This month I cut off both Men I’ve been seeing.
Is the guy I met via tinder who took me to Sedona for Valentine’s Day and bought me a flight to Thailand. After much thought I know I need to pay attention to my gut. This guy is manipulative. At the end of the day Idgaf how much money he’s dishing out, you’ve gotta catch that shit early and dip. So after three dates I walked away with $700.00 and I still have the flight ticket. No sex, nothing remotely sexual between us. He was also a terrible kisser with no lips. I refused to put up with that shit long term.
Is a very well paid University Professor with major projects, he comes from a wealthy family and has an Ivy League education and PHD.
I genuinely like him. He’s funny, and intelligent, and genuinely likes me as well. For my birthday, he picked me up in his BRIGHT yellow Porsche. He planned out everything except for the steakhouse (which he’d never been to), we went to an escape room, then we went to resort bar with views of the city. Afterward we went to a luxury steak house. Mind you my birthday was only our third date. At the steakhouse he asked if I wanted to go back to his place or go dancing. I let him know I wanted to go back to his place (I had to know what it looked like) but I also said clearly that we were not going to have sex. He let me know that he was completely OK with that and so we went to his place. Let’s be clear he has a beautiful home in one of the most expensive parts of Arizona but his furniture looked straight out of a thrift store. There is a difference between vintage and literally peoples thrown away garbage and his shit was the latter. I liked that he had books everywhere. We talked and we fooled around all night (no sex) and he begged me to spend the night which I did. In the morning we grabbed Starbucks and he took me home.
What I don’t like is the fact that this guy is a hoe. Hes told me way to many sex stories to make me think otherwise.
He’s obliged every $$$$ heavy date idea that I’ve had but I fear he may not be able to maintain it simply because he hasn’t put that type of money into his home and he has a young kid.
Simply put, he is a well known physicist, I’m an entrepreneur I own real estate and I want more. I have huge dreams for my life, and I don’t see where our lives converge as we have different life interests and purpose. So though I like him, it is not smart for me to hold on to him as a boyfriend who will spoil me.
I don’t care about luxury handbags. I care about running a successful nonprofit and business. I care about having passive income. I care about creating generational wealth. I also care about being in love with a wealthy man with whom I can build. I can have this. I will have this. Therefore I understand that I’ve taken no losses. I’m only getting closer to my dreams.
I’ve also realized I need to NOT get caught up in this lifestyle. It’s easy to get distracted when you’re seeing these men. They are NOT my life but a small part of it. Balance is important to me moving forward.
I will also commit to getting off Tinder and freestyling twice a week in upscale restaurants and events/conferences that are of specific interest to me. This is the best way to CHOOSE who I meet.
Stay balanced loves, don’t lose yourself or your passions that you are manifesting.
