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My dad's home for the next two days and I feel like this is going to be a very long weekend. I can already hear him CHEW ON HIS NAILS ALL EVENING LONG RIGHT NEXT TO MY EARS. And the gross throat clearing. And the gross sniffling. The NOISES
Writing Tips Master Post
Character writing/development:
Character Arcs
Making Character Profiles
Character Development
Comic Relief Arc
Internal Conflict
Character Voices
Creating Distinct Characters
Suicidal Urges/Martyr Complex
Creating Likeable Characters
Writing Strong Female Characters
Writing POC Characters
Building Tension
Plot devices/development:
Intrigue in Storytelling
Enemies to Lovers
Alternatives to Killing Characters
Worldbuilding
Misdirection
Consider Before Killing Characters
Foreshadowing
Narrative:
Emphasising the Stakes
Avoid Info-Dumping
Writing Without Dialogue
1st vs. 2nd vs. 3rd Perspective
Fight Scenes (+ More)
Transitions
Pacing
Writing Prologues
Dialogue Tips
Writing War
Writing Cheating
Worldbuilding:
Worldbuilding: Questions to Consider
Creating Laws/Rules in Fantasy Worlds
Book writing:
Connected vs. Stand-Alone Series
A & B Stories
Writer resources:
Writing YouTube Channels, Podcasts, & Blogs
Online Writing Resources
Outlining/Writing/Editing Software
Writer help:
Losing Passion/Burnout
Overcoming Writer's Block
Fantasy terms:
How To Name Fantasy Races (Step-by-Step)
Naming Elemental Races
Naming Fire-Related Races
How To Name Fantasy Places
Ask games:
Character Ask Game #1
Character Ask Game #2
Character Ask Game #3
Miscellaneous:
1000 Follower Post
2000 Follower Poll
Writing Fantasy
The company where I did my internship last year is hiring for one of my managers' position. I applied earlier and since I saw the job offer i've barely been able to think of anything else, I'm already imagining future me being back there working with my former coworkers and this makes me so happy but there's a chance ill never be contacted or, if i make it to the final stage (which HONESTLY i should be able to achieve), they'll choose someone else since i AM still a junior. If that happens i know ill be extremely disappointed since its literally my former team hiring and if they don't think i have it in me thisll make me question myself again. Ive also been wishkng to return there for months, espexially agter my last horrible work experience, and there couldnr be a more perfect opportunirt. So if i miss that chance... ill feel exttemzlt bad. Thats why I'm trying not to be too delusional lmao refraining my positive thoughts and grounding myself to avokd having any expectatilns ceushed. I have to belkeve in myself but i always try to stay realistic. Things have often worked in my favor so lets just hope its also the case this time.
It did, in fact, not turn out in my favor
And i also lost my freelance job because the company decided to change their marketing strategy and did not need freelancers anymore lololol
At least the guy who got the job is one of my former colleagues there and im very happy for him
The company where I did my internship last year is hiring for one of my managers' position. I applied earlier and since I saw the job offer i've barely been able to think of anything else, I'm already imagining future me being back there working with my former coworkers and this makes me so happy but there's a chance ill never be contacted or, if i make it to the final stage (which HONESTLY i should be able to achieve), they'll choose someone else since i AM still a junior. If that happens i know ill be extremely disappointed since its literally my former team hiring and if they don't think i have it in me thisll make me question myself again. Ive also been wishkng to return there for months, espexially agter my last horrible work experience, and there couldnr be a more perfect opportunirt. So if i miss that chance... ill feel exttemzlt bad. Thats why I'm trying not to be too delusional lmao refraining my positive thoughts and grounding myself to avokd having any expectatilns ceushed. I have to belkeve in myself but i always try to stay realistic. Things have often worked in my favor so lets just hope its also the case this time.
a comprehensive guide to mlm shipping habits in transformative fandom
anonymous said:
Ok, this is going to be a controversial one, but her me out: do you think it’s a bit weird that so many women in the fandom (most of them straight or bi) only show interest in mlm ships? I know on a personal level everybody has their reasons and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with liking mlm in any sense, but for so many women to only relate to relationships where they aren’t represented is a bit… weird. Not to mention knee-jerk reactions to any mlf pairing 🤔
This is far from a controversial question. People have been mystified that transformative fandom - primarily made up of women* - is ‘only’ interested in mlm for as long as transformative fandom has been a recognized phenomenon.
A caveat for the terminology in this post: as society at large tends to forget/ignore/reject the gender spectrum and transgender people, ‘male/men’ = characters referred to with male pronouns in canon and ‘female/women’ = characters referred to with female pronouns. (NB/agender/genderqueer people don’t come up, unfortunately.)
So first let me point out that transformative fandom is not only on AO3/tumblr. AO3 stats in particular give a very skewed idea of what fandom focuses on. Both ff.net and wattpad - fanfic archives which dwarf AO3 - have far higher ratios of m/f (to m/m) fic than mlm-focused AO3: ff.net is about 50/50 and has more genfic (no pairings) while wattpad features lots of m/f fic, often in the form of (male)character/(female)reader stories.
In other words, Fanworks are NOT mostly mlm; it’s just likely that we tend to notice m/m more than m/f because m/f is the ‘default’ - unmarked, and thus overlooked.
secondly, while you’ve lumped straight and bisexual women together in your ask, if you separate straight and bisexual fandom participants you get an interesting picture in regards to the typical ‘straight women are the biggest m/m fans’ common wisdom:
In a 2013 survey of AO3 users*, heterosexual female respondents were slightly less likely to be both readers and creators of M/M works - 87% were readers, compared to 90% overall, and 32-33% were creators, compared to 40% overall.
according to a variety of smaller, previous polls on various sites, the majority of m/m (and f/f) fans identify as queer (and based on a thorough dissertation pending, the stats are about 50/50 ‘mostly straight’/’mostly non-straight’).
Now with those caveats out of the way … why is mlm popular in a space that is primarily dominated by women**? I honestly don’t think this can be truly quantified. the reasons vary from person to person too greatly. But there’s a lot of theories and a lot of anecdotal evidence for those theories. Here’s some of them, in no particular order:
it’s male privilege (sexism/misogyny).
Male privilege: Male societal privilege and and bias feeds into media bias. media is heavily male-dominated (more male characters, usually played by cis men where actors are called for, with more central/leading roles and more screentime). Even conversations between female characters tend to focus on the male characters. The media bias then itself contributes back to societal bias - and fandom bias - towards seeing men/male characters as more interesting, more dynamic, and more varied than women/female characters.
Flip side: societal bias towards men leads directly to a relative lack of interest in women/female characters. they have less screentime, less interaction with one another, and are less centralized by the plot. Their stories are more likely to revolve around a male character in the cast. And when they do get the same treatment as male characters, audiences are very hard on them.
it’s simply a function of statistics. the overrepresentation of male characters compared to female characters has a natural consequence. If you do the math, that exponentially increases the odds of a mlm ship being fanned over compared to an m/f or wlw ship.
it’s also an observable phenomenon across multiple character demographics.
in addition to having more roles, relationships between masc characters are often where the emotional heart of a story lies. people tend to ping on that in and create fan content for it.
it’s because fanworks are a function of wish fulfillment, taking various forms:
straight women, being sexually attracted to men, consume mlm (nsfw) fanworks for the same reason straight men might consume wlw porn: double the eye candy. (the fact that straight women are actually less likely to consume or create mlm fanfic than non-straight women suggests this may not be as prevalent as often assumed.)
non-straight characters are still incredibly uncommon in mass media; transformative fandom, which is mostly non-straight, creates their own representation (perhaps with bias towards the characters with more emotional connection in canon.)
non-straight relationships are even less common than non-straight characters, and are unlikely to get much canon focus if they do exist. fandom fills this gap. (conversely, m/f pairings are far more likely to receive canon fulfillment and canon focus, so there’s less need to create fan content for it.)
(white cis) male bodies are both more common in (western) mass media and ‘unmarked’. like m/f pairings, white cis males are perceived as ‘default’ due to white/cis/male privilege. If racism, transphobia, and sexism weren’t enough on their own to increase content about pairings between characters of that description, that privilege also means that fictional characters of this description are the least likely to be seen as needing protection by policing elements in fandom, increasing the free rein on content creation. thus: fandom produces more mlm fanworks despite being fannish over m/f and f/f ships as well, which increases content obscurity, which increases free rein, which increases content creation, etc.
relatedly: women’s stories/sexuality is too fraught. male privilege/internalized misogyny leads directly to women’s stories and afab bodies being politicized. some afab people have hangups about fictional representations of themselves in nsfw content, being uncomfortable with portrayals of people like themselves in fiction, and even sickened by depictions of pleasure experienced by bodies with vaginas (particularly in f/f works). mlm stories create enough distance for women to enjoy it without distraction by concerns of misogyny or fear of something hitting too close to home in the experience (and cis mlm nsfw content in particular provides a safe space for afab people who are bothered by depictions of afab pleasure for whatever reason).
it’s an outlet for afab people discovering they are not straight or not cis. they may still identify as a ‘cishet woman’, but they are consuming mlm works because it resonates with a part of them that they haven’t consciously recognized.
In conclusion: at first glance it might seem weird that fandom seems to spend a lot of time on mlm, but this is both not entirely true and (where it is true) there are many, many reasons for it.
I’ve spent 8 hours compiling links and piecing together this post now so that you can have a comprehensive guide to the reasons that parts of fandom seem to be dominated by mlm stories, so I’m going to wrap up now. For more fanwork statistics, try these links:
AO3 Ship Stats Masterpost by @centrumlumina
ToastyStats tag on @destinationtoast
For more analysis on why mlm is popular (and wlw not so much), try these links:
Why is there so much slash on AO3?
Why mlm? (and some of the responses)
Femslash and Fandom
Femslash Can Save the World if We Let it
and this essay briefly sums up the migration of online transformative fandom over the last 15 years or so, giving context to AO3 fic stats.
One final note: the comparative prevalence of mlm to wlw would suggest that male privilege and bias is primary motivation for its popularity, but wlw was not always so scarce as it seems to be now. Just as you might expect, shows with a mostly-female cast had massive amounts of wlw content: sailor moon, utena, etc. But there’s reason to believe that purity culture has stifled wlw popularity, and that’s a damn shame.
*The largest fandom demographic survey from a reputable source (that I am aware of) was based on AO3 users, advertised primarily via Tumblr, and analyzed by @centrumlumina in 2013. I’m pulling my stats from this survey, but be aware it has significant limitations.
**in my personal experience, many of those in fandom who identify as women are cis women, but also many of those in fandom who do not identify as women are afab/were socialized as a woman before identifying differently. However, I don’t currently have survey data to back this up.
If you're upset about duolingo firing it's translators, you should check whatever the equivalent to the BBC is for your target language (or the BBC if that language is English, but if your target language is English and you're reading this I think you're good) because a lot of major national news organizations have resources for learning their language. For example, DW has resources to learn German, NHK has resources for learning Japanese, TV5monde has resources for learning French. They're usually free (or at least, I haven't encountered one that's paid yet) and usually pretty comprehensive (though like with all language learning apps/websites def supplement it with other resources)
Grammar Masterpost
➡️ Masterpost II here ⬅️
Beginner Level:
~과/와, 하고 & 랑/이랑 — “And” or “With”
~에게 / ~한테 / ~게 — “To” or “By”
~에게서 한테서 / (으)로부터 — “From”
~은/는 vs ~이/가
~부터 & ~까지 - “To & From” for TIME
~고 — And or then
~지만 — “But”
덕분에 & 때문에 — “Because” & “Thanks To”
포함하다, 제외하다, 빼고, 외에 — To include, To exclude, Take out, Outside of
만큼 — “As much as (x)”
N + ~(이)나 & A/V + ~거나 — “Or”
N + ~밖에 + Negative Verb — Only
~ㄹ/을 수밖에 없다 — “No choice but to…”
전에 (Before/Ago) & 후에 (After, From now)
~ㄹ/을 줄 알다 or 모르다 — Know (or not know) how to
~ㄹ/을 수 있다 & ~ㄹ/을 수 없다 — Can/Cannot (Extrinsic)
못 & ~지 못하다 — Cannot (intrinsic)
~아/어 있다 — In the state of
~아/어도 — Regardless
~아/어서 — So/Therefore & Then (standard)
A/V + ~아/어 가지고 — So/Therefore & Then (very casual form)
위해(서) — For
대신에 — Instead of
~ㄹ/을게(요) — Will (subject to the listeners opinion)
~았/었으면 좋겠다 — I hope / I wish
N + 에 대해(서) — “About”
N + 에 관하다 & ~에 관련되다 — Regarding/Related to
정도 — Degree
~(ㄴ/은) 적이 있다/없다 — Experience
V + ~(으)면서 or ~(으)며 — Whilst
척하다 — Pretending to do or be X
~았/었었다 — The Past Perfect Tense
Intermediate Level:
V + ~자마자 — As soon as
A/V/N + 잖아(요) — As you know
~지 / ~죠 — “… Right?” “… Isn’t it?” “You know”
~ㄴ/는/ㄹ 줄 알았다 or 몰랐다 — “I thought that…”
~아/어도 되다 — To be allowed or okay to do
안 ~아/어도 되다 — Don’t have to, OK not to do
~아/어야 하다/되다 — Must, Have to, Should
려고 & ~(으)러 — With the intention of doing…
~아/어 보다 — To try
~아/어 주다 — For charitable actions
~(으)니까 & ~(으)니 — Because (Reason/Justification/Excuse)
V + 기로 하다 — To decide to do
N + ~에 따라(서) — Depending on, depends on
N + ~을/를 통해(서) — Through, by way of, via/with
V + ~아/어/여 버리다 — To be done to totality/completion
V + 아/어 놓다 — Leaving an action in its completed state
V + ㄹ/을 뻔 했다 — Almost did
~(으)면 (안) 되다 — One must not, it’s okay if…
것 같다 — Seems like
V + ~는 중 • N + 중 • N + 중에 — “In the middle of”, and “Amongst”
X이/가 아니라 Y — “Not X but Y” & ~ㄹ/을 뿐만 아니라 — “Not only X but also Y”
~던 & ~았/었던 — Past descriptor
V + 는 편이다 & A + ㄴ/은 편이다 — Fairly, on the X side, rather X, tend to X
~ㄴ/은 채(로) — While in the state of
~ㄹ/을 수록 — "The more you do (X) the more (Y) happens.
A/V + ~ㄹ/을 리가 없다 — “There’s no way that…” “It’s impossible that…”
~구나, ~군 & ~군요 — Expressing Surprise 1
~네(요) — Expressing Surprise 2
~ㄹ/을 필요가 있다/없다 — To need to / Not need to
A/V/N + 는 것 (ㄴ/은, 는, ㄹ/을) + 듯이/듯하다 — As if…
Advanced Level:
A/V/N + ~든지 — Whether X or Y (Options)
~거든(요) — Because (giving context when the listener assumedly doesn’t know yet)
~는데 Connector — But/However & Background Information
는데(요) — At the end of a sentence (Usages)
~아/어 가다 & ~아/어 오다 — An action continues into the future or from the past until now (explicitly continual)
는지 — A Clause of Uncertainty (Whether, If)
~다가 & ~았/었다가 — Mid-action interruption & Two Action Clauses
뿐 — It’s just/only x (and nothing else)
~기(를) 바라다 — To hope for X, To request (very formal/authoritative)
A/V + 게 하다 — To make/let sb do sth
A/V + 하다 🔄 시키다 - To make
V + 게 되다 — To end up
~도록 — So that
A/V + 게 — So that, in order to
~기(도 / 만 / 는) 하다 — Grammar
~지 말다 ➡️ ~지 마세요 — The Negative Imperative (“Don’t”)
Quoting Masterpost
~ㄹ/을 수(가/는/도) 없다 / 있다 — Adding 가/는/도
~ㄴ/은/는 것이다 — Emphasis / Explanation /Verification on what one is doing/is/happening (It’s the thing of)
A/V + (ㄴ/는)다는 것, N + (이)라는 것 — The fact that, The thing that
Miscellaneous:
Picked Up Phrases —Quizlet Flashcard Deck
~ㄹ까? vs ~ㄹ래? — “Shall…?” “Will…?”
~(으)면 vs ~다면 — The difference between
X 잘하다 vs 잘 X다 — The difference
Question Forms
Giving Commands (Imperative)
Let’s
Plans, Schedules, Preparations, “To be Ready”
Diary Form Conjugation
~(으)시 — Honorific Addition
Adding ~아/어 하다 to Adjectives
Best Attempt at Imperative Adjectives? (Command)
~기 + Verb — List
~스럽다 — With properties of x
신경을 (안) 쓰다 — “I don’t care”
다르다 / 비슷하다 / 같다 — Different, similar, same
~겠다, as opposed to ~ㄹ/을 것이다
fanfic speedrun: write the scene you want to write and skip the rest of the fic
(same goes on the reader side of things)
I'm seeing people on this post who think that what I'm saying is, "Write out of order, starting with the things you enjoy most." And while that's fine advice, it's not actually what I said.
What I said was, "Only write the thing that's fun, and don't write the rest."
Write one shots. Write drabbles. Write ficlets. If you have 5 interesting scenes but you can't figure out how to tie them together into a fic, then write 5 separate ficlets, post them in a series, and when you get another idea for that series just plop it right in there and rearrange the works into the right order.
You don't have to write longfic to write fanfic.
I love one shots. One shots are awesome. One shots don't fuck around. One shots are a hit of pure, distilled fandom straight into the veins. They know what they're here to accomplish and by God they accomplish it with as little extraneous bullshit as possible. Sometimes you don't want a 30 chapter slow-burn epic five course meal; it too much. Sometimes you just want to down a double-expresso one shot of your favorite character and ride that high for the rest of the afternoon.
90% of what I write is a one-shot. A single sex scene, a single concept. Bam slam thank you ma'am, there's the story. Beginning, middle, end, in 2,000 words or less on average.
I don't want to write all the food you need for a year; I don't want to write an intricately coordinated 12 course meal where every dish compliments those around them.
I write junk food. And I like that. Sometimes, you just want a fuckin' twinkie, and that's what my fic gives you.
You can rearrange stories in a series?!
Not really the topic here (still great advice though!), but HOW?!
Newly Married Things
please don't fail me site, LOL.
Shouting, crying, and sleeping because of the television together.
Running your fingers through their hair, wondering how you got so lucky.
Playing with the wedding ring on their finger.
Breakfast in bed, prepared by one for the other.
“Which of these looks better, dear?”
^ Cannot look because they are half-undressed.
Where one’s showering, and the other’s getting ready for the day, chatting.
^ “You slapped me in the face while sleeping.” “Wha—I did not!!”
Hugging their pillow when they’re gone, now unaccustomed to their absence.
The sun rising over the horizon as they chat through the night.
Waking up with their hair in your mouth.
“Tell me. What did you dream about last night?”
Spraying their cologne on your wrists.
Little hobbies together: sewing, crochet, reading, gaming, those kinds of things.
Quietly listening to them spout off about their favorite thing, and smiling all the way through at their enthusiasm.
Either teaming against your in-laws in mutual disgruntlement, or loving your in-laws in mutual adoration. There is no in-between.
Waking up and realizing your SO is sleeping upside down. This is common for them, apparently.
“Can’t we just order takeout.” “...Fine.”
Mid-work Coffee deliveries.
“I’m going to bed. Do NOT stay up all night.” “...Hmm.”
Common dialogue mistakes
Are you making any of these common dialogue mistakes? Read the post to find out what they are and how you can quickly fix them.
Does dialogue feel like a struggle? Here are the most common mistakes I see writers make that have their dialogue falling flat.
👉 The length of a single line
Less is more, and this is very true for dialogue. The quicker you can get your point across, the punchier the dialogue will read.
A lot of the time if you feel your dialogue dragging, you may be repeating points that you’ve already said.
👉 No unique character voices
A big web to untangle, but ask yourself this: If I left out dialogue and action tags entirely, would my readers still be able to tell who’s speaking?
If yes, that’s when you know you have a strong and unique character voice.
The worst thing you can do is make all your characters sound the same, or just like you.
👉 Exposition everywhere
Using dialogue as a means to lay down exposition or explanation can come off very cringy to readers.
Would these characters realistically say that to each other, if you didn’t need the reader to know?
When in doubt, trust that your readers can take hints and fill in gaps. Always write from the head of your character first.
👉Trying to be too realistic
Adding in too many pauses, elipses, ums, uhhs, and errs can get tiring very quickly, especially if every single character does this.
Yes, most people speak like that, but fictional dialogue is stronger the punchier and tighter you keep it.
👉 The white room syndrome
Sometimes writers get so involved in the dialogue and scene that they forget to lay out the setting or tell the readers what’s happening around your characters.
This leaves no image in your readers’ heads, and makes your writing feel non-immersive.
Use the setting, background people, and props to enhance the scene.
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if yall want good info on how drugs work as a writer - particularly if you arent someone who dabbles in illicit substances - bluelight forums is an excellent resource. its meant to be for harm reduction but its community sourced info with hundreds of people posting their personal experiences and tips to be safe. i personally love using it to research for writing anything that i havent tried.
fun fact! did you know that you can gain extra ‘forbidden time’ by staying up late in the night? but Watch Out
Shit this is great! You can get so much done if you don't sleep!
THE CONSEQUENCES
Me today and every other weekday ever since I started my new job
I don't like when people keep saying "don't worry, it's gonna be fine" when realistically no, there is a chance things are not gonna turn out fine and I know it, and I accept it
It's really no use telling me to think positively when there's not enough ground to feel optimistic about the whole thing! People have got to learn the difference between between pessimistic and being realistic. Especially since I'm dealing with an administrative issue here, these things don't just "turn out fine" if you just manifest it, there's rules and delays and issues you can't control and thinking positive is not going to erase the fact that yes, there is a chance things are not gonna line up and this is going to be a real problem.
This line of thinking is hard to fight because I know it's full of good intentions but it's not helping one bit especially when you know your friend is saying that without knowing the whole situation. I tried to subtly explain that no, it might really turn out bad but they doubled down and repeated that it'd be okay. I just gave up because I don't wanna be a bitch and insist on being ""negative"" (I'm just realistic but people have a hard time accepting that I guess). I do hope they're right though, because I really don't need the worst-case scenario to happen right now
I'm just now realizing that sometimes I like the idea of people more than I do people 🤔 HMMMMM
I'm finally listening to ALL of the Stray Kids b-sides I'd missed out on the past few years and I just got to Deep end and like..... WHAT...... That was an experience......... HOW is Felix going back and forth between two completely different tones of voice....... I ascended....... had a revelation...... knew he could sing in a very angelic way but still what the fuck......
A friend just suggested we go on a one-month vacation to China while we're both looking for a job, I appreciate the offer and really like the idea of saying fuck it and just doing it but I can't just spend half my savings for a holiday at a time like this 💀💀 if I weren't so worried about the future I would've totally said yes but I don't think that's wise in my situation seeing as by the end of August I will potentially neither have a job nor an apartment in Paris anymore and will have to keep the search going 🤡👍
