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since regrettably most of my followers aren’t vietnamese, i’d like y’all to know that the vietnamese language is pretty moderately gendered, most of our honorifics are gendered, so nonbinary vietnamese people have been creating their own gender neutral pronouns like by combining “chị” (girl older than you) and “anh” (dude older than you) into chanh, but chanh is also the word for lemon lol. so for a short while lemons became a symbolic nonbinary thing, but some nonbinary viets were like hmm we don’t like how that pronoun is defined by a gender binary so they created a new pronoun, “cam” which means “orange” like the fruit lmaoo

ocotllo

the fucked up thing about going "the children think of the children" in the face of genocide is that sparing the children only is STILL GENOCIDE. think of native americans families who were torn apart, think of vietnamese and korean children shipped to the usa for adoption- the survivors are only given a chance because they can be more easily assimilated, wiped of everything their parents cared for. You need to give a fuck about the women and the men, you need to give a fuck about their culture, or I don't believe that you are really standing against genocide.

stuffaboutminneapolis

Abort The Court - Minneapolis

accidentally used the university pcard for groceries. emailed our dept. finance person and am waiting on response. after some internet research, it looks like i’ll have to pay the university back via check.

$36 check to a billion dollar institution :’)

#screams #work

had the most beautiful week with my brother.

i’m so grateful for this time for us to bond and begin to ease into less uncomfortable ilys and being able to express our feelings.

i dropped him off at the airpot this morning and he’ll be traveling all day. i miss him a lot, but know too that we have a lot more memories and moments to be had and that will always see him again. this is the first time in our lives we’ve been away from each other like this... it’s always been a set amount of time we’d be separated, but this time it’s indefinite. even though idk if we will ever live together or even near each other ever again, i know that because we’re siblings, we will always be in each other’s lives.

twofigs

sitting on the bus on a foggy morning and only thinking — is this, finally, my life? do i hold it with both hands? do i try to live?

rexiedemibunny

I'm so sick of online queer discourse man. people who have never interacted with the community irl shouldn't get to be able to say "this specific identity is ruining it for the rest of us" to the tune of 10,000 notes. get lost. being queer is too complicated to quantify into four neat little boxes. most "non-standard" identities or "made up" labels are harmless actually and anyone who gets overly invested in what specific labels other people use aren't to be trusted.

rexiedemibunny

also i shouldn't have to be running background checks on people to make sure their flimsily worded post isn't secretly some exclusionist bullshit, which oh hey, it usually always fucking is. stop repackaging prejudice as justice. fuck off.

aleshakills

Queer liberals be like “Be Gay, Do Crimes! (but not shoplifting, piracy, lying to cops, blocking traffic, assembling without a permit, punching fascists, being rude on the internet or anything illegal). We can yarn bomb tho!”

sproutlett

this is for the people who went through trauma and didn’t come out of it with thicker skin. but, instead, came back with sensitivity to the world and a deep sadness that won’t go away. some of us went through something and lost a piece of ourselves; our broken hearts never healed quite right afterwards. i see you and i feel you and i am you. it’s going to be okay.

im almost too depressed to function and want to drop out of school and out of work and out of society

had a really wonderful lunch today with my partner, mom, her partner, and my ex lmao he’s in town visiting and there’ve been some ups and some downs, but this weekend has been really insightful and eye opening for me.

wanted to come on here to document how much my relationship with my mom and her partner has grown... i don’t know if it’s because i’m older now and less emotionally volatile and angry, but i was able to let them know i’m thinking about dropping out of grad school. and they were supportive.

surprisingly

but maybe i have too little faith in them?

i have two interviews for a really great opportunities this upcoming week. who knows how they’ll go. if they go well and i’m offered a position, i will withdraw from my university.

there’s a lot to unpack and work through, but honestly the shimmer of hope i feel right now is that i might be able to come out to my mom and her partner and maybe

maybe they won’t

disown me?

to be continued

#coming out

moggiepillar

When I was about 11, my father was listening to NPR in the car and I was the captive audience in the back seat with no choice but to listen. It was some gardening and/or food themed show and the host was talking about how carrots grown in the winter produce more sugar. This is an evolutionary tactic on the carrot’s part to survive harsh conditions. And that was when this man dropped the most banger line I’ve ever heard. “When you bite into a carrot and it tastes sweet, that’s the carrot saying ‘I don’t want to die.’” I was floored, changed as a person forever. This line haunts me. The poetry. The emotion. NPR made me the sappy garden idiot I am today, romanticizing senescence and over analyzing the science behind vegetables.

jokeboy-deactivated20260221

I love trans girls for lots of reasons but I think the biggest is that growing up as a girl for me was SO hard. horrible. nightmare. but they make it look happy and enjoyable... they redefine what womanhood is to me from something horrible to something beautiful... very hard to explain... me being a boy is awesome... and seeing trans people love womanhood in a way I couldn't is even better. thank u girls

sarahtheferret

I look at my mom and ask “what is womanhood?” she shrugs and says “idk, suffering?” I look at my wife to ask the same question, and she is twirling in place to make her skirt flare out.

jokeboy-deactivated20260221

I love her

i am trying to write a 600-900 word essay rn and i am exhausted. there is so many readings and papers and things to do and happening i just want to nap.

#personal #grad school

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

i scream probably once every 4 months

now is the time for me to scream

the semester is going to painful

in every sense of the sensation of pain

AHHHHHHhhHHHHHhh

first day of classes tomorrow.

#deep breaths