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[sleepyowlwrites]

Sleepy's Helpful Information Post

hey. it's me, Sleepy. and here's the spot where I keep links and stuff so you can find things on this blog.

part 1: just about me.

I have a real name but you can call me Sleepy, or whatever affectionate nickname has evolved from our interactions.

I'm in my 30s and I'm a she/her.

around these parts I'm known as a writeblr mom, and, yeah. I like to adopt people. I've got too much love to keep it all to myself.

I'm neurodivergent and mentally ill, just like ALL the cool kids.

part 2: just about my community stuff.

Sleepy's tag games masterlist

free wip intro format

Sleepy's writeblr friends' nicknames masterlist

writing prompts masterlist vol.1

writing prompts masterlist vol.2

writing prompts masterlist vol.3

@sleepyprompts - quote prompts and I reblog my lists there too @sleepywritespoetry - where I post my poetry @sparks-moods-worlds - writing resources reblogs @sleepylovesyou - where I reblog YOUR writing @sleepyowlsleeps - what would normally be my main blog @sleepyandthefriendcollective - writeblr shenanigans

part 3: just about my writing.

pertinent tags (remember to include the # in your search to find the actual tag):

#sleepy answers, #sleepy's story stuff, #writing asks

Sleepy's wips/ideas masterlist (tags are listed here)

Sleepy's OCs masterlist (character tags are #c: character name)

Thanks @/alittlewarlord for my pfp

[myhusbandsasemni]

Anyone have any advice for how to take criticism well (advice specifically for an AUDHD goose who was deemed a gifted kid as a child) cause I am sick and tired of a piece of criticism sending me into a spiral for an hour.

[magic-is-something-we-create]

Speaking as another AUDHD former gifted kid, the things that have helped me the most has been letting myself have that meltdown and then coming back to the topic, when able. Genuinely. Have the emotions, there's nothing wrong with that; it's best if you can leave the situation, go somewhere private, and have your cry sesh alone for a hot minute. Sometimes if it's not a time sensitive discussion I'll let it sit for a few days before coming back. Getting the emotion out is the best way to clear your head, in my experience, and the part of it that makes it worse is the shame around having that emotion at all.

That shame's not an easy thing to work through, though, so my hot tip that has helped a whole bunch with both that and the criticism response is thus:

Critique the things you enjoy. Not in the mean, bad-faith way that the Internet writ large takes criticism to mean. I mean figure out the flaws and things that fall flat for you, no matter how much you love it.

The loving of the original is crucial, here, because it trains your brain to recognize flaws while still knowing that same something can be Your Favorite Thing. The work isn't useless or meaningless or a waste of time; you love it, after all. In time, you'll be able to apply that to your own work, too, and then take the steps to address the criticism you receive, within reason.

It takes a long ass time, and I'm still on that journey myself, but it is so worth the work.

Try not to get discouraged! I believe in you!

[sleepyowlwrites]

Talk about it ferociously to yourself for a hot minute, feeling all the feelings about it, maybe even having a little tantrum where no one can see and you're expressing yourself in all the ways that don't have words, and then take a break.

And then come back and think about it with less feelings and talk about it calmly and exploratory-ly and option if:

the criticism is valid and mayhap you can use it to better a thing,

or if it's valid but you're uninterested in it,

or if it's not valid but you see how they got there,

or if it's not valid and you can discard it.

It's so normal to feel the Feels and you should process the Feels! And then maybe you can think about what gave you the Feels. And then you can deal with the thing that gave you the Feels. And sometimes you're still super grouchy about it. Whatever.

I'm very bad at handling criticism in the moment, so I put it in a box and glare at it and badmouth it and then I take it out and ponder it thoughtfully and sometimes I begrudgingly accept that it's useful information and sometimes I realize, no, that's bunk actually, thanks anyway.

Validating the bad Feels about how my brain naturally wants to deal with criticism has been tremendously more helpful than just pretending I'm totally fine with it.

I'm a big proponent in acknowledging and treating your instinctual tendencies with kindness rather than drilling neurotypical habits that often won't stick and will only frustrate. You work like this, so let's operate on that plane. You deserve be you!

[sleepyowlwrites]

every time i get an idea that could be a short story I think "oh and if I post then i can have @ambiguouspuzuma read it and they will have thoughts about it and tell them to me and that'd be so nice. it's a shame I won't write it" and i don't think it's the thought that counts in this case

[onlywatchin]

you walk into the raven cycle like what the fuck kinda name is "gansey" and you walk out of th raven cycle like these characters are my close personal friends

[sleepyowlwrites]

I walked into the raven cycle like I don't know about these folks and I walked out being like I unfortunately know about these folks

[lux-scriptum]

Will admit that one of my favorite flavors of character to write is indeed “I’m in charge, I dont want to be, but also, no one else is doing it right so i HAVE To be.”

[sleepyowlwrites]

aka me

[sleepyowlwrites]

it should be illegal to wake up with a headache. I was just resting! what, was i engaged in gladatorial combat with a large hammer in my dreams? get out of here

[dearest-love2410-deactivated202]

I love media where the underlying message is to be kind , even if it isn’t the main plot.

I love media where the underlying message is that you are not the worst mistake you made and you are not the worst thing that happened to you

I love media where the underlying message is that people can change for the better

I love media that’s like love, actually is all around us

I love media that’s like “we can’t save anyone.” “we can always try.”

[nondelphic]

“how do you write again after a long break?” you just start. that’s the horror of it. you just. start. and then the story opens its eyes.

[sleepyowlwrites]

and its hands and its heart, calm down

[encrucijada]

forestfire is for the aros who want to live out the power fantasy of you are absolutely wayyy more important to your best friend than their boyfriend

[sleepyowlwrites]

oh yeah i guess it lowkey is a power fantasy huh

[sleepyowlwrites]

helo where do u buy your teas?

I buy from Adagio.com! I do also leech off my dad's endless supply from Harney & Sons, Fortnum & Mason, Whittard, and Upton Tea Imports.

I really like Adagio because you can create your own tea blends. And I have!

@revenantlore

[sleepyowlwrites]

One of my all time favorite teas came back in stock after being absent for months so I ordered a lot but I didn't realize how big the bags would be! I'll never run out! Zero regrets.

[revenantlore]

But what type is it

ps i love you 🥔

[sleepyowlwrites]

@abalonetea zero caffeine means I can have five cups of tea before bed if I want to

I did also get maple creme oolong, decaf and regular ceylon, caramel creme brulee, lychee rose green, decaf hazelnut cinnamon creme (you are sensing a theme, these are great for tea lattes), and decaf chocolate truffle. I drink so much tea.

[sleepyowlwrites]

One of my all time favorite teas came back in stock after being absent for months so I ordered a lot but I didn't realize how big the bags would be! I'll never run out! Zero regrets.

[ettawritesnstudies]

I'm building several WIP playlists and I need songs in the Venn diagram of "death is chasing me down like a rabid dog" and "I'm dead and haunting my own narrative" and "this ghost needs to GO" please and thank you. Any genres please!

One is for a DnD campaign: my players created the most angsty characters possible, so I intend to lean into the drama, other themes include being trapped, mad gods, robots, and crime.

The other one is for a book, other themes include road trips, leaving home, and toxic friendships

[sleepyowlwrites]

Yeah this place is haunted

Specters over your shoulder

Aeseaes

Spite and other girly things

Invasive species

hopefully there's something here for you

[chocolate-mallowmelt]

reblog ONLY if prev is a mutual, i want to see how far this post can go

say in the tags what part of tumblr you’re on i’m so curious so see how this goes

[sleepyowlwrites]

I just worked out how they kill the Marrowling and it's way worse than I had planned for but also better because it gives proper closure for Ruen. But also it's just awful HOLY HEAP Ruen has just the worst time I'm so mean to her

[sleepyowlwrites]

I've also bestowed upon her a child that she has to raise to be not a horrible mess of a person, which definitely will not backfire

[sleepyowlwrites]

Happy Storyteller Saturday! Do you take breaks between drafts? If so, how long do you wait before going back to the project?

When I come to a stopping point where an existing draft refuses to evolve any further, I say alright and declare it finished. And then I don't even write the next draft, typically. The only wip with more than 1.01 drafts is my very first wip, which had so many (incomplete) drafts that I edited the plot out of the story.

I haven't completed a full draft in ever, dirt and youth are the only two wips from the current era with an "alright i guess you're done" draft and a beginning of the next one, and I have three wips from last era with started second-attempt first draft rewrites.

I have completed fics and have done full edits of those, so I know I'll love editing my wips once I get to a draft coherent enough to warrant it. But I gotta write one first. And I haven't been doing that. Or writing at all.

Aside from working out details for dnd story.

Thanks for asking, Frost

[cutecipher]

its very hard to be so cute and smart and lovely but someone has to do it