the dark romance debate
The other night I sat with my sister talking about how I can stomach horror movies better than romance movies and she looked at me like I was crazy BUT LISTEN!!!
There is nothing that disturbs me more than when abusive/problematic behavior is justified and romanticized. With the rise of dark romance books I've seen genuinely terrifying things be passed off as "a different kind of romance."
When consuming horror media I can at least feel a little at ease knowing that the killer or the stalker or whatever IS the antagonist. Yes we can get some sort of backstory to how they ended up there, but it doesn't get excused nearly as much as the stuff in dark romance books. Like, there's a very clear line in the sand saying, "hurting people is bad."
I understand that a lot of dark romance is catered towards a specific fantasy but there has to be a line, especially when it becomes really big in media and suddenly becomes "normal," (like stalking being labeled as "aw he's so protective" or controlling/isolating behavior as "he just loves her so much he doesn't want anyone to hurt her") ESPECIALLY when the protagonist fights back against it, right?
Am I crazy? Is this just something I'm not suited for or are there other people who find some of the "dark romance" plots horror re-wrapped as romance? I'm not trying to shame dark romance readers I just don't get it and am trying to understand lol help

















