Why studying shouldn't become your personality
There is something I've noticed over the past few years. The more we talk about productivity online, the easier it becomes to believe that studying isn't just something we do—it's who we are.
We start introducing ourselves as the hardworking student, the straight-A student, the productive one, or the girl with the perfect notes. Without even noticing, we slowly build our identity around school.
I understand why. When you're a student, especially at university, studying takes up so much of your time. Your weeks revolve around lectures, deadlines, essays, and exams. It feels natural to let it define you. After all, it's what you spend most of your days doing.
But I don't think it should.
One day, your exams will be over. You'll close your textbooks for the last time, hand in your final assignment, and leave the library without knowing it'll be your last visit. If studying has become your entire personality, what happens then?
The truth is, you don't stop being yourself because you're no longer a student.
You're still the person who laughs too loudly with friends, gets emotional over a beautiful poem, enjoys rainy afternoons with a cup of tea, spends hours in bookshops, or loves going to the cinema. Maybe you like hiking, painting, baking, photography, or simply sitting in a park with a good novel. Those things are just as much a part of you as your degree.
Sometimes social media makes it seem as though the "perfect student" spends every waking hour studying. Perfect desk. Perfect handwriting. Perfect planner. Perfect grades. But nobody truly lives like that.
Some of my happiest memories have nothing to do with university. They happened during long conversations with friends, family holidays, afternoons spent reading simply because I wanted to, evenings at the theatre, or walks where I wasn't thinking about deadlines at all.
Life isn't what happens between study sessions.
Life is happening while you're studying, too.
Ironically, I think we become better students when studying isn't our entire identity. We begin learning because we're curious, not because we're trying to prove our worth. We work hard because our goals matter to us, not because we believe our grades determine our value.
A transcript can measure academic performance. It cannot measure kindness, curiosity, creativity, resilience, empathy, or the way you make other people feel. Those parts of you deserve just as much care and attention.
So maybe, instead of trying to become a better student every single day, try becoming a happier person. Read a book that isn't on your syllabus. Visit a museum. Call a friend. Learn a new recipe. Go outside. Watch the sunset. Discover something simply because it fascinates you.
One day, nobody will remember how perfectly color-coded your notes were. But you'll remember the life you lived while you were making them.
And I hope it was a beautiful one.