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cannibalism as a coping mechanism
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If you are anti-darkfic, you are anti-survivor
Iāve had a bee in my bonnet since this incident the other day, and I figure itās probably time to get it out of my system.
Darkfic is not a new phenomenon. Itās as old as the hills. For as long as there have been fic writers, there have been fic writers using the medium to explore themes that are taboo in mainstream fiction. Torture and gore, death and destruction, rape and sexual abuse. Every author has their own motives and inspirations for the content they produce, and thereās no āaverageā darkfic writer. But what I can tell you - anecdotally, from a full decadeās worth of experience drifting in and out of various darkfic communities - is that when you involve yourself with these authors, you start meeting survivors. Lots of survivors. In what I think itās fair to call a statistically significant concentration.Ā
For some, their survivor status is incidental to their controversial interests; for others of us, past trauma and mental illness are intrinsically tied to what we read and write. Darkfic can be a lifeline, a validation, a liberation, a profound and unbeatably intense catharsis for the shit weāve got stored in our heads. Darkfic enclaves within fandom are places where we can air our darkest and most desperate fears and fantasies in a safe, supportive environment, in the company of others who remind us that we are not broken or defective just for wanting the things we want.
And hereās the thing: literally no one in these communitiesĀ wants to force outsiders to join us. We recognise that our content is stuff that the majority of people donāt want to see, and we do our best to protect the rest of fandom from involuntary exposure by using appropriate trigger warnings. We donāt want to hurt anyone, we donāt want to ruin anyoneās innocence - we just want to be left alone to do our thing. But tumblr callout culture has taught people thatĀ āspeaking outā against things they donāt like is cool and brave and socially progressive. It has created an environment where virtually the automatic response to distress, discomfort or personal offense is to look for a perpetrator, a culpable oppressive villain to whom the offended party can deliver a viciousĀ āsmackdownā while their friends look on and cheer.
Iām not going to argue just now about whether thatās ever an acceptable way to treat people. Regardless of anyoneās personal feelings on callout culture as a whole, thereās an intersection between darkfic and trauma survivors that you guys all needĀ to understand before you go targeting darkfic authors as convenient representatives of everything you think is wrong with the world. So let me lay this out as simply and clearly as I can:
When you oppose darkfic because itĀ āharms survivorsā, you are talking directly over large crowds of survivors who will tell you they find darkfic to be a validating, healing experience.
When you claim that darkfic is self-destructive and unhealthy, you are privileging your personal beliefs over the lived experience of other people.
When you accuse darkfic authors of glorifying and supporting real-life abuse, you accuse survivors of glorifying and supporting their own abusers.
When you blame darkfic for supporting rape culture, you are making victims responsible for the actions of their oppressors.
When you set conditions around the creation and enjoyment of darkfic - aka āitās only okay ifĀ youāre a survivorā - you create a culture of coercive disclosure, where survivors are expected to trade their right to privacy for the right to live free of harassment.
When you criticise darkfic authors forĀ using survivor status as anĀ āexcuseā, you are locking us out of our own communities and denying our past traumas for the sake of a political argument.
If you are anti-darkfic, you are anti-survivor. Iām sick and tired of watching vulnerable members of my community get harassed and bullied by people who claim to be acting in the interests of survivors. Iām sick of being told that survivors like me arenāt survivors at all, that our very existence is toxic and harmful, that we have no right to speak and be heard on an issue that affects us so intimately.Ā
Anti-darkfic fans, you need to pull back. You need to realise that your comfort and safety, while important, are not more important than the comfort and safety of other people. You need to understand that it is your responsibilityĀ to learn how to peacefully coexist alongside people who experience the world differently from you, even if their experiences make you unhappy or uncomfortable. You have no right to ask us to stop existing so that you can feel at ease. You have no right to demand that we prioritise the needs of some survivors over others. You donāt own fandom, and you have no right to dictate who does or doesnāt get to participate.
You are not brave heroes speaking out against the spread of moral degeneracy in fandom. You are bullies, deliberately and systematically targeting trauma survivors with your abusive tactics. It really is that simple. And it needs to stop.
WELL FUCKING PUT. Addendum: coercive disclosure is not the only reason itās a terrible idea to draw a line in the sand between survivors and non-survivors liking darkfic. Fiction is a way to explore various aspects of a theme or situation in a controlled, safe environmentāincluding aspects that could never be explored in real life without harming real people. Itās a way to explore, dissect, understand, and rehearse traumas that could befall anyone. For those whoāve actually experienced something similar, it can help them process it, or be an outstretched hand and a voice saying āyou arenāt alone; either I know that feel, or I can imagine having that feel if I put myself in your shoes.ā For those who havenāt, itās an outlet for anxiety, a mental preparation, a āwhat if?ā and a āhow might someone react toā?ā And even the most twisted, fucked-up darkfic is usually an exercise in empathy: empathy for characters we already care about thrown into terrible situations, and also a space outside of actual RL horrors where we can take a deep breath and attempt the kind of radical empathy that lets us understand what drives people to do abhorrent things. As far as the first one goes, I certainly donāt think anyone should be compelled to partake if it distresses them, but I do think that actively discouraging and shaming people for trying to empathize with anotherās sufferingāeven if they go about it badly or the execution is shoddy and distastefulāis utterly toxic behavior. As for the second, the kind that consists of trying to imagine your way into a perpetratorās shoes: it may make you wildly uncomfortable, but understanding the reasons for a thing is among the best tools for recognizing and preventing real-world evil. Beyond that, dehumanizationāeven of villains, bullies, and abusersāis a dangerous impulse. No oneās required to empathize with the people whoāve hurt them, but making a fucking policy out of attacking everyone who tries only plants the seeds of further evil and abuse. And we need these stories. Desperately. One of the reasons noncon/dubcon fic in particular has such a staggering variety of weird, fucked-up, iddy tropes and clumsy/insensitive/offensive executions is that weāre fucking marinating in rape culture and have very few scripts or outlets to talk about it. All of it. Even the ugly, unsavory parts, the impulses we know are wrong, the desires we hate or feel guilty about and canāt discuss without being accused of straight-up validating whatever heinous cultural messages planted them in our subconscious. Even the dumb, unrealistic power fantasies of fighting off rapists, taming rapists and making them love and respect you, walking away unaffected and being able to laugh it off as a wacky misadventure, being comforted by someone whose love (and/or healing cock) will magically fix everything. One personās insensitive is another personās escapism; one personās offensive is another personās āthank god, Iām not the only one broken enough to have that awful thought.ā Fictionāparticularly the communities that have formed around fanfictionāis one of the very few no-holds-barred places where we can Fucking Talk About It, without the pressure to speak only in hushed tones and behind closed doors where decent people wonāt be exposed to it, or to uphold the image of a perfect model victim who never has ugly, unacceptable thoughts about the ugly mess left behind by an unspeakably ugly act. When you shame and police darkfic in fandom, you are taking that space away from the people who need it the most. You are telling them to their faces that theyāre filthy, abnormal, tainted and contagious, and that they need to either shut the fuck up or keep it in the shame closet where it belongs instead of sharing it in public with other people who might understand. You are, in other words, doing the exact thing thatās tied with āI donāt believe youā for first place on the list of What Not To Say To A Survivor Opening Up About Their Abuse. Survivors arenāt the only ones with a tangle of conflicted thoughts, feelings, and neuroses about sexual violence and rape culture who benefit from exploring it in fiction, but you can be damn sure theyāre a major constituency. The absolute last thing they need is some white-knight āantiā bullying them into silence with concern-trolling about whether their ācoping mechanismsā are āhealthyā or whether theyāre setting a sufficiently good and wholesome example for teh childrens. The āonly if youāre a survivor using it to cope!ā bullshit is also noxious because fiction lets us handle difficult issues through several layers of distance and displacement, isolate particular aspects, transpose them into different but related situations, etc. Just because someoneās not a survivor of the exact thing theyāre reading or writing about doesnāt mean they donāt have very real pain theyāre trying to process. And again, empathy. I donāt give a shit what your sexual-assault history is; if you read my fucked-up Hydra Trash Party porn about Steve Rogers getting gang-raped by Crossbones & co and staggering away still shouting āFITE ME U PATHETIC ASSHOLESā even though he wants to die inside, and it hits you where you live, Iām fucking glad you found it. If I read your fucked-up Hydra Trash Party porn and hit a line that makes me feel like youāve plucked something ugly and painful and private directly from my brain, frankly Iāll be even more impressed if it turns out you were extrapolating rather than writing from personal experience. And if your badwrong noncon porn is directly at odds with everything Iāve experienced re: rape and its aftermath? I donāt live inside your head, dude. I donāt know what youāre drawing on or what demons youāre exorcizing. I donāt even know whether youāre writing from firsthand experience thatās dramatically different from mine. All I know is that whoever your target audience is, it aināt me. One final note on noncon fic specifically: it works on the exact same principle as consensual nonconsent play IRL. No, the character(s) didnāt consent; neither did the persona being acted out by someone playing the victim in a con-noncon scene. The consent that distinguishes it from real-world violation isnāt between the characters in the fantasy; itās between author and reader. The back button is the safeword. And in contrast to one of the dangers of IRL con-noncon play, itās a safeword the author has zero power to override or ignore.
hows this for a hot takeā¦..depression humour isnt actually that funny
its incredibly boring and annoying to hang out with ppl who do nothing but say how much they hate themselves. grow past it
ur life will get better bc ppl will actually enjoy ur company and u wont be making them uncomfortable anymore
im not saying this to sound superior either bc i have Been That Person but ever since i. stopped doing it i have much healthier and more enjoyable interactions
i know its hard to drag urself out of that mentality but its not ~~~neurotypical, karen uwu~~~ or whatever to do what u can to help urself live more positively
i hope u dont mind me adding on to this post but like
the recovery mindset is hard as fuck and no one is saying its easy but like. if all u do is sit around and be miserable and make things harder for urself of course u arent gonna get better. i know depression jokes might help in the moment but it wont do jack shit for you in the long term.
do you really wanna get better? because it takes work. not that just surviving and functioning w depression but ur mental illness isnt gonna go away by itself hun.
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hey, I'm curious. If you guys were to kill someone, how would you? disregarding police and everything, what is your dream way of killing ?