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Follow my other blog @little-pear because I felt like I needed a more SFW blog because why the hell not.

"How do you choose between someone you are learning to care about, and someone you are in love with?"

I think that sounds like the choice has been made. 😞

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I thirst for girls way more then I do for guys. Y'all are so damn beautiful.

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Relationships are scary and complicated ONLY when you start thinking of your partner as some kind of adversary.

You know how to stop being scared of relationships? Remember that it’s got a goddamn buddy system *built in*. That’s all a relationship IS: “Let’s approach life with the buddy system.”

Check on your buddy. Make sure your buddy doesn’t forget their lunch box on the schoolbus. Hold hands with your buddy so you don’t get lost. If your buddy wants to look at the monkey cage, look at the goddamn monkey cage with them. If you are the one looking at the monkey cage, ask your buddy what they want to do next, and when they want to feed the giraffe, help them find a quarter for the little food dispenser. Be a good buddy, and if your buddy isn’t a good one too, tell the teacher and ask for a new one.

This isn’t fucking rocket science, people.

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When ur new lover gets u ur dream knife

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Amaaaaaaaazing 😍

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I don’t know how some girls are 100% straight like have you seen girls

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I Know It’s Fall

It’s four in the morning and I can tell it’s fall by the way the rain smells outside my window.

Half awake, I wrap my arms around you and you pull me closer, shivering beneath the warm blankets. I kiss your neck and brush your hair from my nose, and for a moment it’s all completely clear. Your gentle body is still summer and my once golden hair makes it clear that I’m fall. I want to hold you tighter, pull you closer, and kiss you harder, but with each touch your warmth is tainted by my coming chill. Even my lips speak to you of winter.

Somehow in the darkness though, we let ourselves fit together. Your beach and ocean thighs part for me, and I enter you with the slowness of night growing ever longer. Your sun touched shoulders press against my ancient chest, and I hold you tighter than the Autumn wind. In our gentle movement and our changing embrace we manage to meet in the middle, your warmth filling me instead of the other way around.

It’s four in the morning and I can tell it’s fall by the way you taste on my fingers. I know it’s fall by the way your kiss my shoulder and drown against my skin. I know it’s fall by the way you tremble against me while outside the window something howls.

-Guy New York

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relationship goals: we both shop for cute lingerie and take artsy pictures of each other wearing them

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i have a pretty big issue with how people tend to assume the words “neediness”, “emotional manipulation”, and “abuse” all mean the same thing. like, someone with bpd who is texting you all the time and wanting you to guide them through their extreme emotions is emotionally needy. if they talk about wanting to kill themselves, they probably want to kill themselves, because they have bpd and that’s….kind of our thing.

i have a big guilt complex about “being manipulative” and my therapist was like…you know, in order to be manipulative you have to actually want to influence some kind of outcome. you’re expressing your emotions with whatever skills you have; it can be overwhelming, and people have the right to set boundaries around it, but it’s not an intentional act of manipulation. and then, like, manipulation is something people do all the time- sometimes for survival. abusers use manipulation, absolutely. abused people also have to carefully manipulate situations in order to navigate getting the validation, care, and sometimes even basic necessities they need inside of an abusive relationship. when you learn that asking for what you need directly gets you ignored or punished, you have to find roundabout ways. is this something it’s good to work on? absolutely, it’s a maladaptive coping skill that can cause damage in non-abusive relationships. but it’s not inherently abuse. abuse is when you use emotional manipulation in an attempt to control another person. this power dynamic is really crucial, because otherwise we come to the conclusion that everyone who needs help but doesn’t know how to ask for it effectively (which describes part of my bpd experience, at least) is the same as the people who hurt them in the first place. and that’s….awful

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oh my god I love this post so much? half of the things people are calling “abuse” on this website are situations in which people don’t know how to deal w mentally ill ppl who are displaying Less Desireable symptoms (especially folks like us w bpd)