Like stars they shall forever shine

🇺🇸 Devout Christian Scientist and Christian Science Nurse (not a medical nurse). Woman, early 30s. Over-tagger extraordinaire! Art, fandom, and politics, not necessarily in that order or proportion. Here since Dec 2011. Formerly 'gettothestabbing.'

[allthingseurope]

Riserva dello Zingaro, Sicily (by Marta)

[kiss-my-piss]

Resources for Male Victims of Abuse

How to Recognize Abuse

**Emotional Abuse of Men

**Sexual Assault of Men and Boys

**Men Can Be Victims of Abuse, Too

**Domestic Violence Against Men - Know the Signs

**Information for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse

**Help for Battered Men

**Battered Men, Battered Husbands

**For Male Survivors of Rape and Sexual Abuse

**Male Survivors of Incest and Sexual Child Abuse

**Help for Men Who Are Being Abused

Help Lines (Phone and Text Chat)

National Domestic Violence Hotline: [phone] (or 1-800-787-3224 for TTY)

National Dating Abuse Hotline: [phone]

National Sexual Assault Hotline: [phone]

National Suicide Prevention Hotline: [phone]

Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men: 1-888-743-5754 (US and Canada)

Hopeline Suicide Prevention Hotline: [phone]

National Hotline for Victims of Crimes: 1-855-484-2846

National Human Trafficking Hotline: [phone]

Polaris Human Trafficking Text Line: Text “BEFREE” to 233733

**1in6/RAINN Chat for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse

Support Groups

**1in6 Support Groups

Male Survivor Support Groups

Pandora’s Aquarium - Chat (includes chats specifically for men)

Pandora’s Aquarium - Forums (includes forums specifically for men)

How to Find a Shelter

Domestic Shelters Search (shelter locator with filters to find shelters specifically for male survivors)

SAFE (located in Austin, TX, but states they can help people find resources/shelters in their area)

How to Find a Therapist

**Male Survivor Therapist Directory

Mental Health Services Locator

Resources for and About the Abuse of Kids/Teens

Love is Respect Hotline: [phone] (Hotline for teens)

Darkness to Light Helpline (Sexual Abuse): 1-866-367-5444

Darkness to Light Text Line: Text “LIGHT” to 741741

ChildHelp USA National Child Abuse Hotline: [phone]

Children of the Night Hotline (Children in Prostitution): 1-800-551-1300

National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929

Covenant House Nineline (Homeless Youth): 1-800-999-9999

Stop it Now Hotline: [phone] (for adults concerned about the welfare of a child)

Jennifer Ann’s Group (for teens experiencing dating violence)

Other Resource Lists 

(While I tried to include the most helpful resources I could here (i.e., resources that lend themselves to one-on-one communication, individual reading, etc.), there are plenty of other great resources, including regional resources, listed in these links. Some of the resources are specific to men and others aren’t, but they are all helpful for male survivors.)

**Male Survivor (regional, international, and online resources)

**Husband Battering: Men and Domestic Violence

**Help for Battered Men: Online Resources

**Help for Battered Men: National and International Resources

**Help for Guys: Help for Victims (some resources for men, many general resources)

[detshin]

🐸 Maomao 🐸

[escuerzoresucitado]

[theliteraryarchitect]

I don’t know who needs to hear this but it’s okay for writing to be a HOBBY that you do because you enjoy, and that you don’t want to do when you’re not enjoying it. No one’s up in the business of knitters telling them they have to be willing to SUFFER and SWEAT or they’ll NEVER FINISH THAT SWEATER and they can’t expect good things to come to them. I don’t know why our current culture around writing is so intense, but I’m here to support your casual, relaxing writing habit. If people can glue pompoms together or knit a scarf or watch hours of streaming shows with their spare time there’s absolutely no reason writers can’t waste time writing just for pleasure, without any expectation that they’re going to Achieve something Amazing and Important or make a bunch of money or whatever.

[theliteraryarchitect]

I stand corrected: According to a great many who have piped up in the comments, apparently people ARE up in the business of knitters. What the hell. Get out of the business of knitters, people. May we all enjoy our hobbies without pressure to professionalize.

[wisco-country]

[coyotesmokebreak]

I’m telling y’all that if you don’t jump around erratically bc a wasp or hornet flies close to you, you’ll have less interaction time with them

If you’re nervous about them (not yknow. allergic. let’s not intentionally misinterpret what I’m saying) ignore them. And I do mean IGNORE. Don’t react.

Also, are you watering or generally handling a source of liquid and they won’t leave you alone? Share some at a distance from yourself. Hell are you eating and they want some? Share it.

Honestly if people treated them with the calmness and affection they show bees they’d have better experiences.

Anyway, have a little plate for the yellowjackets when you picnic. They are eating the bugs that you don’t like so offer them a gift.

[coyotesmokebreak]

Please stop telling me about your allergies. If you gotta bolt bc you could DIE just do it.

Clearly, that means this message is not for you. Move on.

[lew-basnight]

When I’m going to hang out in the yard I usually bring a banana or some other fruit, that I eat right away (because sitting outside and eating fruit is cool) and then I leave the peel/husk/core out someplace, not adjacent to where I’ll be sitting/working. The bees and wasps (and flies) will all zero in on it and have a lil party, and I can do what I’m doing without constant interference. (It’s the same as feeding your pets before you sit down to eat a meal — it distracts them from begging, and honestly a lot of dogs and cats prefer to eat along with their people. I know, it’s odd, but nice.)

[earhartsease]

Wasps are often more combative in the summer because they’re thirsty. Putting out a little dish of water for them is good. I was in the Spanish mountains one summer and put out a plate of water for the wasps whenever I was bathing, so they didn’t try to drink off me.

[sobadpink]

Yeah usually if you take a shallow dish out with water and even bits of food (especially fruit) while outside doing activities like reading/swimming/picnics/camping etc you’ll really take the aggression out of most wasps. They’re usually just hungry or thirsty. Just don’t set up camp right next to their nest lol

[3liza]

hi, i have had several near-death anaphylaxis events from yellowjacket stings and i have to carry an epi-pen. if a wasp stings me and i am not immediately stabbed with a large dose of epinephrine, i will suffocate and die within a few minutes. it is very likely i have brain damage from hypoxia from a wasp sting when i was about 4. so pay attention to what i am about to say:

all of the above advice works 100%. wasps and bees and all stinging critters are very very unlikely to sting you if you stay calm and move slowly. they are VERY LIKELY to sting you if you move quickly and jerkily, and are guaranteed to try to sting you if you attempt to kill them. they are not hunting you, they are not stupid, they know you are the size of a skyscraper. they will ONLY sting you if they believe you are trying to hurt or kill them.

many species of wasps, and especially yellowjackets, are solitary or social predators/scavengers. they are extremely intelligent, and aware of you as a fellow creature, whatever that may mean to their bug intelligence.

they are not mindless computers, they are more like little cats or wolves. and they are just doing what it takes to make a living on god’s gay earth: looking for food and water for their children 

it is very possible to change how you feel about things you are afraid of, even if you have a clinical phobia. for me, that always starts with knowing more about the thing that scares me.

[butchstalinist]

Here’s a good article on the subject if anyone’s curious! It goes into more detail about public perception of wasps. It not only talks about wasp’s ecological importance, but also how scientific understanding can work to change public opinion on wasps and their nests. https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/een.12676 “ Why we love bees and hate wasps  “

[coyotesmokebreak]

I’m so so glad I chose to click on the notifications on my post again.

This is exactly why I made this post—not that I expect everyone to fall head over heels in love with these creatures but to see their importance beyond the cultural knee-jerk reaction because of the reductive view we’ve cultivated of them.

I’m also not saying that they’re never somewhat unpredictable and that they’ll never hurt you—just like any other creature they have the capacity too. It’s just very much increased when the reaction to them is to flail and swat and scream.

Thank you guys for your thoughtful additions to this post I appreciate beyond words. Pls continue to carry this level of care and education as our friends wake for winter and start flying around again!

For those who are deathly afraid of them and would like tips to avoid being around them—dark surfaces facing sunlight, standing water, garbage and compost piles, and rotten wood are going to be their favorite spots as our hemisphere warms for the season. Avoid those to minimize possible contact with wasps, hornets, and other insects waking for spring

[lamia-lmiae]

They scare me in general, but they are such beautiful and helpful creatures. While they aren’t the powerhouse pollinators like bees are, they are still major pollinators and we’d be worse off without them. They keep the populations of many bugs in check. They also are pretty chill once they recognize you as not a threat.

I only get rid of nests when they are on my house or in the ground my kids play on.

I didn’t know about the water/food dish trick. Will try it out and hopefully have fewer scary encounters with the beautiful babes this year.

[michaelnordeman]

In the garden. Värmland, Sweden (15 July 2023).

[tragbarerpanzrabwehrkomplexfagot]

[sanguine-scales]

i think something a lot of people don't get is that years of mocking your child, even in jest, does in fact tend to get under their skin

[sanguine-scales]

a decade or two of even light verbal harassment is very much accentuated when it's an authority figure you are in every meaningful way subservient to

[feminismisstillahatemovement]

This has become one of those lines that I'm now happy to lose friends over, whether they identify themselves as "left" or "right": if you are gleefully celebrating the deaths of your fellow human beings simply for voting differently to you or caring about issues you take the opposite stance on, you yourself have become the monster, and the enemy of all humanity, regardless of whatever those within your belief bubble tell you when egging you on.

[gsirvitor]

So the guy who financed the metoo movement and the Trump lawsuits was the one who actually went to the Island, and Ranch.

Oh yes, and so everyone knows, while the world had its sights on Epstein's Island, he also had a Ranch, known as Zorro Ranch.

Also, these are the code words to look out for in the files;

In a Christmas Eve 2014 email, LinkedIn co-founder Reid Hoffman told Epstein he shipped gifts to his New York townhouse, including ice cream "for the girls" and "something that may strike your funny bone for the island," later revealed to be a small monster sculpture.

Investigators have long flagged "ice cream" as a term of interest in trafficking cases.

Authorities note it's commonly used as a grooming tool to build false trust with minors.

In some undercover FBI operations, "ice cream" and "sweets" have reportedly served as descriptors for a victim's age or innocence.

Federal investigators in recent DOJ filings have also flagged payments labeled "snacks" or "ice cream" between unrelated adults and minors as high-probability indicators of exploitation.

Hoffman claims he "only knew Epstein because of a fundraising relationship with MIT."

The files paint a different picture, with over 2500 mentions of his name, island visits, townhouse stays, and gift shipments to a home that doubled as a crime scene.

[gentle-traditionalism]

I ordered a cookbook from the late 1940s. It’s called “The Modern Family Cook Book” and I’m so excited for it to get here. In addition to all the recipes, it contains a menu for three meals a day, every day, for a full year. I’ll likely have to tweak some of the meals a bit to make them more from scratch/healthier (they used a lot of canned food back in the day, and some meals need more protein), but the sample I’ve seen so far looks wonderful. There aren’t too many off-putting recipes that I’ve seen thus far (other than “head lettuce with mayonnaise”) so I’ll likely be able to use most of it.

I was also thinking about how this is likely part of the reason why so many older people say things like “We didn’t have that adhd and autism stuff back in my day!” Many older cookbooks contain menus, weekly grocery lists, schedules, and advice on budgeting. This probably was a lifesaver for neurodivergent housewives who struggled with executive dysfunction back then. Today people will just tell you “Break things down into steps” or “Make a list” when that’s exactly what many people are struggling with. Even therapy books will say this. And they wonder why so many people are struggling to stay afloat. We’ve gone backwards as a society.

[captain-price-returns]

[quasi-normalcy]

I don't understand how this is even a defence in the age of drone warfare.

[graham-folger]

Or even like... Cannon warfare.

[quasi-normalcy]

Yeah, the Ottomans could have taken this in the fourteenth century.

[koboldgirlslit]

oh shit cool Rust base dude

[partlydigested]

Are you supposed to like. Get your toddlers to man the guard towers?

[cookingwithroxy]

I am moderately certain I raided that spot in the past week while playing 7 days to die.

[not-your-average-url]

I miss when ads were a single click and then they’re gone. Now every ad has a minimum of three phases where you watch a video, exit the still frame of fake gameplay, and then exit the app download. That doesn’t even touch on the ones that forcibly take you to another app after opening a tab in safari without you ever touching the screen.

I hate advertising. I hate that you can’t do anything without companies jumping down your throat with mostly bullshit ads. I hate that billboards exist. I hate that every company unanimously decided to make their ads longer and longer. I hate that ad blockers try to charge you money and there are in app purchases to remove ads. I hate that my attention has become commodified. I hate that there’s nothing I can do about it.

[the-davest-of-uncles]

AdGuard works great on mobile. uBlockOrigin works great on desktop.

[crazy-brazilian]

[longscorsese]

[theoneofwhomisblue]

Thirsty wunk

[blossposs]