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my anti-binge box

I’ve been seeing a few posts circulating about anti binge boxes and what people keep in them so I thought I’d share mine :)

mouthwash

toothpaste & toothbrush

laxatives

tape measure

bath salts

motivational flash cards

nail polishes

chewing gum

lip balm

a face mask

hand cream

a candle

If anyone else keeps an anti binge box I’d be interested to know what other people find helpful to keep in theirs

ilostmynamewithmyhappiness

some tricks i use

> chamomile tea helps with a bloated stomach (you can also use it as a steamer if you have a cold, just put the hout the in a bowl, put a towel over your head and inhale the steam for a few minutes)

> green tea boots your metabolism and keeps you awake

> lavender tea is good for insomnia or anxeity

> instant soups can be helpful if you’re craving something savoury

> if you’re tired of drinking plain water, make it fancy with some lemon juice or mint leaves

> freeze lemon water and suck on it if you’re craving something

edit: part 2 is out

fat0rexic

Hate my arms but :) my tummy

calamity-ous

My trigger shows

-Supersize vs Super skinny

-Embarrasing bodies

-The Biggest Looser

-Fat Doctor

-Heavy

+ tons of stuff on youtube.

amourpropr-deactivated20201022

25 Not So Easy Changes to Better Yourself

1. Take the extra time every time you go out to make sure you look neat.

Your hair shouldn’t look like you just got out of bed from flailing around all night nor should it look greasy or like you haven’t showered. If you wear sandals, those toenails better be neatly trimmed and filed or painted. If you go to school or work for the day then your clothes shouldn’t be a mass of wrinkles. Take pride in your appearance as it will give you more confidence and encourage good habits.

I know it’s great to just hop in the car and drive to the late night store for a pound of junk food with friends but take the extra minute to brush your hair or switch a stained shirt for a fresh shirt. Besides, you never know who you’re gonna see on your way out.

2. Learn to value your time.

This is really hard for me personally, but it’s super important. Your time and presence is something to be valued and consumed with gratitude, not taken advantage of and then thrown out. Valuing your time leads to you building more respect for yourself because you prevent people from just using you. It will help your stress because you don’t feel obligated to give up a night meant for you to do a favor for someone you know isn’t gonna pay you back like they promise.

If someone asks you to give them time last minute and you don’t mind or you really want to, go for it! If your first emotion is anxiety, stress, disappointment, or anger though, just say no. Don’t even give an excuse, just outright say no. Chances are they won’t even ask why they’ll just find someone else.

3.Be mindful of how you use your words.

Words can build people up and tear them down even quicker. Once it is said it can’t be easily taken back, so think carefully before you speak. Consider speaking slower to be more immersed in the conversation and think better of what you want to get across. You will come across more mature that way.

4. Wardrobe.

Trendy outfits are nice, sure. The issue with trends is that they fade and are not really worth their price more often than not. I saw a plain black crop top with a knot tied at the front for 20 bucks at the mall when I could literally do that myself for a quarter of that price. Be smart with what you buy. Make sure you set aside money to replace faded garments or ones that you’ve outgrown. Make sure you have proper business attire for professional engagements, elegant clothing for high end events, casual clothes for time out with friends. Be smart with what you invest in.

5. Speaking of investments, study up on financing and budgeting.

Learn how to watch the stock market so you know what to invest in. Do your own taxes. Learn how to make a budget and FOLLOW it. Money is value, and if you wait until your thirties or forties to learn how to build a foundation it will be too late and it will put you way behind. Yes, it’s boring, but it’s important.

6.Learn how to network and interact with people.

Lots of people deal with social anxiety and never really learn how to deal with it. You don’t need to thrust yourself into a crowd of people and try to mingle when you aren’t ready. Start small- just look people in the eyes and say good morning when they pass by you. Sit up straight when you’re talking to someone rather than slouching and refusing to meet their gaze. Do some research on tips for keeping up a good conversation and getting rid of jitters.

The fact of the matter is, most jobs require you have some kind of people skills. If you want to progress upwards and snag those promotions, get your name out, and build a good reputation, you’re gonna have to start talking with people.

7.Do your research.

Before you go on dates, job interviews, big meetings, etc. If you know what your date does for a living, do a little research on it. Google some good questions to ask in your job interview when they inevitably ask, “now what questions do you have for me?” Before meeting with someone big, do a little research on them to go in prepared. Show that you care, show that you are a go-getter, show that you are something to look up to.

8. Don’t keep around people who bring more negativity than joy or people who you worry about because they might embarrass you.

This includes friends, lovers, and unfortunately, family. Surround yourself with people who will better you, not people who will drag you down.

9. Don’t lower your standards because someone who doesn’t deserve you thinks you should.

10. Your choices and their consequences are yours to make and receive. Don’t allow anyone to try to control them.

11. Seek out goals and a life you truly want, not one that was mapped out for you by someone else.

12. Never change yourself to fit someone else’s idea of you.

13. Continue to educate yourself.

Study, study, study. Broaden your perspectives and increase your chance for opportunity.

14. Be aware of current events, local and global.

15. Being able to weigh risk vs. reward is something that will take you very far in career and life.

16. Learn the power of “No.”

Never feel like you have to do something. By being able to stand up for yourself and say no to things you don’t want, you empower yourself and put people who need it in their place.

17. Quit taking things personally.

Even if it was meant to be a personal attack, you don’t have to receive it as one. Just accept or ignore and move on to a freer life. Don’t let people have such control over your mental state.

18. Take pride in your space.

This means keeping your work area, home, and possessions clean and in good condition.

19. Treat yourself right.

Eat well, exercise daily (walking around and enjoying nature is perfectly fine), go to bed at a decent time, splurge on things you like because you’re in a good mood and want to treat yourself. Take care of yourself, love yourself.

20. Let your actions speak for you.

21. Don’t let other people’s problems weigh you down so much that you start to lose yourself in them.

Sure, you’re a great friend for listening to everyone’s problems, but that stays with you even if they feel better after. That bit of negativity has been split between you. If you feel like enough is enough, it’s okay to stop someone from sharing and politely telling them, “Hey, sorry, I’m just not in a very happy mood and would like to be left out of this.”

22. Talk less about your problems and more about the good things that happen to you.

23. Accept compliments with a smile and a “thank you.”

It may feel awkward for my socially impaired readers but by trying to dismiss someone’s compliment or by dissing yourself out of awkwardness you’re being incredibly rude and it makes people super uncomfortable.

24. Take sex more seriously.

You can do whatever you want with your body and sexuality, but sex is pretty intimate and can be very exhausting if you’re just having one night stands or booty calls. Only engaging in sex with someone who makes you feel good and not someone who is just there for your entertainment will save you a lot of time and stress.

25. Follow good advice you receive from others and even from yourself.

Alice in Alice in Wonderland was relatable when she said, “I give myself quite good advice, but I seldom follow it.” Just start small. You won’t be perfect, but reblogging and saving posts that you think have great advice that you never look at again is not gonna help you. Quit picturing a better you and sighing about how you wished you were like that, and actually do it.

petitefairy

if you see this it’s a sign. DO NOT BINGE. YOU WILL REGRET IT. control yourself.

amourpropr-deactivated20201022

Good Habits to Enforce in Yourself

I had a post like this on my old profile before it got deleted, so I’m kind of improving it and lengthening it for a repost. These are good ways to take care of yourself as best as you can, things that over time will help you develop more of a love and care for yourself. By putting in extra effort to take care of your body you will subconsciously grow to love yourself a little more. Through this nurture, blooms love and care.

Skin:

1) Do some research to find out your skin type. Once you figure that out, research some tips to work with it. I have dry skin, so my routine involves a lot of moisture and brightening products, and I had to stop using products with acne medications because they dry the hell out of my skin.

If you have oily skin, you’ll want to use your acne product and then add moisture, because if you don’t your skin will begin to dry and will try to overcompensate by creating too much oil. Be careful with the products you use as well, make sure you use products that are made with good ingredients. You don’t want to try a new product all over your face and have one of the ingredients cause a horrible flare up. This takes time, but once you figure out what products and routine works for you, it will really change how you feel about your complexion.

2) Invest in one of those big brushes and use it to gently brush your skin. This will help your blood circulation, and will not only brighten your skin, but it will also relax you.

3) Use SPF 30 or higher. You don’t need anything higher than SPF 50 because studies have shown that it really doesn’t do much for you after that, but do use sunscreen to protect from the harmful rays not just outside, but inside as well if you’re exposed to the rays. Sun damage not only causes melanoma, but also will accelerate your aging process, cause wrinkles, make your skin texture leathery, and all other kinds of issues. There’s sunscreen lotions for full body with coconut oil in it that don’t have that awful pool smell as well, and I’ve found it to be a pleasure to use.

4) Drink good fluids. I’m sure all of you drink enough water to drown a fish, but don’t just drink water. Adding lemon will give it a nice taste, help you feel more satisfied, and the citrus is very good for your complexion. Drinking a cup of water when you wake up is a good way to flush out the gastric fluid buildup in your system, and will also help wake you up. Avoid drinks with lots of processed sugars like juice and soda. Calories in drinks are often overlooked, and are a huge part of gaining large amounts of weight.

5) Try to be asleep between 11 pm and 4 am. The cell turnover rate is highest during this time, so try to be asleep so your skin can renew itself properly.

6) Take collagen supplements and get plenty of Vitamin C. These are super nutrients for a glowing complexion.

7) Never go to bed without removing makeup or taking a cloth with some micellar water and wiping your face. There is so much gunk that gets into your skin by not doing this it’s disgusting. Do your skin a favor and take the extra few to wash this stuff off.

8) Eat more fatty foods like fish, nuts, and avocados. Lots of people don’t like fish, so taking fish oil tablets is perfectly fine as well. A half an avocado or a handful of almonds makes a great snack that will nourish your skin. These being high in fats, however, are also high in calories. Don’t gorge yourself or you’ll see some chub developing on you, despite how healthy it is.

9) Work up a sweat. Sweating gets rid of toxins from your body and exercise is just healthy in general. Make sure you immediately remove the clothes you wore though or it’ll trap in the sweat and cause a rash or breakout.

Hair:

1) Refrain from using shampoo more than a few times a week, as this dries your scalp and can cause flaking and itchiness.

2) Use a hair mask weekly. Use one that is suited for your hair’s needs. Personally, I use hair masks with avocado or coconut because they bring in a lot of moisture which wavy hair requires. If you have a dandruff problem, use a mask with tea tree or eucalyptus, something that will clarify. Just experiment and find what works.

3) Braid your hair before sleeping or wear a cap. Cotton sheets not only absorb and suck out moisture in your skin and hair, but it also causes needless breakage and frizziness.

4) Use a wet brush or wide toothed comb when your hair is wet. Your hair is very elastic and weak when wet, and these items bend better around knots and are more gentle than a regular brush.

5) Let conditioner sit for a few minutes before washing.

6) Just as you would with your skin, research your hair and how to properly take care of it. Someone with very fine hair would never employ the same technique as someone with very tightly coiled hair.

7) Use a leave in conditioner. A hair oil or cream to let sit after styling or while drying will leave your hair looking shiny and soft.

8) As with skin, fatty foods are incredibly beneficial for hair. Also eat plenty of dark leafy greens.

9) If you use heat on your hair, make sure you use a heat protectant. This is very important for preventing spit ends and breakage.

10) Use a scrunchie to tie your hair. Don’t use hair ties with those metal attachments and by God if you use a straight rubber band (not those tiny ones meant for your hair but I mean the office supply shit) I will smack you.

Teeth:

1) Make flossing and mouthwash your new best friends. Use a mouthwash that has no alcohol after a good floss. Protect those pearly whites.

2) Refrain from processed sugars and sodas.

3) Don’t brush your teeth within an hour of eating. This rubs off your enamel.

4) Take calcium supplements if you don’t get much from your diet. Calcium is pretty important for building bones and teeth, helping your immunity, and binding different molecules in your body. Don’t skimp out on it.

Nails:

1) File once a week. This will keep them looking neat and you can shape them however you please.

2) Use vitamin E oil. Vitamin E oil is great for hangnails, and will give your nails a stronger, healthier appearance. Massaging it into your nails every night will make them look well kept and perfectly prepped for polish.

3) Wear gloves when cleaning. Household cleaners will eat away and weaken your nails.

4) Don’t bite them.

5) After removing nail polish, allow your nails a few days to recuperate without any polish. This will keep them from getting brittle and possibly breaking.

General:

1) Keep your body moving. You don’t have to exercise an hour a day to keep fit. By keeping your legs moving occasionally and going on walks outside every day, you can lower your stress and it’s low impact if you have health issues or have been restricting and insist on getting some kind of exercise.

2) Practice good posture. Practice walking with something on your head if you’d like. Sitting and standing with good posture will tighten your core, improve your focus, improve your spine health, and even burns more calories. You’ll appear more confident and feel more confident.

3) Pay attention to your diet and what goes into your body. You don’t have to go vegetarian or vegan to eat clean. Just focus on putting nutritious food into your body and avoid greasy, processed junk. Proper nutrition is pretty important, and no matter how much you work out you can’t avoid the damage being done by eating junk all the time.

4) Do stretches in the morning when you wake up. Loosen up your body and improve your flexibility while your at it. Just a few stretches, a couple minutes, very easy.

5) Make your bed when you wake up. A great way to start your day off right and just makes your room appear neater.

6) Reserve about a half hour to an hour before your planned bed time to destress. Stretch yourself, put on some music, dim the lights, etc. Get yourself in the mindset to sleep. Improve your quality of sleep to improve your overall health.