Finding Stephanie

Years spent hiding and holding back, sometimes just jumping forward to face fear and grow. Working on a better me. Healthier in mind, body, and spirit. Confident, Warm. Open. Loving, Oh and yes, Fashionable. Not vain just not shlumpy.

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guide to become your best version ✨

the first step, be clear about what your best version would look like. questions to ask yourself.

what would my best version look like?

what habits would i have?

what would my life be like?

what would be my morning and evening routine?

what thoughts would i have?

what would i focus on?

what thoughts and habits should i leave behind?

how would i like to feel?

and lastly…

what can i start doing to connect with this version of me?

you can also add your own questions if they resonate with you, the important thing about this exercise is that you connect a little bit more with that better version of yourself.

from my experience, it is important to focus and work on these three areas of our life at the same time so that none of these areas are out of balance and we can flow to that version more easily.

it is important because i have realized from my own experience and from other people who send me questions that they only focus on one area, in most cases, the habits, and forget others, then when something happens or we go through a bad moment we feel lost and it seems that everything is "wrong" but if we work on these areas at the same time and we nurture them day by day we will have more control of our emotions and thoughts, then we will not stagnate in "bad times". remember, we can always go through bad times but these always bring us a learning experience.

✨ physical

daily movement, create an exercise routine

eating healthy food, for the sake and perfect functioning of our body.

create a daily routine that will help us reach our goals.

healthy habits

hobbies that help us connect with our best self.

focus on the well-being of our body

✨ mental and emotional

read about personal growth, psychology, and topics that will help us to improve our personal best.

journaling

keep a daily record of our emotions, as well as our habits.

focus on what we do want rather than what we don't want

detect what our negative thought patterns are and change them for - more positive ones according to how we want to think and feel from now on.

affirm positively

work on those areas of our life that we need to improve or are damaged

✨ spiritual

healing and balancing both your feminine and masculine energies

develop your intuition

have faith in yourself and in the process of creation (god, universe, energy…)

read about spirituality

meditate day and night

doing energetic cleansing

connect with your spiritual side

love yourself for who you are now

forgive the people who hurt us and forget the past

practice gratitude

practice compassion and tolerance towards yourself and others

connect with nature

this is what i believe brings us closer to becoming our best version, as i am always learning new things about the subject and evolving both personally and spiritually so i will continue to share this in future posts.

as always all questions related to the topic are welcome and if you have any doubts you can also ask.

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What's so funny?

Did you feel the need to laugh too? Then here's your perfect start for a good weekend! Have a nice Purple Friday!

💋 Lisa

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Practice makes perfect 😍

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I did

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My feminine side probably has always been part of me even though I just discovered her relatively recently. All I had to do was let her out. 

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I Want You to Feel Loved

I worry often about how I come across in my captions and with my writings.  The last thing that I want is to be insensitive to a whole host of identities and varying lifestyle choices.  I trust that many of you are encouraged, but I also don’t want to be discouraging to someone else.  I also don’t want to sound like I’m just “full of crap”.  I desire to be genuine, which is strange because of my anonymity.  LOL.  Now, to ease any pity for me, nobody has ever said anything negatively toward me.  I just want to be more for all of you than another fantasy caption maker…and, of course, we love all of those girlies too! 

One of the driving forces behind my Tumblr page is love.  I want anybody to feel welcomed, seen, valued, and heard.  Yes, there are some sexy push-the-envelope captions, but for the sake of keeping my Tumblr “safe”, I gravitate more to the ideas of positivity and encouragement without images that NSFW.  I believe we all need more encouragement.  There’s a place and time for more elicit fantasies.  I know, because I enjoy that too–and quite frequently. But in the other hand (pun intended), we should want to be a reason that others feel loved.  We all need to know that we belong with some people, that we have a greater sense of value, and that we have something to offer.

We should want to be givers: givers of self, givers of love.  Be a reason that someone feels loved.

CandieHart

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Make the Best of a Day

I know what it’s like to go many days without wearing anything feminine, without having any girly luxuries, or without feeling secure enough to act and be girly.  I also know what it’s like to not feel in the mood of girliness.  Those seasons happen.  Regardless of the opportunities afforded for us (or stripped away), every day is a bright day to make it girly.  Even women don’t always feel womanly, so don’t think that in your quest for more femininity that you will always “feel it”.

You can make the best of any day, however.  Even without some of the more notable things we think of when it comes to being girly boys, any day can have some girliness in it.  Take a break and relax, breathe deeply, and meditate on those things that normally help you to feel girly.  It may not be a full-on experience, but by “getting lost” in feminine thought, you condition your mind to make some part of any day girly.

Girliness is as much of what is in your heart as what you do or wear.  And if it’s in your heart, in your being, a part of your soul, any day is a day that can be made girly.  Make the best of it and you’ll eventually discover how girliness just flows in your life.

CandieHart

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Coffee time is you-n-me time…

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Spread the Cheer!

Isn’t it great to be girly?!  There are times when I’m absolutely overwhelmed with cheerfulness about being feminine, but now I feel it more than usual.  There’s something about this time of year that makes me want to spread the joy of girliness wherever I can.  Maybe it’s the magic of winter, the spark that Christmas brings into our lives, or perhaps the opportunity to wear a little more feminine clothing because it’s easier to cover up (like bras).  Whatever it is, I hope that you’ll join me in spreading a positive vibe about femininity in boys.  There are so many males around the world who are itching to be girlier in the way they think, act, dress, talk, etc.  And many of them are deeply saddened because of society’s “expectations” for males.  so, send out some girly vibes.  Let the world know that it’s okay for boys to be effeminate.  Let the world know that more girly boys in the world is a good thing–that’s it’s a productive for society, enlightening for culture, and … well … just plain awesome.

Spread the cheer my girlies.

CandieHart

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