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It's like 20x more interesting than normal conversations like yeah bb tell me about ancient Spanish politics and all the different names of the sanrio characters
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I honestly love listening to people's hyperfixations
It's like 20x more interesting than normal conversations like yeah bb tell me about ancient Spanish politics and all the different names of the sanrio characters
whenever i see someone say that something isnât a disability, itâs a âdifferenceâ, i get so angry. disability isnât a bad word. being disabled isnât a bad thing. stop stigmatizing us further.
As someone with anxiety. Please dont ghost people. Its abusive. It hurts. Eventually I will figure out how I hurt you and that hurts me even more. It makes me remember only pain when things would end up differently if you had just told me. I'd forgive you. I'd forgive myself. I'd change myself fir the better.
But ghosting doesnt help. It just hurts. And as an autistic, it happens a lot and it still hurts worse.
So if I upset you, please tell me. Just tell me.
I canât believe how much things have changed within a couple of years. I thought I would never have a job that I would be able to keep. I was in a really bad place mentally and if thatâs where you are right now I want you to know something. I want you to push through. Things could be hard for a few months or even years but donât stop fighting for what you want to happen in your life. Be kind and patient with yourself. Understand and accept your differences even if it seems like nobody else does. I see you hanging in there, doing your best and hoping for better days. Iâm proud of you.
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Do you ever feel like when you unintentionally compare yourself to others especially those that have outgoing, expressive and extroverted personalities that you have the personality of like a dried flower and you want to relate better to those around you? I know itâs not a good thing to compare yourselves to others but sometimes itâs difficult not to especially at schools or workplaces. I think that maybe this is something a lot of neruodivergent people like myself struggle with especially if you have survived abuse or bullying.
We have to work extra hard to believe in ourselves and stop comparing ourselves with others. Introversion is not a negative trait and itâs about time we truly realize this. You are amazing and you have value no matter how others perceive you.
Meltdowns: A Survival Guide
Not all autistics get meltdowns (or get them often), but many of us know the harsh reality of how bad they can be.
You scream; you cry; you get angry; you snap at every little thing. You feel like your skin is on fire; every sound is thunder in your ears; your head hurts; youâre going to explode. You rock, you pace, you bang your head, you throw things, you scratch at your body, you kick, you hit. Some or all of these things can happen during an autistic meltdown. When everything just becomes way too much for you to handle, when every emotion, sense, and thought is screaming âSTOP! NO MORE!â, it literally becomes the definition of âsensory hellâ.
It doesnât get much better after the meltdown passes. You end up exhausted, sensitive, weepy, unable to talk. Â You need quiet and darkness and you feel disoriented and dizzy, even physically sick. The meltdown aftermath can last for hours or even days while you recharge.
We canât stop our meltdowns from happening any more than we can stop physical pain when we get hurt. It is completely involuntary and none of us want to have them. So what can we do? Survive them.
Meltdown Survival Tips:
Before
If you know you are prone to frequent meltdowns, keep your nails short so thereâs less chance of damaging your skin.
Always keep sound-cancelling products near you (ear defenders, ear plugs, headphones). If you are in a work environment and canât get accommodations, ear plugs might be your best bet.
Keep stim tools nearby. Tangles, fidget cubes, fidget spinners, and chewelry are great for when youâre at home or in a casual environment. When you are at work, spinnable pendants, bead jewelry, spinner rings, diffuser necklaces, or something small and soft to touch can be helpful. If you have pockets, you can also quietly fidget with something inside them (For example: one time I was in meltdown mode all day at work and the only way I could cope was by smoothing my thumbs across these two slick tags I found on the ground).
If you can tell youâre approaching meltdown mode, try explaining to others that you need to go somewhere quiet and dark. If you canât explain, make some logical excuse to take a short break and go somewhere else.Â
Have a comfort object or plushie available. Even bringing a small one like a Disney Tsum Tsum in your bag can be comforting.
Explain to people you trust what meltdowns can be like for you before you have one around them so they can try to help and keep you safe. Make sure you tell them what they should and shouldnât do in the event of a meltdown so they donât accidentally make it worse while trying to be helpful (i.e. touching you, asking too many questions, etc.).
If you bang your head during meltdowns, donât put anything hard and pointy in your hair. There might not be time to take it out while in meltdown mode and it could cause serious damage to your head.
Have alternate communications available! Texting, a notepad app on your phone, pen and paper, or even basic sign language can all be good options.
During
Even if you donât have stim tools, try to body stim (it really does help!).
Do your best to keep breathing. Resist the urge to hyperventilate.
Use grounding techniques, counting, or singing and humming little nonsense songs during the meltdown to help you focus on something to stay calm.
Sometimes weight and pressure can help you better ride out a meltdown.Â
Donât be afraid to sit or lie on the ground. It would be a lot worse to fall down and hurt yourself during a meltdown than it would be to avoid the stares of people around you.
If a police officer tries to confront you, keep your body language as open as possible. Donât act aggressive, call for help if you need to, and donât try to run away. Donât reach for anything in your pockets or bag and donât try to protect your possessions from being taken. They most likely wonât understand your behavior even if you explain youâre autistic, so do your best to follow what they say, even if itâs hard while in meltdown mode. Your physical safety is of utmost important in that moment.
If a stranger confronts you to ask if you need help or accuse you of causing a disturbance, just say as simply and calmly as possible that you need to be left alone and that youâll be okay soon.
If you can, try and remember that the meltdown will pass, no matter how awful it feels. Itâs going to be okay.
After
If you accidentally do something harmful to someone during a meltdown, please be responsible for your actions. You canât help that it happened, but it still happened. Apologize for what you did to those people and explain what was going on without using it as an excuse. If possible, ask if thereâs anything you can do to make up for the âdamageâ.
Meltdowns take a lot of energy and might make you hot. Make sure to find ways to cool down if you need to (Sometimes you can feel very cold after too, like a fever, so change your needs accordingly).
Please be understanding of yourself once your meltdown is over. Try not to hate and blame yourself; itâs not your fault.
Reach out to one of your comfort people and tell them you donât feel well (or if they know youâre autistic say you had a meltdown) if it will make you feel better to talk to them. Just donât overwhelm yourself with conversation.
If you did end up harming yourself somehow, please try to take care of it as soon as possible after the meltdown. Clean any wounds, get ice packs, and take medicine.
Drink plenty of water and eat something if you need to.
After the meltdown, practice self-care. Watch a comfort movie, wrap up in a blanket, take a bath or shower, eat some sweets, pet your animals; do something that makes you feel a bit better and happier.
If you have a meltdown while youâre out, go home as soon as possible.
If you can, take time to rest and sleep.
It may take a couple of hours to days to fully recover so go easy on yourself during those times.
A meltdown can be one of the major symptoms we hate having as autistics, but there are ways to make it easier and help them to not interfere with our ability to enjoy loud, fun things we want to do, to work, interact with our friends, or anything else.
If you have any other suggestions for how to manage and survive meltdowns, please reblog and add them!
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Day 28 of Autism Acceptance Month 2018
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Remember it's okay to not participate on Black Friday. I know there is a lot of pressure to spend money on that day. There are constant advertisements on tv, on the radio and in the paper. It's okay if you're broke or you need to save what money you have for other things. It's okay to stay home if you have social anxiety or sensory issues. Your friends and family may invite you to go shopping with them and if you know you will be unhappy in the middle of such chaos you should know it is more than okay to decline. It's okay to stay home on Black Friday. Your mental health is more important than Black Friday sales.
hi, I have a stupid question. what does âactually autistic mean?â
Hello! It's a tag used by those of us in the autistic community. Those of us who are autistic ourselves.
Getting accommodations in order to better help you to pass an exam isn't lazy and it's not taking the easy way out. Even with accommodations you may still struggle but it's an option you alone should decide to take if you feel like you need to. Don't even waste your time listening to bitter ableists. You know your own strengths and weaknesses better then they do. You should continue to study hard and never feel ashamed for needing those accommodations. Good luck! I believe in you.
To my autistic American friends have a happy and safe Fourth of July! Remember to look after your pets because fireworks scare them and there's no shame in wearing earplugs! It helps to make this day more sensory friendly.
Another autism acceptance meme
PSA
If you had a good opinion about someone before you found out they had a disability but that opinion changed because you decided to dig up personal information without their consent that is discrimination based on a persons disability. This means you are untrustworthy, have no respect for that person and are an ableist.
If you've ever felt miserable because you've lost your job due to how other people perceive and judge you for your disabilities know that your going to be okay. It's really not your fault. You tried your best. You'll find something even better. Keep your head up. It's going to be okay.
Autistic people don't all want boring jobs
Lately, Iâve been seeing a lot of variations on a story that goes âAutistic people love detail, and it makes them naturally well suited for repetitive jobs that most people find intolerably boring.â
This is usually said with great fanfare, and described as a step away from stigma and towards celebration.
But â autistic people donât all have a convenient love of tedious tasks. Some of us find them as boring as everyone else does.
This model of âautistic strengthsâ celebrates us doing jobs everyone else hates. It has no room for us to pursue jobs that others want. Weâre supposed to stay in a special place for special people, doing the boring tasks the ideology says we love â and making no trouble for the normal people who do the interesting jobs.
This isnât ok, and it isnât acceptance. Some of us like things that others donât, but none of us should be forced into a box. Autistic people have the full range of interests, talents, and skills that anyone else does. We shouldnât be tracked into jobs based on stereotypes. We have the right to decide for ourselves what to pursue.
This!! According to what is said about autistics in the workforce I would be happier in a factory type job screwing lids onto bottles every single day for the rest of my life and this couldn't be further from the truth. I excel in a job that allows me to help others in a small quiet setting. Such as working one on one with a differently disabled adult.
You have to listen to your own individual wants and needs. Find out what type of job would make you the happiest and pursue it. Don't listen to stereotypes. Also job coaching is very helpful if you get a job coach make sure they want to get to know you on a personal level and that they also don't subscribe to harmful and outdated stereotypes.
you will succeed. you can do this. just breathe, just believe. youâll be fine no matter what happens.