Will the mountain last as long as I can wait?

(NB: this blog is NSFW) Semi-professional lurker. Obsessed with Mass Effect, dapperness, obscure fandom, Ursula Le Guin, and the video games of my youth circa 1997.

[theivorytowercrumbles]

She needs an assassin.

They’re the best in the business.

Falling in love wasn’t part of the deal.

LOVE KILLS TWICE, my F/NB romantic suspense is out January 18th and for pre-order now! 

Purchase: Available Here

Content Warnings: Available Here

Original Fiction Twitter: @riengray

This story has no transphobia/misgendering and is a romance, so the HEA is guaranteed.

[theivorytowercrumbles]

My book is out now!

If you’re inclined to leave a review, you can do so on Amazon and/or Goodreads.

[theivorytowercrumbles]

Also on Kobo!

[vowtogether]

This is a wonderful F/NB novella by our writer Rien (also known as Ivory)!

[happyh0ur-deactivated20200903]

damn a tattoo would really hit the spot right now

[5dhd]

adhd student: i love learning and i actually hunger for knowledge, but the way the school system currently operates doesn’t work well for people with brains like mine. i am capable of maintaining acceptable and even good grades, but it takes about 3x the time and effort of the average student. all my life i have been receiving messages, overt and subtle, that i am deficient, lazy, and/or weird for my inability to perform well in that environment, and my self-worth has been utterly decimated as a result. 

what ppl hear:

[theriverstyxx]

Also

Adhd person: I’m naturally good at remembering information and am lucky enough to be good at standardized tests but because of this I’ve never had to try in school and now that the work is exponentially harder I’m struggling

What ppl hear: I’m lazy and don’t wanna put in any effort

[pastel-skeleton-bones]

Also See:

Adhd person: I have this one hyperfixation and I know everything there is to know about it. (Ie, I can read Korean, I taught it to myself!)

What ppl hear: My hobbies are more important than passing school and being successful in life

[literaphobe]

UH WHAT

UH...... WHAT.........

[eirenical]

This entire article is eye-opening, even as someone who has ADHD and has read a lot about it already. There's so much more there than just the bit about the glucose-craving brain. SO. MUCH.

This might have been the bit that hit me hardest, actually:

it would be easy to misinterpret the following scenario as a standoff between two partners: Imagine that your partner asks you to pay the electric bill, and you say to yourself, “OK, I have time to do that today.” But when you sit down to do it, you keep getting distracted. The ADHD brain needs higher stimulation in order to complete this rote task with minimal payoff. Your ADHD brain says, “That task is way too boring, and I refuse to focus on it. Find something that interests me more, which offers me a bigger dopamine reward, and I’ll work with you.” It doesn’t matter that you know you should pay the bill as promised; if your brain won’t engage, it’s an ugly standoff. Perhaps, after a day of procrastination — when your partner will be home in 20 minutes and the bill is still unpaid — there may be enough of an adrenaline rush from a sense of crisis that your brain will engage and you pay the bill.

The ADHD brain and its owner are at odds with one another. It’s difficult to compel a disengaged brain to engage by force of will. In fact, much of the treatment for ADHD involves learning to psych out the brain, so that it will attend to necessary, low-stimulation tasks.

Appreciating the tug-of-war within that pits intellect against neurobiology increases compassion and acceptance for one’s hidden struggle.

I feel SEEN. OTZ

Seriously, though. Read the whole thing. It's a good one.

[vaporwavecorp]

Computer magazine from 1983

[sonnearchive-deactivated2022120]

If you're celebrating Biden's win, consider celebrating by donating to a bail fund, planned parenthood, or the Navajo Water project.

Your action to help the marginalized shouldnt end at presidential candidates and voting.

[populus-tremuloides]

To add some more:

Navajo/Hopi Covid Relief Fund

Critical Resistance, working to dismantle the prison industrial complex and abolish the police

The Queer Detainee Empowerment Project

National Indigenous Women’s Resource Center, working to end violence against indigenous women and children and provide resources for the MMIW campaign

Sunrise Movement, a youth-led political campaign pushing the Green New Deal and climate legislation

Industrial Workers of the World. Unions.

And of course it’s always a good day to venmo, paypal, or cashapp black, indigenous and other POC in your community, or donate to your community mutual aid fund.

[rhaenyras]

at this point i only judge people from their sign + their favorite shakespeare play. reblog this post and write yours in the tags

[kaijuno]

More than 10% of all Americans live in California, so I think it’s really important that as we start voting we all know about Prop 22, which you might see adds for on Tumblr. Here’s a couple things:

Companies are spending millions of dollars to keep themselves from having to cover benefits for their employees instead of spending that money on, for instance, employee benefits.

And they’re doing this at a time when the job these workers do has become the most dangerous for drivers and in the highest demand for deliverers.

Their attempt is so transparently heinous that they had to dispute a neutral description of the proposal.

And their add campaigns are exactly the bullshit Amazon tries to pull, where they have people of color talk about how important their job is or how much “freedom” they need in their work life. If you’ve ever lived in a community with an Amazon warehouse/distribution center, you’d know they regularly chew up and spit out workers in poor and often minority communities desperate for work.

Please, we can’t erode the rights of workers in the most populous state in the nation or allow giant corporations to exploit the pandemic for profit.

[elfwreck]

tl;dr version

VOTE NO ON PROP 22 in CA

It’s the gig economy corporations fighting hard to have the right to exploit workers and deny them the basic benefits of employment. 

Like, you know, the right to be paid for all the time you spend on the job, not the time you spend doing specific tasks. Like the right to overtime payments. The right to have your employer pay for necessary equipment. (In this case, being paid for gas, car maintenance, insurance, and so on.) 

OR - if this really were “independent contractors just using an app to find clients” - the right to negotiate directly with those clients. The right to set their own rates. The right to discuss the terms of the work - like, agreeing to a delay on one side or the other. The right to build  up a regular clientele. The right to refuse clients without penalty. The right to know the details of a job before agreeing to it. (Did you know that Uber and Lyft drivers don’t know the destination before they accept a job?) 

Fuck this bill and its supporters.

[zinglebert-bembledack]

You’re going to hear a lot of guff about 22 if you’re in Cali, don’t fall for it. No on 22 has been endorsed by pretty much every blue-collar union in the state. As a union employee, I know that voting in any law that weakens collective bargaining (and don’t be fooled; that is exactly what Prop 22 is) is going to get a lot of workers the shaft in the end.

And also fuck Uber and Lyft for spending hundreds of millions of dollars on propaganda instead of on their employees.

[speakeasybutch]

[aworldfullyalive]

Judith Butler on the culture wars, JK Rowling and living in “anti-intellectual times”

Thirty years ago, the philosopher Judith Butler, now 64, published a book that revolutionised popular attitudes on gender. Gender Trouble, t

“We live in time; we err, sometimes seriously; and if we are lucky, we change precisely because of interactions that let us see things differently. [ . . . ] Democracy requires a good challenge, and it does not always arrive in soft tones. So I am not in favour of neutralising the strong political demands for justice on the part of subjugated people. When one has not been heard for decades, the cry for justice is bound to be loud.”

[flikkerij]

forever torn between “if this object isnt always in the same spot i’ll never remember it” and “if this object stays in the same place for more than 24 hours it’ll just become background and i’ll never remember it”

[awheckery]

Okay, but.

Have you considered: if it’s an important object, making its home Aesthetique™?

I’m living that ADHD life, and yeah, visual exhaustion is absolutely a thing. I can’t tell you how much time I spend every week looking for stuff that’s right in front of me or even in my hand (and I legit can’t tell you, once it’s north of an hour time ceases to exist for me), except!

I’ve figured out that I’m more likely to be able to find something if the place it’s supposed to live is something I like looking at. I have a little key hanger by my door with birds on it. It’s visually interesting, it pleases me to look at it, and I can see in a moment if my keys aren’t there before it becomes mission critical to have my keys.

(image of a brown metal key-hanger with three hooks in the shape of small stylized birds, and keys on each hook)

It’s tiny shit like this that can dramatically improve your life. I also do a lot of crafts, and because I am a self-aware trainwreck and a super visual person, I know that I need to have my materials where I can see them all the time. I also figure, if they’re gonna be constantly visible, I maybe oughtta make ‘em  Aesthetique™, because I don’t want someone to stage a hoarding intervention.

(image of cube shelves with fabric stored in small bolts and scrolls, sorted in color wheel order)

This has the added bonus of curtailing my occasionally out-of-control shopping problem, because it feels like shopping through the stash I already have whenever I start something new.

Did it take a while to organize my fabric like that? HELL YES IT DID, but when I started I had maybe half as much material to organize, and I asked for help doing it. (Never be afraid to ask for help, my friends!) And seriously, since I like looking at my stash, since it makes me happy, since I’m proud of the work I did to make it look like that, I’m way more likely to keep it that way.

I actually took my closet doors a coupla days ago, so I can accomplish something similar with my wardrobe. I’ve got clothes I like and never wear because I forget they’re there, so I’m gonna make my closet Aesthetique™ and actually frickin’ use it.

tl;dr acknowledge how your brain works and work with your brain, fuck minimalism, be visual

[sevdrag]

FUCK

[speakeasybutch]

This Works. I have a setup for my meds and my keys just like these examples

[ana-matopoeia-deactivated202103]

What’s the weirdest thing your parents are morally against. My dad thinks firefighters are scammers. If you have republican parents don’t get cute about like “gay marriage” or something. No bummers here.

[bartonclinton]

Happy Asian and Pacific Islander Heritage Month!

[finelythreadedsky]

clytemnestra: interacts with the chorus

me: maam please do you know i would die for you

[anxietyproblem]

[dilbobloggins]

oh? u like Emily Dickinson? so ur a lesbian?

[keepcalmandcarriefischer]

Quick reminder: hospitals and pharmacies are all kinds of backed up right now. Please count your meds and make sure you have enough to last you of there is a delay in refilling your prescriptions

Reblog to remind your followers to count their meds