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The Untold Secret To Fear Setting and Mitigating Risk In Less Than 3 Minutes

Fear Setting and Mitigating Risk: Do You Really Need It? This Will Help You Decide!

How I Improved My Fear Setting and Mitigating Risk In One Easy Lesson

Many people come to a point in their lives where they wish they could do something better. The problem is they never know where to begin or how to start changing their life and moving in a more positive direction. In this article, I will present you some tips that can help you get started moving in a direction that can change your life for the better.

One of the most important things you should do before you try to do any type of personal development is assess your life and see where you are right now. Many people have many different ideas as to what it will take to make themselves happier and healthier in the long run. But unless you actually assess your current situation, you may never actually change for the better because you will never know where to begin. By taking stock of all the things that you have to be thankful for, and then looking at the areas that you need to improve in, you can begin to create a road-map that will allow you to begin to make positive changes.

The next step is to actually think of at least three things that you want to change. This could be your current financial situation. It could be the way that you interact with people on a social level. Whatever type of personal development issues that you may have that you want to fix, write these out and start a list. Then, narrow that list down to the most important thing that you want to change and make better in your life and create a checklist that will help you reach this goal.

The third step has to do with personal motivation. What is it that will get you up in the morning to make these changes? Why are you actually trying to do this? These are the questions that you need to ask so that you have a foundation from which to launch in this new direction. If you can’t answer these questions right away, don’t worry! Just sit quietly for about 30 minutes and think about the reasons that you want to change. In most cases, feelings of negativity will show up and you will realize what hurts you the most. Then, think of ways to alleviate this pain in your life. This is how you will begin to write out this list of things that will personally motivate you to continue to move toward your goal of personal change.

The final thing you need to do is take action. Once you know what you want to change, and you have a list of ideas that will help you make these changes happen, you can use your personal motivation to catapult you forward in a direction of positive change. By doing these steps in the order that we I prescribed, you will find yourself changing for the better in no time at all. Personal development is something that everybody can do in their life, and you certainly can make your life exactly how you want it by using the steps and tips I have provided.

  Fear Setting and Mitigating Risk

Now there’s a fair chance that many people reading this are going to think it all sounds great, nod their heads a lot… and then just completely disregard it and never do any of it. Unfortunately, most of us won’t make the changes necessary to get what we want out of life. But I don’t want that to be the case for you. I want this to be different – I want this to be the starting point that makes you actually start making those changes. To Enhance Yourself, Use this 28 Power-Principles And to that end, it’s worth trying something called ‘Fear Setting’. This is a concept that once again comes from the very wise Tim Ferriss and his book The Four Hour Workweek – which will make for some excellent further reading. So what is fear setting? Essentially, this is a tool that you use to overcome your fears by making them more concrete. It is the

opposite of goal setting as instead of writing down your goals, you’re going to write down all the things you’re afraid of. So let’s say that you think you want to become a self-employed entrepreneur. It sounds great on paper but you’re afraid.

    Here’s why:

1. You might fail and be humiliated 2. You have a family to support – what if you can’t get your job back 3. You don’t have any funding for your idea 4. Now is not a good time – you’ve just had a child 5. Your wife might leave you 6. You might end up homeless and alone

So those are some fears and some worst case scenarios. Suddenly your dream doesn’t seem so appealing. But wait! Now what you’re going to do is to go through each of those points and a) score them out of ten in terms of likelihood then b) write down how you would cope in each situation. Be honest and realistic. You might fail and be humiliated – 7/10 You have a family to support – what if you can’t get your job back – 6/10 You don’t have any funding for your idea – 10/10 Now is not a good time – you’ve just had a child – 9/10 Your wife might leave you – 3/10 You might end up homeless and alone – 2/10

Sure, you can’t argue with the fact that you have just had a child (though whether or not it is a ‘bad time’ is debatable). Likewise, you either do have money or you don’t. But it’s not that likely your failure will be humiliating as such. Likewise, your wife would have to be pretty harsh to leave you – give her more credit than that! And you certainly won’t end up on the street. Apart from anything else, you probably will get your job back. Worst case scenario you might have to take a less good job, or go begging to Mum and Dad/the government. Not ideal sure, but you would survive. Now we’re going to look at how you cope with any of these things happening and how you’re going to mitigate the risk thereby making it even less likely to happen.

• You might fail and be humiliated

You actually don’t need to tell anyone that you’re trying. Likewise though, why does it matter what people think? At least you tried! And you never have to give up, you can just change your strategy so there’s no ‘failure’ to report.

• You have a family to support – what if you can’t get your job back

As mentioned there are plenty of options here: go for a worse job for a while working in a supermarket if necessary, get benefits, ask your parents for help. Even make money from your own entrepreneurial efforts. You can probably survive on your savings for a few months at least. But more to the point – there’s no need to quit your current job at all! If you want to set up a business then all you have to do is to set it up on the side by doing it at weekends and in the evenings. Eventually you’ll get a good idea as to whether it’s going to be a success or not and only then do you quit your job. Zero risk involved!

•You don’t have any funding for your idea

Most business models can be ‘bootstrapped’. In other words, you can create a model that starts with no investment necessary and then reinvests that money into other projects as it grows. For instance, a website is free to create and the money you generate can then be reinvested into inventory for that eCommerce store you dreamed of.How about Kick-starter?

•Now is not a good time – you’ve just had a child

There is never a good time. If you wait for all your stars to align then you’ll never do anything. Would your child rather you were wealthy, or happy?

•Your wife might leave you

This won’t happen. But if it does then she probably isn’t the one for you anyway. Serious

ly, if you can’t do the thing that makes you happiest and be in that relationship then you won’t be happy.But it can certainly help to sit her down, to tell her how much this means to you and to show her your plans in detail.

•You might end up homeless and alone

Again, not going to happen. But if it does… Then you’ll pick up the pieces and try again! You can crash on a friend’s couch in the meantime, or work online to earn enough for a hotel.

The point is: the worst case scenario is not normally as bad as you think it is and there are almost always ways you can cope. And anyway, what’s more frightening: those things happening and you living a full and interesting life? Or you remaining in a job you find soul destroying and boring for your whole life? Not taking a risk is the only way to guarantee that you won’t be happy. So take the risk!

    This fear setting can be used in all kinds of situations too. This is true whether you’re going to be approaching a girl/guy in a bar or whether you’re going to be asking your boss for that raise. A common fear with asking someone out is that they might say no. So how can you mitigate that risk?

Try this: smile at the person from across the room first and see how they react. If they smile back then you have a good chance of them being receptive to your approach. But if they look away, then you’ve been ‘rejected’ in a way that had no repercussions and wasn’t at all embarrassing. You mitigated the risk! When you get good at this, fear setting is something you can do automatically in your head every time you’re approaching a challenge or a decision that you find nerve wracking. This is actually a basic form of CBT – or Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. We’ll talk about this more in future but it’s definitely something you should look into more yourself as well.

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Make Things Happen An Incredibly Easy Method That Works For All

A Plan For Personal Development

Personal development means different things to different people. For some, it means developing a meaningful career. For others, learning how to have meaningful relationships can be a part of personal development. The fact is, anything that will enrich your life, bring you happiness and fulfillment, or a sense of peace in your life, can be beneficial to your personal development. If you wish to develop your personal life in meaningful ways, the best approach is to start with a personal development plan. Below, you will find some good advice about creating the best plan for you.

Make a List

The first thing to do is make a list of your strengths and weaknesses. Your strengths can be things like personal communication, good work ethics or a love for people. Weaknesses are thing such as too little time for family, too much focus on yourself, or not staying fit and healthy. Be honest with yourself, and identify areas where you need growth, and areas that you can use to achieve that growth.

Set Priorities

Next, make a list of goals that you would like to achieve. You can use your strengths and weaknesses as a guide to help you identify goals that will benefit your life, and others around you. Maybe you could utilize your love of others in a volunteer position at a local hospital, or nursing home. Or, you can turn a weakness, like focusing too much on your own life, into helping people in need. Try visiting a homeless shelter, or shelter for abused women and children. Find out what their needs are, and see how you can help. Many times, these people need simple things, such as grooming supplies, notebooks and writing utensils, or a blanket and new socks. Helping others will give you a real sense of meaning and self-worth.

Make Things Happen

Now that you have an idea of what your goals are, and how you can accomplish them, set aside time, and make things happen. You can plan alone, or get others on the bandwagon, and form a group of people who can help you to make a bigger difference. Find an area where your group can pick up trash, or maintain landscaping, such as a church or retirement home. Make regular visits to shut-ins, and bring meals, or help with small tasks, such as housework, home repairs, or just keeping someone company. The possibilities are endless, and many can change the lives of someone who needs a change.

Keep Developing

Once you formulate your personal development plan, try not to stop your personal growth, but instead, move on to other personal goals you can achieve. There is no end to personal development, and each goal you achieve will add meaning and purpose to your life… like the following… learn about Springboarding and the Step Back technique.

  The Step Back Technique and Springboarding

In the previous Posts we’ve looked at how you can potentially achieve incredible things by changing your approach and by looking at which elements are most important for you. We’ve seen, among other things, how you can achieve practically any career goal just by using the right strategy to get there.

You on the next level | How to overcome Depression – When you become completely aware of life

A change is gonna come – How to Thrive to be the Worlds Greatest

Hidden Changeology – The Art of  Forcing the Universe To Give You What You Want

Setting the Ambience for Spiritual Growth

Personal Development – Skills You Need | Be a Mr. Self Development and download your Practical and Motivational Guide.

and many many more

Here’s one strategy then that can work for almost anyone, regardless of their goals. It’s called ‘springboarding’. What springboarding means, is that you’re creating success in one area that you can use to create success in another. So let’s say that you want to be that rock star but you aren’t sure of your ability to get there using conventional means. What could you do instead? Well how about creating a website that is highly successful on the topic of rock? Once you get enough people reading the site you’ll have a huge audience that you can get direct exposure to. Now all you need to do is to start featuring your own music on the blog and there you have it – a great way to get people to listen to your music. Likewise, how might you go about achieving what Stallone achieved today? One option could be to create a popular YouTube channel showing yourself acting. Get enough follows and use high enough production values and eventually someone will come knocking with an opportunity. Another option of course is just to get rich. If you want to make a music video, then all you need to do is to become successful and wealthy in any other area and then you can use the money and the connections from that success to fund your pet project.

Is it vein?

Sure.

Is it a good investment? Maybe not.

But it makes you happy. It’s what you want. It’s how you’re going to self-actualize. What could possibly be a better way to spend your money? Let me give you some other ideas on how to be your greatest version. It is about meditation, the Step Back Technique,how to Fly and about being more present in your daily life.

Becoming More Present : There is Meditation in Everything You Do

There is no ‘end goal’ in meditation but one vague aim is to get good enough at meditating that you can eventually clear your mind or detach from your thoughts at will. This way, you can then prevent yourself from being distracted by unwanted thoughts whenever you want to be. I like to call this ‘bubble time’.

Bubble Time

It is the name for the small ‘segments’ of time I give myself throughout the day when I can be completely relaxed. Imagine that you have a very stressful day and you’ve been working hard through a massive to-do list. You need to make lots of calls, manage your work team and just generally deal with a lot of fires. Plus you have a date tonight with someone that you think will be awkward and you have pressing, on-going money concerns. Sound familiar? Anyway, you’re on the bus going from one meeting to the next and in that time there is no benefit to being stressed. In other words, you can carry on worrying about all those things you have to do if you want to… but it’s not going to do you any good. What would be far preferable, would be if you use this short amount of time as a break in order to recuperate. Now if you’ve never practiced meditation, you’re going to struggle to do that. But if you haven’t? Then you can put yourself in a meditative state and become indifferent to that stress. You can sit back and just clear your mind. Now, when you arrive at your meeting, you’re going to be much more recharged and energized because your brain has had the opportunity to get some rest. The result is that you’ll feel much better and you’ll work much more efficiently as well. If you get really good at this, then you can eventually start to employ ‘moving meditation’ as in Tai Chi. Except now, you’re going to be in a meditative and relaxed, focussed state at the same time as walking, talking and doing other things. You’ll be impervious to stress because you’ve learned to control your mind and control your emotions. Because you aren’t giving your concerns the emotional weight that you may have done in the past, your brain isn’t activating the ‘salience network’ that it uses to respond to threats and you’re able to just carry on going about your business in a completely calm and efficient manner!

  Being More Present

Meditation is one way to stop worrying about all those little nagging concerns and doubts. Another way though is just to become more present and more in the moment. How can you do this? One method is to start focussing on your body and on your senses a little more. The fact of the matter is that most of us are so in our own heads that we barely notice half of what’s going on around us. We walk in a dream state worrying about work, or about our relationships and we hardly take the time to stop and smell the roses – literally or metaphorically.

Try this right now.

Turn off any music that you’re listening too and instead just start to notice the sounds around you. Really listen! What can you hear? Perhaps the hum of traffic outside? Maybe the murmur of conversation in the room? Maybe you can hear next door? Or perhaps you’re outside? Maybe you can hear the sound of birds? Likewise, you can probably smell a whole load of things you hadn’t noticed. And if you take the moment to feel your own body, then you can probably notice the sensation of the seat pushing into your legs and into your buttocks. Maybe you can feel the blood filling your face and making you feel hot. Or perhaps there’s a cool wind blow against you. What direction is it heading? Likewise, listen to the sounds of your own breathing and feel your abdomen expand and shrink as you do. Once you do this, you’ll find that you stop worrying what’s going on around you and that you start to appreciate your environment a little more. There’s so much that you normally miss! You can try doing this on walks too. Go for a walk with no music, no phone and nothing else and try just being present and noticing the world around you. It’s a calming and invigorating experience at the same time!

Being More Present in Conversation

Practicing this is important because as with practicing meditation, it will eventually become something that you can just engage at will. Now you can choose when you want to start listening better to what people are saying to you and when you want to really focus on the day out you’re having with your children. Again, you can leave your work concerns at home. And try focussing on the sensations of your body more the next time you’re being intimate with a sexual partner. Don’t worry about your technique, what you’re going to do next, whether they like you… instead, really focus on how the touch of their hand feels on your body. You’ll find that you instinctively know what to do next and that you start to be much more passionate and responsive. You’ll become a better lover, simply by getting out of your own head. And you’ll feel it far more forcefully. This is true for everything else as well. Next time you have a bath, take a moment to really appreciate the warmth and the softness of the water against your skin. Indulge yourself in the smell! The next time you eat cereal in the morning, remind yourself how much you enjoy that cereal and how happy you are to not be going to work. This is what so many of us don’t do. So many of us are constantly in a dream state and worrying about other things that we actually miss what’s going on around us. Being stressed and having no control over your mind is doubly problematic – because not only does it make us unhappy directly but it also distracts us from the things going on around us all the time that could be making us happier. Oh and what this does for our relationships is also fantastic. Right now, being distracted by work could well be destroying your relationship with your family and friends.

Creating a Muse

If money is very often the enabler that you need to start being happier in your life, then the new strategy might become to quickly increase your income to get to where you need to be. This might sound a lot easier said than done but actually there are once again techniques you can use to make things a little easier. Tim Ferriss for instance describes something called a ‘muse’. This is basically any quick and dirty little business that he can use to start generating passive income. Remember what we said about your main salary not needing to define your wealth? The easiest muse is often to sell an affiliate product online. This means advertising an eBook or something similar and getting paid commission (up to 75% in some cases). We won’t go into how this works in depth here but a quick search on Google will show you that there are plenty of resources that will help you out. There are other ways to quickly increase your wealth without getting promoted to CEO as well. For instance, how about looking into working on day each weekend in a small job? It’s not terribly fun but if it’s to fund a dream then it might well be worth it! Alternatively, you could rent out a room on AirBnB, or you could even let students stay in your property – you can get paid a good amount for this! In other words, it’s key to recognize once again that your salary is not the only source of income. You can even make a lot of money just by saving better and forgoing some of your current expenses. Do you drink a coffee on the way into work? That can cost as much as $3-$4 in some cases. SO that’s now $15 a week or $60 a month. You could be $60 a month better off just by kicking that caffeine habit! Again, this is all about sitting down and recognizing what your priorities are in life. You’re probably doing a whole lot right now just because you’ve always done it. It’s time to change that and to start aiming towards the goals that will actually make you happiest.

The Step Back Technique

The step back technique is a technique that involves thinking about what you want to get from life if you had all the possible resources and success in the world. If even the laws of physics were yours to bend, what would you accomplish? Nothing is off limits here. Maybe you’d like to be a superhero? Maybe you want to save the world and cure the hungry? Maybe you want to be the next Bill Gates. Write this down and then apply the ‘step back technique’. That means asking yourself what the closest thing you can possibly accomplish is. You’ll be surprised at just what you can manage…

You Can Fly!

The title of this blog is step into your greatness. Fly like an eagle. Right at the start i pointed out that this is a rather lofty aim. Can you really step into your greatness? Is it possible to Fly? Well the answer is yes: with caveats. At this point, we’ve discussed enough strategies and techniques that you can now understand why this is the case. The first thing to do is to look at the reasons why you want to be the greatest version of yourself and what it is about thriving that appeals to you. Is it the speed? Because in that case, you could drive fast cars. Is it the actual physical feeling of flying itself? Is it the ability to soar through the clouds? Because in that case you could become an airline pilot, or you could learn to fly a microlight. But what if you want to really fly. Really fly without any machinery. Man, you’re going to make this difficult aren’t you? Well in that case, you could use the step-back technique. What’s the closest you can possibly come to flying like Iron Man? There’s always zero gravity. So there’s that… Or you could become Iron Man. Iron Man is the most realistic superhero who can fly, we can probably agree. Still completely impossible. But more realistic. So step back again. What’s the closest you could come to creating a real-life Iron Man suit? Well, a few people have asked themselves that very question. There’s actually a guy who built himself a ‘real-life Iron Man suit’ that works using a rocket attached to his back. It can’t take off from the floor but if he’s dropped out of a plane, the combination of the wings and the rocket are enough to allow him to fly/glide through the air until the fuel runs out. Woooah. And there’s another guy who invented something similar. This one allowed him to fly with his hands and feet using thrusters – just like Iron Man. How? Simple: it only works over water. And instead of shooting out lasers (or repulsors for the real Iron Man fans out there) this suit worked by shooting out more water. In other words, the device takes water from a hose that’s submerged into a river or lake, and then it blasts it out powerfully from the hands and feet. It’s called the Jet Lev. Don’t believe me? Look it up on YouTube! And if you want to use it you can – there are experience days that let you fly using the Jet Lev! So you can’t be Superman but you can come surprisingly close if you’re willing to change your strategy and focus on what it is you really want. This also applies to other aspects of your life such as your health. If you have a chronic illness then the sad reality is that you might never become an athlete. But apply the step-back technique and you may realize that you can become a Paralympic athlete. Or perhaps that you can get into the best shape possible and do lots of research and become an inspiration to others who are in the same position. So you may not always be able to become or do anything. But what you can do is to make steps towards any dream. And as soon as you start taking those steps, you’ll find that this is what gives you that sense of purpose, of satisfaction and of actualization.

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Who is your ideal leader? Is There an Ideal Leadership Profile?

How to Become an Ideal Leader

When you are at work, do you get frustrated because things don’t seem to be happening the way they’re supposed to be? You see people milling around but nothing gets accomplished. And in the daily hustle and bustle, do you feel that your goals remain just that – goals. Then maybe its time for you to stand up and do something about it.

Most people are content just to stand around listening for orders. And it isn’t unusual to adopt a follow-the-leader mentality. But maybe, somewhere inside of you, you feel the desire to make things happen – to be the head, not the tail. Then maybe leadership just suits you fine.

Some people believe that great leaders are made, not born. Yes, it may be true that some people are born with natural talents. However, without practice, without drive, without enthusiasm, and without experience, there can be no true development in leadership.

You must also remember that good leaders are continually working and studying to improve their natural skills. This takes a commitment to constantly improve in whatever endeavor a person chooses.

First of all, let’s define leadership. To be a leader, one must be able to influence others to accomplish a goal, or an objective. He contributes to the organization and cohesion of a group.

Contrary to what most people believe, leadership is not about power. It is not about harassing people or driving them using fear. It is about encouraging others towards the goal of the organization. It is putting everyone on the same page and helping them see the big picture of the organization. You must be a leader not a boss.

First of all, you have to get people to follow you. How is this accomplished?

People follow others when they see a clear sense of purpose. People will only follow you if they see that you know where you are going. Remember that bumper sticker? The one that says, don’t follow me, I’m lost too? The same holds true for leadership. If you yourself do not know where you’re headed to, chances are people will not follow you at all.

You yourself must know the vision of the organization. Having a clear sense of hierarchy, knowing who the bosses are, who to talk to, the organization’s goals and objectives, and how the organization works is the only way to show others you know what you are doing.

Being a leader is not about what you make others do. It’s about who you are, what you know, and what you do. You are a reflection of what you’re subordinates must be.

Studies have shown that one other bases of good leadership is the trust and confidence your subordinates have of you. If they trust you they will go through hell and high water for you and for the organization.

Trust and confidence is built on good relationships, trustworthiness, and high ethics. Get everything in Life

The way you deal with your people, and the relationships you build will lay the foundation for the strength of your group. The stronger your relationship, the stronger their trust and confidence is in your capabilities.

Once you have their trust and confidence, you may now proceed to communicate the goals and objectives you are to undertake.

Communication is a very important key to good leadership. Without this you can not be a good leader. The knowledge and technical expertise you have must be clearly imparted to other people.

Also, you can not be a good leader and unless you have good judgment. You must be able to assess situations, weigh the pros and cons of any decision, and actively seek out a solution.

It is this judgment that your subordinates will come to rely upon. Therefore, good decision-making is vital to the success of your organization.

Leaders are not do-it-all heroes. You should not claim to know everything, and you should not rely upon your skills alone.

You should recognize and take advantage of the skills and talents your subordinates have. Only when you come to this realization will you be able to work as one cohesive unit.

Remember being a leader takes a good deal of work and time. It is not learned overnight. Remember, also, that it is not about just you. It is about you and the people around you.

So, do you have the drive and the desire to serve required of leaders? Do you have the desire to work cooperatively with other people? Then start now. Take your stand and be leader today.

  How to be Anything You Want to Be – A Leader for example

In terms of your career, you can genuinely be anything you want to be. Now you know what you want to accomplish with your life, actually doing that is easy. No seriously. Want to be a writer? Great, all you have to do is to start writing a book. Want to be an artist? Sure, just start painting! Want to be a pilot? Start looking for pilot courses. Want to be a pilot but can’t afford the course/don’t want to give up your current lifestyle? Then look into flying a microlight. The point is that as soon as you start doing the thing you want to do, you become that thing. As soon as you write, you are a writer by definition. Sure, you may not be famous for it. You might not be professional. You might not even be any good. But you are a writer! And when someone asks you what you can do, you can legitimately say ‘I’m a writer’. Hopefully what you’re getting from this is that you don’t have to define yourself by your career. Likewise, you don’t have to have just one career. And your finances don’t have to be completely tied to your income either. Create A Better You Your 7 days program Again, it’s about not waiting. And it’s about realizing what it is about the thing that makes you excited and happy.

How to Become an Actor or a Rock Star in Your 40s… or 80s! While Supporting a Family

So let us say you always wanted to be a rock star. Now you’re in your 40s and you work in logistics. Boy, did something go wrong somewhere or what! This is what mid-life crises are made out of. First things first: remember the old adage that ‘it’s never too late to be what you always wanted to be.’ That’s genuinely true you know. Sometimes it’s actually easier to accomplish things when you’re older. Always wanted to be an actor but now you’re 80? There is tons of work for older people to play extras or small parts on TV and as you get older you’ll have more time to audition. You can achieve that lifelong dream now! Always wanted to live in LA but now you’re 70? Never was there a better time! Back to being the rock star wannabe with the mid-life crisis. What do you do? Simple: you start performing music in your garage, you create a home studio on whatever budget you have and you put together a band if you’re so inclined. You might be in logistics but you can get your sense of direction and accomplishment from the music. You’re not a rock ‘star’ yet but you sure as heck are a rock musician. That’s a pretty good start… Next up, how about creating a YouTube channel for your music? How about uploading some tracks to Sound Cloud or Band Camp? You might just find you get a little following. You might even make a little money. And there was no risk, no big change in your lifestyle… You’re now living that dream! You’re a very small rock star and that’s good enough. So the only question is: what took you so long?

Coming Up With Strategies

In that last example we looked at how you could gain exposure for your rock music by using YouTube. The web actually makes all kinds of things possible today that weren’t before. Did you know that you can self-publish a book on LuLu and you don’t have to pay anything up-front? It’s called ‘POD’ or ‘Print On Demand’ and that means that the copies only get made when they’re sold – meaning there’s no upfront investment and no risk. Even before the internet though there have always been multiple ways of achieving the same end. Take a look at Sylvester Stallone. Here’s a guy who always wanted to be an actor but no-one would give him the time of day because of his slur. So instead of giving up, Sly changed his approach. He wrote the killer script for Rocky and then showed that to producers. They were so blown away by what they were reading that they were willing to agree to almost any terms in order to secure the rights to that script. Sly’s demand? That he would be the star. The rest is history! The point is, that you don’t always have to go about reaching your goals in the traditional or obvious manner. Almost always, there are other ways you can go about achieving the same thing if you just take the time to come up with a strategy. What are your strengths? What are your current resources? Who are your most valuable connections? How can you personally achieve that goal you have in mind?

Gradual Improvement

Remember too, the longer you work at something, the better at it you become. This applies not only to obvious skills but also business nous and the ability to self-promote. In other words, you might start playing music in your garage and really stink. But if you keep at it long enough you’ll get better and better until you’re close to rock-star-good. Likewise, if you keep on practicing at the music, you’ll eventually get to the point where you learn how best to gain exposure and to promote yourself. Keep at it long enough and success is almost certainly going to be around the corner. This is also just one more reason to step on it! The sooner you start trying, the quicker you’ll get to a professional standard!

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Intuition and Genuine Happiness comes from within.

Have you had that experience when all of a sudden you just had this huge hunch that something is about to happen, and to your surprise, that intuition was eventually translated to reality?

When you feel strongly about something without logical basis to it, that’s called intuition. It comes in three impressions: clairvoyance or “the third eye”, sensing clearly and feeling through listening.

Clairvoyance is when your eye goes beyond what it can see. This is when you know what is happening somewhere.

Sensing clearly is basically what we refer to as “hunch” or “gut feel.” This is the time when you are overwhelmed with a feeling and you can’t explain it and all you can say is “I just know.”

On the other hand, feeling through listening or clairaudience is being able to “listen” between the lines. Intuition also happens at times when a certain sound, whatever it is – be it a car’s honk or a bird’s twitting – ushers in an intense feeling.

They say only a number of people are gifted with intuition. Astrologers even insist that people born under the Scorpio or Pisces signs are naturally intuitive it almost borders on E.S.P. But studies have been sprouting left and right that proclaim that anyone can develop intuition.

Why the need to develop intuition, you ask? Why not let your emotional and psychological state as it is? First and foremost, intuition promotes good communication. It makes you more sensitive to the people around you; it often keeps you from hurting those you love because you are intuitive enough to understand them. Intuition also makes you far more creative than ever. Intuition means releasing more creative juices for any means of expression. Lastly, intuition has a healing power. This healing power is not in the physical sense, but in delving deep into your soul to eradicate some negative energy buried in it.

With that being said, are you ready to develop your intuition?

  Here are some ways to unlock this gift:

1. Hypnosis

Oh yes, get yourself hypnotized. Hypnosis is not limited to watching a pendulum move back and forth. Perform self-hypnosis or you can avail of hypnotic programs that can strengthen your intuition.

2. Meditation

Meditating means finding peace in yourself. If your mind and heart are cluttered with too many baggage and hurt,  you wouldn’t be able to quiet down that part of you that could eventually initiate intuition. There are so many ways to meditate: take a yoga class, or just simply practice some breathing that could bring you straight to Zen.

3. Think positive!

A worry-free, fear-free state could do so much to improve your intuitive ability. By staying positive, you attract good energy that would be able to easily recognize imminent feelings and events.

4. Just let go.

What does this mean? If you are on the brink of making a huge decision, let go of all the inhibitions and head to a quiet place where you could find out where the letting go has brought you. Sometimes you just have to listen to the voice within you, and that voice wouldn’t come out unless you let go.

5. Never expect.

After letting go of the inhibitions and all those things that stop you from thinking and feeling clearly, never expect for an answer right away. Never expect that the “hunch” would fall on your lap immediately. Give it a little time then you’d just get surprised that — wham! — now you have your answer.

6. Believe in your first impressions.

When you see someone for the first time and think that he is a bit too arrogant for your taste, chances are that impression actually holds true. Most of the time, first impressions are brought by intuition. It is a Change for the better.

7. Stay happy!

See? All you need to be intuitive is to stay happy! Happiness attracts immense power and such power includes intuition. In tapping your intuition, your motivation must be happiness and contentment. Given that premise, intuition will fall to you easily.

Build your self Esteem – A Darts Players Championship

So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self esteem in a tough environment? Here are some tips you may to consider as a starter guide to true happiness.

Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and everyone else around you may become Dart Pins, at one point or another. These dart pins will destroy your self esteem and pull you down in ways you won’t even remember. Don’t let them destroy you, or get the best of you.  So which dart pins should you avoid?

Dart Pin #1 : Negative Work Environment

Beware of “dog eat dog” theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time you get to work too much without getting help from people concerned.  Stay out of this, it will ruin your self esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competition that is.

Dart Pin #2: Other People’s Behavior

Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizers, sluffers… all these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self esteem, as well as to your self improvement scheme.

Dart Pin #3: Changing Environment

You can’t be a green bug on a brown field. Changes challenge our paradigms. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think. Changes will make life difficult for awhile, it may cause stress but it will help us find ways to improve our selves. Change will be there forever, we must be susceptible to it.

Dart Pin #4: Past Experience

It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But don’t let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.

Dart Pin #5: Negative World View

Look at what you’re looking at. Don’t wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the world. In building self esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of worst situations.

Dart Pin #6: Determination Theory

The way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end product of your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and your environmental surroundings such as your spouse, the company, the economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity. (Ways to get Moving when you feel Stuck in Life) If your father is a failure, it doesn’t mean you have to be a failure too. Learn from other people’s experience, so you’ll never have to encounter the same mistakes.

Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self esteem and drawing lines for self improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent. God wouldn’t come down from heaven and tell you – “George, you may now have the permission to build self esteem and improve your self.”

In life, its hard to stay tough specially when things and people around you keep pulling you down. When we get to the battle field, we should choose the right luggage to bring and armors to use, and pick those that are bullet proof. Life’s options give us arrays of more options. Along the battle, we will get hit and bruised. And wearing a bullet proof armor ideally means ‘self change’. The kind of change which comes from within. Voluntarily. Armor or Self Change  changes 4 things: our attitude, our behavior,thinking and our way of being happy.

Genuine Happiness Comes from Within

Life isn’t the sweetest candy. Sometimes, when I feel like the world is just too heavy, I look around and find people who continued to live fascinating and wonderful lives. And then thoughts come popping into my mind like bubbles from nowhere – “How did their life become so adorably sweet? How come they still can manage to laugh and play around despite a busy stressful life?”  Then I pause and observed for awhile… I figured out that maybe, they start to work on a place called ‘self’.

So, how does one become genuinely happy? Step 1 is to love yourself.

My theology professor once said that “loving means accepting.”  To love oneself means to accept that you are not a perfect being, but behind the imperfections must lie a great ounce of courage to be able to discover ways on how to improve your repertoire to recover from our mistakes.

Genuine happiness also pertains to contentment. When you are contented with the job you have, the way you look, with your family, your friends, the place you live in, your car, and all the things you now have – truly, you know the answer to the question “how to be genuinely happy.” Take time and Read ‘The Power of Gratitude’

When we discover a small start somewhere from within, that small start will eventually lead to something else, and to something else. But if you keep questioning life lit it has never done you any good, you will never be able to find genuine happiness.

I believe that life is about finding out about right and wrong, trying and failing, wining and losing. These are things that happen as often as you inhale and exhale. Failure, in a person’s life has become as abundant and necessary as air. But this should not hinder us from becoming happy.

How to be genuinely happy in spite all these? I tell you… every time you exert effort to improve the quality of life and your being, whether it is cleaning up your room, helping a friend, taking care of your sick dog, fail on board exams and trying again, life gives you equivalent points for that.

Imagine life as a big score board like those which are used in the NFLs. Every time you take a step forward, you make scoring points. Wouldn’t it be nice to look at that board at the end of each game and think to yourself “Whew! I got a point today. I’m glad I gave it a shot.”, instead of looking at it all blank and murmur “Geez, I didn’t even hit a score today. I wish I had the guts to try out. We could have won!” and then walk away.

Genuine happiness isn’t about driving the hottest Formula 1 car, nor getting the employee of the year award, earning the highest 13th month pay, or beating the sales quota. Sometimes, the most sought after prizes in life doesn’t always go to the fastest, the strongest, the bravest or not even the best. So, how do you become genuinely happy?  Every one has his own definition of ‘happiness’. Happiness for a writer may mean launching as much best selling books as possible. Happiness for a basketball rookie may mean getting the rookie of the year award. Happiness for a beggar may mean a lot of money. Happiness for a business man may mean success. So, really now, how do we become genuinely happy?

Simple. You don’t have to have the best things in this world. Its about doing and making the best out of every single thing. When you find yourself smiling at your own mistake and telling your self “Oh, I’ll do better next time”, you carry with you a flame of strong will power to persevere that may spread out like a brush fire. You possess a willingness to stand up again and try – that will make you a genuinely happy person. By the Way, it makes me Happy if you go here  and download one of my ebooks.

Stop Waiting – Take Action Now!

Does that Resonate with you? Of course just creating a list of things you want to change and knowing a bit more what it is you want from life is only a very small first step in getting there. Now you have to actually start making things happen for yourself and that means taking small, positive steps toward achieving your new goals. This is where most people go wrong. Not because they go about achieving their goals in the wrong way (though this happens) but because they don’t go about it at all. The big problem for many of us is that we’re seemingly ‘waiting’ for something to happen. We’re happy to just go along with our current lifestyles which are ‘good enough’ rather than aim for something bigger and better. Sometimes this comes down to fear. Sometimes this comes down to thinking they have no other option. Sometimes it comes down to believing that waiting is legitimately the best strategy for getting what they want.maybe you check out How to Thrive to be the Worlds Greatest. The ultimate example of this is retirement. How many people do you think live their lives cautiously because they’re saving for retirement? How many people put off going on holidays and traveling the world because they think it’s better to wait for that pay off? But when you think about it, this makes no sense at all. Of course it makes sense to plan for the future but why would you defer your happiness until you’re at a point in your life where you’re not physically capable of enjoying it to the fullest? Why wait until you have no energy and a painful knee and spine before you start travelling the globe? It just makes no sense when you could take action now and start having the things you want immediately. Instead, you could start seeing the world now by taking sabbaticals or just by prioritizing your travel on your experience rather than spending money on other things or saving as much. Don’t wait for that perfect moment – do the things you want to do now and live the life you want to live! Another example of this is wealth. A lot of people will dream about the things they want from life when they’re wealthy. How many times have you imagined your perfect home that you will buy when you’re rolling in cash? It’s something most of us have done at some point. But now think about what that perfect home actually entails. Most likely, it’s a fairly standard property but with the added bonus of looking cleaner, more spacious and more luxurious. Does it need to be huge? Does a huge house really make you happier? Probably not. So instead of waiting until you’re rich to have your dream home, how about thinking how you can make your current home into your dream home? Take action now on the things you want!

How to Turn Your Current Home Into Your Dream Home

Let’s take this moment to look at how you can turn any property into a dream home on a modest budget. This will hopefully then serve as a good example of how you can get what you want from life much more easily once you’ve narrowed down what you really want. In this case, you say you want to be rich, but what you really want is a beautiful home. You’re putting off doing it because you think that that requires you to be wealthy or retired but you can have it right now if you just focus on the small differences that will make that property feel closer to the one in your dreams.

Here are some steps you can take:

Throw out a lot of your things 

This might sound surprising but the more of your things you throw out, the more items you’ll be left with will start to look beautiful and amazing. If you have a lot of clutter in your home, then you’re essentially lowering the average value and the average quality of the things you do own. Throw out 90% of your ornaments and the remaining 10% will be the most amazing looking things you have. Likewise, they’ll look less cluttered and thereby draw more attention to themselves. They’ll also be much easier to clean!

Go more minimal

In general, going more minimal with your décor can help you to make your home look much bigger and it makes it that much easier to clean. It’s also a very modern look that’s much more affordable. So stop spending lots of money on large collections of items you don’t need and instead save up for just a few beautiful things.

Prioritize!

If it’s your home that gives you the most pleasure then how about prioritizing it and spending a bit more money on it right now? That might mean cancelling your television subscription for instance and putting that cash into a cleaner, or it might mean not going on holiday this year and getting double glazing instead.

Learn décor

This is a big one. Instead of just placing items around based on what you think looks good, spend some time learning what makes great décor. Once you learn the tricks, you can take a relatively standard looking room and make it look incredible. Does your room have a color palette? Do your cushions match your drapes? It sounds silly but these practices have developed over years of research and business and they make a huge difference.

Look for bargains

If you know where to look and you leverage your contacts, you can make some amazing additions to your home relatively cheaply. This may mean that you speak nicely to your friend who happens to be a builder (mate’s rates!) or it might mean that you look on free cycle to find free furniture.

Get a few center pieces

Just a few high tech pieces of technology, or a few amazing decorations can make all the difference to your home. Depending on your priorities that might mean adding a massive flat screen TV to your living room, or some kind of spectacular water fountain. This bit is expensive but it’s all about investing your money wisely – making the biggest impact with the fewest changes. And sometimes it’s just about doing something different that people don’t see all that often. This makes your home memorable and it doesn’t even have to be expensive. Suddenly, that home that you thought was off limits starts to feel a lot closer. Sure, it’s a compromise, but while you work on becoming that millionaire you’ll be much happier with the property you’re in. Stop deferring your happiness, ask what you can do right now within your means to be happier! The same kind of approach can be applied to your dress sense (just a few clever changes can make your outfits that much more impressive) and to your lifestyle. In the next post, we’ll be looking at some of the ways you can start making real progress in your career now instead of waiting for something to change for you. Please don´t forget that Intuition is helpful, because sometimes it leads you to something that cannot be achieved otherwise. A lot of lives have been saved by intuition alone. Decisions are easier done if armed by this gift. Develop intuition now and reap benefits you have never imagined. When you learn to accept yourself and your own faults. You pass step 1 in the project “how to become genuinely happy”. For as long as you know how to accept others, you will also be accepted. For as long as you love and know how to love, you will receive love ten folds back.

Again, throw me that same question “how to become genuinely happy?”. I’ll refer you to a friend of mine who strongly quoted- “Most of us know that laughter is the best medicine to life’s aches and pain. But most of us don’t know that the best kind of laughter is laughter over self. Coz then you don’t just become happy… you become free.”

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3 Ways To Be Unf*ckwithable by Vishen Lakhiani

  “What Really Makes You Unfuckwithable?”

You know that feeling you get when the universe has your back and no one can mess with you or pretty much f**k with you?

Discussing 10 questions you should ask to yourself.

Be all you can be, but it’s not always in the Army. I often see myself as somewhat contented with my life the way things are, but of course it’s hard to think of anything else when where are real issues to be discussed.

Still I aspire for something deeper and more meaningful.

So we’re all pelted with problems. Honestly it shouldn’t even bother or even hinder us to becoming all we ought to be. Aspirations as kids should continue to live within us, even though it would be short-lived or as long as we could hold on to the dream. They say you can’t teach an old dog new tricks… or can they?

When you are truly genuine, there will invariably be people who do not accept you. And in that case, you must be your own bad ass self, without apology. What does it mean to be unfuckwithable? It means being, becoming, and overcoming the pinnacle of yourself, in the moment, despite self-doubt or the doubt of others. It means full engagement with being, becoming, and overcoming the best possible version of yourself. It’s walking into a room, fiercely radiating, doing as Rumi advised, “Wherever you stand, be the soul of that place.” Because you simply cannot be fucked with when you’re the soul of a place. Being unfuckwithable is the absolute, the absoluuute realization that expectation and attachment are poison, because it is precisely expectation and attachment that makes one fuckwithable. In order to be unfuckwithable, expectation and attachment must be let go of.

So here are the 10 Questions I Asked : Check that!!!

1. What do I really want?

The question of the ages. So many things you want to do with your life and so little time to even go about during the day.

Find something that you are good at can help realize that small step towards improvement. Diligence is the key to know that it is worth it.

2. Should I really change?

Today’s generation has taken another level of redefining ‘self’, or at least that’s what the kids are saying. Having an army of teenage nieces and nephews has taught me that there are far worse things that they could have had than acne or maybe even promiscuity. So how does that fit into your lifestyle?

If history has taught us one thing, it’s the life that we have gone through. Try to see if partying Seventies style wouldn’t appeal to the younger generation, but dancing is part of partying. Watch them applaud after showing them how to really dance than break their bones in break-dancing.

3. What’s the bright side in all of this?

With so much is happening around us there seem to be no room for even considering that light at the end of the tunnel. We can still see it as something positive without undergoing so much scrutiny. And if it’s a train at the end of the tunnel, take it for a ride and see what makes the world go round!

4. Am I comfortable with what I’m doing?

There’s always the easy way and the right way when it comes to deciding what goes with which shoes, or purse, shirt and whatnot. It doesn’t take a genius to see yourself as someone unique, or else we’ll all be equally the same in everything we do. Variety brings in very interesting and exciting questions to be experimented.

5. Have I done enough for myself?

Have you, or is there something more you want to do? Discontentment in every aspect can be dangerous in large doses, but in small amounts you’ll be able to see and do stuff you could never imagine doing.

6. Am I happy at where I am today?

It’s an unfair question so let it be an answer! You love being a good and loving mom or dad to your kids, then take it up a notch! Your kids will love you forever. The same goes with everyday life!

7. Am I appealing to the opposite sex?

So maybe I don’t have an answer to that, but that doesn’t mean I can’t try it, though. Whether you shape-up, change the way you wear your clothes or hair, or even your attitude towards people, you should always remember it will always be for your own benefit.

8. How much could I have?

I suppose in this case there is no such things on having things too much or too little, but it’s more on how badly you really need it. I’d like to have lots of money, no denying that, but the question is that how much are you willing to work for it?

9. What motivates me?

What motivates you? It’s an answer you have to find out for yourself. There are so many things that can make everyone happy, but to choose one of the may be the hardest part. It’s not like you can’t have one serving of your favorite food in a buffet and that’s it. Just try it piece by piece.

10. What Really Makes You Tick?

So? What really makes you tick? You can be just about anything you always wanted to be, but to realize that attaining something that may seem very difficult is already giving up before you even start that journey. Always remember, that self-improvement is not just about the physical or philosophical change you have to undergo, but it’s something that you really want.

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Hopelessness and Zen - How it leads to eternal bliss

Hopelessness And How To Get Rid Of It

In this day and age, hopelessness is rampant. The focus of this blog is on how to step into your greatness; how to live a better life and not just with moments of happiness but with real happiness. We want happiness that permeates our days, our weeks, our years, and our lifetime. This is the happiness that we are pursuing.

Sometimes in life we go through really challenging times. These challenging times can make it very difficult to be happy. It’s not that we don’t believe that it’s possible to be happy; it’s that what’s going on in the moment makes it very challenging to have hope, to be happy, and to believe that, in the end, everything is going to work out for the best.There are many valid reasons why people are losing hope in the world today. Even when the reasons are valid, it is important not to give up hope. I think that Hopelessness is a burden that weighs you down and prevents you from being able to do your best and enjoy your life. If you give in to hopelessness, you will only spiral down further into a quagmire of depression.

Modern psychologists believe that hopelessness is triggered by a loss of satisfaction of basic needs. These needs are survival, accomplishment and attachment. When the things and circumstances you need to be able to sustain these three qualities are compromised, you are very likely to feel hopeless.

  Hopelessness comes in several forms that can affect a person individually or in combination. Each type of hopelessness requires a different type of approach in treatment. In this article, we will discuss the types of hopelessness people experience and present some ideas for coping with hopelessness.

The need for attachment is very strong, but in the modern world many people feel isolated and alienated. My Urgency for Success 6 Steps in helping you to develop that Drive for Success. Alienation causes sufferers to feel different from others, and this makes them feel rootless and helpless. When a person feels unloved, unsupported, uncared for and undervalued, alienation based hopelessness is bound to ensue.

People who are stuck in unsatisfying circumstances due to lack of opportunities or resources may feel completely uninspired and powerless to make positive changes. This is because they cannot successfully attain a feeling of mastery due to their circumstances. Furthermore, this type of situation may cause problems with meeting attachment needs because of a lack of strong, positive mentors and other supportive people available.

Members of groups that are considered second class citizens may feel oppressed, limited and hopeless because of being held outside of mainstream society and prevented from attaining their full potential. This can also be true of people who are imprisoned or held against their will in captive or abusive situations. All of these forms of hopelessness affect a person’s ability to maintain feelings of mastery, attachment to supportive others and a sense of the ability to safely survive. Learn to be totally aware of Life.

People who are seriously ill or who feel unsafe in the world may experience feelings of doom and helplessness. Their ability to successfully survive and form meaningful attachments are compromised due to fear for health, life and/or safety.

It is important to remember that feelings of hopelessness often really are in your head. When you feel hopeless, you feel like spending more time alone, it is important to make it a point to seek out the company of others and find someone to talk with and share your thoughts and feelings. If your need for attachment is met, you will have an easier time coping if your other needs are threatened. Discover your through purpose for being here and create a life you love. This week I want to introduce you to some methods i discovered over time. Using meditation in good times prevents you from further Hopelessness, so let me show you some techniques to master your Hopelessness.

An Introduction to Meditation

When we think of taking control of our minds and finding calm in a busy and hectic world, many of us will instantly think of meditation. Meditation is an ancient practice that is used by billions of people around the world and that has been practiced for centuries. Now scientists and researchers are starting to decode it’s many benefits but nevertheless, it’s still very understood by a great number of people. Let’s take a closer look at meditation, how it can help us and how you should get started.

Do Yoda Proud: Meditation 101

Meditation refers to a state where your body and mind are consciously relaxed and focused.  Practitioners of this art report increased awareness, focus, and concentration, as well as a more positive outlook in life.

Meditation is most commonly associated with monks, mystics and other spiritual disciplines.  However, you don’t have to be a monk or mystic to enjoy its benefits.  And you don’t even have to be in a special place to practice it.  You could even try it in your own living room!

Although there are many different approaches to meditation, the fundamental principles remain the same.  The most important among these principles is that of removing obstructive, negative, and wandering thoughts and fantasies, and calming the mind with a deep sense of focus.  This clears the mind of debris and prepares it for a higher quality of activity.

Just What is Meditation? Perhaps a good place to start is to answer the question: what is meditation? While many people think of meditation as a way to ‘achieve enlightenment’, to recreate the effects of hallucinogenic drugs, or to practice various religions; the reality is that meditation is simply a form of practicing control over your thoughts. It can be all those things, but at its most basic, meditation means try to focus your thoughts or clear your mind, which is essentially the equivalent of training your attention. So often our thoughts are reactive. We are constantly being distracted and taken from one experience to the next – whether due to television, to music or to something

else entirely. But when you meditate, you will be actively controlling your thoughts. You will become introspective and you will start to reflect on the very nature of thought itself. And as you do, you’ll learn to remain in control of your thought processes so as to prevent yourself from becoming easily distracted, stressed, angry or otherwise experiencing inappropriate or unhelpful emotions. This is a highly valuable form of training and one that’s particularly relevant in today’s fast-paced and constantly-connected world. Meditation can help us to conquer stress, to improve concentration in a range of tasks.

The Varied Benefits of Meditation

Studies show that meditation can help us to improve our mood, our concentration, our focus, our creativity and more. It has both immediate benefits by providing us with a break from the stress of our internal monolog and helping us to experience ‘theta brainwaves’ but it also has long term benefits as we start to learn to better control and understand our own thoughts and emotions. Meditation has even been shown to boost our IQ! That’s right, it can actually make you smarter. And this also correlates with more connective tissue in the brain and a greater ability to utilize different areas of the brain at once for single tasks. Fortunately, meditation is gradually starting to make its way into the mainstream. More and more ‘productivity’ and ‘lifestyle’ coaches are recommending its benefits and it forms an integral part of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy – which is currently the most popular form of clinical intervention for a whole host of psychological difficulties. Still not convinced? Then I invite you to have a listen to Tim Ferriss’ podcasts. Tim Ferriss is the author of The Four Hour Workweek and is one of the most influential writers on the net when it comes to topics like fitness, self-improvement, productivity and happiness. His most recent project – the podcast – sees him interviewing a large number of different influential figures. Those include Matt Mullenweg (creator of WordPress), Maria Popova (of Brain Pickings), Arnold Schwarzenegger and many, many more. One of the questions he’ll often ask them is what their morning routine looks like and if they have any other habits they consider important to their success.

What does Tim Ferriss note is the one thing that nearly all his interviewees have in common? They all meditate. So if you want to be one of the world’s most influential entrepreneurs, if you want to be spiritually enlightened or if you just want to be smarter then you need to start meditating! But while meditation has benefits across the board, it’s worth noting that some forms of meditation appear to be more effective at promoting specific physiological benefits than others (according to a study from the National University of Singapore). If you want to get the best benefits from meditation, then you need to choose the right type to get started with. Here’s what the study found when comparing Theravada and Vajrayana meditation…

Theravada Meditation

In the study from the National University of Singapore, it was found that Theravada meditation is more effective than Vajrayana (below) for promoting relaxation and calmness. Studies measured activity of the parasympathetic nervous system – the prime purpose of which is to promote calmness – while practitioners were deep in meditation.

Vajrayana Meditation

Those using Vajrayana meanwhile were found to activate their sympathetic nervous systems, which control the fight-or-flight response. In short, this would lead to elevated heartrate, focus and arousal. This is a particularly interesting finding, as conventionally we view meditation as a means to calm ourselves and to relax. After the participants had engaged in their meditative practices, both groups were then asked to take cognitive tests and it was found that the Vajrayana group were able to boost their performance considerably from a single session. The same boost in cognitive performance was not seen in those using Vajrayana meditation. This demonstrates the broadness of the term ‘meditation’ and shows that different types of meditation have different specific advantages. In this scenario, you might decide to use Vajrayana meditation to psych yourself up for a competition or to prepare for an interview, then use Theravada meditation to calm down afterwards or to chill out before bed.

An Introduction to the Different Types of Meditation

As you can see then, the type of meditation you use is a very important factor in determining the outcome. Likewise, you will likely find that some forms of meditation are more accessible and enjoyable than others, depending on your own goals, your experience and your interests. The question then becomes: where to start? Read on and we’ll look at some different types of meditation and some different terms. Bear in mind that you don’t have to stick rigidly to any one of these and actually you can create your own ‘kind’ of meditation by just setting your own goals. Nevertheless, any of these will provide you with a good starting point to do more of your own research and to start practicing the art of meditation.

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Mindfulness:

Mindfulness, also called ‘Vipassana’, is a type of meditation that comes from Buddhism. It’s also the form of meditation that’s perhaps most widely used in the Western world today – a good example being its use within CBT (this is something we’re going to come to in much more detail in my next story). Essentially, the goal in Mindfulness is to be ‘aware’ and to be ‘present’ of your own thoughts and to reflect on them. This form of meditation doesn’t encourage you to try and empty your mind then, but rather the objective is simply to let your thoughts ‘drift by’ like clouds in the sky. What this then allows you to do, is to become more aware of what thoughts you actually tend to have, thereby being better able to spot negative thought patterns etc. that might be causing problems. This type of meditation has also been shown to reduce anxiety, almost as effectively as anxiety-reducing drugs. Perhaps the biggest advantage of mindfulness though, is that it’s not as challenging as trying to completely empty your mind of thoughts and thus provides a great starting point for those interested in learning.

Zazen:

Zazen is a term that essentially means ‘seated meditation’ and is sometimes referred to by the modern Zen tradition as ‘just sitting’. This is an incredibly minimalist sort of meditation, which once again makes it ideal for those interested in getting started by feeling a little anxious to give it a go. The only instruction here is to sit with the correct posture, meaning that there’s no pressure to get anything ‘right’. The simple act of sitting completely still is almost sure to result in a calming effect and to gradually clear your mind, thus there is no need for complex instruction beyond ‘just sitting’.

While this is the core principle behind Zazen, it will sometimes be more complex than that. Often practitioners are given a paradoxical sentence, a story, a question or an element of Buddhist scripture to ‘muse on’. This method of meditation has also been adopted by a number of other religions – whereby believers are asked to think about lines from their respective religious scripts, or to think over scenes from their literature. For some, the lack of guidance is going to make this an approachable and enjoyable form of meditation, for others it can be frustrating and might leave you lost. Spiritual Meditation: Another way in which meditation has been adopted by religions is through spiritual meditation. This is essentially a form of meditative prayer – and prayer has been shown to have many similar benefits to other forms of meditation.

Transcendental Meditation:

Transcendental meditation comes from Vedanta, which is the meditative tradition from Hinduism. TM is once again seated (ideally in lotus or half-lotus position) and this time uses a mantra. A mantra is any word or sound of your choice, which is simply repeated over and over again. The idea behind this form of meditation is simply to ‘rise above’ any distractions or thoughts, effectively clearing your mind of all thoughts and living entirely in the moment. Alternatively, you can try focussing on your breathing in order to calm your thoughts. The ultimate objective of transcendental meditation is transcendence. This is the meditation that is used as a path to ‘enlightenment’ which is reportedly a feeling of ‘oneness’ with the universe and perfect contentment. In reality, it’s likely that enlightenment is merely a brain state, achieved by relaxing areas of the brain and thus getting them to shut down. This is something that takes years to master though and is highly elusive, if you use transcendental meditation with the sole objective of reaching this kind of state, you a likely to be disappointed. That said though, if you can reach this state, the effect is something similar to being on drugs or having a stroke. It’s completely mind-bending but not damaging in the same way those other examples are. You lose the ability to distinguish time and to distinguish your own body in physical space as those areas of your brain close down. If you want to have an ‘end goal’, then this is certainly something interesting to aim for. When done correctly, transcendental meditation is ideal as a way to relax and to move your thoughts away from stress. It can be used to calm the heart rate and is a fantastic ‘coping mechanism’ if you suffer with anxiety. It’s also quite difficult though and many people give up after becoming frustrated at the inability to quiet their inner voice. The secret to success is to go easy on yourself and not to force it.

Focussed Meditation:

As with transcendental/mantra meditation, focused meditation involves the practice of trying to completely clear your thoughts by focussing on something else. Mantra meditation is one form of focussed meditation, but you could alternatively try focusing on external stimuli (like the sound of a river, or a piece of meditative music), or even on something like a candle flame. Guided Visualisation: Guided visualisation is a form of meditation wherein the practitioner visualises a scenario or environment. The ‘guided’ part of this process involves listening to a recording, which often will describe the scene you are in. This kind of meditation is great for relaxing and for moving your thoughts away from the hustle and bustle of daily life, before you achieve the ability to block out your surroundings through other forms of meditation. If you’re feeling stressed and you want to immediately calm down, then guided visualisation is a useful tool. However, it doesn’t require the same discipline as other forms of meditation and so is not likely to help develop your ability to focus or to calm yourself in the same way.

Movement Meditation:

In movement meditation, you relax your mind while focussing on your body and moving through a range of gentle movements. A great example of this is Tai Chi Chuan, which is a martial art practiced incredibly slowly involving a set of gentle movements. While it takes time to learn something like a Tai Chi set, you can practice movement meditation by using a dance routine (Solja Boy?) or even by just swaying gently from side-to-side.

Vipassana:

Vipassana is ‘insight meditation’ (Vipassana is Theravada meditation, Theravada being a branch of Buddhism). This is meditation which involves ‘close attention to sensation’ with the goal being to discover ‘the nature of existence’. This form of meditation comes from Buddhism and was believed to be the type practiced by ‘Buddha himself’. To practice this form of meditation, you sit down and then focus on your abdomen and feel the way that the breathing moves your stomach. Likewise, be aware of the other sensations throughout your body, trying to remain focussed and calm simultaneously. When interruptions come – such as sounds, other thoughts, or temperatures, you should ‘note’ those sensations and give them labels such as ‘warmth’ or ‘thinking’. Vipassana is often practiced on retreats, where participants alternate between seated and walking meditation.

Vajrayana:

Vajrayana is another branch of Buddhism. Vajrayana meditation is a complicated and advanced form of meditation, which involves the goal of becoming ‘buddha’ like. There are various types of meditation within Vajrayana, such as Mahamudra. This form of meditation involves attempts to empty the mind once again, this time by simply ‘doing nothing’ to the extent where you aren’t even focussed on trying to meditate. Both the Theravada and Vajrayana forms of meditation are advanced methods and require years of practice to perfect and an understanding of the surrounding beliefs and cultures. They are also only two examples of the many complex and varied forms of meditation that exist.

Talk to a Friend – Meditate together, regularly

Having the opportunity to discuss your fears and perceptions will help you to put them in perspective. Often feelings of hopelessness arise from over-generalizing and amplifying very small events and actions on the parts of others or even ourselves. Seeking feedback and a new perspective from others can help you pull yourself out of the spiral of hopelessness.

The negative thoughts you have – those of noisy neighbors, bossy officemates, that parking ticket you got, and unwanted spam– are said to contribute to the ‘polluting’ of the mind, and shutting them out is allows for the ‘cleansing’ of the mind so that it may focus on deeper, more meaningful thoughts.The Power of Gratitude helped me also along the way.

Practice meditation regularly.

Meditation leads to eternal bliss. Therefore meditate, meditate, meditate.

Some practitioners even shut out all sensory input – no sights, no sounds, and nothing to touch – and try to detach themselves from the commotion around them.  You may now focus on a deep, profound thought if this is your goal.  It may seem deafening at first, since we are all too accustomed to constantly hearing and seeing things, but as you continue this exercise you will find yourself becoming more aware of everything around you.

If you find the meditating positions you see on television threatening – those with impossibly arched backs, and painful-looking contortions – you need not worry.  The principle here is to be in a comfortable position conducive to concentration.  This may be while sitting cross-legged, standing, lying down, and even walking.

If the position allows you to relax and focus, then that would be a good starting point.  While sitting or standing, the back should be straight, but not tense or tight.  In other positions, the only no-no is slouching and falling asleep.

Loose, comfortable clothes help a lot in the process since tight fitting clothes have a tendency to choke you up and make you feel tense.

The place you perform meditation should have a soothing atmosphere.  It may be in your living room, or bedroom, or any place that you feel comfortable in.  You might want an exercise mat if you plan to take on the more challenging positions (if you feel more focused doing so, and if the contortionist in you is screaming for release).  You may want to have the place arranged so that it is soothing to your senses.

Silence helps most people relax and meditate, so you may want a quiet, isolated area far from the ringing of the phone or the humming of the washing machine.  Pleasing scents also help in that regard, so stocking up on aromatic candles isn’t such a bad idea either.

The monks you see on television making those monotonous sounds are actually performing their mantra.  This, in simple terms, is a short creed, a simple sound which, for these practitioners, holds a mystic value.

You do not need to perform such; however, it would pay to note that focusing on repeated actions such as breathing, and humming help the practitioner enter a higher state of consciousness.

The principle here is focus.  You could also try focusing on a certain object or thought, or even, while keeping your eyes open, focus on a single sight.

One sample routine would be to – while in a meditative state – silently name every part of you body and focusing your consciousness on that part. While doing this you should be aware of any tension on any part of your body.  Mentally visualize releasing this tension.  It works wonders.

In all, meditation is a relatively risk-free practice and its benefits are well worth the effort (or non-effort – remember we’re relaxing).

Studies have shown that meditation does bring about beneficial physiologic effects to the body.  And there has been a growing consensus in the medical community to further study the effects of such.  So in the near future, who knows, that mystical, esoteric thing we call meditation might become a science itself!

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About Choices and the Decisions We Make

Life is About Choices and the Decisions We Make

One night, I lay awake for hours, just terrified. When the dawn finally came up – the comfortable blue sky, the familiar world returning – I could think of no other way to express my relief than through writing and trading forex. I made a decision there and then that it was what I wanted to do.

Once you begin to replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results. It is Simple isn´t it?

Life is like a road. There are long and short roads; smooth and rocky roads; crooked and straight paths. In our life many roads would come our way as we journey through life. There are roads that lead to a life of single blessedness, marriage, and religious vocation. There are also roads that lead to fame and fortune on one hand, or isolation and poverty on the other. There are roads to happiness as there are roads to sadness, roads towards victory and jubilation, and roads leading to defeat and disappointment.

Just like any road, there are corners, detours, and crossroads in life. Perhaps the most perplexing road that you would encounter is a crossroad. With four roads to choose from and with limited knowledge on where they would go, which road will you take? What is the guarantee that we would choose the right one along the way? Would you take any road, or just stay where you are: in front of a crossroad?

    There are no guarantees.

You do not really know where a road will lead you until you take it. There are no guarantees. This is one of the most important things you need to realize about life. Nobody said that choosing to do the right thing all the time would always lead you to happiness. Loving someone with all your heart does not guarantee that it would be returned. Gaining fame and fortune does not guarantee happiness. Accepting a good word from an influential superior to cut your trip short up the career ladder is not always bad, especially if you are highly qualified and competent.  There are too many possible outcomes, which your really cannot control. The only thing you have power over is the decisions that you will make, and how you would act and react to different situations.

Wrong decisions are always at hindsight.

Had you known that you were making a wrong decision, would you have gone along with it? Perhaps not, why would you choose a certain path when you know it would get you lost? Why make a certain decision if you knew from the very beginning that it is

not the right one. It is only after you have made a decision and reflected on it that you realize its soundness. If the consequences or outcomes are good for you, then you have decided correctly. Otherwise, your decision was wrong.

    Take the risk: decide.

Since life offers no guarantee and you would never know that your decision would be wrong until you have made it, then you might as well take the risk and decide. It is definitely better than keeping yourself in limbo. Although it is true that one wrong turn could get you lost, it could also be that such a turn could be an opportunity for an adventure, moreover open more roads. It is all a matter of perspective. You have the choice between being a lost traveler or an accidental tourist of life.  But take caution that you do not make decisions haphazardly. Taking risks is not about being careless and stupid. Here are some pointers that could help you choose the best option in the face of life’s crossroads. How to Thrive to be the Worlds Greatest.

Get as many information as you can about your situation.

You cannot find the confidence to decide when you know so little about what you are faced with. Just like any news reporter, ask the 5 W’s: what, who, when, where, and why. What is the situation? Who are the people involved? When did this happen? Where is this leading? Why are you in this situation? These are just some of the possible questions to ask to know more about your situation. This is important. Oftentimes, the reason for indecision is the lack of information about a situation.

Identify and create options.

What options do the situation give you? Sometimes the options are few, but sometimes they are numerous. But what do you do when you think that the situation offers no options? This is the time that you create your own. Make your creative mind work. From the most simplistic to the most complicated, entertain all ideas. Do not shoot anything down when an idea comes to your head. Sometimes the most outrage

ous idea could prove to be the right one in the end. You can ask a friend to help you identify options and even make more options if you encounter some difficulty, but make sure that you make the decision yourself in the end.

  Weigh the pros and cons of every option.

Assess each option by looking at the advantages and disadvantages it offers you. In this way, you get more insights about the consequences of such an option.

    Trust yourself and make that decision.

I am going to ask you to something very weird right now. First of all, I want you to listen to your thoughts. Now tell me, what thoughts fill your head? Would you label them as positive, or negative? Now let’s say you are walking down the street with these thoughts. Do you think anyone who would meet you would be able to tell you what’s on your mind? The answer to number one is

up to you. But, the answer number two can be pretty generic. Although people will not be able to tell you exactly what you think, they will more or less have an idea of how you are feeling.

Here’s another question. When you enter a party filled with friends, do they all fall silent as if something terrible had happened? Or does everybody there perk up as if waiting for something exciting to happen? You know what? The answer to all these depends on your frame of mind. Thoughts are very powerful. They affect your general attitude. The attitude you carry reflects on your appearance, too – unless, of course, you are a great actor.

And it doesn’t end there. Your attitude can also affect people around you.

The type of attitude you carry depends on you. It can be either positive or negative. Ways to get Moving when you feel Stuck in Life

Positive thoughts have a filling effect. They are admittedly invigorating. Plus, the people around the person carrying positive thoughts are usually energized by this type of attitude. Negative thoughts on the other hand have a sapping effect on other people. Aside from making you look gloomy and sad, negative thoughts can turn a festive gathering into a funeral wake. A positive attitude attracts people, while a negative attitude repels them. People tend to shy away from those who carry a negative attitude, don´t forget that! Now that you have assessed your options, it is now time to trust yourself. Remember that there are no guarantees and wrong decisions are always at hindsight.  So choose… decide… believe that you are choosing the best option at this point in time.

Now that you have made a decision, be ready to face its consequences: good and bad. It may take you to a place of promise or to a land of problems. But the important thing is that you have chosen to live your life instead of remaining a bystander or a passive audience to your own life. Whether it is the right decision or not, only time can tell. But do not regret it whatever the outcome. Instead, learn from it and remember that you always have the chance to make better decisions in the future.

  Time to Take Control  

  Do you ever get the feeling like you’re constantly putting out fires? Like life is one massive struggle to stay afloat? Do you come home from work feeling tired and stressed and without the energy to do anything other than collapse in front of the TV? Do you always feel like you’re just not quite as happy as you think you could be/should be? That’s life my friend.

Or at least it’s life as many of us have come to know it. In fact though, there’s no reason that this should necessarily be the case.

  The problem is that we’re always chasing after the gold at the end of the rainbow and in doing so, we never stop to smell the roses.What does it mean to be an Innovator in Life? Sorry to mix metaphors there but I feel it paints a fairly accurate picture of the situation. We’re never happy because we’re always striving for what’s next. We’re always stressed about what’s coming up and we never appreciate what we have until we lose it. We think that the only way to change this is to change our lives. To work harder and longer. But it’s not. The way we change this is from the inside out. We need to change the way we think about our situation and we need to change the way we approach life’s problems and the way we enjoy the moment. And that means taking control of our minds. Once you can do that, you can take back control and you can feel confident, relaxed and happy in the exact same circumstances. Once you can do that, you can start creating the space to actually plot a course and to start changing life for the better. You can stop treading water and start swimming. All very abstract, yes. So far it sounds like a platitude from a bumper sticker. But stick with me, because this is where the science comes in. And it might just change the way you think about your life, your brain and the interplay between the two.

    It’s Your Perception That Matters.

Think about it this way: it’s not the situation that matters, it’s your perception of the situation that matters. And I mean this in the most literal and realistic of senses. Think about it this way: you can be surrounded by fire and be completely calm and happy, or you can be relaxing at home and be completely stressed. In the first case scenario, you’re surrounded by fire but you believe that you’re invincible. As far as you’re concerned, nothing can hurt you and you have nothing to fear. As a result, you remain calm and your heart rate doesn’t even rise (well, other than from the effects of the heat!). In the second scenario, you’re sitting at home, comfortable and with a warm cup of tea. You’re surrounded by family who love you and you have the TV on showing your favorite TV program. But all you can think about is the work you have to do tomorrow, your money problems and the fact that you’re not as well off as successful as you’d like to be. As a result, your body and brain interpret the signals as you being in danger. Your brain produces more nor-epinephrine, more cortisol, more dopamine and more adrenaline. As a result, the person who is surrounded by flames but deluded is actually happier and calmer than the person who is sat at home but stressing out. Now of course I’m not saying that you should be like the deluded guy surrounded by fire… That’s dangerous! But you also really shouldn’t be like the stressed guy who should be relaxed. And here’s the thing: lots of us are! THIS is why it’s so important to start taking control of your mind. Because it’s what will impact on your happiness, likeability .your calm, your focus and on all the other things that contribute to you being happy and successful.

If you have a positive attitude and constantly strive to give your best effort, eventually you will overcome your immediate problems and find you are ready for greater challenges and No matter what you’re going through, there’s a light at the end of the tunnel and it may seem hard to get to it but you can do it! Just keep working towards it and you’ll find the positive side of things.

Changing your environment and circumstances is often incredibly difficult – nigh impossible even – but you can change your desicions today. And that can bring incredible benefits

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Not everyone believes this but the emotional and mental aspects of a person, when combined, leads to a better self.

Emotions love to dominate our actions and reactions, even though we do not want it to happen sometimes. The society often see emotions as a sign of weakness, so people are used to putting them aside and focusing on the rational aspects more and more. No matter how strict and logical you may be, you will always feel. One way or another, someone or something will get through you. Expect to make some mistakes when you try new and different approaches. Sometimes colossal failures lead to spectacular successes.

I’m going to have setbacks and failures; I’m not going to see change right away all of the time or most of the time. But everybody I’ve ever respected has failed at one thing or another. (Watch Marie Forleo speaking with Seth Godin. Amazing Talk!) I’ve definitely fallen on my face. But I’ve also had a comparatively easy life.

People tend to put their positive emotions behind their negative feelings. This is one of the biggest problems that people come across during their lives. There is no clear way to ignore a negative experience and try to replace it with a positive one. Life just does not work that way. It’s important to celebrate your failures as much as your successes. If you celebrate your failures really well, and if you get to the motto and say,

‘Wow, I failed,

I tried,

I was wrong,

I learned something,’

then you realize you have no fear, and when your fear goes away, you can move the world.

We don’t grow unless we take risks. Any successful company is riddled with failures. Do not take yourself too seriously. You have to learn not to be dismayed at making mistakes. No human being can avoid failures.

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Think like an Innovator – Ignite the possibilities and find your Why

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It’s a talent that everyone has, yet they think they don’t. The power of innovation. If you’ve ever marvelled at somebody’s creative prowess, guess what, you can create and innovate too. It just takes time. Everyone is born creative. The box of crayons in kindergarten were not limited to those who possessed potential; because the truth is, everybody has potential, You have potential.

You know how long it took to learn to ride a bike or drive or to never commit the same mistake again? It’s the same with innovation. It takes a bit of practice and a lot of time before this mind function comes easily when called. This article will teach you a few tips on how to bring innovation into your life by knowing what you really want.

Don’t listen to what other people say. Follow the beat of your own drum. Allowing for the input of other people will only bring cacophony to the music you are trying to make. If you have an original idea, don’t waste your time and effort trying to make people understand. They won’t! And the help you will probably get comes in the form of negative feedback. If all those geniuses listened to their peers, we would probably still be living in the middle ages.

Spend time on it. I cannot stress that enough, although, please do not mistake this tip to tell you to quit your day job entirely. Do not. This involves some tricky time management but with a little discipline you’ll be able to squeeze both in.

Exercise. Take a walk. Run a mile or two. Send all those endorphins coursing through your veins. Exercising certainly clears and relaxes your mind and allows for anything to pop up.

Record your dreams. Aren’t some of them just the craziest things that your conscious mind would never have thought of? If you’ve had these dreams before, and I’m sure have, this only shows you the untapped innovative power you have lying within. So jot down those notes. Those dreams may just create an innovative spark in you.

Find your own style. You can always tell a Van Gogh from a Matisse. You’ll know Hemingway wrote something by the choice of words on the paper. So it is the same with you. People will appreciate your innovation more because it is uniquely yours and that no one else would have thought of what you were thinking. That will let people see how valuable an asset you are. Check out this Great Innovators.

Don’t hide behind nifty gadgets or tools. You don’t need the most expensive set of paints to produce a masterpiece. The same way with writing. You don’t need some expensive fountain pen and really smooth paper for a bestseller. In fact, J.K. Rowling wrote the first book of the Harry Potter Series on bits of tissue. So what if you’ve got an expensive SLR camera if you’re a crappy photographer? Who cares if you’ve got a blinging laptop if you can’t write at all? The artist actually reduces the number of tools he has as he gets better at his craft: he knows what works and what doesn’t.

But what’s really interesting is that how do people go through the usual part of life when faced with vein-popping stress? I mean, the new age thing like Zen or yoga is one of the good things and it actually works. Is there room for the intellectual side of people who can actually smell the roses-in-a-can while on the move? It kind of had me thinking that there really must be something in this ‘mind-over-matter’ thing.

Nothing will work without passion. Problem Solution Mastery And The Key To Find Your Passion. What wakes you up in the mornings? What keeps the flame burning? What is the one thing that you’ll die if you don’t do? Sometimes people with talent are overtaken by the people who want it more. Think the hare and the tortoise. Ellen Degeneres once said that if you’re not doing something that you want to do, then you don’t really want to do it. And that’s true. Sometimes you just want something so bad you become a virtual unstoppable. And that is passion. Passion will keep you going. Let´s discuss what you really want.

How to Know What You Really Want

The first step to getting what you want is knowing what you want. This is something that all too often gets overlooked and all too often it’s assumed that we already have this. How many motivational posters tell you things like ‘go after that one thing that makes you truly happy!’ or ‘never give up on your dreams!’? That’s all good and well if you’ve always wanted to open your own restaurant, or if you’ve dreamed of having your own successful band… But what if you don’t know what you want from life? What if you have lots of different interests that are all pulling you in different directions? What if you’re like my friend who is a pilot who has always dreamed of flying long haul, but who has a family back home who he’d never get to see? In these cases, telling someone to ‘seize the day and live [their] dreams’ just isn’t all that helpful!

What you need to do then is to prioritize and you need to look for the things you can get from life that will make you happiest and tick the most boxes. Let’s look at some of the ways you can do that…

  Look for the Common Themes

Very often, what this comes down to is identifying the commonalities in your dreams and objectives. In other words, if you want to be twenty things, then what do those twenty things have in common? If you want to be an actor and you’d love to be a rock star, then what is it about both those things that makes them appealing? What does being a rock star have in common with being an actor? Most likely the answer is that both put you in the public eye, both are a kind of performance and both bring a fair amount of wealth. So as long as you can tick all those boxes, you should be happy whatever you do.

The Five Whys

Another way to get to the bottom of what it is you really want and to discover why you want it is to use the ‘five whys’ technique. Here, you ask yourself the question ‘why’ five times in a row in order to dig deeper and deeper into your motivations.

  So let’s say you want to be a famous novelist… why? Because you want to create something that you can be proud of. Why? Because you want to leave some kind of lasting mark. Why? Because you respect and admire creative individuals who have done the same. Why? Because they can make a living by entertaining using only their imagination and their writing skills. Why does that appeal? Because you love to be creative and to be acknowledged for that creativity. Okay, now we’re getting somewhere!

  What you’ve learned is that perhaps it’s not being a novelist specifically that appeals so much as being able to be creative and to get credit for that creativity. This then opens up a huge selection of different potential career options: now you could be a comic writer, you could be an artist, you could work at a creative design agency… You can get what you want in a different way. Likewise, if you still dream of being an astronaut, then you might find that it’s actually the sense of discovery and pioneering that appeals to you. Being a researcher can actually bring about this same buzz and excitement even though you’re sitting right at home! Ultimately, you’re still being the first person to discover something exciting.

Look to Your Role Models

Another way to find out what it is you really want is to look at your role models and to see what it is about them that you admire. What parts of their lives would you like to emulate? Again: what do they have in common? I suggest Tony Robbins: Don´t Accept Limitations

Look Back

Another tip is to look back at what you wanted to be when you were younger. Sometimes this will have no bearing – we can change an awful lot in a few decades – but in other cases you’ll find that whatever it is you wanted to be back then still has some kind of appeal for you. Check out what i wrote about Gratitude. Back then, you likely dreamed of being something much more ambitious and less ‘realistic’ because the cynicism of adulthood had yet to sink in. Does that same thing still excite you though? Once again, you can then start thinking about what it is about that thing that appeals and how you could realistically achieve the same end.

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It might take a little coffee or probably a few rounds of beer or any other booze you could get your hands on when it comes to relaxing after a hard day’s work. Well, yeah I’m guilty about that one as well, unless I’m caught dead wearing a lampshade over my head after a few rounds of vodka… half-naked! Okay, bad example and I apologize to everyone reading this after getting nightmares about me in that state of drunken stupor.

Just don’t ask how it happened, please.

Humor is indeed the best medicine there is whenever you are. I mean anyone can pay good money to listen to a comedian just to make you wet your pants after laughing so hard. Despite of what’s been happening, and to those who has gone though the ordeal, it’s better to just laugh while facing the troubles with a clear mind than anger with a clouded vision. One of my favorite celebrities of all time may have to be Woody Allen. Now this is one guy who gives you the in-your-face bluntness that he pulls out with gusto, even without even trying. You can talk just about anything with a man, and he’s bound to mock the subject and you’ll end up laughing rather than being upset about it.

Woody Allen has this to say:

1. “Money is better than poverty, if only for financial reasons.” It sounds good to me, I mean the practicality of all things does involve money but it doesn’t have to take an arm and a leg to get it.

2. “I believe there is something out there watching us. Unfortunately, it’s the government.” ‘Nuff said.

3. “There are worse things in life than death. Have you ever spent an evening with an insurance salesman?” This happens to be one of the classic ones. I mean the issue about life’s little problems isn’t all that bad, until ‘he’ shows up.

Sure, relationships can get complicated, or does have its complications that probably any author about relationships is bound to discover it soon. We follow what our heart desires, unless you’re talking about the heart as in the heart that pump blood throughout your body.

4.“Love is the answer, but while you’re waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty interesting questions.” And if you want more, just keep on asking!

5. “A fast word about oral contraception. I asked a girl to go to bed with me, she said ‘no’.” It sounds, ‘practical’, I think.

And when it comes to everyday life, he really knows how to make the best out of every possible scenario, and it doesn’t involve a lawsuit if he strikes a nerve.

6. “Basically my wife was immature. I’d be at home in the bath and she’d come in and sink my boats.” I never had a boat in my bathtub before. Just staring at it while soaking in hot water makes me seasick already.

7. “I am not afraid of death, I just don’t want to be there when it happens.” If it rains, it pours.

8. “I am thankful for laughter, except when milk comes out of my nose.” It could get worse when you’re guzzling on beer… or mouthwash, and it happened to me once!

9. “If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans.” At least he doesn’t smite us with lightning, and I’m thankful for that.

And despite of what may happen to all of us in the next ten, twenty, or even thirty years, I guess we all have to see things in a different kind of light and not just perspective. I can’t seem to imagine life without any piece of wisdom that could guide us. Whether we’re religious or not, it takes more courage to accept your fears and learn how to deal with them is all that matters when it comes to even just getting along.

And to sum things up, here is the last nugget of wisdom to go by… however, whenever, and wherever we may be.

10. “The talent for being happy is appreciating and liking what you have, instead of what you don’t have.”

Don’t worry about inspiration. You can’t force it; inspiration hits when you least expect it to, for those unpredictable yet inevitable moments you should prepare. An idea could strike you on the subway, yet alas, you poor unfortunate soul; you have no sheet of paper to scribble down a thought that could change the world. Avoid these disasters. Have a pen and paper within your arm’s reach at all times. And as I mentioned earlier, “sometimes you just want something so bad you become a virtual unstoppable. And that is passion. Passion will keep you going.”

I hope this thought has helped you bring more innovation into your life. Keep in mind that you’re doing these things for your own satisfaction and not anybody else’s. But soon enough they will notice, and everything should snowball from there.

I begin with an idea and it becomes something else – Pablo Picasso

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Self-improvement is the name of the game, and your primary objective is to strengthen yourself, not to destroy an opponent. I’ve done a lot of self-improvement. I’m always working on being a better person. So, I think the output of our innovation is great. Starting to be the greatest vision you can imagine! We have a culture of self-improvement. However difficult life may seem, there is always something you can do and succeed at. There are several Ways to get Moving when you feel Stuck in Life. Did I offer peace today? Did I bring a smile to someone’s face? Did I say words of healing? Did I let go of my anger and resentment? Did I forgive? Did I love? These are the real questions. If you have a positive attitude and constantly strive to give your best effort, eventually you will overcome your immediate problems and find you are ready for greater challenges.

You are the sum total of everything you’ve ever seen, heard, eaten, smelled, been told, forgot – it’s all there. Everything influences each of us, and because of that I try to make sure that my experiences are positive. What about you? If only self improvement advice were free and scattered around everywhere, then there will be no problem regarding life, happiness and success.

But then again, this is life. And it does not work that way. What would you do if you are trapped in an environment that you do not want to be in? What if you are sick and tired of your job?

What can we do to solve this dilemma?

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People are usually afraid of negative things. They are afraid of self-improvement because of this fear. This may help you in this situation. In psychological self-improvement, The best way to remove this fear is to understand that life is always in the cycle of ups and downs. No one is permanently up or permanently down. Remember that no one can avoid these ups and downs even the most envied Hollywood stars.

What we should do about these downs is to learn from it and not to avoid it. We should learn how to handle our problems for our psychological self-improvement.

Problems affect us every day. These problems bring us misery due to the fact that we have feelings. We should never loose hope in figuring out solutions to these problems. All we need is to learn how to overcome it and not to be overcome. Problems can never be overcome but we can learn from them. This is where Psychology plays an important role. The Power of Gratitude etc.

Psychologists say that we should always be careful in our decisions concerning our problems. We should handle our problems properly and learn how to deal with it. Learning from mistakes helps us in preparing ourselves for psychological self-improvement

Enjoy Your Life: Change Your Point of View

“Two men look out through the same bars: One sees the mud, and one sees the stars.”- Frederick Langbridge,

A Cluster of Quiet Thoughts

If you’ve placed second in a writing contest, will you jump for joy and push for better results the next time or will you be discouraged and find an excuse not to join again?

In life, you are always filled with choices. You may opt to have a pessimist’s view and live a self-defeated life or you may decide to take the optimist’s route and take a challenging and fulfilling life.

So why nurture an optimist’s point of view? And why now?

Well, optimism has been linked to positive mood and good morale; to academic, athletic, military, occupational and political success; to popularity; to good health and even to long life and freedom from trauma. On the other hand, the rates of depression and pessimism have never been higher. It affects middle-aged adults the same way it hits younger people. The mean age of onset has gone from 30 to 15. It is no longer a middle-aged housewife’s disorder but also a teen-ager’s disorder’ as well.

Here’s how optimists are in action and researches that back up why it really pays to be an optimist:

Optimists expect the best

The defining characteristic of pessimists is that they tend to believe bad events, which will last a long time and undermine everything they do, are their own fault.

The truth is optimists are confronted with the same hard knocks of this world. What differs is the way they explain their misfortune—it’s the opposite way. They tend to believe defeat is just a temporary setback, that its causes are confined to this one case.

Optimists tend to focus on and plan for the ‘problem’ at hand. They use mostly of the 19 Amazing Benefits Of Affection They use ‘positive reinterpretation.’ In other words, they most likely reinterpret a negative experience in a way that helps them learn and grow. Such people are unfazed by bad situation, they perceive it is a challenge and try harder.

They won’t say “things will never get better,” “If I failed once, it will happen again” and “If I experience misfortune in one part of my life, then it will happen in my whole life.”

Positive expectancies of optimists also predict better reactions during transitions to new environments, sudden tragedies and unlikely turn of events.

If they fall, they will stand up. They see opportunities instead of obstacles.

People respond positively to optimists

Optimists are proactive and less dependent on others for their happiness. They Transform their Lives With The Power of Positive Thinking. They find no need to control or manipulate people. They usually draw people towards them. Their optimistic view of the world can be contagious and influence those they are with. Optimism seems a socially desirable trait in all communities. Those who share optimism are generally accepted while those who spread gloom, panic and hysteria are treated unfavorably. In life, these people often win elections; get voted most congenial and sought for advice.

When the going gets tough, optimists get tougher

Optimists typically maintain higher levels of subjective well-being during times of stress than do people who are less optimistic. In contrast, pessimists are likely to react to stressful events by denying that they exist or by avoiding dealing with problems. Pessimists are more likely to quit trying when difficulties arise.

They persevere. They just don’t give up easily, they are also known for their patience. Inching their way a step closer to that goal or elusive dream. Optimists are healthier and live longer

Medical research has justified that simple pleasures and a positive outlook can cause a measurable increase in the body’s ability to fight disease. Optimists’ health is unusually good. They age well, much freer than most people from the usual physical ills of middle age. And they get to outlive those prone to negative thoughts. So why not be an optimist today? And think positively towards a more fulfilled life.

There are a lot of myths about every event in our lives is due to pre-determined reason. Another belief says that what we encounter in our lives today is our preparation for other things that may come in our lives. To understand what may happen to us in the future, we must learn from the present.

With all that, it is also true that the unexpected can happen anytime. However, you should keep in mind that a psychological self-improvement is not always for the worse and consequently, you must never let go of a chance, because you are afraid to take the risk.

It is possible to take inspired and motivated action to survive your present situation and live the life you always dreamed of.

It is not that easy though. You will have to come out of your comfort zones to discover potentials and opportunities waiting for you. You have to conquer your fear and take calculated risks. You have to stay focused and persevere despite the difficulties you will encounter.

Success does not come easy. 20 Things Successful People Do To Stay Motivated. It takes heart, passion and time. Experience is also a factor. The learning you get everybody becomes your foundation. These are the things we do not need to pay for.

You have to work harder, dig deeper, and sacrifice more to attain your ambitions. But no, you do not have to hate the world and feel bad when you encounter difficult situation. Just remember the Law of Attraction. If you hate the world, the world will hate you back.

What can you do? Below are some free advices to help you when facing difficult situations in life. They will also serve as your guide to improve yourself.

1. Learn to love your current situation.

See all the positive sides of life. Be enthusiastic. Love your boss, your coworkers, your family, your friends, and even strangers that you meet on the streets. It may not be easy, but nothing is impossible with a strong will power. Just do not fall in love so much that you totally forget about your dreams. Love, but try to hold on to reality.

2. Balance is the key.

Dream and take some positive action to move you toward your goals. Take it one step at a time. While you are slowly starting on the long journey to success, be patient and be as enthusiastic as possible. Do not hurry up too much that you totally forget how to enjoy life. Appreciate the beautiful things you will encounter on the journey.

One day, you will finally attain what you have always longed for. But when that day comes, do not look down on those who belittled you. Forgive and forget.

3. Stay humble.

Do not criticize others when you see that you are becoming more successful than they are. Try to help them. Inject your positive aura into their personalities. When you give, you will yield back equal or greater rewards.

4. Are you ready to begin the journey?

Start it with the courage and desire to improve your life. Survive and go through it with persistence, enthusiasm, and positive thinking. Finish it with a resounding bang of accomplishment and with the desire to help others succeed as well.

5. Give yourself permission to dream.

You probably had no problem dreaming as a kid. What happened to your ability to imagine and dream about what you want and who you want to be? When was the last time you caught yourself daydreaming and appreciated it?

6. Stop looking outside yourself for happiness.

Look inside. Increase your self-awareness. Get curious about who you are at the core. Cultivate and nurture a relationship with yourself.

7. Cover the basics.

Take the time to address your personal needs.How can you focus on thriving in your life if you are in survival mode? Set up that meeting with a financial advisor, get your space organized, clean up the details that are wasting your energy.

8. Embrace your past and move on.

Shift from “why it happened” to what I want to do about it now. Asking “why” is not a very empowering question. Asking what or how I want to proceed can be much more powerful and produce forward movement.

9. Remember that you are not alone.

It is easy to feel overwhelmed with life. Seek support. Read more self improvement articles. They might help you figure about some things that are puzzling you.

10. Remember gratitude.

Count your blessings. What is working right in you life? Make a list. Set aside a bit of time everyday to acknowledge what or who you are grateful for. The more you practice gratitude, the more you attract into your life things to be grateful for.

11. Court your passion.

You still have your passions though it has been a while since you may have felt it flow. When are you the most alive and joyful in your life? Who do you most admire and what do they inspire in you?

12. Take action and take a risk.

All the inspiration in the world is not enough to make you move your life to the next level. It takes inspired action to do that.

13. Keep breathing.

You probably forget to take deep full breaths. We have all learned to constrict our breathing in response to stress. According to many self improvement articles, we not only need oxygen to stay alive, we need oxygen to give us energy and keep us healthy. Right now take 5 deep, full breaths.

14. Have fun.

Call a friend, take a bubble bath, take yourself to an art museum or schedule a whole day out in nature. Put on some great music and dance till you drop.

There are many other self improvement advice that will get as you get on with your daily life. Take note that you are not alone. There are others in much more difficult situations. That is why is there will be a shortage of free advice about self improvement you can get from other people who are only too happy to help.

Start now before it is too late

Be determined to improve your self esteem and you are on your way to great achievement. Build Your Self Esteem, A Starter Guide to Self Improvement. Do not let a low self esteem ruin your life. The way you think about yourself determines how you interact with others. What are some examples of low esteem aspects in you mind that you need improvement on?

1. Nothing you do seems to go right 2. You believe that most people do not like you. 3. You believe that you are not attractive. 4. You choose something and it turns out to be the worst one. 5. You are afraid to converse with others for fear that what you say might not make sense. 6. You feel swallowed up in a whirlpool of frustration. What’s wrong with you? Your thoughts, actually.

Stop thinking that the world is closing in on you. Get determined to achieve what you desire. Stop blaming other people for your misfortunes. The world is not your problem, you are your own problem.

From this moment on, begin the process of self esteem improvement. Think the right way and be determined to win, and win you will. Just remember that success never comes easily and that is why determination is its counterpart.

Oftentimes, one gets to the brink of success and with just a little disappointment or setback, they lose heart and give up too easily and too soon. A surefire candidate to low self esteem improvement. Who knows what great things might have been achieved if only they had persevered. Without a high self esteem, your life could be rather boring. Change your thinking and begin to see yourself on top of the world. Make a very special effort to be what you really want to be.

You have to seriously decide either to remain in a miserable state of low self esteem, or acquire self esteem improvement and develop a high self esteem with good character and self image. The origin of low self esteem.

A low self esteem could begin way back in childhood when children are made to believe that they are worthless. Their self confidence is eroded and they succumb to the idea that they can never achieve success in anything that they do. They were picked on, laughed at, pushed around, called ugly names, and treated with disdain. No wonder they grew up to be full of resentment.

If that was your experience, it is time you cut yourself loose from that mindset and do self esteem improvement. Start reading about the life of successful persons and you will soon discover that many of them had such low self esteem that they could not even complete an elementary education.

Many decided to override their low self esteem and improve their attitude, whatever it took. They became some of the greatest men and women that ever lived.

Low self esteem has never helped anyone else and it sure will not help you. It can only drive you into depression, anger, grudge, fear and all the other evils that it generates.

Re-program your thinking and control your state of mind. You must believe that you are worth much more than you think or you will remain at the foot of the ladder and never make an attempt to climb it.

Remember that, from time to time, something has to happen in order to free you from monotony, so you shouldn’t be surprised if, at a certain moment in time, instead of being afraid of change, you desire it with all your heart.

If there are some things that hinder you from going on, here are some tips to help you move forward: Just think of the positive impacts results from the psychological self-improvement. Know important they are and reflect on how to increase them, by adding some other good aspects, which need certain assistance.

Try to picture somebody else in your situation, as picturing ourselves in a less desirable position, always looks more dramatic than it really is. If you realize that the other person can handle the change, you can be sure you’ll be able to handle it as well. This is a good psychological Key to success.

Think of the worst situation that can result after the self-improvement. Try to find various solutions to it. Reflect on how much you can loose, if the worst happened, and how important those things are to you. If you find more than one reasonable solution, you are safe and the self-improvement can’t be stronger than you are!

Self-improvement is not bad at all. Learning To Feel Better About Yourself | Skills To Learn in a Practical and Motivational Guide. All we need is to learn how to handle some negative changes. We should also reflect from it to learn and use it in the future events that we may encounter. This could be your ultimate psychological self-improvement.Why not look forward to success in all your endeavors? Why not be resilient? Like everybody else you are bound to hit lows sometimes but don’t just stay there. Carry yourself out of the mud and improve your chances of getting back on the right track. And why not inspire others to remove their dark-colored glasses and see life in the bright side?

Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love. -Mother Teresa-

Do not waste your life away with feelings of inadequacies. Instead, think of ways to go about self esteem improvement. Success is yours, just reach out and grasp it.

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Just as willpower is an essential factor in achieving success, at some point in time, discouragement and lack of motivation may hinder you from reaching your objective. And it is up to you, and you alone to devise techniques that will help you keep that drive within a fire.

It is helpful to have visual goals. whatsoever that is you are working towards, make it visual. It maybe something material like a car, or a vacation you have been looking forward to for the longest time.

Take or cut out a picture of it and post it at a conspicuous place at work or at home where you can see it often. So that when you feel discouraged, this will remind you of your goal and will help you keep your spotlight.

Make a contract with oneself. According to motivational researches, people who write down to-do-lists are far more triumphant in achieving their intended goals than those people who just keep mental lists instead.

Putting something in writing somehow makes it more powerful psychologically speaking. This may also be the basis why most cultures have such a high regard in honoring contracts. In the contract, you may also include a certain reward that you will give yourself once you have accomplished the task.

After all, everyone likes to be rewarded for completing a good job. Even a simple pat on the back, “good job”, or “thank you” may do the trick to give the person the additional push to carry on, but unfortunately, these may not always be readily available. Considering that these are also essential in keeping oneself motivated, you must learn to find a way to get that encouragement on your own through pleasing yourself.

Abusive people lower your self-esteem and bring you down. Get these negative people out of your life. Surround yourself with positive people. Imitate their example. Smile amply and think happy thoughts.

These will give you a brighter outlook and lets you see a clearer picture of what you really want and a fresh mind to know what steps to take to get there. Rather than wait for things to happen, try to be proactive and MAKE THINGS HAPPEN. Inactivity idles the brain and stagnates your potential to reach your goals.

Read inspirational books and literature. These will help you improve your attitude and heal your mind. A book of success stories also proves to be encouraging. You will not only learn from others’ experiences and derive confidence boosting insights from them but the story will be instrumental in motivating you to go for your goal and move ahead with your plans. If this still seems to falter, get training or education.

Oftentimes, not knowing how or where to start is frustrating. Knowledge is power. Having a clear understanding of how and where to start is empowering and it will provide the extra drive needed to hit the mark you are aiming at and follow it through.

Having enumerated all these tips and tricks to attain self-motivation, but still you seem to feel lacking that much needed drive, there is one last thing that you must try.

Whatever it is that you have been meaning to do, or wanting to achieve, JUST DO IT! Keep on aiming high and go for it! Actually getting your hands dirty best solves the problem of motivation. By “forcing” yourself to just do it, your momentum will pick up gradually as you go along and before you know it you have finished the task or have finally achieved your goal. Divide and conquer is the key.

Break down the apparently unattainable activity to small doable steps. Not only does it become less overwhelming, but seeing the “in the meantime” results will further your confidence that it can indeed be done.

Lack of motivation happens to us all, but if you do not encourage yourself to accept opportunities and be challenged, no one else will. It is most important to keep your eye on the goal, find ways to keep going, and in no time, you shall reap its benefits.

And if at the beginning you were just doing it for the material reward, you will also learn to realize that the fulfillment, satisfaction and self-achievement you derive from reaching your goal is a much enjoyable high that will keep the drive within constantly burning.

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Ways to get Moving when you feel Stuck in Life

How To Get Everything You Want From Life: A Small Story from Someday Isle

Have you ever weighed how much do you want from your life? What are your dreams for your own self and for your family? What if you hit the jackpot tomorrow, have you ever made a list of what all you want from life, if you have everything you ever dreamed of? Have you thought of what legacy would you want to leave behind you for your future generations? If you have answered in affirmation to most of these questions, then yes, you are the person who wants to achieve big. But why do you stuck in Life at the moment? Well you´re on Someday Isle and did not know it consciously. Let´s talk about ways to leave that place to be a Master of your Life.

Sometimes another episode of your life has arrived, a chance for a fresh start. Did you review your past with enthusiasm and feel proud of all of the things you achieved or did you feel frustrated that you’d spent your time on Someday isle? Brian Tracy in his book ‘no excuses’ refers to “Someday isle”.

Someday Isle isn’t a place it’s a mind-set. It’s a habit of dreaming about your desires without taking any steps or actions to achieve them. A trip to someday isle can consist of negative thinking or self-criticism that can set you up for defeat before even getting started on achieving your hopes or dreams and leaves you stranded with thoughts such as:

“Someday I’ll start my own business” “Someday I’ll study for that qualification” “Someday I’ll get fit and healthy”

Do any of these statements sound familiar to you? What’s your someday isle? Each of us have different versions of “Someday isles” with the end result always being the same… waiting for something else to happen before plucking up the courage to jump into our boat and get off the isle.

We can often rationalize our inaction with excuses like “I don’t have the time, I don’t have the finances, now’s not the right time” only for our dreams to slip further and further away, until we stop thinking about them all together, or maybe we convince ourselves that someday isle is an okay place to live as its safe and familiar.

Often it’s our fears that can stop us from taking the next steps that our hearts truly desire and we allow the voice of our fears to over-ride what it is that we truly want or are capable of achieving. We can end up drifting along fantasizing about the things that we’ve always wanted to do with the reality never arriving.

To get to the point, you have to leave Someday Isle  in order to see things happen. “Someday Isle” a place, a state of being where you always say: “Some day i will do this and that, but it never happens. But everything is possible if you dive deep, just go for it.  Let´s say it in a more poetic way: Getting everything in life is great, sure, but if you are really going to do something in life, the secret is learning how to lose. Nobody goes undefeated all the time. If you can pick up after a crushing defeat, and go on to win again, you are going to be a champion. Well,how far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and strong. Because someday in your life you will have been all of these.  You have to enter the Sea to expand your comfort-zone in order to be the brightest light you could ever be. Your loved ones deserve it. You deserve it!

You will be happy to know that it is really possible for you and everyone else out there to have everything they want from life, no matter what the size or cost of the dream is. It is simply possible to dream high, have more, attain more, love again, start a business, raise your children in grand style and have everything in life. Sounds too good to be true? Yes, you have to believe in your dreams to actually achieve them. Maybe you can evaluate your dreams and wants with my easy formula. The perfect formula for getting everything you want in life is like: You X Your Actions and Thoughts and that will give you the desired results in no time. Also, following this formula, you need to be very clear about what you want. So, how to go about it must be your next question, right? Just relax, sit back in your favorite chair, have a deep breath, close your eyes and ask yourself what you truly desire or want from life. Surely a lot of things will pass through your mind and you will be perplexed as to which one to choose, but be calm. See for things that you need for sure and they will be your inspiration to achieve everything you want from life.

Believe, believe and believe

Further, believe in yourself and no one on this planet can take away your dreams from you. Belief is the very first step towards achieving anything and everything in life. You have to believe in your efforts, your skills and your capabilities. You need to believe in that the fact that you deserve the best and can have it all. But how to believe in oneself, it’s easy. Just know yourself and never let anyone take you lightly when it comes to achieving your goals.

Be with positive people

Then, you should also be with people who are positive in life. It is easy to be focused but it takes just a few seconds to lose all that focus if you are surrounded with fake and unmotivated people. Connect with the ones who help you in all your good and bad times. Be Grateful  they can be coaches, friends, mentors, consultants etc.

Take the plunge

Last but not least, make the right decision at the right time. Decide for yourself what you truly want in your life. Decide what you want for your career, family, business etc. Make a plan and stick to it right from the beginning. Enjoy your journey towards attaining your goals and you will be a happier, content, successful person with everything that you ever wished for.

  How To Get Everything You Want From Life – A high level of discipline and commitment towards your goal.

Have you ever thought what do you want from your life? Have you set up a goal or objective? A luxurious car, palatial house, good job- have you ever thought of having all and much more? While it is hard to get almost everything you dream of, it is still possible to aim for higher things in life and achieve them. To know how to get everything you want from life, you need to make a clear plan about your aims, act accordingly and show high level of discipline and commitment towards your goals. Be a Magnetic Personality Who Wins at Life.

Make a plan and follow it wisely

Just think of a foolproof plan as to how you will achieve your goals and consider breaking up your aim into smaller portions. This will thus make your plan easy to follow and will keep you motivated at all time. Also, consult with the people whom you think can help you and start working towards your goals. Seek expert advice and help to move close to your plan. Once your plan is set up, just assess your specific desires and wants. The next step is to actually know what you wish for in your life. It is not just about the material things but achievements, goals and much more. Have a look inside yourself and ask what it actually is that you want the most. Just ask yourself what you want in your life. Try to pen down your answers and be very specific when you write these wants and desires. It may be like “I want a new car” or “I want loads of money”. It can be anything and everything. Start to Listen Carefully. Listening serves to be the most important skill in any personal as well as professional relationship. You need to listen to yourself, to the experts, to your friends and family, colleagues, almost everyone. It has been noticed that the people who fail in life are the ones who do not listen. Yes, it’s sad but you should actually listen very carefully to what people have to share with you and thus you can take down notes about what can be helpful for you. You also have to Monitor your progress. It means when you work towards your wants and dreams, just try keeping a close eye on how things go. Are you following your set timeline? What all goals have you met so far? Thus, recognizing your progress is very important to carry out your plan fruitfully and be motivated to achieve your goals further.

Acceptance

Try to accept your mistakes and when you brood on them, you are making them important part in your life. Have a brave heart and accept all your flaws and errors. Also, stop placing blame on situations and others and try to accept what you did wrong. Don’t blame anyone else for your life as it’s your life and you are fully responsible for its progress or failure. Celebrate your wins, no matter what the size is!

Your journey to getting everything you want from life is long and as you trace the progress, try to take pride in passing all the small and big milestones that come along. 19 Amazing Benefits Of Affection you don´t know.

  Celebrate even the smallest of wins to experience how refreshed and motivated you feel.

    Get Everything You Want – Right Here, Right Now

Have you ever thought why your life seems to that it’s not like how you dreamed it to be? Start Taking Control.  You may have made loads of money and achieved many things in your life, but do you have everything you desired for? Below we will be discussing on how to get everything you want from life. These simple tricks will help you to achieve your goals and be happy in your life. i personally started to get active socially. A nice way to surround yourself with people like you is to join some online communities or forums that have active participation from its members. Browse online and find the communities that are of your interest or liking. Here the main key is to be involved. And so the more you will be involved with people and help them, more friends you will make. Taking the initiative and getting into action is very important when you want to achieve something or everything in life. When you are in the situation where you don’t feel satisfied or happy with your life and want to get it changed, you are then at the crossroads. Take the right path and generate effective ideas for yourself and your life as a whole.

Be creative and let go of what’s not good for you

It is always good to have a dream, goal or wish but are you sure you have any idea about how to get there? This doesn’t involve forcing any actions or getting too engrossed in details, it is just about becoming aware of the ways to achieve your dreams and recognizing the resources that you already have. Think of the various ways with which you can achieve your goals. Now narrow down these ways and tick on the most effective ones only. Clear off the ones that may not be fit to reach out to your goals and you will be left with only the viable ones to get your things moving in the right direction. In order to succeed in life, you even have to let go of what is actually holding you back. So let go of the grudges you hold, emotional turmoil and other things. Also, let go of the painful experiences. When you can’t let go of such circumstances and feelings, just think how can the world grant you richer and better experiences? When you hoard negative vibes, how can the world trust you? So, let go of the negative things and plan ahead for a positive life. Know the fact that like attracts like.

    Get Everything You Want From Life With These Simple Tips Below

Have you tried some tactics but failed miserably? Don’t worry. You may not get everything just like that, you need to put in the best of your efforts, have patience and maintain your calm if you really wish to achieve everything you want in life. The number one to learn is don’t fear anything. Let me explain, remember that fear of rejection or punishment is the main reason behind a lot of people hesitating to ask what they actually want from their life. In fact, these people are afraid that maybe by being emotional, they will face humiliation. So, before making any request, take much time to tell yourself the importance of your request. By focusing on positive side of the request, your initial fears will soon fade away. the second is: Be thoughtful. Problem Solution Mastery And The Key To Find Your Passion.

Surely you cannot expect getting results if the other side or person does not understand your request at first place. So, clearly write what you want. Redraft your main points till the reasoning or logic is clear. Stay Calm, Practice or discuss these points with some of your friends and be sure that they make sense.

Know what bothers you the most and be ready to fulfill your wants

Determine what bothers or upsets you and be very specific. Just don’t say that you don’t like your job. Mention what exactly you hate doing in your job. It may be your extra work load, your job title or anything. But it is wise to know what is bothering you. Till the time you don’t determine what upsets you, how will you fix the issue. It is very easy to just dream and wish to get everything, but it’s difficult to achieve the same. You may have spent a lot of years just daydreaming about being successful in your career but may have never done anything substantial to get that goal. Be ready to work towards achieving your goals. Have confidence in yourself and be prepared. Know what all you will have to do to achieve your goals and be prepared for it. You cannot just sit idle and wait for some miracle to happen. Get set go and work towards achieving what you want from life.

Be thankful

Learn to say thank you whether you get something or not. Gratitude will surely not leave other person to give you what you wish for. Directly say thank you to the concerned person and follow up with written note. You can also send a gift or flowers to say thanks. You need to accept the fact that life doesn’t go how you wish it to be. So, never feel bad when your plans don’t get fulfilled. Take control of your life and rather than freaking out, try to roll with changes. With time, you will see that you will get there at some point or the other. Thus, positive attitude is all what you need to keep your spirits high.

    Getting Everything You Want In Life – How To Make It Possible?

It is very easy to dream and wish for everything in life. But it is hard to get the same. Yes, getting a promotion, a new job or anything else can be tough than you may even think. So, do you want something? It is important to develop a foolproof game plan, right approach and a draft to get everything you wish. But how? Let’s see below on how to Transform Your Life With The Power of Positive Thinking

Envision

The very first step towards getting what you want is to think and envision yourself there. If you can’t see yourself to be there, you can’t create it. If you cannot see the budding florist in you, you cannot create the wonderful bouquets because you don’t really believe so. Take another example, if you wish to shed a few pounds, just put up your image at your home of the time when you were thin and have a look at it every now and then. The vision of you as you want to be or what you want will surely serve as a stepping stone towards your journey.

Ask

Then, move ahead and ask yourself the specific things that you want. Be clear about what you want the most. Have you been waiting for a raise in your income? Or a new position? You need to keep in mind that you just can’t expect others to predict it for you. Just ask yourself what you want, ask for it very confidently and clearly to get an answer. Express your wants concisely so as to ward off any doubts, confusions on receiver’s side.

Be persistent

Obviously every want is not granted or fulfilled right away. So, don’t give up so soon. Just because you have seen some failure in the recent past doesn’t mean that you should not work on it any longer. Try some new approach to achieve the same goal. If the main door is closed, what about the rear one? Or how about going out of the window or the garage. So, be persistent and try new approaches.

Strengthen your vision

Getting what you want from your life is surely hard. We have our own thoughts and actions that can actually pull up apart from getting what we want. So we have to be true to our dreams and vision and strengthen the same. But beware, don’t hold onto the dreams just by thinking about them. Go forward and make the efforts. Use the Art of Change to strengthen your Vision. Envision your wants and dreams every single day and when you feel you are too adamant to get them, you will definitely work towards achieving them at the earliest.

So, keeping these suggestions in mind, you will surely see that you get the best out of your life. Always remember that the clearer your vision is towards attaining your goals and dreams, better are the chances that you will achieve it soon. Have trust in yourself and get them with patience, hard work and dedication. It’s good to have high hopes but it is equally important to have a positive outlook towards achieving your dreams.

    Get Everything You Want From Life – Time to Accomplish Your Goals Now!

If you really have no clue about how to get everything in life, you are not the only one. Thousands of people are not sure of what they want and how they will achieve it. This is why they bought this book

It is important to think about yourself first. You cannot realize what you actually want in your life till the time you are sacrificing your dreams, time and efforts for others. You need to put yourself at first place and know what you want. Just ask yourself that if you were not stuck between job, friends, family, home etc, then what would you be doing or what would you like to achieve in life. Always make it a point to put yourself at first place because till the time you will not know what you want for yourself, you will not be able to get it. Figure out what you need!! As we said above, know what you need. Sometimes it may be tough to find out what you exactly need. But just sit down and relax. Think of what you need badly and what are your dreams in life? Is it about your family, financial security, job, fame or what? Make a list of things you want in life and then go further.

Seize all opportunities that come to you

You need to remember the fact that success doesn’t come when you don’t take any action about your dreams and goals. Even when you have some clear objectives in life and you don’t take any action, you will definitely find it difficult to reach for them. Make sure you take the best advantage of every opportunity that comes your way so that you get everything you want from life. Don’t be greedy but at the same time, don’t be a lazy butt. Opportunities will not come as per your comfort, so grab them whenever they knock your door. Enhance yourself with 28 of my principles. Getting everything in life is not sheer victory. Sometimes you will face obstacles and challenges but you need to accept the fact that success comes with learning from your own mistakes and by overcoming the challenges. You have to believe that even the most successful people make mistakes in life and they overcome the obstacles to go ahead and achieve everything they want. So, never ever mistakes disappoint or break you.

    How To Get Everything You Want In Life: Some Life Tips You did not Know

Step trough the Door to unlimited abundance. It means that we all want to be, do and have the best of things in our lives. But still a lot of us are not able to create the results we wish for. We always complain about not having sufficient money, success or happiness in life. So, what is it that is needed to get everything you want in life? It is important to remember that we all have that special ability to create the life the way we want to. We have to learn the perfect way to do it. So, is there any exact formula for it? Surely not, but there are some features which the successful people use and exhibiting the same, you can too move towards the path to success. Develop an Urgency for Success that Drive for Success. If you are crystal clear about your purpose, the universe will give you what you want. You attract it because you are on the right frequency to manifest your desire. It has been seen that everyone here in this world is born with some purpose. Thus, identifying and honoring that purpose serves to be the most crucial thing that a successful person can do. Such people take ample time to know and understand what their purpose in life is and thus they pursue it with full enthusiasm and passion. And when you don’t know what you should do, then just follow the signals. You can also look towards others for guidance and help. But don’t ever forget to be tuned in yourself i.e. your attitude, life experiences, behavior, likes and dislikes etc. Just see by yourself what is working for you and what is not.

Take complete responsibility of your life

It is believed by many people that there is someone who is responsible for making our lives happy and successful. But the fact is that there is just a single person who is responsible for creating or breaking your life and that is YOU yourself. No one else is there to make or mar your life. So, put your needs first and then think about others. When you live for others and pushing your dreams and needs aside, then you will crumble someday maybe through anger, depression or anxiety. Just believe in yourself!!  If you are all set to achieve your dreams, you need to believe that it is you who can make it happen. Whether you say it to be your self confidence, self esteem or whatsoever, it is a fact that you have your own inner resources, skills, talent and abilities to achieve your desired goals and results. So, just have unwavering faith in your own self and see how far you will go in your life.

  When we become aware of “Someday isle” we’re able to get out of our own way and go after what it is that we truly want. Our motivation levels increase and suddenly we are filled with passion, excitement and determination to eliminate the excuses that have been holding us back and start making our dreams a reality, so that we can look back on our life with pride instead of disappointment. Last but not least, success is actually based on your wisdom. Try helping everyone around when you can. Just don’t forget that as you started you were a scared creature too who had no idea what to do or how to accomplish your goals. To conclude, it can be said that if you need a single thing to do different and be successful, commit to taking complete responsibility of your life. Decide to make a plan and stick to it. As you start the process, you will soon see that it is much easier to be successful when you take full control of your responsibilities, thoughts, actions, visualizations and overall life. And at last, to reach out to anything in life, you should never give up, just make it happen!

So, with all the above mentioned tips and suggestions, I hope now you know how to get everything you want from life and how to go about it. All the best!

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The Power of Gratitude

The Science Behind Gratitude or How to Practice Gratitude

This time we’ll talk about the ways to activating overflowing abundance to shower abundance not only onto yourself, but also onto everyone around you. Talking about abundance, have you ever asked yourself “what is abundance” and how can it manifests in your life? If you haven’t asked or haven’t had the key to “force” the universe to give you anything you ask for… Then you are at the right place. Now before we talk about abundance, there is something you should know. It’s the power of gratitude.

You hear the word “gratitude” so often but take a moment and ask yourself… When was the last time you actually count your blessings or acknowledging things that you receive and notice those simple pleasures in life? Majority of us are so busy with our lives that most of the time, we are not aware on continuous bases about how much we have been given. Now, why is it important to be grateful? Because gratitude shifts your focus from the things you lack in life towards great abundance that is now present. It is the key that unlocks the gateway to abundance. Being thankful and appreciating life and the things life offers you make us more resilient and even happier. Be thankful. Express your gratitude. Keep a gratitude journal. Gratitude has become to mental habits, what eating veggies is to dietary habits. You’ve heard a lot about it, you know how important it is, and either you already do it, or you feel bad that you don’t. The commonly recommended practice is to take a few minutes before bed and jot down a few items from the day that you’re grateful for. This practice is thought to make you happier, healthier and less stressed. Oprah recommends it, as do many other experts and gurus.

Happy as You Want to Be

Almost everyone have heard the hit single ‘Don’t Worry, Be Happy’ by Bobby McFerrin. by the way this Video has more than 5 million views @youtube, amazing!!!. The song has a very catchy way of conveying its message of being happy to everyone. Bobby Mcferiin’s simple message surely made a lot of people by telling them not to worry.

Living a happy, resilient and optimistic life is wonderful, and is also good for your health. Being happy actually protects you from the stresses of life. Stress is linked to top causes of death such as heart disease, cancer and stroke.

One of the better things ever said is – ‘The only thing in life that will always remain the same is change’, and in our life we have the power to make the necessary changes if we want to. Even if we find ourselves in an unbearable situation we can always find solace in the knowledge that it too would change.

Social networks or relationships are essential to happiness. People are different, accept people for who or what they are, avoid clashes, constant arguments, and let go of all kinds of resentments. If arguments seem unavoidable still try and make an effort to understand the situation and you might just get along with well with

Happiness is actually found in everyone, increasing it is a way to make a life more wonderful and also more healthy.

To be happy is relatively easy, just decide to be a happy person. Abraham Lincoln observed that most people for most of the time can choose how happy or stressed, how relaxed or troubled, how bright or dull their outlook to be. The choice is simple really, choose to be happy.

There are several ways by which you can do this:

Being grateful is a great attitude. We have so much to be thankful for. Thank the taxi driver for bringing you home safely, thank the cook for a wonderful dinner and thank the guy who cleans your windows. Also thank the mailman for bringing you your mails, thank the policeman for making your place safe and thank God for being alive.

News is stressful. Get less of it. Some people just can’t start their day without their daily dose of news. Try and think about it, 99% of the news we hear or read is bad news. Starting the day with bad news does not seem to be a sensible thing to do.

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DISCOVER THE POWER OF GRATITUDE TO UNLEASH UNLIMITED ABUNDANCE

Faced with busy schedules and challenging lives, we often forget how fortunate we truly are. Even when things are going well we forget. Being grateful should be treated as an important part of the day because appreciation contributes to our genuine happiness. Once you develop an attitude of a sincere attitude for all the blessings you receive, this unleashes the power for you to receive even more than you already have. Generally around Thanksgiving we officially enter into “peak gratitude season,” when we celebrate our thankfulness for all the good things in our lives. Having the feeling of gratitude essentially means taking nothing for granted and giving thanks about the abundance in life that you have obtained. But wouldn’t it be wonderful to experience that level of joy, love, and appreciation every day of the year? How would it change your life if you did? Gratitude actually fits in with abundance in various aspects. Providing emphasis on a feeling of gratitude towards whatever life offers you immediately bring you into an energetic alignment having an increased abundance. Gratitude is what really keeps you stay connected to great power.

As a famous writer says, “A lot of people are trapped in the state of poverty by having lack of gratitude.”

Abundance always goes with gratitude because we can always attract great wealth as well as abundance with the power of gratitude. Have you ever wondered why your life is not really abundant, why good things don’t happen to you, why aren’t you completely happy?

Is it because you are living in a life full of complaints like the majority? This is actually one of the main reasons behind your lack of abundance in life. If you always see things negatively, you will never appreciate the good things you possess and the blessing you receive. Ingratitude attracts scarcity. Why not change the way you see things?

Start looking at everything in your life as a blessing and as good things to be grateful for, then your life will become meaningful and you will be happy.

Your sense of gratitude will bring great abundance that you have been dreaming of. The way you see life, the way you think about the things around you, make a huge difference about how abundant you are in your life today.

The feeling of gratitude is really powerful and it an essential part of your life that has the ability to bring yourself to the things you want. When you start looking and focusing your own energy on being truly grateful, you bring real abundance in your life. Hence, never underestimate the power of gratitude. It is one of the highest emotional states you can experience. When you cultivate gratitude, you’re able to feel true joy and contentment, no matter what you have or don’t have in your life. The more grateful you are with what you have, the more you will attract more for which you can be grateful. Gratitude always fits in with abundance. They primary key towards obtaining real abundance in life is through learning to become grateful even in though you are living in an ungrateful world.

GETTING IN THE RIGHT MINDSET

Having the right mindset means finding something to be grateful for in every difficulty. If you have the right way of thinking about life and the things around you, you are able to see the opportunity behind every problem. If you are able to acknowledge the good things in your life amidst diversity, you have the right mindset that will lead you towards a happy life.

In the face of difficulties and in today’s sinking economy, it is really difficult for us to remain appreciative and grateful. Once you feel overwhelmed and stressed out, it is sometimes hard to find reasons to become grateful. It is true that most of the times, finding the good in difficult situation can really be challenging.

However, the great benefits of maintaining appreciation and genuine gratitude in spite of what is going on around you, are truly worth looking into. Having the right mindset about being grateful and appreciative can greatly transform your life. You need to get the right mindset in order to unleash unlimited abundance in your life.

Learn to Count your Blessings

Each of us has our own blessings in life. Regardless of who you are, where you came from, or what you are going through, you always have blessings in your life that you can be grateful for. The only challenge here is to educate yourself to provide emphasis on gratitude and search for many reasons in order for you to manifest appreciation.

If you are a type of person who is not really appreciative, well this is the best time for you to develop your new habit. This habit is about searching for something to be thankful for about every situation, experience that you encounter or person.

Why is it so important to be grateful? Why do we need to cultivate this habit?

All because we choose to train our attention on is what we consciously think about. So if we choose to focus on what we’re grateful for, our overall feeling of well-being improves. We find the world to be a kinder place. You’ll start to notice more things to appreciate. Your feeling of abundance just keeps growing and growing. Gratitude has many benefits in that it can keep you from feeling inadequate. It can keep your mind focused on the good rather than the bad. You can think more abundantly by having gratitude. This is why you must obey the Law of Gratitude if you want what you seek. Think about this. If your show of gratitude is strong, the results that come back to you will be strong. If your debt of gratitude is continuous, your supply will also be continuous. If you start losing your attitude of gratitude, you will find you will lose ground rapidly and end up on the losing end of life.

In every difficult situation that you encounter, this can really be difficult, but if you are able to develop this habit, you can see significant changes in your life and how you view life itself. You just have to work hard in finding a little piece of diamond in a huge rocky mountain. You can also give thanks for a loving relationship with your partner and family, your good health and those positive outcomes in various situations. Gratitude is really powerful and being fully aware of the blessings you receive can have huge impacts on your life. If you are filled with thankfulness and appreciation, this change your reality’s dynamic. Genuinely express appreciation and gratitude for those people around you. If something good happen to you, no matter how big or small it is, be thankful that it happens.

If you get into the right mindset about having a feeling of gratitude towards others and each situation, you will also feel good about yourself. You will have a different perspective about life and you will view the world as something beautiful.

It is truly amazing how a positive action can create so much change in the life of a person. Acknowledging the great power of attitude is actually one of the most important things today that create a great effect on one’s life. In very tangible ways, it is true that gratitude is the key that opens the gateway to abundance.

LIST DOWN THE THINGS YOU ARE GRATEFUL FOR

There are a lot of things around us to be grateful for; it’s just a matter of appreciating the blessings you receive and acknowledging how blessed you for having them. Educating yourself for the feeling of attitude actually means taking nothing for granted and giving value to whatever you posses. Practice the attitude of never putting off an action or the word for the expression of your gratitude.

Many individuals tend to take for granted the things that are present in their lives. There is actually a gratitude exercise instructing us to imagine losing few of the things that you are taking for granted today such as your family, your home, as well as your ability to hear and see, to walk or just anything that is currently giving you comfort.

Imagine losing them and then imagine that you are getting each of them back every day. Think how thankful you would be when it happens and when each one is given back to you. Starting finding happiness even in those small things you posses rather than holding out for great and big achievements like getting job promotion, having a baby or getting married. There are a lot of things to be grateful for.

When you wake in the morning, be thankful for the life you have for another day. Your happiness always depends on how you view life itself and how you see your life today. If you begin to think that there are many more things to be grateful for, you will see how happy your life will be.

Use gratitude in order to guide you in putting things in their right perspective. If everything around you seems wrong, and if things do not go the way you want them to be, bear in mind that in every problem and difficulty carries the seeds of a greater benefit.

When you are facing any challenge in your life and when you are in the face of great adversity, just ask yourself about the good things that you can get from it. Understand how you can benefit from a certain situation. Take some time today, wherever you are and whatever you’re doing, to come up with a gratitude list. List everything you are thankful for to help you get through those slightly cloudy or downright stormy days when it’s hard to conjure up a pile of thankfulness. Like anything, gratitude is a learned behavior. It’s something you find easier the more and more we you practice.

If it doesn’t come naturally, don’t let that stop you from still giving thanks. There is still much to be thankful for, if we only have eyes to see. You can even be grateful for the littlest things that you probably never pay much attention to. These could be the simple things you can be grateful for even when times are tough… You can feel gratitude for …

1. Family, whether “by blood” or the people you’ve met in your life, that always make you feel at home 2. Your many significant others who are your true friends, who make life a lot easier to go through, and who love you more than you deserve 3. Good health if you have it, one of life’s greatest pleasures. For any good health at all. 4. A roof over my head and a warm home 5. I am thankful for living in a town full of creative minds and opportunities 6. For a body that allows you to function in any way 7. For a brain that allows you to think about the world and its people in all the ways that you can 8. For access to water, one of life’s most important necessities 9. For all the colors of the world that make life so much brighter than it would be otherwise. 10. For a phone that allows you to communicate with people instantaneously even when you are far away from them. 11. For good times and bad times – that we celebrate them or made it through them. 12. For faith, hope, and love. Because those things are free, irreplaceable, and the only things that last a lifetime. 13. The kindness of people I have never met before. 14. The setbacks that have formed me and made me stronger. 15. For life, because without it none of the above is possible.

Use this list as a starting point and add any specifics you have. It’s a good idea to pop the list on the fridge, or somewhere you can see it to remind yourself to be thankful throughout the day. Soon it will be second nature and you’ll start to attract more good things to be thankful for.

GRATITUDE IN TOUGH TIMES

So we’ve covered all the good bits of our life and we’re focusing on them. But what about the bad things that happen? Should we be grateful for them as well? Well yes, if possible. Being grateful for bad things that happen to us isn’t saying that what happened should have happened. It’s not about lying down like a doormat; ready for the next punch life might throw at us.

Being grateful about the bad things that happen is more about learning to live with the life you’ve had, and seeing the good that can spring from anything. When times are tough, or if you are in the midst of despair, or emotional mayhem, taking a moment to foster gratitude will create a sense of encouragement and calm when you need it most. It is the last thing we can think of. When we are facing difficulties, all we do is complain and ask why bad things are happening to us. Turning bad days into gratitude days is really a great challenge for many people, but it is always possible. Being grateful for hardship. This doesn’t mean that the universe is going to give you more if it. It’s more of a letting go. You can have two people in life experience exactly the same turn of unfortunate events and manage it completely differently.

The person who uses gratitude that they are still alive, still surviving, still fighting, and has learnt from the lessons life has thrown upon them either at their own hand or at the hand of others is the one who is going to be positively affected by having gratitude in their life.

Learn to count your blessings, not your problems.

Gratitude can help you cope with hard times…

People spend most of their time lamenting about their problems, complaining about the difficulties they suffer from that they no longer care about the blessings that they have received. When faced in difficulties, people really tend to forget what they have and the good things in their life.

Don’t get me wrong. I am not suggesting that gratitude will come easily or naturally in a crisis. It’s easy to feel grateful for the good things. No one “feels” grateful that he or she got into an accident or lost her new watch or credit card.

But it is vital to make a distinction between feeling grateful and being grateful. We don’t have total control over our emotions. We cannot easily control ourselves to feel grateful, less depressed, or happy. Feelings follow from the way we look at the world, thoughts we have about the way things are, the way things should be, and the distance between these two points.

Hence, it is important to practice to count your blessings during tough times. Learn to look at the brighter side of every situation.

If you experience problems and difficulties at work, be more grateful that you have your own work. If you are facing challenges in life, be more grateful of these challenges because due to them, your life is not boring.

If you are facing trials in your life today, be thankful that these can give you much strength to overcome more trials in the future. Appreciate your challenges in life that can help you learn and be a stronger person.

To say that we are grateful does not mean that everything in your life is perfect; it only means that you are aware of all your blessings in spite of the challenges that you are experiencing.

If you remain angry, upset and frustrated because you are having a really bad day, that won’t change anything. In fact, that would make things worse.

Being grateful during these times can brighten up your day as well as others. Getting what you want is not the only reason for you to grateful, sometimes, your appreciation in life becomes even more valuable when you learn to be appreciative in times of troubles and difficulties.

If you are in a difficult situation, instead of hating the world for giving you such problem, think of the benefit that you can benefit from it. Think about the things that you can gain from this situation and through this, you will become more inspired to overcome the difficult situation you are into.

Always look for something to be grateful for in every bad day you face. Also, it is better to understand the reason you are in such situation and think of the best things that you can obtain from it. If you learn to become more grateful and happy with every situation you are in, you can become happier in your life.

Always be grateful that you do not already have all the things that you want because if you did, there will be nothing more to look forward to. Be more grateful for every difficult situation you are into because in those times, you are able to grow.

HOW GRATITUDE CAN CHANGE WHAT YOU ATTRACT

Being grateful in any kind of situation is really a powerful and strong attracting force. Gratitude reduces negativity, helps people learn, improves relationships and most importantly, gratitude attracts that things that you want. This is a great and powerful force that can change what one is able to attract.

Having gratitude helps us to enjoy life more. It can break through huge barriers and reduce our stress loads, give us more confidence and help us to meet our goals- no matter how big they may be.

Once you find things you appreciate and you start providing emphasis on the things you are thankful for, you can always attract them. As you start flooding your mind with gratitude or appreciation, you actually attract more of those that you want. If you are in a state of gratitude, you are also in a high energy vibration essential in attracting more things that you can be thankful for. There will also be more things that will magically come to you – things that are actually drawn into you by your focus and great feelings of gratitude.

Getting What You Want

Gratitude brings you more of what you appreciate.

Every time you flood your mind with appreciation or gratitude you attract more of what you desire.

Why?

Because providing more focus on the things that you really want in life and thus, you are attracting more of these things into your own life.

When you are grateful, you’re in a high energy vibration that will attract more things to be grateful for and more good things will come to you magically, drawn in by your feelings of gratitude. The emotion of joy attracts conditions of joy.

This is why it is important to keep a gratitude list so you know what to focus on. Take time each day to express your gratitude for all of the good things in your life and you will soon begin to experience the benefits.

Also, gratitude makes the things that you want more tangible and serves as real aspect of your reality. The more real and tangible your desires are, the more you will provide great focus on them. As being said, gratitude is really powerful. It can resolve problems, improves your life, helps you learn and attract the things that you want.

This can greatly change what you attract because the more aware you are about the blessings and good things you receive, you give more focus to it by expressing your appreciation. This will in turn enable you to attract positive energies to obtain what you want.

Manage your time. Time is invaluable and too important to waste. Time management can be viewed as a list of rules that involves scheduling, setting goals, planning, creating lists of things to do and prioritizing. These are the core basics of time management that should be understood to develop an efficient personal time management skill. These basic skills can be fine tuned further to include the finer points of each skill that can give you that extra reserve to make the results you desire.

Laugh and laugh heartily everyday. Heard a good joke? Tell your friends or family about it. As they also say -‘Laughter is the best medicine’.

Express your feelings, affections, friendship and passion to people around you. They will most likely reciprocate your actions. Try not to keep pent up anger of frustrations, this is bad for your health. Instead find ways of expressing them in a way that will not cause more injury or hurt to anyone.

Working hard brings tremendous personal satisfaction. It gives a feeling of being competent in finishing our tasks. Accomplishments are necessary for all of us, they give us a sense of value. Work on things that you feel worthy of your time.

Learning is a joyful exercise. Try and learn something new everyday. Learning also makes us expand and broaden our horizons. And could also give us more opportunities in the future.

Run, jog, walk and do other things that your body was made for. Feel alive.

Avoid exposure to negative elements like loud noises, toxins and hazardous places.

These are the few simple things you can do everyday to be happy.

Gratitude really matters. It does not only allow us to obtain what we want but it also leads to positive actions. When one feels grateful for the kindness showed by a person, one may be more likely to show kindness in the person in return. This is then really helpful in creating good relationships with others. With many blessings that you can take benefit from appreciation and giving thanks on the things you receive, there is no reason for you not to the practice the attitude of gratitude. This will not only attract good things on your life but on the lives of others as well.

And always remember the quote from Abraham Lincoln, he says that, “Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”

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