goodnight.

alex ☁︎ 25 ☁︎ white ☁︎ any prns 🔕

[nude-tayne]

[askaniritual]

i just don’t think “is dude gender neutral” is that productive of a conversation because a word can be gendered and still used regardless of gender. i call my male friends girlypop and my female friends man but i don’t think anybody would agree that those are somehow not gendered terms.

the real question is just “would you be willing to apologize and stop using a word if somebody told you it made them uncomfortable?” the answer to which in a surprising number of cases is no mostly because it seems like overall ppl r more upset abt getting accused of transphobia than they are abt being transphobic

[sergal]

everyone shut da fuck up this is the only thing that matters

[sergal]

Oh My God Damn

[fairycosmos]

your problem is you think if you communicate with clarity and earnestness that people will actually understand you

[explicitlyrics]

Hard to let instagram go Carol degengrandma means a lot to me

[lordoftablecloths]

my favorite video of all time ever

[hauntedaether]

Has anyone figured out how to be a real person yet

[deanwinchesterapologist]

just found out you can do more than one thing each day. i was just doing the one

[strike-9]

i think the root of my problems stems from the fact that i fundamentally do not want to live. no matter what i do in this life or what i accomplish, there'll always be an emptiness that can never be truly filled which is why i'm fine with letting days and opportunities pass me by. at the same time, i'm still as afraid to die like everyone else. i'll never have the "courage" to cut things short, but also the fact that i won't will always be a regret of mine unless it somehow gets better enough.. which i don't think it will

[dvanaestmrva]

its really sad to me how tumblr essentially killed the usage of blog themes by making it near impossible to look at anything without loggin in. sure, you can still set up and edit a theme, but you have to make sure your blog can be viewed without a login in your settings. i dont think any newcomer to the site is gonna know that.

i dont think i wouldve joined this site if i hadnt at first spend months perusing blogs that were interesting to me before that. and i remember when i first joined, there used to be entire blogs dedicated to curating cool themes.

its been on my mind bcs i updated my blog themes a bit a couple weeks ago now and i kept thinking "these look so nice but it feels kinda poointless if no one but me is likely to actually look at these".

[lycanthology]

wish ppl understood the power nowadays in not giving something attention. things today are so focused on attention and reaction and #memes that the best way to shut literally anything down is simply not give it exactly what it wants. like you arent going to own that bigot on twitter youre going to boost their original message whether thats your intent or not and you arent just playing with ai for shits and giggles you are giving it free learning and data. just stop engaging with things that dont deserve it

[vsemily]

dont play defense

[dungeon-bitch]

[lustcannibalism]

the desire to engage in my hobbies leaving my body as soon as I have the day off even though I was looking forward to it all week

[annabelle--cane]

my bone to pick with how a lot of fandom treats dysfunctional and/or unhealthy relationships is that it's all suuuper black and white. which I don't mean in a "well I just think there's nuance to abuse" kind of way, more that transformative fan spaces have difficulty holding on to the idea that a relationship (of any flavor, platonic, romantic, familial, sexual, secret fifth thing, etc) can have healthy and unhealthy elements at once and be capable of growing past the unhealthy parts without needing to just be severed. which is strange to me, because that's, like, basically Every relationship in real life, ongoing stable dynamics are all about the continual process of liking someone enough to figure out how to keep being around them as you both become different people to the ones you were when you met, but fandoms are really set on only ever saying "dump his ass" whenever two fictional characters who like each other accidentally tread over some medium sized boundaries because external conflict came up. I love toxic yuri and toxic yaoi but a lot of what I see get labeled as that is just "two averagely depressed and traumatized people like hanging out together and make exactly the same mundane mistakes that everyone does in those situations."

[sapphling]

the more time you spend in active recovery from any given self destructive behavior or addiction the more you understand the common conception of the "relapse" as defined by a broken "streak" to be, like, so bad for one's own well-being that it would be funny if it weren't resulting in just a lot of misery and death

[the-peoples-puppy]

I told my girlfriend to think of quitting vaping as training her endurance by seeing how long she can run before she gets tired, then doing it again and hoping to go further next time. She said it really helped her.

[cheaphalloweencostume]

“everyone is mad at me and they just won’t tell me” —> “no one has said anything about being mad at me and i haven’t done anything to warrant being mad at so if someone is silently fuming about me and not saying anything that’s their problem and actually quite weird of them and i can effortlessly move on with my life”

[cheaphalloweencostume]

this took SUCH a huge deal of unlearning because, like so many of you, i came out of a home where being quietly in trouble WAS the default state, and i DID grow up not just with the assumption but borderline religious conviction that Everyone Is Mad At Me, I Am Bad, I Must Exist In A Constant State of Attempting to Pacify The Natural Rage I Inspire In Everyone. and no it actually turns out that my family are the freaks . and yours are too