Ryden and why I just can't like Ryan Ross...
I know I’ll end up getting shit for that reply on that “Ryden manifesto” link and whatnot, but I just want to add to what I said…
This is the conversation I just had with Kelsey, it’ll be easier to screencap than retype it all.
I was talking about this picture:
People make such a big ass deal about that picture because they think it’s proof or something that Ryden was real because Ryan loved Brendon so much he made a bracelet with his name on it and wore it around. He didn’t. It was a random thing he did once because a fan threw it on stage. He never wore it again, that we know of. He’s also making one of those “Yeah, I’m such a badass” faces, because it’s a joke. He’s a guy wearing a bracelet with another guy’s name on it. It’s not tough or badass at all, it’s a joke, hence the entire photo and his expression.
So then I mentioned I was reading that LJ manifesto thing and trying not to laugh… And this is where I say WHY I can never believe Ryden was a real thing and WHY I’ve never liked Ryan and never really will that much.
I know a lot of you have asked before why I don’t post about him much and don’t talk about him, or why I don’t like him, so here you go. This is the #1 reason right here…
So there ya go. To those who’ve asked and may ask in the future, that’s the #1 reason I don’t like and probably will never like Ryan Ross. It’s my opinion, so don’t attack me because I don’t like Ryan Ross. He was definitely a huge asshole back then. I don’t care what you say, you won’t change my opinion on that.
Also, there are some very clear points made about the realness of Ryden.
Seriously. If you go to that LJ “Ryden Manifesto” thing from 2010 and just scroll through looking at all the pictures she included, ALL of them show Brendon putting his hand on Ryan, or wrapping his arms around him for pictures of this or that, or doing suggestive things or what-have-you, but literally in only 1 or 2 of those pictures does Ryan do anything in return. There are actually quite a few where he ignores Brendon or looks scandalized or violated or just plain pissed off by Brendon touching him and trying to do gay things.
I have always believed and will continue to believe that Ryan is a homophobe in many ways, and I’m FAR from the only one to think that. I’ve talked at length about this to quite a few people here on Tumblr, I think one of them was snarkatthedisco but I could be wrong.
The reason I say that though, is that Ryan always maintained his straightness. He always made it clear he was straight and even sometimes seemed to be overly outspoken about it in the things he said, like talking about fucking girls or having girlfriends or whatever, and mainly the way he acted, most likely because of the way Brendon acted with him and because he knew Brendon loved him (again, I’m speculating but I think most of the fanbase would agree it was pretty obvious that Brendon had a lot of love for Ryan.)
Obviously none of this is fact, but it’s not hard for someone with a few college psychology courses at the very least to see any of this. Maybe someday I’ll tell everything to my dad and show him all these pictures and videos and get his true psych analysis of it, but I’m sure it would be pretty similar to mine.
Anyway. Sorry to ramble on and on, I just have so much to say on this subject. I have so much more info and thoughts so if anyone wants to talk about it, please don’t hesitate to message me. I’ll turn anon on for a bit, but if you’re just going to message me to bitch me out or insult me because I “dissed your otp” then go away and just please grow up. Those are the kind of people that make people embarrassed to be a part of the PATD fandom. Don’t contribute to the hatred we already have for so many parts of the fanbase. I’ll either just delete the messages or turn off anon again anyway.
I’d like to have educated, intelligent, spirited debates about this because it truly interests me greatly. I’m not insulting Ryden, in actuality, and I’m not insulting Ryan, well okay. I’m insulting him, but it’s my opinion. I’m just expressing my opinions and explaining WHY I hold those opinions on him. That’s it. I’m not telling anyone to agree or believe what I say.
I never said “Ryden is so fake” or “Ryden is so stupid” or anything of the sort, so please don’t come at me attacking me to try and defend your ship. It’s stupid and pathetic. Let’s be mature here. Let’s talk about it. I’m interested in hearing all theories.