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[spicypoolgirl]

I have always been drawn to people who look fine on the outside but carry sadness in their eyes like rain trapped behind glass. The ones who learned how to survive by becoming loud, distant, funny, cold, overly confident — anything except vulnerable. People walk past them every day and only see the surface, but I can never stop myself from noticing what lives underneath it.

I see it in their eyes.

Eyes tell on people the way trembling hands do in the cold. No matter how polished the mask is, the eyes always whisper the truth underneath. I see exhaustion hidden behind confidence. Loneliness dressed up as humor. Little boys trapped inside grown men. Little girls still waiting to be chosen inside women who swear they don’t need anyone.

And somehow, I fall in love with that part of them.

Not the version they sell to the world — not the charming smile, the ego, the bravado, the carefully rehearsed performance. I fall in love with the bruised soul underneath it all. The part of them sitting quietly in the dark, secretly hoping someone will stay after seeing the mess.

I love people even when they make it difficult.

Even when loving them feels like trying to hold water in my hands — no matter how tightly I grip, pieces of them still slip through my fingers. I fight for people who don’t even know how to fight for themselves. I pour warmth into hearts that have gone cold from disappointment, rejection, abandonment. I stand beside people while they’re at war with themselves, hoping maybe my love can become a lighthouse in the storm they keep drowning in.

Maybe that’s my own coping mechanism.

Maybe if I save enough broken people, I won’t have to look too closely at the broken parts of me.

Because there’s something intoxicating about watching someone soften in your presence. Watching their guarded eyes light up when you walk into the room. Watching walls lower brick by brick. It feels like watching winter melt. Like hearing a songbird return after a brutal season. And I fall in love with that transformation every single time.

But the cruelest realization I’ve had is this:

People often don’t love me.

They love the way I make them feel.

They love the safety. The understanding. The way I listen to the things they never say out loud. The way I hold their pain without flinching. The way I make them feel worthy, seen, human.

But when the fog clears, I realize they memorized the comfort I gave them without ever learning who I was beneath it.

It’s a lonely thing — being loved like medicine instead of a person.

Because while I’m busy tracing constellations in their scars, nobody notices the bruises hidden under my own skin. Nobody asks who carries the person who carries everyone else.

And maybe that’s the saddest part of all.

To be deeply loved for your warmth while still feeling emotionally untouched — like a candle that keeps burning itself alive just to keep everyone else from sitting in the dark.

[spicypoolgirl]

Some nights

loneliness sits on the edge of my bed

like it pays rent here.

It whispers,

“What if you already had your chance?”

“What if love was a one-time thing?”

“What if you’re too much?”

“What if you’re not enough?”

Fear is dramatic like that.

It tries to convince me

that guarding my heart is wisdom

and settling for almost

is maturity.

It tells me

not to fall again—

because falling means bruises,

and bruises mean I should’ve known better.

But here’s the thing.

I know.

Not hope.

Not wish.

Not “maybe one day.”

Know.

I will find him.

Not the man who asks me for coffee

but means my place.

Not the one who calls it “casual”

when what he really wants

is closeness without commitment.

Not the one who keeps his options

lined up in likes and lingering glances,

who notices every girl

but somehow never truly sees me.

No.

I will find the man

who asks me to dinner

and means conversation.

Who asks about my heart

and plans to stay.

The man who doesn’t scatter attention

like it costs him nothing.

The man who is loyal when no one is watching.

Kind when no one is applauding.

Compassionate in ways that don’t fit in captions.

The one who looks at me

like I am the only room he walked into.

The one who is in awe of me

the way I will be in awe of him.

I know he exists

because God would not plant a longing this deep

just to watch it wither.

This isn’t about needing someone

to quiet the ache

for a few temporary hours.

I don’t want borrowed intimacy.

I don’t want almost-love.

I don’t want to feel chosen

only when it’s convenient.

I want the kind of connection

that feels like recognition.

Like home.

Like finally exhaling.

And yes,

sometimes it’s lonely.

Sometimes the silence

is loud.

But I would rather wait

for a love that is steady

than settle

for one that only visits.

So I won’t harden.

I won’t shrink.

I won’t pretend I don’t want it.

I will stay open.

Because somewhere

there is a man

becoming the kind of husband

I’ve already decided to be a wife to.

And when we meet—

it won’t feel like luck.

It will feel like promise

kept.

[spicypoolgirl]

And just like that, I chose myself.

Not because I didn’t love you.

Not because I want to live my life without you.

But because if I don’t start choosing myself

If I don’t start taking care of my heart

Who else will?

There’s beauty in “enough”

Enough letting your

Absence

Silence

Make me look in the mirror differently.

To see my reflection flawed because

you don’t have the

time

or the mind

or the heart

to care.

I’m closing the door

Not because I don’t still imagine myself

In your arms

Waking up next to you

Envision a family

Because I do.

I couldn’t erase these memories

If Will Smith himself zapped them out

But growth

Happiness

Peace

Obedience

Are important to me

I have to do this

Because keeping this open is breaking me

Secretly in ways I hate to admit

So I’m letting go

Even though I’m still in love with you.

[spicypoolgirl]

And just like that,

I don’t care anymore.

I don’t even know why I accepted what you gave me.

Just a lesson,

a lesson that I need to set my standards higher.

[spicypoolgirl]

And whoever it is that you choose.

Choose to make your wife,

Choose to put first.

Choose to love,

I pray she loves you more than I ever could.

I hope she makes all your wildest dreams come true.

All I ever wanted was to be that for you.

But since that’s not where the story goes,

I will ride off in the sunset,

Respecting the decision you chose.

I love you bb

[spicypoolgirl]

When love leaves, I stay still

There’s something so beautiful about love—about being in it, about knowing it’s there, steady and sure. The idea of being loved so deeply that you never have to question it feels almost divine. To exist in that kind of certainty… that’s peace. That’s home.

But whenever I think about that kind of love, fear rises right beside it. My mind starts writing endings before the story even unfolds. I picture betrayal, fading affection, the quiet unraveling of something that once felt infinite. It’s like I’ve been conditioned to expect loss before I ever get to rest in the warmth of what’s real.

And I hate that. I hate that my instinct is to brace for heartbreak even when love is supposed to be reaching for me. But then again… was it ever really reaching? Was love ever truly trying to hold me? Because sometimes, when I look back, I don’t know if I’ve ever really been loved. Not in the way that feels safe. Not in the way that stays.

Sometimes I wonder if love just misses me. Like it knows where I am, but it’s always on its way to someone else. Maybe I wasn’t meant to be loved the way I crave. Maybe my purpose is to show others what love feels like—to remind them how to hold it, how to nurture it, how to not run from it.

And maybe that’s enough. Maybe I don’t want to be loved anymore—not in the way that can be lost. The pain that follows is too deep, too familiar. I think I’m okay being alone. To be love for others, to pour it out, to make people feel seen and safe—but not to need it back.

Because when I do receive love, it’s from my children. Their love is pure. Unfiltered. Holy. When they look at me, I see God’s reflection—the kind of love that doesn’t waver, doesn’t ask me to be anything other than who I am.

Lately, I’ve been sad, lonely, tired. But I’m learning to be okay in it. To sit in the quiet and not fight it. Because even in the emptiness, I have God. And maybe that’s the only love that’s ever truly held me.

[spicypoolgirl]

The Love That Hid in the Dark

You said you didn’t have time.

And maybe I would have believed you

if I hadn’t watched you give your time away so easily.

To your phone.

To your comfort.

To the girl you swore didn’t mean anything.

You had time.

You just didn’t want to spend it on me.

You were detached in a way that made love feel like guesswork.

You spoke in fragments.

You hid behind silence.

You avoided emotion like it might burn you if you touched it too long.

So I learned to live in the spaces between your words.

I learned to find meaning in absence.

You never gave me clarity, just enough to keep me close,

then vanished the moment I reached for you.

And when you finally offered me a sliver of honesty,

it came with an expiration date.

The first time I faltered,

the first time I made a mistake,

you disappeared.

You vanished like the love we built was made of glass,

something fragile and conditional.

But that mistake was not born from malice.

It was born from fear.

A fear you planted when you made me question where I stood,

when you protected her feelings more than mine,

when you refused to close the door behind you but expected me to wait by it anyway.

You created the chaos that made me stumble,

then punished me for tripping.

You were so avoidant of emotion that even my pain became too much for you to witness.

You acted like love could exist without vulnerability,

like affection without accountability was enough.

You built a version of connection that only worked if I stayed quiet.

You came by because of sex.

You stayed because of sex.

And sometimes I wonder if there was anything else that tethered you here at all.

Anything real.

Anything beyond the body.

Beyond the brief calm you found in my touch.

You said you loved me,

but I think you loved how I made you feel.

Safe. Desired. Forgiven.

That is not love.

That is comfort.

I told myself you were just going through a rough spot,

a hard chapter,

a season you needed to survive.

I made excuses for your coldness,

for your distance,

for the way you made me feel unseen.

But this is one of the darkest seasons of my life.

And I did not treat you that way.

I loved you through it,

even when it was hard,

even when I was hurting too.

I stayed when you went silent.

I forgave when you withdrew.

I showed up with warmth when you gave me frost.

You did things that looked like love but never felt like it.

You drove twenty-seven minutes to take out my trash.

You took me to the hospital.

But it was not affection.

It was duty.

It was your moral compass ticking,

an act of decency so you could remind yourself you were not the bad guy.

But love is not a moral obligation.

Love is not something you do so you can sleep better at night.

It is something you show up for every day, even when it is inconvenient.

You kept me a secret.

You hid me from the light.

And I tried to convince myself that love could survive in the dark.

But darkness only grows confusion,

and that is all we ever became, two people lost in it.

I loved you loudly.

You loved me quietly.

Carefully.

As if too much feeling might make you lose control.

You mistook restraint for strength.

Distance for maturity.

Detachment for peace.

But peace does not come from avoiding emotion.

It comes from being brave enough to face it.

You were not brave with me.

And I kept mistaking your fear for depth.

Still, I loved you.

Through the uncertainty.

Through the silence.

Through every half-hearted apology and disappearing act.

Because that is what I do.

I love people through their storms,

even when I am standing in one of my own.

But I see it now.

You were never my safe place.

You were the mirror that showed me how much I crave consistency.

How much I deserve clarity.

How much I have outgrown love that only shows up when it is easy.

You were not my forever.

You were my lesson.

And now,

I am the light that no longer waits for someone else to find it.

I stand in it fully.

Seen. Steady. Whole.

Because I have learned that real love does not hide.

It does not vanish.

It does not make you guess.

Real love stays.

Even when it is hard.

[spicypoolgirl]

I still think of you.

Not with burning love or the kind of desire that once lit my eyes like fire.

That light has quieted now.

When you come to mind, it feels like remembering something almost won,

a story that ended before it began.

Not because you were a prize,

but because what we could have been was rare,

and it slipped through our fingers before we even understood its worth.

You had someone else once,

and even though that chapter closed,

a part of my trust closed with it.

Every unanswered message,

every moment you drifted without me in your thoughts,

pulled at something deep inside—

the part of me that remembers abandonment,

the part of me that aches at the thought of being unseen.

I remember every part of your life you kept hidden from me,

the corners where you didn’t want me to exist,

the fear you carried of being seen loving me.

It was as if your heart whispered my name

only behind closed doors.

And I would’ve shouted yours to the world.

You hid what I was proud of.

You tucked me away like something fragile,

while I was ready to stand in the sun beside you.

You showed me you weren’t safe.

Not even a little.

Because when I reached out in my pain,

you did what they all did before you—

you turned away.

My reaction was not anger,

it was a cry to be noticed,

to be loved,

to be held by someone who didn’t flinch when I showed my wounds.

Now, when I think of you, my eyes no longer glow.

They soften, tracing the outline of what might have been,

a memory fading at the edges.

I see now that what made us beautiful was the dream,

not the reality.

I grieved you,

because I wanted my soulmate to be you.

I wanted you to be home.

But you hurt me too many times in too little time,

and I finally had to choose peace over pain.

The light that once shone for you now shines for me.

And what a light it is.

Soft. Golden.

It wraps around a woman who is gentle,

caring,

funny,

and full of love.

A woman who deserves to be met where she stands,

flaws and all.

Because she already loves others through theirs.

And she’s learned to love her own.

They made her strong.

They made her real.

So now, when I think of you,

I don’t see beauty or kindness anymore.

I see the same selfishness I’ve seen before.

And I finally understand—

that’s not what I need.

My heart gives endlessly.

It deserves to be met with the same grace

[spicypoolgirl]

what do my emotions reveal about me?

i get sad when i feel left out. and it’s not just about the moment — it’s the way it brings me back to being that kid who was always on the outside looking in.

my family made me feel like i didn’t belong. they’d talk around me, never to me. they never really said anything good about what i did — just that someone else did it better.

and it didn’t stop there. everyone who came after them, it feels like they kept proving the same story true. that i’m not enough to stay for. that i’m easy to forget.

so i learned not to expect people to stay. i tell myself not to get too comfortable, because eventually, they’ll see something better. someone better.

and that kind of belief eats at you. it makes it hard to trust connection, to let love feel safe.

when i care about someone, i start to panic. i overthink. i pull away before they can leave. my fear and doubt take over and i end up reacting from the same pain i never healed. and somehow, i make everything worse — when all i ever wanted was to be seen, to be chosen.

but i’m not perfect. and sometimes i just wish someone could love me anyway. not despite my cracks, but because of them.

i want to believe that someone could see me — really see me — and still decide that i’m worth staying for.

maybe that’s what being human is. learning to love yourself through the ache, until someone else does too.

[spicypoolgirl]

When someone is avoidant, distant, emotionally unavailable — believe it.

You’re not imagining the silence.

You’re not overreacting to the inconsistency.

That ache in your chest when they pull away? That’s your intuition whispering, this isn’t love. This is loneliness wearing a mask.

When you’re going through something and they’re okay letting you handle it alone — believe it.

That’s not strength on their part. That’s detachment.

That’s someone who can watch you drown and call it “space.”

When they can’t decide between you and someone else — believe it.

Because the moment they hesitate, you’ve already lost them.

Love doesn’t live in indecision. It lives in certainty.

Stop making excuses for the distance.

Stop romanticizing the coldness.

You are not too much.

They are just not enough.

You are not it.

And you should not waste any more time trying to be.

Walk away — even if your voice shakes, even if your heart begs you to stay.

Because peace will always feel like love once the chaos ends.

Believe what they show you. Not what you hope they’ll become.

[spicypoolgirl]

I keep finding myself curled up in the bed where he slept,

burying my face into the pillow just to catch what’s left of him—

his scent, his warmth, the shadow of his presence.

And the truth is, I don’t know how long it will stay.

How long until the fabric forgets him,

until even the sheets give up his memory.

And isn’t that the cruel part of love lost?

It lingers in the air long after the body is gone.

It’s the ghost of a laugh in the hallway,

the phantom weight on the other side of the mattress,

the way your chest aches not from what’s happening,

but from what’s not.

I whisper prayers to a God I’m not sure hears me:

“Why am I never enough?”

Because I try.

I give.

I love with a fullness that breaks me open,

but somehow, there’s always someone else.

Someone else’s feelings to guard.

Someone else’s heart to protect.

Someone else’s place in a world where I thought I belonged.

And I am tired.

Tired of being the almost, the consolation, the one who comes close but not close enough.

Tired of being left with the hollow silence that answers back when I ask why.

Still—here I am.

Laying in this bed like it’s an altar,

offering up my grief like it might redeem me.

Letting tears baptize the pillow,

as if sorrow could sanctify what love abandoned.

If I could pray one thing and have it answered,

I think I’d ask not for him to return,

but for this ache to mean something.

For my love not to feel wasted.

For my heart to not always be the one set aside

in the name of “someone else.”

Because I am here.

I have always been here.

And maybe one day, that will be enough.

[spicypoolgirl]

It has been such a beautiful journey, one that filled me with emotions I didn’t even know I could feel. These moments have been unforgettable, a whirlwind of moments that made my heart race and my soul feel alive. You awakened something inside of me, a tenderness, a hope, a belief that maybe I had finally found what I had been searching for. Our booger buddy.

But reality has a way of piercing through even the most beautiful illusions. The truth is here now, heavy and undeniable — you have someone else. And so I must face that this isn’t the right time, and perhaps it isn’t even right for me. I wanted so badly for us to work that I ignored the things that mattered most, the things that showed me whether I was cared for, whether I was truly a priority. Those things are essential to me, because they are not just what I want — they are what I need. They are the person I am.

I tried so hard to hold onto us. I pushed past the ache of waiting, of wondering, of not knowing. I asked simple questions — questions that came from a place of love and longing: Is there someone else? Can you tell me how you feel? And still, I was met with distance. Always “maybe another time.” Always “too busy.” Always later. But later never came. And the weight of that uncertainty became unbearable, because my heart was never uncertain about you.

Walking away has broken me. It feels like I am tearing apart my own soul, but I had no choice. My heart cannot survive in shadows, cannot thrive in a space where I am always waiting. And though it hurts more than words could ever express, I know I deserve clarity. I deserve someone who will meet me with certainty, someone who will choose me with the same fire I was willing to choose them.

You gave me moments that will live inside me forever. Even if it was only 60% of the time, those moments were so powerful, so breathtaking, that I convinced myself they were enough. When you called me pretty, when you made me feel wanted, I clung to that light as if it could carry me through the dark. I ignored red flags because what you gave me, even in pieces, was something I had never felt before. That’s why I tried so hard. That’s why I stayed.

But I cannot keep repeating the same cycle. I cannot keep making the wrong decisions just because my heart longs for more. I need to be honest with myself, even if it shatters me, and I need to accept this for what it is. Holding on when I know deep down I deserve more would only keep me trapped in pain.

Maybe someone else gave you the clarity I couldn’t. And if that’s the case, I hope they give you what I could not.

I will miss you with every fiber of my being. I will miss the way you made my heart feel alive, the way you gave me glimpses of love I never thought I’d know. And though I must let go, I will carry our memories with me always. You showed me how I want to feel, and for that, I will always be grateful.

[spicypoolgirl]

Missing you

I already miss you—but you’ll never know.

The words press against my chest like a heartbeat I can’t release. They sit heavy in my throat, but I stay silent. Not out of pride. Not out of ego. Simply because I don’t believe you’d care.

I no longer feel safe when I’m with you. And yet, it was with you that I first discovered what safety could feel like. It was strange and beautiful— a warmth I’d never known. It scared me. It still does.

I miss that feeling—but you’ll never know.

When life turned hard, when shadows crept closer, you chose to take that safety back. During adversity, you closed the door you once opened. You stripped away the shelter I had trusted, leaving me alone in a storm I thought we would stand in together.

I miss the way I once believed in us— but you’ll never know.

I saw the small betrayals you never spoke aloud: the hidden phone, the glance that lingered elsewhere. I understood without asking that I wasn’t the place your heart called home. And somehow, that is okay.

But I still miss you— and you’ll never know.

I miss the quiet warmth of late-night talks, the way laughter could loosen the day’s weight, the sense of belonging that once lived between us. I miss the light you brought, even if it was only borrowed.

I miss you in ways that language can’t hold— in the pause between breaths, in the shadow of mornings where your voice should be, in the memory of a touch that still hums in the air when I reach for nothing.

I will not tell you. I will not place this ache at your feet. I will carry it like a secret, like a small lantern I keep lit only for myself.

Because I know the truth: you’ve already turned the page. You’re living a chapter where I don’t belong.

So I whisper it only here, in a place you will never find:

I miss you. I miss you. I miss you.

And you will never know.

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[spicypoolgirl]

I am enough.

Today, something shifted inside me—something I truly believe God orchestrated so I could finally see myself the way He sees me. I am enough. I am worthy.

All my life, I’ve been fighting to be loved, to be chosen, to be someone’s everything. And yet, that moment has never fully come. For years I thought it meant something was wrong with me. But now I see the truth: there is nothing wrong with me at all.

I’ve allowed other people’s excuses, inconsistencies, and lack of commitment to define my worth. If someone didn’t want me, I believed it meant I wasn’t good enough. But that couldn’t be further from the truth. I am amazing, beautiful, kind, generous, giving, and loving—everything I know God calls me to be. And just as God has boundaries, I need to have them too. Because the only way others will see that I love myself is if I show it. And I do love myself.

I’ve spent years chasing love—pouring my heart into people who could never hold it. I don’t want to do that anymore. Anyone who truly wants me will show it. I won’t have to convince them to love me, to choose me, or to stay. I’ve realized something essential: I have always been enough. I always will be.

So I’m done settling for the “it’s not the right time” kind of love. I’m done giving so much of myself so quickly to those who can’t see my value. Yes, I am a lover at heart. I believe in deep, true love—the kind that doesn’t change, the kind that doesn’t even look at another woman. The kind where someone only has eyes for me, adores me, and feels blessed to have me. Because, truthfully, they should.

I dream of a love like that—a love that knows right away. A love where someone sees me and never hesitates. I think of Charlie Kirk’s love story with his wife: he met her in an interview, and from that first conversation he knew she was the one. He didn’t need time to get ready. He didn’t need to think it over. He simply said, “I don’t need friends. I want to date you.” They went out every single day from that moment, and now they’re married with two beautiful children. That’s the kind of love I pray for. The kind where someone knows—immediately and forever.

And to every woman who feels the ache I’ve felt: you deserve that too. You deserve someone who loves you exactly as you are. Someone whose eyes never wander. Someone who doesn’t keep you waiting or make excuses. Because when a man truly wants you, he doesn’t hesitate. He doesn’t need the timing to be perfect—he makes the time perfect.

It still hurts sometimes. I won’t pretend it doesn’t. I long to be truly loved. I pray that God blesses me with that kind of unshakable love, where the moment we meet we both just know. I’m such a good woman, and I want to give my heart to someone worthy of it—someone who feels lucky to have me. Someone who thinks that God must’ve spent a little more time on me.

[spicypoolgirl]

Beautiful

Isn’t it beautiful— to feel?

To be caught in the tide of emotion, to sink beneath its waves, to rise with its swells, to know that in a single heartbeat everything can shift.

Love arrives like dawn, igniting a fragile fire within, a flame so tender that the faintest breath might snuff it out— yet when it burns, it warms every hidden corner of the soul.

Disappointment comes like a storm, startling the quiet river, churning it into a torrent that carves valleys deep. Peace, by contrast, settles upon us like twilight, a hush that smooths the restless waters, drawing us into stillness.

Every emotion is a messenger, an unseen hand pressing us toward action, a mirror reflecting who we are and who we are becoming.

God, in His brilliance, wove emotions into our design. He did not leave us hollow, but breathed into us His own heart, for we are made in His image. He feels, so we feel. He grieves, so we grieve. He loves, so we love.

Emotions are not accidents. They are signposts on the road of life, lanterns glowing in the dark, reminding us to look inward, to listen carefully, to tend to the unseen garden of the soul.

They connect us— to ourselves, to one another, to God Himself. Without them, life would be flat stone; with them, life is water, fire, wind, and light.

So when joy stirs your chest like songbirds at dawn, when sorrow weighs heavy like midnight rain, when hope stretches its arms toward tomorrow, and when peace descends like a whispered prayer, remember— it is beautiful. It is holy. It is the evidence that you are alive, that you are loved, that you were made in the image of a God who feels.