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alignment comes from:

– the choices you make every day – choices that reflect your values – telling yourself the truth even when it’s uncomfortable – holding firm to what you will and won’t allow – trusting your first instinct – refusing to abandon your own needs – choosing peace over chaos – picking evolution instead of repeating what feels familiar – keeping promises you make to yourself – choosing long-term clarity over short-term comfort – protecting your mental and emotional energy – not performing for approval – walking away when something feels off, even if you can’t explain why – making decisions from your future self, not your fears – surrounding yourself with people who bring out your best – giving yourself permission to outgrow what no longer fits

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Audit the people in your life

Not everyone in your life deserves permanent access to you. And this isn’t about judging people, it’s about being honest with yourself. Pay attention to how your body feels around the people you spend time with

Ask yourself:

Do I feel calm or tense around them?

Do I feel at peace after being with them?

Do I feel confident around them?

Do I feel supported without having to explain myself?

Do I feel emotionally safe with them?

Do they respect my boundaries?

Do they really listen to me?

Do they respect me even when we disagree?

Do they celebrate my growth?

Do I feel like myself around them?

Do I hide parts of myself to keep the connection?

Do we share the same core values?

Do they want me to grow, or stay the same?

Do I feel energized or drained after spending time with them?

Do I feel grounded or overwhelmed after talking to them?

Do I trust them with my feelings?

Do I constantly make excuses for them?

Do they bring clarity or confusion into my life?

Do they approach me with curiosity, not judgment?

Do they take responsibility for their actions?

Do they respect my time and priorities?

Do I feel chosen and valued by them?

She doing mixed signals again.

theambitiouswoman

Choosing a life partner is one of the most important decisions you will ever make. Do not let anyone rush you into this. Who you choose doesn’t just shape your love life, it shapes your health, your wealth, your happiness and even your sense of identity. This person becomes the backdrop of your everyday reality, influencing how you think, feel and show up in the world. That’s why you must approach this choice with the same care and discernment as you would any other high stakes decision

Your partner becomes your environment. Their habits, their emotional regulation & their mindset all leave an imprint on you. If you want a life of peace, growth, and purpose, you need to choose someone who will co create that environment with you not someone who drains you or keeps you in a cycle of chaos and recovery

Love by itself is not enough. Chemistry is exciting, but it’s compatibility, respect and shared vision that sustain a relationship in the long run. Look for alignment in values and goals, choose character over charm and prioritize someone who is committed to their growth. The right partner should inspire you to rise higher, not keep you stagnant

Pay attention to red flags. They are not challenges to overcome, they are stop signs. Your body often senses the truth before your mind catches up and ignoring those signals can cost you years of your life, along with your confidence and peace of mind

The best way to choose wisely is to build a life you love first. When you feel fulfilled and secure on your own, you choose a partner from a place of clarity rather than desperation. This is what helps you avoid settling and ensures that your relationship adds to your life rather than becoming the center of it

When you choose well, the ripple effects are profound. Your mental health improves, you build a home that feels safe, you create the possibility of generational wealth and you model healthy love for the next generation. In many ways, your life truly does depend on this choice so make it wisely

These past days, people are draining me. Maybe because they are not my people. I just want to breathe.

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Gaslighting.

When a person hurts you, denies the fact that they hurt you but plays the victim and acts like you did something to them instead, this is gaslighting. Which is a form of psychological abuse.

I believe, and maybe this is the empath in me, that a lot of people do not realize the actual nature of their actions. To them it probably feels normal. it is how they grew up, or completely lack awareness. I think this makes it worse for the victim, who may be used to this behavior themselves, or may be empathetic towards the person, or even be at a level of insecurity that they naturally question themselves. But I will leave that for another post.

Gaslighting is a tactic someone can use to gain control over the other person by making the person question their own reality. Overtime, you become increasingly dependent for your sense of reality, which further fuels the dynamic. Doubting your own perceptions, memories, or feelings, and questioning their own sanity. This form of manipulation can lead you to feeling confused, anxious, isolated and unable to trust your own judgement.

Some common signs of gaslighting are:

Denying they said something, even though you have proof.

Using what you love against you. For example, they might say things like, "If you really loved me, you would..."

Their actions don't match their words.

They project. They accuse you of doing what they are actually doing.

They try to align people against you.

They tell you everyone else is a liar.

What if?

What if I told you I want more? What if I told you I love you really deeply? What if I want us to be together? Would you be brave enough to accept this love? I miss you so badly.

How to forget about you?

I want to forget you. Everything about you, how you talk, laugh, smile and talk. The way you touch my soul, the way you hold, the way your skin touches mine, rubbing elbows, touching my tummy, and that one hug.

I can't sleep

I've been thinking a lot about you lately. I miss you so much. Like I want to see you and hold you but your are nowhere near me, like you're so near yer so far, just a few doors apart. But you are so cold. So far away. You don't even care about me. How can I stop this feeling?

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the "superfoods" you should incorporate into your diet

first of all, what are superfoods, and why are they so beneficial to our health? are those that in addition to feeding us have beneficial properties for health and are 100% natural, their origin is mainly vegetable and raw consumption, have a high content of fiber, minerals, proteins and vitamins, many of this help strengthen the immune system and promise the extension of a long healthy life.

and these are some of the foods you should incorporate into your diet.

goji berries: high in vitamins and minerals

acai berries: beneficial for overall health and boost performance. high in antioxidants, vitamins, minerals, and essential fatty acids.

chia seeds: high in vegetable fiber, omega-3 fatty acids, and high-quality protein.

ginger: it is attributed with properties against digestive discomfort and headaches. it also has an anti-inflammatory effect.

avocado: high in healthy fats, antioxidants, it has numerous micronutrients among which are vitamins C, vitamin B5, and vitamin K.

green tea: accelerates metabolism, detoxifying.

matcha: rich in antioxidants, polyphenols, and EGG, responsible for helping to protect against heart disease, helps regulate blood sugar, and accelerates metabolism.

quinoa: high protein concentration, rich in fiber and vitamins.

spinach: high concentrations of vitamins C and A, flavonoids, omega-3.

curcuma: increases serotonin production, helps regulate menstrual cramps and headaches.

walnuts: source of omega-3, protects our heart and cholesterol, we will get protein, vitamin E, fiber, healthy fats and lots of energy.

broccoli: very low caloric intake, rich in vitamin A and beta-carotene (a great antioxidant), vitamin C, fiber and folic acid.

seaweed: all are alkalizing and a good source of dietary fiber, antibacterial, anti-inflammatory, and antioxidant properties. contain healthy fatty acids and provide plenty of calcium, iron, and iodine.

and many more…! i am getting into the world of healthy eating to incorporate it into my day-to-day and I will continue to bring you posts related to this so that you also know about it and you can have a really healthy diet 🤍

this article has been written with the help of different sources.

I’ve been writing about you and you didn’t have a clue. I’m still getting missed signals from you. But I don’t allow it control me. I just miss you.

theambitiouswoman

Stoic mindset

1. Your happiness is your responsibility.

2. Everything is temporary.

3. We are social beings with a social duty.

4. A philosophy of life must be lived.

5. Happiness is not found in superficial pleasures.

6. We are social beings with a social responsibility.

7. Structure your goals so they become attainable because they are.

8. Be attached to nothing.

9. If you are too scared to lose it, you shouldn’t have it.

10. Associate with people who can improve your life.

11. Accept what cannot be changed.

12. Avoid materialism. Live simply.

13. Do not consider yourself a victim.

14. Live below your means.

15. Maximize positive emotions. Minimize negative emotions.

16. Do not let emotions control your life.

17. Be proud of your achievements but don’t be arrogant.

18. Be disciplined.

19. No quick fixes. Put in the work and do it right.

20. Don’t put yourself in a box. Be open minded and hold yourself to the same standard you hold others.

21. Do not judge a book by its cover.

22. Avoid drama.

23. Learn to forgive. Do not become the pain you feel or the people or things that hurt you.

24. Be there for the people you love.

25. Educate yourself.

26. Give yourself the chance to learn from everyone even when you disagree.

27. Think for yourself.

28. Demand the best for yourself.

29. You are what you repeatedly do. Excellence is a habit.

30. Be as you wish to seem.

31. Every obstacle is an opportunity.

32. The more you value things outside of your control, the less control you have.

33. Once you start looking for outside approval you have already compromised your integrity.

34. You become what you give your attention to.

35. The more you know, the more you know you don’t know.

theambitiouswoman

8 Pillars of Self Care

Physical: Physical self care refers to the things you to do help you take care of your body and boost your energy levels.

Mental: Mental self care helps stimulate the mind and improve brain functionality.

Emotional: Emotional self care can help you cope with your feelings better and improve self acceptance.

Environmental: Allows you to find the right environment so you can truly thrive.

Financial: Allows you to cultivate a healthy relationship with money so you can reduce stress.

Social: Helps you feel loved and less alone as well as improving your communication skills.

Recreational: Encourages you to tap into your inner child and make time to have fun.

Spiritual: Helps you find a deeper purpose and more meaning in your life.

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“I owe myself the biggest apology for putting up with what I didn’t deserve.”

— Unknown

I never stopped loving you. I just love myself more.

It’s all on me, in my head and in my heart. You made me think that I was the problem. But deep down, you invalidate my feelings, my trauma and my pain. I’ve been overthinking a lot lately because what you put me through. I put my trust in you and I was willing to do everything for you, but what did you do? You left me open.

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