over the weekend 4 Latinos and a white guy were killed by police and no one batted an eye.
Because they spend more time protesting a minority of police officers than trying to fix the communities that are broken. (and on that note: expect others to fix their communities.)
Because “All Live Matter” was coined by another minority group who’s issues were being overshadowed by BLM and BLM threw a temper tantrum at the suggestion that other people were having problems too.
Because they are constantly causing and advocating for violence.
How does looting your own neighborhood help again?
Because the “All lives matter is like saying all houses matter while mine is on fire” doesn’t apply. By saying that you are implying that you personally are a victim and most of you are not.
Because BLM is using the movement to be horribly racist without repercussions.
Because BLM is the new “slavery” when the community doesn’t get what they want.
Because Native Americans STILL have the largest amount of police brutality per capita of any group in the US, but BLM spreads false stats that they are the most victimized.
Because of shit like “All lives can’t matter until black lives matter”. So basically: Fuck everyone else. You can get help AFTER us.“
What started out as good intentions has turned into a “we’re only happy when it’s all about us!” and I can not and will not support a movement that silences everyone else’s problems because “ours are more important.
Being a controlling girlfriend (or wife) isn't cute.
I’m so tired of this trope.
(DISCLAIMER: These all go both ways but right now, we are discussing this trope specifically)
Let him hang out with his friends.
Let him go out without you.
Let him play his video games.
Let him watch the game/that show you hate.
Let him be a slob sometimes.
Let him have female friends.
Let him go a while without texting you when he’s busy/out with friends/etc.
Let him flirt with you and take his compliments.
Let him touch the boobs and booty sometimes. (Boobs and booty are fun!)
Let him show you off a little. Hes proud of you.
Let him have a long day and just relax.
Let him be himself with his friends, even if they are being a little immature. Don’t call him out for just being a little silly/macho/however he is with them. He’s having fun. He’s in a different environment. Let him have fun.
Don’t embarass him in front of people.
Don’t get on him for every little thing and every little mistake.
Don’t treat him like a child/like he’s dumb.
Don’t force him to do things he doesn’t want to do constantly. Compromise! It’s all about compromise.
Don’t expect him to pull all the weight. Equal partnerships are how it should be.
Take care of him when he’s sick.
Take his opinions into account.
Compliment him.
Make him feel special.
He needs love too and he is grown ass man, let him be himself and respect him. Let him live and have his own life/sense of self outside of you.
Love and respect goes both ways and you both deserve it.
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so yeah i stumbled on some cool screenshots from imgur last night and i figured it’d be good to post some info? assholes from 4chan are taking people’s information and making fake blogs and using them to harass feminists blogs (like misandry-mermaid) and then the person’s addresses and other info is being exposed online.
please be more aware and use your judgement on blogs that may be using fake information to hurt people who are 0% involved.
So the problem here isn’t Misandry Mermaid actively doxxing people and trying to destroy them for no good fucking reason based on their own warped sense of “justice”… the problem here is 4chan.
The only reason 4chan did it is because of how stupidly, easily exploitable Tumblrtards are.
If they weren’t such trigger happy, off the handle, nut bags who can’t handle shit talk online then 4chan would never have done this.
Feminist organisations, backed by government policy, are teaching young boys at school to feel guilty and ashamed of their gender, writes Dan Bell
“On Wednesday, the Daily Mail reported that a school in Oxford has become the first to introduce “Good Lad” workshops, in which boys are singled out for sessions that teach them about “the scale of sexual harassment and violence aimed at female students” and how they must stand up for women’s rights.
The workshops are the latest in a mushrooming series of initiatives in which ideologically-driven activists are being invited into schools, driven by the belief that boys need to be re-educated to prevent them from becoming a threat to women.
In November last year, The Times reported on a programme in London Schools in which two American women, one a former sex crime prosecutor, “re-programme teenage boys’ sexual manners so they are fit for a feminist world”.
According to the report, they start the class by asserting that “misogyny is on the rise”, before going on to “describe real-life sex crimes that have happened to teenagers in this area with brutal accuracy”. The article concludes – approvingly – that by the end of the session, the boys are “scarred for life”.
In context of the chasm between boys’ and girls’ educational attainment and a rising male suicide rate that is now nearly four times that of women’s, why are schools deciding that when it comes to talking about gender, what boys need most is an extra dose of guilt and shame?”
“You’d never know it from the rhetoric, but a man – and particularly a young man – is around twice as likely to be a victim of violent crime as a woman. And it’s not just drunken street violence either. A 2009 NSPCC report into domestic violence in teenage relationships, showed teenage boys suffer comparable rates of violence from their girlfriends as do teenage girls from their boyfriends.
In the same year another report, this time by Childline, found that of the children who called to report sexual abuse, a total of 8,457 were girls (64pc) and 4,780 were boys (36pc). The charity also found boys were more likely to say they had been sexually abused by a woman (1,722 cases) than by a man (1,651).”
“Imagine what it must it be like as a young man who has been beaten or sexually abused, possibly by a woman, to then be forced to attend a workshop that tells him that simply because he’s a young man, he should hang his head in shame as a potential abuser?”
The National Domestic Violence Hotline | Men Can Be Victims of Abuse, Too
According to the CDC, one in seven men age 18+ in the U.S. has been the victim of severe physical violence by an intimate partner in his lifetime. One in 10 men has experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner. In 2013, 13% of documented contacts to the Hotline identified themselves as male victims. Although they make up a smaller percentage of callers to the Hotline, there are likely many more men who do not report or seek help for their abuse, for a variety of reasons:
The majority of domestic violence stories covered by the media are about male perpetrators and female victims who are typically in heterosexual relationships. While we certainly don’t want to minimize this violence, focusing on only one type of situation renders invisible the many scenarios that do not fit this definition, including abusive relationships among homosexual, bisexual, and trans* men. This might make many victims feel like they don’t have the space or the support to speak out about their own experiences and seek help.
A Few Resources for Men:
Male Survivor provides resources to male survivors of sexual trauma
Safe Place in Austin, TX provides services and shelter for male victims of sexual assault and domestic violence. They can help you locate shelters in your area, where available.
Center Against Domestic Violence, based in New York City, offers information and support for male victims
Helpguide.org: Help for Abused Men
Lambda’s Anti-Violence Project provides support and resources to LGBTQ victims of violence
