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There are moments - fleeting of course - that Domitien envies his brother. Though it is a trait so many in their family share, Etienne is the one that excels at it; he has the ability to detach himself from the matter at hand, to assess things without the complicated weight of feelings holding him down. Everything he sees is through the lens of cold, hard logic.

Domitien sometimes feels defective in that regard, as if he does not belong -- an outlier in his own family -- but there must be a reason for it.

Etienne has so often called the brothers shards. If that is so, then pieced back together, they would serve as a whole being. There must be some truth behind it as Domitien can think of no other answer. It's as if the Twelve has cursed the whole, torn them asunder and placed them into different persons.

It's no way to live, one hand ignorant of the other.  And so while he may be difficult at times, he often defers to his brother’s judgement for important matters.

[freelance-philosopher]

One is fruitful only at the cost of being rich in contradictions.

Friedrich Nietzsche, Twilight of the Idols (via freelance-philosopher)

[perfectquote]

It’s both a blessing and a curse to feel everything so very deeply.

David Jones (via perfectquote)

[thegirlthatcriesacademia]

My solitude doesn't depend on the presence or absence of people; on the contrary, I hate who steals my solitude without, in exchange, offering me true company.

Friedrich Nietzsche

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[freelance-philosopher]

Thoughts are the shadows of our feelings — always darker, emptier, and simpler.

Friedrich Nietzsche, The Gay Science (via freelance-philosopher)

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quiz: domitien

how do you feel when you're in love? quiz here.

drunk

attention, affection, gifts. you love to reap the rewards of love, you feel as if you’re on a high. love feels like a fantasy to you, something that’s clearly too good to be true, but you don’t mind falling head first into it. this may be because you don’t take love too seriously, you jump from one love to another, taking what you can from each giddy experience. love is sweet to you because you don’t stick around long enough to see the bitterness. you take and take and forget to give, but you’re honest about these feelings. sometimes the wrong people will fall for you, but you never sought to deceive them in the first place. some may call you immature, but perhaps your feelings are far more realistic and clear-headed: you never expect too much from one person, nor do you give others any unrealistic expectations. aim for those who feel drunk, detached or analytical, as opposed to those who are at ease, all-consumed or desperate.

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quiz: domitien

what color are you? quiz here.

blue

what are you mourning? where will you put the sky when your shoulders give out? atlas, quick-tongue, kind and kind and kind and how, you wonder, will you make them love you? there is a line between manipulation and everything else, and to get the things you needed (shelter. food. a hand off the ground.) you twisted things until you forgot how to do anything else. stop laughing, love. someone will hold you when you run out of clever words.

[quotemadness]

The demand to be loved is the greatest kind of arrogance.

Friedrich Nietzsche (via quotemadness)

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i lived bitch

Life ate me this past year. I’ve been dealing with a death in the family, the estate from that death, work issues, covid, and wrecks. But I am alive despite the universe’s best efforts and so I will attempt to be more active in game and on here.

... Though, really, this is just to throw random shit up for myself anyway.

[philosophybits]

The first opinion that occurs to us when we are suddenly asked about a matter is usually not our own, but only the customary one, appropriate to our caste, position, or parentage; our own opinions seldom swim near the surface.

Friedrich Nietzsche, Human, All Too Human (via philosophybits)

[personalitypie]

The Enneatypes in Relationships Heart Triad: Enneagram 3

Healthy Levels 1-3

Far from having some of the intimacy problems that develop further down the continuum, healthy Threes are tender and loving. They can listen to others attentively and communicate their feelings clearly and simply: they are nothing more and nothing less than what they seem to be. They communicate in a way that touches others and motivates them to pursue higher purposes. Healthy Threes feel deeply, but they are not sentimental or effusive. Rather, theirs is an openness of heart that takes in the truth of themselves and others with a child-like simplicity and compassion. Their feelings originate from within and are connected to their immediate experiences, not simulated or postponed until a time when they will not have to “function.” Healthy Threes are continually touched and amazed by the love that others extend to them, and because they are present in their own feelings, they are able to take others’ love in. Other people and their hurts and triumphs are intensely real to them because very healthy Threes are real to themselves.

Average  Levels 4-6

Average threes fear genuine intimacy lest anyone discover their inner emptiness. They fear (probably unconscious) that their authentic self is worthless and they become increasingly unwilling to let others see the vulnerable self beneath the image. It is an extraordinary sign of trust and respect when an average Three dares to reveal himself to someone. Despite all of the attention and effort that average Threes have put into their image, they are increasingly unconvincing because their emotional disengagement becomes evident to others. When feelings do arise, average Threes tend to feel out of control and lost. They deal with their feelings privately. They emote quickly and strongly, but want to get “back to business” as soon as possible. Their feelings are increasingly strange and unfamiliar territory to them- threatening to destroy their focus as well as their image of efficiency. As a result, Threes becomes unsure of what they feel about things. Whatever energy they may have expended in cultivating relationships stops: having charmed or seduced others, Threes can now take them for granted. Or they lose interest in others altogether: having made a conquest, they drop people once they receive the boost to their narcissism that they sought. All of this arises because their great fear of intimacy is at odds with a tremendous need for affirmation of their desirability. 

Unhealthy  Levels 7-9

Their disconnection from their feelings has other severe consequences. Unhealthy Threes are unable to feel much about themselves or to have empathy for others. Because they do not see other people as real or as having value without reference to themselves, others have once merely providers of attention and admiration, what are called “narcissistic suppliers,” as objects to be used to aggrandize themselves. This is why there is absolutely nothing reciprocal about relationships with unhealthy Threes. They will keep a relationship going as long as they get what they want, but will drop someone without a second thought, particularly if someone more desirable comes along. One of the tip-offs that, despite appearances, there is something wrong with unhealthy Threes is precisely their lack of long-term relationships. They run through a staggering number of friends and acquaintances, exploiting people and dropping them once they have gotten what they want. Their energy is still directed at their performance, and unhealthy Threes will not let others get close enough to see the cracks in their façade. Neurotic Threes are pathological liars. They become remorseless, and are quite capable of betraying friends, playing people off each other, or destroying evidence to keep their wrongdoings concealed. They sabotage what others have worked for and hurt those who love them because seeing the downfall of other is the only way that they are able to feel superior. (“It is not enough that I succeed, but that others must fail.” -Oscar Wilde) Indeed, the success and apparent superiority of others mocks them and humiliates them at every turn. At this stage, they move beyond deception into unmitigated vindictiveness, in effect saying, “I will triumph over you no matter what it takes!” Since they now have no capacity to empathize with anyone, nothing restrains them from seriously harming others. Destroying anyone or anything that reminds them of the wretchedness they are still trying to fend off becomes a monomaniacal obsession. Anyone who is authentic or capable of feeling or who loves and is loved - in short, anyone who is a normal human being - is a threat to their shattered self-esteem and an object of their malice. 

(Riso & Hudson, 1996)

[jerdle-typology]

Enneagram 3

THE THREE IN PROFILE

Healthy: Self-assured and energetic, with high self-esteem: they believe in themselves and their own value. Adaptable, well-adjusted, and charming, often attractive and popular. Realistic and purposeful with a good sense of their potential. / Ambitious to improve themselves, to “be all that they can be"—often become outstanding, a kind of human ideal, embodying widely admired qualities. Others are motivated to be like them in some positive way. High-spirited, goal-oriented, and persistent. They are effective, industrious people. At Their Best: Inner-directed and authentic, everything they seem to be. Accept their limitations and live within them. Self-deprecatory sense of humor and a childlike innocence emerge. Charitable, genuinely modest, and benevolent.

Average: Highly concerned with performance, doing the job well, being superior, and rising above others. Compare themselves with others in search for status and success. Become driven careerists and social climbers, invested in achievement, exclusivity, and being a “winner.” / Become image-conscious, highly concerned with how they are perceived. Begin to present themselves according to the expectations of others and what they need to do in order to be successful. Pragmatic and efficient, but also studied, losing touch with their own feelings beneath a smooth façade. Problems with intimacy, credibility, and expediency emerge. / Want to impress others with their superiority: constantly promoting themselves, making themselves sound better than they really are. Narcissistic, with grandiose, inflated notions about themselves and their talents. Exhibitionistic and seductive, as if saying, “Look at me!” Arrogance and contempt is a defense against feeling jealous of others and their success.

Unhealthy: Fearing failure and humiliation, they misrepresent themselves, distorting the truth of their accomplishments. They can be extremely unprincipled, covetous of the success of others, and willing to do “whatever it takes” to preserve the illusion of their superiority. / Exploitative and opportunistic, but also deceptive so that their mistakes and wrongdoings will not be exposed. Pathological lying, extreme hostility, and delusional jealousy: betraying and sabotaging people in order to triumph over them. / May become vindictive, attempting to ruin what they cannot have. Relentless, obsessive about destroying whatever reminds them of their own shortcomings and failures. Psychopathic tendencies: murder.

Key Motivations: Want to feel valuable and worthwhile, to be affirmed, to distinguish themselves, to have attention, to be admired, and to impress others.

Examples: Bill Clinton, Christopher Reeve, Michael Landon, Richard Gere, Shirley MacLaine, Jane Pauley, Paul McCartney, Sting, Tom Cruise, Sharon Stone, Tony Robbins, Bryant Gumbel, Dick Clark, Vanna White, Brooke Shields, Kathie Lee Gifford, Denzel Washington, Sylvester Stallone, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Truman Capote, O.J. Simpson.

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