recently ive been thinking more and more about my experiences pre figuring out im trans and ive come to the conclusion that the trans community as a whole places way too much emphasis on Being instead of Doing
like. when i was trying to figure myself out, spending cumulative hours staring at the mirror wondering who i truly was deep down inside did not actually help me figure anything out. i had to actually go out into the world and do things. i had to find out what i liked and how i liked the world to percieve me. and i think that this line of reasoning can be applied to a lot of things
even though i no longer consider myself strictly asexual, i still consider myself part of the ace community because the attitude of celebrating the shifting of identity when confronted with new experiences and life circumstances felt genuinely revolutionary to me, in a time where mainstream online queer culture heavily emphasised creating specific flags for increasingly specific identites, splitting hairs over similar sounding labels, and attempting to slot the entire queer experience into neat boxes with no overlap. like idk i think at a certain point the focus on Being hinders more than it helps. like sometimes it really is about the material experience of your life. and it does make me feel a bit silly that it took so long for me to figure that out. but i guess having a clear concise identity label does have a certain comfort to it
