i guess we’re back

This was our discourse blog (queersystem for a while), but it’s slowly becoming a system blog so I guess it’s both.We’re the starfall system. DID, PTSD, probably autistic; they/them if you wouldn’t mind. young adult, queer. Probably won’t engage in as much system discourse as you’d think.posts will be tagged w/ the alter at essentially random intervals whenever the alter feels like it I guess.

[normal-horoscopes]

Insane how you can say "transphobes are obsessed with trans bodies" and immediately get half a dozen TERFS crawling out of the woodwork to publicly announce how not horny they are for trans bodies.

I feel like it's gauche and incorrect to say that all TERFS are secretly horny for trans people, but If you feel the need to regularly barge into trans spaces to crow about how not horny you are for trans bodies, there is objectively a sexual element present.

[grinderhash-moving-deactivated2]

this is so funny..

[operation-killjoy]

I've never seen a trans woman that didn't look like a 4chan caricature and I'd rather die a visceral death than interact with their genitalia, no matter how many times they tell me to "choke on girldick"

Also, it's very male behaviour to actively look for sexual context where there's none to be found.

[normal-horoscopes]

Anybody else wanna prove my point for me or

[star-fall-system]

Defining yourself by an absence is still defining yourself on the terms of that thing.

There are many things I’m not attracted to, but I don’t bring up how unfuckable I find straight men, sports fans, terfs, or hot oil fryers every time one of them comes up.

No, I’m sure you don’t want to have sex with most trans women you’ve seen, and your politics would forbid you from it even if you did. I also don’t want to have sex with most trans women I’ve seen because I’m attracted to very few people. But I don’t need to keep staying that, do I? Trans women don’t exist to be evaluated by how fuckable they are to me. They’re just people.

Oddly enough, being immediately judged on fuckability and being attacked for being unfuckable is a pretty female experience on average LMAO

[comradekatara]

katara is one of those impossibly cool people who “has a guy” for everything. like run into any sort of problem and she’s just like “hang on i gotchu. just contact this number and they’ll know what to do.” but half the time that guy is just sokka

[salix03]

incredibly in-character

[ukulelewrap]

fuck you if you use the fb slur and still pretend to be in support of trans girls. fuck you you are a horrible person. the term was used to mock trans women yet you still say you support them even after using a term that mock them? you are not an ally

[anti-transphobia]

The term was actually used as a self identifier for mlm and was extremely important to mlm and their gender expression for decades and it has literally never had anything to do with trans women and people who didn't know the word existed before non mlm on TikTok saw porn of men and went "omg they're dressed femininely so they MUST be women this HAS to be transphobic porn" and said it's a slur shouldn't be speaking on an entire community

[icaruskey]

Every time I see the femboy is a slur for trans women, I end up seeing talk about how it's used to find trans femme porn.

But I actually watch porn? And I have yet to see femboy being used with trans women. Maybe they were baby trans and didn't know it yet, or it got applied to an actual trans person once or twice, or something something I'm trying to iron man OP's point but no. I can't.

Femboy isn't used against trans women unless it's by someone who saw these kids claiming it's a slur and choosing to use it as such. Which is such an ouroboros take that I cannot.

If porn by and large is respecting the term for mlm, then... yeah. I got nothing.

[anti-transphobia]

Yeah I have a lot of experience with the word and no doubt mlm positively exploring and being proud of their gender presentation led to some of them discovering that they weren’t men at all. That’s a great thing! But it’s never been about women. What’s really fucked up is that I actually HAVE seen the word be used to mean trans women, I HAVE seen the word used to mean tr*p......

......in the past few years only, after non mlm discovered the word and took it out of the mlm community. They said it means tr*p so the weird cishet guys who love that term went okay, sweet, and started using it as such. I’ve had to see a word so important to mlm self expression be taken from our community and into the limelight. It happened with twink too (which people also claim is a slur lol). It’s just really homophobic and such a shitty situation for mlm. For us to have something dear be taken and handed over to cishets by extremely wrong but well meaning people

[star-fall-system]

The people I mainly see using femboy for trans women are trans women sex workers trying to get a larger audience as far as I can tell.

[star-fall-system]

“A trans person has an opinion I dislike so therefore they’re not actually trans!!!” You’re funny af lmaoooooo

LMAO THEY SENT ANON HATE it’s been a while since that happened! I did block em tho so they shouldn’t be coming back if tumblr works

For anyone who missed it: someone who self-identified as a radfem/terf/GC etc had a bunch of posts on their blog that were like “as a woman”, referring to themselves as a lesbian, putting terms referring to trans men in quotation marks, etc; and then claimed to be a trans man.

I’ve also been a bunch of terfs flooding the trans man tag with bullshit like “your fave is a lesbian trans man” stuff; “lesbian trans man” appears to be the new TERF way of saying “butch lesbian” in the hopes of being taken more seriously for their transphobic views. So I’m assuming that “ftm lesbian” + terf views = not actually a trans man. (someone who’s very nonbinary could ID as both plausibly, but just check their views if you see it since terfs are using the term a lot more than I’ve seen it used innocently)

Yes, it could be something self-hating trans men are doing, but the flooding of the tag makes me think it’s more of a deliberate attempt at getting not immediately dismissed in trans communities. Even if it’s a self-hatred thing, you don’t need to engage with that as though it’s in good faith when it most likely isn’t and engaging with self-hatred in good faith doesn’t work anymore than engaging with those acting in bad faith does.

I wouldn’t bother arguing with these people on it, mainly because I wouldn’t bother arguing with terfs, but if you’re worried it’s self-hatred and they are actually trans not engaging and just blocking them is a good course of action there as well.

(The point of pretending to be trans is so that they can send asks like these, basically, and make it seem like their voices are trans voices and should be listened to on trans issues. My point is that they are either not trans voices, or so lost in the terf sauce that it’s not coming from a place of genuineness anyway, and in either case should be ignored and blocked as usual)

[radfemrobertsmith]

"the abortion debate affects men, too! trans man! stop excluding us!" my "brothers" in christ... the reason you're mad is because you know you're included already. cope

[antiterf]

People don't think about trans men being forced to go off testosterone, the horrid medical abuse while going through pregnancy when you look like and may even legally be a man (plus the lack of insurance coverage for a baby you're being forced to have because that's female only), and the incredible amounts of dysphoria a forced pregnancy would give.

So no, we're not included, because we're not the same as you. Were pissed because our suffering is blatantly ignored. Sorry.

[radfemrobertsmith]

... i am a trans man

[antiterf]

Ah, my bad. We're not included because we're not the same as cis women.

[star-fall-system]

Terfs are doing this thing now where they consider themselves women but think that if they call themselves trans men people will listen to them. They’re putting as much “ftm lesbian” stuff in the ftm tag as possible.

If you have a genuinely complicated relationship with gender you might end up calling yourself an ftm lesbian and that’s fine, but if someone calls themselves that check up on their politics and see if they’re actually just a woman pretending they’re trans so they aren’t immediately dismissed when spreading transphobic rhetoric.

honestly the OP is stupid nitpicking that’s ignoring actual issues, but it’s clear from “”brothers”” alone that this isn’t someone who’s actually transgender.

[radfemrobertsmith]

... i am years on hrt and have all my legal papers changed, i'm pretty sure i'm actually trans. sometimes trans people have opinions you dislike, get over it

[star-fall-system]

because nobody lies on the internet, especially not someone who has reason to.

I’m gonna block the terf now, but for the followers: you don’t have to believe people who are clearly acting in bad faith.

[radfemrobertsmith]

"the abortion debate affects men, too! trans man! stop excluding us!" my "brothers" in christ... the reason you're mad is because you know you're included already. cope

[antiterf]

People don't think about trans men being forced to go off testosterone, the horrid medical abuse while going through pregnancy when you look like and may even legally be a man (plus the lack of insurance coverage for a baby you're being forced to have because that's female only), and the incredible amounts of dysphoria a forced pregnancy would give.

So no, we're not included, because we're not the same as you. Were pissed because our suffering is blatantly ignored. Sorry.

[radfemrobertsmith]

... i am a trans man

[antiterf]

Ah, my bad. We're not included because we're not the same as cis women.

[star-fall-system]

Terfs are doing this thing now where they consider themselves women but think that if they call themselves trans men people will listen to them. They’re putting as much “ftm lesbian” stuff in the ftm tag as possible.

If you have a genuinely complicated relationship with gender you might end up calling yourself an ftm lesbian and that’s fine, but if someone calls themselves that check up on their politics and see if they’re actually just a woman pretending they’re trans so they aren’t immediately dismissed when spreading transphobic rhetoric.

honestly the OP is stupid nitpicking that’s ignoring actual issues, but it’s clear from “”brothers”” alone that this isn’t someone who’s actually transgender.

[antiterf]

So this was one (1) terf that I talked to and I don't want to blanket statement this, but it did let a few things click regarding why they think trans men transition.

I blurred the url and picture out because this was a while ago

Anyway

I was genuinely surprised by this because terfs always just talk about how we think we can escape into male privilege without much if any context (unless it's sexual assault).

"Will you ever feel as safe around cis men as other cis men do" was never a goal of mine. In fact before I went on T I was planning to be stealth because I knew that trans men aren't inherently granted safety, and that instead it's the opposite.

Don't get me wrong, being "one of the guys" does make me feel euphoric, and I'm sure plenty of other trans men can say the same. But I never expected that to be everyday life. I mean, I was living in The Town of Churches™ and began to get harassed by someone who found out I started T, and I was surprised it didn't happen sooner.

I was expecting to get treated like a trans man. I wanted to be a cis man (back before T not now) but I knew I wasn't and that I couldn't be. I knew I wanted to be a man nonetheless.

So yeah, there was complete shock when I read what they said. It was completely disconnected from my experiences.

[star-fall-system]

So I transitioned because it made me not depressed anymore but i want to respond to those questions too if that’s okay?

1. Yeah men see me as one of them. Most of them don’t know I’m trans on sight unless they see my pin but even the ones who’ve found out years into my knowing them didn’t change how they treated me so like yeah. I’m viewed as my gender by most cis people. That’s probably a partial component of my transition since social dysphoria was a big part of it

2. I’m as safe around cishet men as a cis gnc man would be (since I present androgynously), unless they know I’m trans in which case I’m not. but that’s not really a component of why I transitioned at all? This is also a complicated question for me cause I have PTSD, so…

3. I’m satisfied with my body after transitioning, yep. Nothing else I tried worked. If you’re not biased against transitioning it’s clearly the only good dysphoria treatment and it certainly was for me.

4. Actually it is and was sustainable and easy!

To me it’s also clear that they don’t understand what transitioning entails, which is my point here. They don’t actually believe that trans people exist as their gender in society, whereas very many of us do. Literally nobody sees me as a woman in any context ever

[clarasunflowers]

tumblrgrl: “what could be in the hearts of mean terfs?”

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[piper-the-ex-radfem-deactivated]

Hello what made you become a TERF, stop being a TERF and how do you think people can help other TERFs get out?

How I became a terf:

Being raised catholic did me a lot of damage. When I started looking into mentally leaving the church as a teen I was in a deep state of self loathing and internalized LGBT phobia.

Punished for being an autistic girl by family bc inherent sin

At that time I was around 15 and have had a trad catholic blog since I was 13

The opposite of trads and the people they hate tagged most? Radfems

So I started reading blogs and found some of the literature online and threw myself in. I came to terms with being ace, but I was projecting my internalized transphobia into my gender crit ideology

I was a very small, 4 follower blog. I was terrified of participating in discourse, because a lot of my favourite blogs are the time have gotten very intense anon hate

Why I stopped:

I have cut off my family in 2020 and was excommunicated from my church, though I had already been emotionally out

I got a job with benefits and started therapy, figured out I have schizophrenia and cptsd

I started to try to unlearn my biases

Read a whole lot of racism and other forms of harassment. Hatred of bi women and straight women and they don't believe in asexuality

A transfem started at my job and we became friends very quickly. She really helped open my eyes on trans issues (I have permission to mention her as long as I keep this blog anon)

I realized my gender dysphoria and came out as trans nonbinary

Me and her have been engaged since Jan 2022 🥰

She helps me run this blog

Things I still agree on:

I am still porn critical and anti ddlg

Capitalism is bad

Pro abortion

Women are oppressed for being women (but that includes trans women, not excludes them)

Misogyny is still a huge problem. But that also applies to misogynoir and transmisogyny

What can help get them out

Real life LGBT groups, especially ones involving religious trauma really helped me

Studying inclusive and intersectional feminism

Reading works by trans people, especially trans women

Some blogs that helped @ex-terf-anti-terf @ex-terf-confessions @justlgbtthings @terfrecords @terfsarehomophobic @queerautism @miamayhemthespider @lostelvenqueen

[glitterock]

the interesting thing about being a femme lesbian is that i’m read as very feminine in queer spaces but very masculine in straight spaces. like when im at a gay bar i’m femme and bubbly and read as such but when i’m at straight/sports bars my energy is definitely more masculine in comparison and my stance is more grounded and i just find myself being more intentionally masc. this is probably why i feel like a girl around other lesbians but non-binary to everyone else.

[lesbeinluv]

Excerpt from "Femme-Dyke" by Arlene Istar, featured in The Persistent Desire: A Femme-Butch Reader

[brndnslvra]

this is mad funny lmaooo

[gurl-blunt]

Not with that attitude you can’t

[prismatic-bell]

Listen, this might sound funny at first, but consider:

Without enough lube (natural or artificial), you WILL end up chafed. It hurts, it burns, and it can cause infection.

Even with enough lube, mucking about in your naughty bits too much–you know, the kind of thing you have to do for several hours a day if you’re a cam girl–can cause yeast infections and UTIs. UTIs can cause scarring that can cause intercourse (and masturbation) to become painful.

The kind of extreme, prolonged sexual intercourse that porn is known for can cause both rectal and vaginal prolapse, which is when your rectum or vagina literally falls out of your body due to being put under too much stress. Also, um. I’m just saying, doing the same motion with your wrists over and over without breaks, the way you’d have to do with a dildo, can cause carpal tunnel syndrome. There’s a similar condition called tennis elbow that can also occur. These women are going to suffer work-related injuries because of this. Some of those injuries will require surgery. And while sex-related prolapse is pretty rare, it does have a higher incidence among sex workers, and higher still among overworked sex workers.

So no, this cam girl is absolutely right. She cannot safely and effectively do her job for hours a day, every day, and the injury she suffers as a result could impair her ability to enjoy sex or, possibly, even kill her. What needs to be happening right now is that cam girls and other sex workers need to have unemployment and/or some kind of stimulus funds available to them, just like people in any other job, so they can work safely without worrying about going hungry.

DESTIGMATIZE SEX WORK. SUPPORT YOUR LOCAL SEX WORKERS AND THE RIGHTS THEY SHOULD HAVE.

[momxnts-silxncx]

you can get vaginal prolapse???? Why did no one ever teach me anything about my body im

[prismatic-bell]

Yep. It’s one of the reasons the Quiverfull movement is so dangerous. Women are literally encouraged to give birth until their reproductive organs can’t take it anymore.

[dovesndecay]

This is where we remind our local sex workers that they should (in the US) join the IWW under Department 600: Human Services, Industrial Union #690. (That number is not a joke, for the record.)

It won’t guarantee any immediate changes of the way you’re treated, but you’ll have more support and more people to connect with to help improve things!

[youknowwhoiam3000]

I will reblog this just cause this is some serious info

[sapphicconservative]

If you use "queer" as a term for the community, kindly remember it is still an active slur for many of us. By normalizing this word, you are not helping those of us that still endure it. In fact, you make it much, much more worse.

I know homophobes, and they are excited they now get to call us dirty little freaks to our faces. You have allied yourself with people who hate us, but you are turning a blind eye to this. You need to remember, no one will know if you're LGBT or not if you use this term, which allows for anyone to say this term. Homophobes know this. They know they can now openly call us freaks, as this word still means for many of us and others.

By calling the community the "queer community":

You are choosing to call yourself a freak.

You are choosing to let others call us freaks.

You are choosing to call others freaks.

I do not accept nor consent to being called a slur. Stop forcing this as a community label. The words you say and call yourself have meaning, please understand this. I am tired of people in my community and homophobes trying to force me to accept this slur. In my eyes, as someone who endures this as a slur, you are one and the same.

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[bumblebeebats]

i love when people are like “Oh my god, I couldn’t possibly imagine being asexual, how sad, you’re missing so much…” Bitch!!! You know what’s sad? Being gluten intolerant. If you placed two pills in front of me right now, one which would turn me allosexual and one which would enable me to tear into a freshly-baked oven-warm olive-and-rosemary ciabatta without utterly destroying my body, it would not even be a choice. “hyuhhh-duhhhh aren’t you worried you’ll die alone” aren’t you worried i’ll just launch myself over the bakery counter in our local grocery store one day and stuff croissants in my mouth like a starving racoon til i die and the whole place has to be closed down as a health risk while they peel my bloated body off the linoleum floor? You should be

[bumblebeebats]

What i have learned from the tags of this post is that there is a whole community of gluten intolerant asexuals and we are all DESPERATELY horny for bread

[damnmydooah]

I’m not even gluten intolerant and I’d go for the bread

[star-fall-system]

I’m neither ace nor gluten intolerant but I fully agree that the bread pill is the correct pill

[wastefulreverie]

Coming to terms that I was ace felt rather obvious in hindsight, considering that I’ve been enamored with Danny Phantom fanfiction for the past five years — a fandom space that has been hailed by members of the fandom as “the most ace fandom.” Recently, I’ve been wondering to myself if this is truly the case. Is the Danny Phantom fandom the most ace fandom space on the Internet? Surely, there are other fandom spaces that compare?

So, I sought to prove whether or not Danny Phantom was the most ace fandom or not. There’s not a definitive way to quantify whether a fandom — a group of people — is more asexual than another fandom without polling each individual member of several fandom spaces on their sexual orientation. You can imagine that this is not possible. So what can we quantify?

Fanworks produced in each fandom.

In this post, I will attempt to prove that the Danny Phantom fandom is the most asexual fandom space by examining fanwork categorizations on Archive Of Our Own.

Keep reading

[flightfoot]

Huh. I haven’t watched Danny Phantom beyond an episode or two, but this kinda surprises me, since I think Danny has a canon love interest?

[star-fall-system]

Not a bad way to generally measure this kind of thing, although I will point out that some things might influence the types of fics being written- after all, some media is more ship friendly than others, and some is more gen friendly than others.

For example, Phandom being at the bottom of a Gen list makes a lot of sense, since it’s mainly Dan and Phil and they’re together (and everyone always kinda knew they were even before they were out), so anything featuring them is usually going to show them together at least casually (and I’m not saying anything on the ethics of RPF, just pointing out these things)

Whereas Narnia being way more Gen makes a lot of sense because the main characters are 4 siblings.

So if you write Phandom it’s automatically about a couple and if you write Narnia it’s automatically about siblings; pushing away from or towards writing Gen.

This doesn’t explain Danny Phantom though, because from my limited knowledge it’s about 3 friends right? Or two siblings and a friend? And there’s definitely shippable characters, I’d assume

It could be affected by the art style/age grouping, as it’s intended for tweens or teens I believe (not saying that’s the only audience it can have- I’m known for liking “kids shows”), but that affects the vibes for sure.

I’m just curious on why now! I want a whole study lmao

[rebellum]

People are getting too comfortable with asking or assuming agab. "Are you afab or amab?" "Are you tme or tma?" I am a hurricane and you are a dilapidated kayak. Sex isnt a fucking binary.

[hachama]

I am a self contained galaxy. I am a storm on the horizon. I am the scent of evergreens carried on a breeze through tall grass. I am visceral and ephemeral and if you persist in trying to define me so narrowly I will be incandescent and malevolent.

Respect my pronouns or I'm going to identify as a fucking problem.

[star-fall-system]

So much of what they use agab as being short for doesn’t apply to me. Most of the time getting my agab will lead to incorrect assumptions. Say what you mean and get over your need for boxes to put people into

[carpe-noctium]

okay so

I’ve seen some people trying to figure out why “abo” is “bad” even when theyre told its a slur.

so imma try to educate a lil:

abo,a/b/o and variations is are still slurs to us(Aboriginal Australian) and we ask for you to use “omegaverse” instead of “abo” “a/b/o”.

Abo the slur has been used for a very long time and still is used,personally i grew up being called a “dirty little abo” and dehumanized if you can’t see why aboriginal australians are uncomfortable with seeing the slur used for omegaverse. .then you should do some research on our history and brutal mistreatment from colonisation til today.

We are still dehumanized,treated as sub humans and someone always calls us primitive or animals.

Being silenced about our issues is never new,we still have horrific murders happening and other race based issues and the government hasnt done jack shit.

racism is an everyday experience for us,australia has a very casual racism problem and if you get uncomfortable or offended you get told to “get over it” that “it happened ages ago” and other fun stuff while they mock us and will black face for parties disrespect our dead and ignore any of the problems that are happening now 😒

SO basically;abo,a/b/o is offensive to us because of the trauma WE and our friends or family have gone through.

I would also like to say the argument of “its a bloodtype thing” 1: as someone who had to go to the doctors a lot growing up and getting blood tests theyve never referred to my blood as abo,just my blood group.

2: ive never seen it used on tumblr for medical reasons,there might be for educational purposes? who knows,but ive never seen it used on tumblr for medical reasons ONLY when someone uses it as an excuse NOT to use “omegaverse”.

anyway use “omegaverse” instead please so we dont have to relive racial trauma,or just seein slurs being thrown about.

its not hard and it doesnt take that much of your time to use “omegaverse” instead of abo,a/b/o.

ps ive seen people not having hissy fits when asked to change what they use and theyre good sports about it and im very proud of that .

[peri]

here's ur reminder that axolotl is NOT pronounced like "ak-suh-laa-tl" (or lot-ul), it is in fact a nahuatl word (that most commonly translates to "water dog" actually, very cute!) and is pronounced "ah-SHOW-lowtch" !!!!

i think abt this every time i see a post abt axolotls coz i just know there r so many ppl mispronouncing it and the thought bothers me. if ppl, esp white ppl, reblogged this to spread the word to those who may not be aware, i'd be very grateful. thank u!!

[viohra]

While it’s fun to teach native pronunciations of words, [t͡ɬ] is not an easy phoneme for most people to pronounce unless it naturally occurs in their native language.

Plus correcting how native speakers pronounce loanword is super weird and pedantic.

So ya, while /aːʃoːloːtɬ/ is how you correctly pronounce it in Nahuatl, /aksəlɑtəl/ is how you correctly pronounce it in English.