John Harley @stilljohnharley - Tumblr Blog

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A surprising result - A pair of paintings by William Henry Hamilton Trood (British, 1848-1899).

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Ariel’s blue dress was always my fave. Her hand is ugh lol

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Science Fact: Blue is actually the best color.

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Fb mems

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Cardcaptor Sakura, with another drawing running into it lol (Pls reblog ;-; )

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I love this because it’s different and cute

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You loved her? No you didn’t. If you loved her then you would’ve shown her, you would’ve kept showering her with the purest water. She’s like a flower in you’re personal garden. You watered her everyday but then you stopped. You maybe thought the flower was big enough or good enough so day by day you stopped watering her. You ignored the signs of her decaying but other things caught your eye more. You then find yourself losing the flower, shes dying….and no amount of water or fertilizer can bring her back. You didn’t love her, you loved her beauty in your little garden.

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"Should parents read their daughter's texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?"

Earlier today, I served as the “young woman’s voice” in a panel of local experts at a Girl Scouts speaking event. One question for the panel was something to the effect of, “Should parents read their daughter’s texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?”

I was surprised when the first panelist answered the question as if it were about cyberbullying. The adult audience nodded sagely as she spoke about the importance of protecting children online.

I reached for the microphone next. I said, “As far as reading your child’s texts or logging into their social media profiles, I would say 99.9% of the time, do not do that.”

Looks of total shock answered me. I actually saw heads jerk back in surprise. Even some of my fellow panelists blinked.

Everyone stared as I explained that going behind a child’s back in such a way severs the bond of trust with the parent. When I said, “This is the most effective way to ensure that your child never tells you anything,” it was like I’d delivered a revelation.

It’s easy to talk about the disconnect between the old and the young, but I don’t think I’d ever been so slapped in the face by the reality of it. It was clear that for most of the parents I spoke to, the idea of such actions as a violation had never occurred to them at all.

It alarms me how quickly adults forget that children are people.

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Apparently people are rediscovering this post somehow and I think that’s pretty cool! Having experienced similar violations of trust in my youth, this is an important issue to me, so I want to add my personal story:

Around age 13, I tried to express to my mother that I thought I might have clinical depression, and she snapped at me “not to joke about things like that.” I stopped telling my mother when I felt depressed.

Around age 15, I caught my mother reading my diary. She confessed that any time she saw me write in my diary, she would sneak into my room and read it, because I only wrote when I was upset. I stopped keeping a diary.

Around age 18, I had an emotional breakdown while on vacation because I didn’t want to go to college. I ended up seeing a therapist for - surprise surprise - depression.

Around age 21, I spoke on this panel with my mother in the audience, and afterwards I mentioned the diary incident to her with respect to this particular Q&A. Her eyes welled up, and she said, “You know I read those because I was worried you were depressed and going to hurt yourself, right?”

TL;DR: When you invade your child’s privacy, you communicate three things:

You do not respect their rights as an individual.

You do not trust them to navigate problems or seek help on their own.

You probably haven’t been listening to them.

Information about almost every issue that you think you have to snoop for can probably be obtained by communicating with and listening to your child.

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Part of me is really excited to see that the original post got 200 notes because holy crap 200 notes, and part of me is really saddened that something so negative has resonated with so many people.

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Today is Meiling day! That’s a good kid right there.

You can see the rest of this illustration set here.

but i deserve that. i spent years ignoring the person who loved me.

Fucking Tumblr. They only show up when you make a post about abortion....

if snooping through old to current posts on every platform written by myself or my loved ones was a crime I should get the electric chair.........but the pain of seeing the past, and the present, basically feels like it. I was bad. I am bad. I don’t know how I haven’t killed myself.

Every now and then I go to the studio. But they don’t really like anything I make lol

Want my hair to hurry up and get long now

#selfie

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Dinos!

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important psa about buns

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We raised rabbits when I was a child and my sister gave a rabbit a bath (she was 5) and it died..so heed this instruction.

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I wasn’t going to reblog this, but then I realized I might save a rabbit.

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This is important guys. If your rabbit gets into something gnarly and you HAVE to bathe them: 1. Fill a bowl with warm water. 2. Get a washcloth. Put it in the water. Squeeze it out until it is just damp. 3. Lightly scrub the dirty area on your bun. 4. That is it. DO NOT get your bun wet. Only slightly damp on the part that was dirty. (source)