I think that for fans who never used Dreamwidth and didn't grow up on LiveJournal, kink memes can be a little intimidating (I know I was intimidated initially). But I've also never seen a format that works better for hosting one that Dreamwidth. So here is a quick guide to get you reading and posting on kink memes (and YES, there ARE still active kink memes on DW--and if your fandom's isn't, make a new one!)
And just to cover upfront: Despite the name, requests and fills generally do not have to be sexual in nature (a kink meme will state in the rules if requests are required to be sexual). You can usually request anything on the kink meme, from the smuttiest smut to the fluffiest fluff and everything in between.
The first step is always to review that kink meme's rules. Most of them will be common sense--don't bash, don't out another poster, stay on topic, etc. But it's always good to check in case there's something you didn't expect (ex: some kink memes require you to put certain trigger warnings in the title of a request).
TO REQUEST:
Find the active prompt post. Many kink memes for larger fandoms will have multiple prompt posts. When one gets too long, mods will close it to new requests and start a new one. They will usually try to make it very clear which is the active one. Here's an example from the Dragon Age kink meme:
Part 8 is where you go to prompt. Other parts may still be open for fills, but are closed for new prompts. Here's another example from the Mass Effect kink meme:
Here, the current post is stickied to the top of the page, and is tagged "current part" to let you know it's the active prompt post.
2. Once you select the right prompt post, make sure you're replying to the prompt post itself, not to someone else's comment. DW pages vary in style, but that reply button can reliably be found at the bottom of the page. Here's another example from the DAO page:
The "reply" option WITHIN that bottom request will respond directly to that comment. The "reply" option in the bar at the bottom will reply to the entire thread. That's the one you want to hit.
Here's another example from The Silmarillion kink meme:
And one more from Middle-earth kink:
3. Okay so you've hit reply and you're ready to type out your idea. The one most important requirement of all kink memes is anonymity. Anonymity in requests, and in posting. Even if you feel comfortable posting with your username attached, you need to post anonymously. You can de-anon somewhere else and even link to that, but the post on the kink meme should be anonymous. That's where this button comes in:
"More options." You hit that, and you'll get the option to make an anonymous post:
And now you're really ready to go. Put something short and descriptive in the title (Ex: "Kirk/Spock Coffee Shop AU" or "Iron Bull get pegged") and give a longer description (as needed) in the body. Requests can be as short as a sentence or as long as several paragraphs--whatever you feel like is necessary.
Make sure to include any "do not wants" here! If you aren't sure what that means, check below.
NB: Generally, it's considered polite to keep a reasonable ratio of requests::fills. That is, if you're making a lot of requests, you should be trying to fill some from others. It doesn't have to be only fic either--if you're better at drawing than writing, a fanart fill most often works too!
TO FILL:
Okay, so there's requests...but say you find an idea you really like and you want to give OP a fill. It's going to be the same deal as before, except in the body of your post you'll put the fic rather than a request. DW has a character limit per comment, so it's not unusual to break even a relatively short fill into multiple posts. Nor do you have to post the whole fill at once--updating as you do with a fic elsewhere is totally fine. Here's what it will look like when multiple fill posts nest:
And that's really all there is to the basics! DW is an older, more barebones site, so if you're accustomed to the newer web, it may seem clunky and hard to navigate, but once you've posted a time or two it will seem very simple and the kink meme community is a lot of fun!
ADDITIONAL NOTES:
"Do not derail" - Generally it's common courtesy on the kink meme not to derail a request. That is, if someone wants "A/B outdoor temple sex" it's considered rude to comment "Would love to see this with A/C!" If you like the idea but want something changed, it's better to just post your own request, even if it's very similar.
Asking for clarification - It's totally fine if you want to ask OP for clarification on a point before making a fill. Keeping it anonymous, you can just respond to the original prompt to see if they meant X or Y, or if they would be okay with Z thing in the fic.
"Bonus" requests - It's pretty common to see "bonus" requests in a prompt. That is, things OP would like to see, but are fine not receiving. You can put as many of these as you like in your requests, and as a filler, can choose to include or not include as many of them as you want. Here's what that might look like:
5. DNW - "Do not wants." This is where you put anything that would be a deal-breaker for you: something that would cause you to not read the fic at all, or not to enjoy it. Again, you can put as many as you want, or none. Here are some examples of that:
6. Commenting!! - If someone fills your prompt, you should make sure to thank them! Even if the fill wasn't exactly what you wanted, it's nice to find something kind to say about it, since someone spent the time to write something for you. And of course, feel free to comment even if the prompt wasn't yours!
7. Multiple fills - There is absolutely no problem with doing multiple fills on a prompt! If the prompt inspires you, go for it! I've definitely written fills for prompts that already had two or three fills. Usually, OP is delighted to have more than one fill ^.^ I think it's really interesting to see where different authors take the same prompt, and some prompts are open to a variety of characters.
8. Fill posts - Some kink memes also have a separate "fill post," somewhere you drop links to fills. This is just a neat way of collecting them, so if you fill a prompt, try to drop a link there, just to get more eyes on it!
9. De-anoning - So you've written a fill anonymously, but you want to share on your AO3/tumblr/Twitter/wtv. Feel free! You can out yourself as the author of a fill wherever else you want, and "de-anon from the kink meme" was a pretty common author's note to see back in the day. You can even comment on the original kink meme fill with a link to other places you've posted it. Personally, I usually come back and drop an AO3 link to any fills I crosspost.
10. Timing - Some kink memes are quite old, with requests going back 10+ years. The OP of that prompt may no longer be checking it, but that shouldn't stop you from filling the prompt if you like it--you're almost sure to find another audience owo
11. Alerts - DW is pretty limited in the "notifications" you can receive from it, but if you have or make a DW account and want to get notified of updates on a kink meme, you'll want to first subscribe to that page.
(I'm already subscribed here, but that little journal will show a green checkmark if you aren't yet subscribed, and you just hit that so that any new posts on the meme will go into your DW feed.)
However, because kink memes operate more on comments than posts, you'll also want to get alerts for any new comments from the active prompt post. Find the active prompt post, and hit this bell button:
You'll get this pop-up:
And you can go ahead with the email notif, or if you're like me and want DW notifications to stay on DW and out of my email, hit "More Options" and uncheck the email notif. This way, any new comments will only show up in your DW inbox as an unread message.
And that's everything! Or at least everything I can think of. If you have another question please feel free to comment. I think kink memes are a lot of fun and I hate to think of anyone unable to participate because they're not familiar with the format.
Today was the Ebara autograph session! Thank you very much to all of the people who came to visit during the heat. 😭✨ Tomorrow is the Sendou autograph session!
This picture is of Itou Kanae-chan's personal Amu-chan. 🫶❌🍑
i've always wondered what human speech would look like visually in the POV of eridians in the same way eridian speech is written as music notes in the book and my favorite version of it i've seen in fics is when words are written as phonetics in rocky's POV :-) oh and also that one post about rocky and grace figuring out random words they can say in the other's language
they won't tell you this in therapy but sometimes the best way to stop catastrophizing/anxiety is to interrupt your spiraling with "girl what the hell are you talking about"
“how would you feel if someone blocked you just because they found you annoying?” then i wouldn’t have to interact with someone who thinks i’m annoying? i don’t see a problem
Hey, everyone! It may be April Fool's, but this is no joke... We have another event for you, and we are excited to announce KakaIru Prank Week 2026!
This is an open event run from 1st August to 7th August, dedicated to our sneaky, mischievous ship!
We accept all kinds of content, including fics, art, music, moodboards, and any other creation you can think of, as long as it is KakaIru!
Prompts:
Day 1 (1st Aug): Graffiti/ Sabotage
Day 2 (2nd Aug): Mischief Managed/ Busted!
Day 3 (3rd Aug): Traps & Seals/ Explosions
Day 4 (4th Aug): Is this a joke to you?/ Confusion
Day 5 (5th Aug): Challenge Accepted/ Glitter
Day 6 (6th Aug): Surprise!/ Our Little Secret
Day 7 (7th Aug): The Ultimate Prank/ Prank Wars
Rules & Guidelines:
All content must be newly created for this event – old/ recycled work will not be allowed.
No AI. We want to see what you came up with & made yourself!
This is a KakaIru event, so all works must be endgame KakaIru.
Triggering, sensitive & NSFW content must be tagged appropriately.
Even though the theme is Pranks, your creations don’t have to be about pranks! The theme is just inspiration!
You don’t have to create something for every day, but we most certainly encourage it; and you’re quite welcome to create multiple things for a single prompt!
For each day, you can create for only one prompt, do both prompts, or even combine them!
There are no minimum requirements for creations - all effort counts!
Creations will be accepted in any language!
We would prefer it if you posted on the correct day, but late entries will be accepted until 31st August!
Where to post:
Add your work on the forum! Most work will be able to go in our Fanworks category, but please take a look at our posting guidelines to see if it will need to go to the Lemon Bar, instead.
We have an AO3 collection you can post to; and we would like you to use the tag KakaIru Prank Week 2026.
Tag us here on Tumblr with the prompt your work is for. Please consider using the tags kakairu prank week 2026, and kakairu.rocks
All tagged work will be shared by us, and a masterpost will be created at the end of the event!
If you have any questions about KakaIru Prank Week 2026, please don’t hesitate to ask!
I LOVE YOU ARCHIVISTS! THANK YOU FOR KEEPING THIS AROUND AND PITTING RHEM UP! THANK YOU FOR KEEPING HISTORY SAFE! THANK YOU FOR MAKING SURE THINGS DONT DISAPPEAR!!! I LOVE YOU!!!!!!
Amu Hinamori (Shugo Chara) vs Coco (Witch Hat Atelier)
Amu Hinamori
Coco
Voting ended onMay 18
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Amu Hinamori
She has numerous transformations with their own unique styles and abilities!
Coco
it would be so delightful to have her stand alongside qifrey as master and apprentice winners of the magic characters tournaments in a complete witch hat atelier domination.
the best female characters are the ones that online discourse calls annoying and cannot stand. this is a fact sorry. the more hated she is by the online sphere the better her character is sorry
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