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my hyperfixations, asd, adhd and other mental health related posts main blog: @spacesparkles

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twinkle, twinkle little stars

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Pan pride butter slime!

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That adhdfeel when you were SO PRODUCTIVE then you decide, “alright time to take a break” and then never get back to being productive all day because other things have caught your attention.

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💎 a crystal stimboard! requested by @babyseraphim! 💎

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Timelapse view of lava moving on the plains near Pu’u O’o, Hawaii. The hill in the distance is called the “Pali”, it is the mark of a large normal fault created by part of the island sliding out towards the sea. Lava cascades over the Pali on its way to the ocean during the eruption. This is substantially sped up from how fast Pahoehoe lava typically flows.

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embers are the prettiest part of a fire !! ✨✨

[bisexualamy]

something i don’t see a lot in tumblr’s rhetoric about mental illness and recovery is a distinction between recovery through suppression and conformity and recovery through coping.

suppression and conformity is not recovery.  it implies that you are simply repressing the symptoms of your mental illness or disorder and causing yourself more pain.  suppression implies that you are ignoring your mental illness, not acknowledging your symptoms, and conformity implies that you are putting on a neurotypical facade.  so many people assume that’s the end goal of therapy and medication (should people choose to do that) or general recovery. that people are trying to “cure” you.  it’s where i think a lot of the “i shouldn’t need to get better” rhetoric comes from.

but that’s not what recovery is.  recovery is coping.  it’s learning about yourself and how you tick.  it’s learning to recognize and acknowledge symptoms so you can better understand them and, ultimately, not let them control you.  it’s understanding that being “wired” differently isn’t a bad thing, but it can make things harder, and learning to recognize those distinctions and address them so you can make your life easier.  it’s recognizing that for some people, therapy and medication are the path to coping, and that the end goal of them is to make that learning and self-discovery process easier so that those people can do it independently in the long run.

recovery is not changing yourself to fit the world.  recovery is learning how to look the world in the eye and say “i now know how to coexist with you now.  i now know how to thrive.”

[into-the-weeds]

This is a really helpful framework and distinction.

However.

I think a big thing contributing to this disconnect is that there are a lot of different mental disabilities, and for some of them, actually, suppression is what “recovery” means. There are a lot of autistic people on tumblr. People don’t just come to that definition out of nowhere.

And where this gets complicated is that a lot of us have co-occuring mental health disabilities. So you have 1 person with at least 2 different mental disabilities, one where “recovery” is an extremely loaded word, and one where it might point to helpful strategies. And that’s a recipe for pain.

I actually do have recovery, such as it is with the meaning given by OP, as a goal for my PTSD. But it took me a really long time to be comfortable saying that, because of what “recovery” as a concept has meant for me and my community. One of the most pernicious things about “recovery” meaning suppression in some contexts is that it harms people’s ability to access helpful frameworks for other situations. The pain compounds and radiates out and spreads beyond us.

What I’m trying to say is that this isn’t people being bad at discourse–this is real people being hurt by toxic concepts. And if our goal is to reduce suffering, that needs to be acknowledged. 

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he goes by dadfoot or dogfather. bonus based on this exchange:

[adhdandokay]

Me: Hasn’t done homework since freshman year Also me: strives for straight A’s and is upset when I struggle in my classes

[lilyevians-deactivated20170730]

every harry potter character: sirius black

sirius was a brave, clever and energetic man, and such men are not usually content to sit at home in hiding while they believe others to be in danger.

[fairypsychicarchive]

Ok so I rly fucking need to clean my house. Do any other People With Depression™ have any tips or ways you motivate urself to clean? Because this feels like the hardest goddamn thing in the world even tho I know it’s not and I’m just continually frustrated with myself and have been for the past two weeks.

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HOO BOY DO I HAVE DEPRESSION/EXECUTIVE DYSFUNCTION CLEANING TIPS

in no particular order (because I have depression and executive dysfunction):

1. If something sensory about cleaning bothers you, eliminate that before you start. For example, I wear gloves to do the dishes. If the sound of the vacuum bothers you, wear headphones and turn up the music. etc.

2. If you can, make a list of everything that needs to be done. Then acknowledge that you probably can’t do it all, and circle all the things that absolutely, no matter what, have to be done. Pick one (ONE! ONLY ONE! START WITH ONE!) of those things and break it down into smaller steps. Then even smaller steps. Seriously, if step one is “stand up” and step two is “walk to closet” and step 3 is “get mop”, that’s fine. It can be that small.

3. Take a break. “But I literally only started five minutes ago!” Don’t care. If you want a break, take a break. “At this point I’ve spent more time on breaks than I’ve spent on cleaning.” Ok, but you’ve spent more than zero time on cleaning, so you’ve accomplished more than you had at the beginning. “If I take a break it won’t get done!” If you burn out it won’t get done either. Take a break.

4. If nothing is working, try what I call bin cleaning/box cleaning. Take a big trash bag and a box. Pick up the first object you see. Step 1: Is it trash? Put it in the trash bag. Step 2: Will you use it in the next 2 days? No? Put it in the box. It’s a problem for Future You. If you’ll use it in the next 2 days, take time to put it away. Rinse and repeat.

5. Did you get distracted and forget what you were doing? Don’t worry about it. Just clean a thing. It doesn’t matter if it’s the thing you were cleaning before. You have to clean lots of things, so just pick a thing and clean it. Eventually you’ll get around to the thing you forgot.

6. If you have to do a thing you really hate, do a thing you like afterwards. I hate doing dishes, but folding laundry soothes me, so that’s a nice one to do afterwards. YMMV. If there are no cleaning things you like that you can do afterwards, see number 3.

7. Make it fun. Play loud music and dance while you’re cleaning. Wear something that makes you feel cute, or if you prefer, something comfy. Light your favorite candle. Whatever.

8. If it’s nice out, open a window. Seriously, it helps.

[fairypsychicarchive]

This is seriously so helpful, thank you.

[willowent]

Autistic-related UK organizations to avoid

It’s fairly common to hear about Autism Speaks and the many and profound ways in which they harm Autistic people, especially during April; but we don’t have Autism Speaks here in the UK. Instead, there are a number of charities and organizations that are related to Autistic people, and, in my experience, it’s rare to hear much about them and their flaws in Autistic rights activism.

So here is some information I’ve put together about some of the main Autistic-related charities in the UK that should be avoided or at least treated warily. Some of the organizations do some good work, I’m sure, but it’s important to highlight the ways in which they do harm to Autistic people.

This list is not comprehensive and there are many more organizations that I haven’t included.

Keep reading

[solasnua]

Me: *trying to sleep*

Brain: *hears a noise*

Me: what was that

Brain: idk but you gotta focus on it now

Me: but why

Brain: you gotta

[solasnua]

that adhd feel when

me: i guess i should do the thing.

me: ok i'll do the thing. i'll do it now.

me: *doesn't do the thing*

[exu-lan-sis]

the worst feeling is watching your room get messier and knowing you should clean it at some point and motivating yourself to clean it and trying to clean it but ending up not being able to do anything

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