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No more repeated cycles. It’s time to grow.
No lazy woman gets a soft life. Elite gentlemen will use lazy dumb pretty girls for fun but they DO NOT marry them. Gentlemen marry their hot opposite sex friend who looks up to them. Without attraction they friendzone but without friendship they use you for your kitty 🐈⬛ cat then dump you. Friendship is an important basis of marriage and it starts with having things in common.
So why do elite not marry lazy girls. Because they had to hustle very hard and be competitive to get where they are. You have to be competitive at something especially that gentlemen can relate to and respect. Remember Golfer Gabby? Scott Adams from Dilbert said a cute lady who is a great golfer will have an advantage over a super model. Elite gentlemen need to be able to relate to you to form a bond.
We are the sum of our habits. This group is like a finishing school mentorship and support group to level up into the elite and stay leveled up after marriage and children.
So when posting I realized if something is inherently beautiful I post it without comment because it speaks for itself. Then it leads to people sending us a TikTok without explaining what it is rather than it’s obvious why a palace is beautiful.
So to combat laziness from now on every post requires a one sentence comment on what this video is about to show effort. You can write more.
Low effort ladies attract low effort gentlemen.
We don’t want dusty bait behaviour.
You know Waity Kate? The royal family didn’t like Princess Catherine at all because they viewed her as lazy, entitled and middle class. As in she pretended to work in her parents company and would hop from a friends yacht to another friend’s chalet. She was not doing anything so they were embarrassed to introduce her. In fact in the #PalacePapers there is a story how King Charles tried to break the up viewing Princess Catherine as useless, entitled and lazy and instead tried to push Prince William in the direction of an hieress starting a charity to save some animals in Africa. Leopard conservation I believe.
The hieress was doing something but Kate was partying. The beautiful hieress was viewed as wife material and Catherine wasn’t. Catherine was invited to a birthday party while dating Prince William where he was seated next to the hieress and she was seated far away so she broke up with him. Eventually they got back together and she had to do a lot of training.
Princess Catherine would have been married early and spared heart ache if she picked an elite hobby both genders could understand and demonstrated excellence in it.
I know many women especially African American are overworked and are looking for relief. The thing is people who are happy for their girlfriends to lounge around and do nothing are usually lottery winners or drug dealers.
NO elite gentlemen don’t want you to break your back but as Scott Adams of Dilbert put it, to be happy you need a hobby or a job you can constantly improve at because or happiness comes from where we are heading.
Ladies go be excellent at something. Look at our admin team, don’t they all demonstrate excellence at something and have great social skills.
Gentlemen don’t marry women they love. They marry beautiful women they respect. Elite gentlemen respect you when you try to be world class at something. Masculine energy is to be world class at something that requires you to have no life to be the best like the top lawyer.
If you are the best at minature painting or you are trying to be competitive in tennis, golf … even if you are not good, the drive to be number one and do what it takes forms an emotional bond.
Maybe you are a competitive cookie maker and want to be the number one cookie pastry chef. He can say I am dating a cookie chef, she wants to be the world’s top gourmet chocolate cookie chef, she is still learning but her cookies are so good, isn’t that neat?
As Jordan Peterson said go pick up a rock and lift it. Go find a challenge. Pretty middle class lazy girls that expect people to do everything for them are seen as a nuisance in the elite. Elite don’t over spoil their daughters to the point of entitlement. When Paris Hilton was acting up she sent to a freaking concentration camp!
Elite girls by the way have no life in high school. We have to get into Harvard or die trying. The gentlemen got there by being competitive. So everyone is competitive. Competitive swimming, competitive dancing, etc . I was the vice president of the Spanish club without speaking Spanish. I joined it so I could pick up Spanish easier when I studied it. I have to study Spanish because I am in the Carribean and Latin America often enough but each time I study Spanish I gravitate to Italian.
So yes in high school I was in an SAT cram school, my mother was in a cram school and so was my grandmother and my great grandmother was in finishing school. Elite girls are pressured to be competitive. At least Catherine was competitive on her rowing team. By competitive we don’t mean cheap low class cat fighting but by being an elevated person and working to be excellent at something.
My parents put me through so many art classes, ballet, sewing, math tutorials, this and that prep, pyschologists and you name it.
Nouveau riche parents who spoil their girls, they die from drug over dose. Affluent parents can break the spirit of their daughters by over doing tiger parenting because of that. Affluent beauties are rarely entitled. This is a distinct social marker of the middle class.
It’s a little hard work that leads to a very soft life. Elite women hustle at one small thing and demonstrate excellence for example at making macaroons which are so hard to make. Or golf or something. I have my sewing and colour consulting. Elite ladies demonstrate excellence in one area. Generally I leave a life of leisure and am not hustling like crazy or it would be a $500 a year subscription to be in this group.
I do things here and in consulting for fun at my own pace. When I feel like it I sew. I always work to be my best.
I put effort in my marriage. I am always seeing therapists and reading relationship books. Sometimes my husband joins to learn how to be excellent in our marriage.
Femininity means we take time to rest and relax as we are built differently than gentlemen but it doesn’t mean that is all we do. While well rested we put effort. We are not Pickmeishas who try too hard but we have to consistently put an effort if we want others to reciprocate and put an effort in us.
I don’t just sit there expecting my marriage to work, I read books, see therapists, talk to my parents and in laws. I am always learning.
Elites are life long learners. If you stop learning someone will take your place. We want you to be #1.
It takes a little effort but not pick me or masculina level effort.
So let’s embody this and comment nice post if we like a post and if we want to post a video add a comment and if it’s a text post add a luxury or art picture. Your habit of being excellent and the right level of effort will translate into the dating world and elite socializing.
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Brainwashing Yourself to Become Your Dream Girl: thewizardliz
In my most recent blog entry, I shared my insights from Manifestells's videos. I firmly subscribe to the notion that consuming targeted content can significantly influence our thought patterns. There's a saying that goes, "Alter your thoughts, and you'll transform your behaviors. Alter your behaviors, and you'll transform your life." (Or something along those lines!) Lately, I've been engrossed in content that aids in reshaping my mindset and convictions. Another content creator on YouTube that I've been particularly drawn to is TheWizardLiz. Here are a few invaluable gems I've gathered from their content:
You have to make it work, there is no other option.
To improve your life, stop living in the past.
Instead of focusing on your past, focus on the your future and goals.
There is no looking back.
Forgive yourself. You have to forgive yourself.
Stop the self-pity party. If you want to improve your life, you don’t have time to wallow. Yes it was sad that that thing happened to you, wasn’t your fault, move forward.
Start a healthy lifestyle. It is not wrong to want to be healthy. You can start small if you need to.
If you don’t find yourself worthy of care, the world won’t find you worthy of care.
GO TO THERAPY
Stay away from people that drain you.
Realize your worth and stop settling.
Be delusional. Look at yourself in the mirror and say: I AM POWERFUL
A queen is not worried about what other people are saying about her.
The person I’m trying to be better than is the person I was yesterday.
When a queen doesn’t like her situation, she plans her exit.
80% of your looks can be improved, you’re probably not ugly you just don’t take care of yourself.
How to ask a provider for money and gifts: feminine tips
this advice is only applicable for provider men and provider men only
your 25 year old boyfriend who’s fresh out of college with a student debt on his back will probably not do these for you
your crush earning 10$ per hour working as a cashier will also not be the correct target for these
this advice works on
1. men who really, really, REAALLLY like you and want to impress you because they view you as the prize
2. men who have the means to spend on you
first tip on asking men for money is this:
men are your mirror,
they will mirror back the energy you give off
so if you come to a man all nervous with shifty eyes, hands clasped tightly together saying “oh i don’t know if this is asking too much but i would really like it if you got me xyz” 👉🏽👈🏽
this is a huge ick for a provider man
and he will mirror that energy right back, if you’re not confident asking for money he doesn’t feel good giving it to you
imagine you’re at a job and want to ask for a raise, will you say
“hey guys, not sure if we have the budget for this but it would be really great if i can get a 10% increase” 👉🏽👈🏽
that’s not the energy that you bring when asking for money,
you have to be confident, straightforward, and ask for money as if it’s the most natural thing, as if you’re asking a waiter for water at a restaurant
here’s a few examples
“babe i’td make me so happy if you bought me these shoes”==> straightforward, you are talking bout your feelings and how HIS action would directly impact your happiness
“i’d love to wear this dress for you, do you think you can get it for me” ==> you’re making this about him, you want to wear the dress FOR him, you want to represent him well and show off how good he treats you, this is an immediate ego boost for the man,
+ asking “do you think you can get it for me” is only appropriate if you are in the early dating stage, this is being polite and not entitled but also slightly condescending because you’re questioning if he can do it/afford it, masculine men will want to prove it to you, but as you get comfortable in the relationship you should ask using the method in the first example
remember, provider men WANT to spend money on you, it makes them feel good, masculine and capable, the only thing they expect back from you is a smile and feminine gratitude,
“your receiving is your giving!”, aka men get a kick from taking care of their object of affection
so if you act all shy and victim-y or like you’re apologetic that he has to spend money on you, it’s a turn off for him and makes the spending not fun !
gratitude should look like this:
“thank you baby, i love how much you spoil me and take care of me”
“i love how you show me you love me”
this makes the man equate spending on you to an act and display of love!
“ you know me so well, you always pick exactly the thing that i want” = praising his attention to details and his dedication to pleasing you
“you’re the only man/ the only one who can do xyz”
men looove when you place them above other men, telling him he’s the only one who can do certain things for you really gets into their head, use this one carefully you don’t want him thinking that he’s the first man that spent money on you or treats you right, you strategically use this one for exceptional occasions. finally,
how to act when a man doesn’t want to spend on you
never get mad, angry or entitled,
that man just showed you his true colors and his intentions with you, in true “Elle Woods” fashion, tell him with the sweetest most innocent voice you can muster
“oh i’m sorry i didn’t know you were in a financial difficulty”
this line works like a charm to repel broke men, and to offend stingy men with money,
if you have the means and you’re not spending then that equals to broke 😉
my ask is open if you have questions on this specific topic ✨
4 Red Flag Lovers To Avoid At All Costs
There might not be a clear-cut rule on how to pick the ultimate partner, but there are at least four types of lovers you should avoid like spoiled leftovers.
1. Unrefined Leader
“Women don’t know how to be submissive.” It may not be that women don’t know how to be submissive, but rather no woman feels safe enough to let him lead. To be submissive, you must be able to trust the person you submit to blindly. You’ll learn that this person is not as dependable as they believe they are, and while you may love to submit, their actions don’t allow you to rest in their guidance.
2. Humble Pie Server
“You think you’re too good.” Carefully watch out for lovers whose primary goal is to humble you. They always find a way to remind you the things that make you happy are out of reach. There is no shame in being “too good” for something that would otherwise make you feel small. These insecurities show up when you express your interest, dreams, or plans, and they seem unattainable to the person you are sharing them with.
3. Jealous Lover
“Congratulations…” Jealousy flows without borders and can show up in relationships through backhand compliments and anti-celebratory comments. You’ll find that in moments when you have accomplished something big or small, they drag their feet to show you support. If it isn’t congratulations, then it could be hating.
4. Alpha Male Regurgitator
“I’m an alpha male, so that won’t work.” Self-taught masculinity often begins in an unrefined and toxic atmosphere. If a man's masculinity is cultivated through youtube and social platform leaders, they are likely to digest these messages in an unhealthy manner. The most dangerous part of false alphas is they will suffocate the flame of the pure feminine.
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How mental strength and discipline are your best allies in successful hypergamous dating (inspired by 10+ years of trial and error before internet)
Hello ladies,
I just wanted to drop a quick piece of advice that turned into a long article (sorry).
In order to achieve anything in life, we must have clarity of our goal in order to make the right plan, then we need to develop a strong sense of discipline and the ability to not get distracted so we can achieve it. Financial success through hypergamy is no different.
But the unfortunate thing is that we don't get granular about it, we don't analyze the small details and factors that play into it. Sometimes it's because we feel a little shame to look at human connections and relationships in such a dry way. But it's a necessity.
From interacting with many young ladies over the last few days, i realized that there is an important aspect that some are missing from the picture.
It's the emotional and mental strength to not fall for distractions, the power to control and regulate your own feelings and emotions, and the capability to shake off anything that is not aligned with your purpose as a woman who is on the prowl (don't roll your eyes 🙃) Most women who have accomplished it intentionally know it's a prowl, they don't admit it to people because it's demeaning in our modern culture.
Please keep in mind these are all skills and subtilties that you learn and master overtime, don't be too impressed by other women, no one is born with a complete knowledge and a clear map of how to act. And don't beat yourself up for your missteps, observe, learn and improve. I learnt a lot the hard way so be kind and grateful for your mistakes, just don't repeat them🙂
In matters that are not tangible and palpable (like human relationships) it's hard to see how these skills manifest, so here are 10 clear examples:
• When you meet a man you like, but doesn't meet your financial standards. Don't go out with him, don't entertain the thought of it because we are humans and we catch feelings, and admitting to ourselves our own humanity and vulnerability will save us from a series of bad decisions and heartache. Consider yourself the bar exam, if he doesn't get the passing score he is not qualified for the following interviews. It's harsh to say, but this is better than getting emotionally attached to the wrong person and spending years being unsatisfied and making him feel small (men feels things too even when we try to hide it). To do this, you need to be in full control of your emotions and be okay with the momentary feeling of discomfort (just like you are with the cookie box, you don't bring it to your house and challenge your will power, you just leave it in the store)
• You are dating a man who's gotten the passing score for the interviews (ok i love analogies😛), now you're in the early stages of dating but he is not meeting your expectations (no matter what they are as long as it's realistic and specific to you). Stop dissecting his messages, stop looking for clues, don't drop hints (men nowadays notice all of them), stop trying to psycho-analyze him and find his love language (there is no love to be communicated yet) or his issues, stop overthinking it, stop trying to teach him or guide him (when a man doesn't love you and trust you for a significant period of time, he is going to hate being told what to do by you). Just find the strength and discipline to move on, make it quick, make it clean, and don't look back. Successful men over 30-35, in whatever field they are, they know what to do. If he has watched one rom-com in entire life, he will know what to do, if he doesn't know but care enough, he will eventually find out (because this type of men get what they want). So if he's not meeting your expectations, it's because he doesn't feel the need to or doesn't want to (Am talking early stages of dating). Be brave to face the harsh truth, shake hands and move on.
• Do not put yourself in situations where you might end up doing things you don't want to do. Stick to the rules you set for yourself and be disciplined about it. Back in the day before laser hair removal and before i developed a strong discipline, I would keep myself ungroomed down there on purpose so I know i will not be dropping my panties under any kind of circumstances (mind you i am middle eastern so you get the image) and sometimes even my armpits when i know i shouldn't be taking anything off. Same with alcohol, before any date i would make important appointments early in the morning so i don't drink more than 1 glass of wine, that way i keep my composure and I'm sure i don't say things i will regret. I also always set a timeline in my head, date starts at 8 and finishes no later than 10.30. End of the story, i don't try to talk myself out of it no matter how good the date went. And if you end up doing something you regret, move on, don't try to fix it don't explain yourself to him, just learn from it. You're most likely not going to be able to repair or change the impression you made. (Quick story time, in my 20's i got drunk and i really messed things up, i acted like a sloppy undisciplined lady. I tried to go back to my sober composed self after that day and keep being the lady i wanted him to see me as, it didn't work. It never works, he is entitled to think of you however he wants, don't try to rebrand yourself or change his mind, he is not going to, don't your waste time (successful men are quick to judge), so the best thing in these situations is to stop seeing him and just move on without looking back)
• In the early stages of dating resist the urge to reveal a lot of yourself, learn how to build suspense and cultivate his eagerness to discover who you are. Be in control of your narrative, men pay attention to everything. Even more when you feel a strong connection and, in your head, you think he is your soulmate and you are two happy peas in a pod. Resist the urge to call and to text. Do not answer phone calls or texts after curfew, mine is always 10 even if am out partying, first, you should know that it's inappropriate to reach out to you that late when you're not even in a committed relationship. If he does, you answer kindly in the morning, he'll get the message and he will never repeat it as long as you don't budge.
• If you like him and you're considering a serious relationship with, do not drop hints about gifts, do not suggest shopping, do not talk about your or his finances and money, do not share your financial struggles with him(even if he asks), this is early in the relationship and rich men see you coming 10 miles away and they will even try to pull out answers from you. He is a grown man, probably smart, he knows what to do, if he wants to give you something or offer you a gift, he will do it without hints, (I've seen men give significant gift cards from nice clothing stores because they invited the woman they are dating on trip and they know we love and need shopping before a romantic getaway) Keep your material wants to yourself, you're not fooling him he is just playing the game because he has an agenda. which is not bad in itself, just don't do it with men you like and consider for something durable and serious. Always remember that you have an image to curate (the whole " be spontaneous " doesn't work with quality men in the early stages of dating. exceptions exist, but again are you willing to bet on a statistical anomaly?). This man doesn't know you yet, so be prideful and reserved.
• Always keep a mental distance between your feelings and his flattery or attention. Single heterosexual men, under the appropriate circumstances will hit on you if they deem you fuckable, fuckable not special. He will shower you with compliments and sometimes gifts (they might big huge for you but not necessarily for him, many men have no issues dropping few thousands to sleep with you, just for the sake of the chase). Wealthy men are still men, they just have more resources to burn on what they want. A man showing you surface level interest doesn't automatically mean that he truly likes you. so, getting momentary attention from a man, even if he is the highest caliber that ever walked on this earth, means nothing of substance. So don't spend time dwelling and interpreting it. They are shooting their shots because, first that's what they live to do, second, they are just working the probabilities. For you to navigate dating successfully, stay in your head and do not let yourself get swayed or swept away, act how you know you should act (do not break character😄) No last-minute dates, no swinging by your house, no late lousy phone calls ...The rules are the rules and you set them so you should be mentally strong and disciplined to stick to them, because your rational self knows better than your flattered self.
• Never start 'the talk', Never ask where is this going, never express verbally or non-verbally that you like him before he explicitly says it and acts like it. Even if you're planning your wedding in your head, keep it to yourself and your girlfriends. He is supposed to court you and seduce you into liking him and court you some more for you to approve of him as your mate. Never try to pressure him into committing by dropping hints... you think he doesn't notice, but he does, they all do. Setting standards or being clear about not wanting casual relationships is something you show through your actions and reactions, it's not something you verbally say without the proper context and timing. And the proper timing is when HE asks for more, otherwise you just look like you're trying to bag him. And there is nothing more off-putting to quality men than desperation. And you might think that there is nothing wrong with being direct and you don't really like playing mind games ... you're totally right. Not all relationships are similar and people are different and complex. Now i want you to decide what kind of relationship dynamic you're seeking: Do you want to be put on a pedestal, cherished, respected and valued or you want the daily hassle of begging your man for a little attention, a man that has taken you for granted. Now that you have made your choice, keep in mind: a man will never hold you in high regards if you throw yourself at him and hand him your love on a silver platter. Make him prove himself to you, you're the one hiring and he is the candidate. Even more so when he is wealthier than you, more accomplished than you, even if he is the king of some rich dictatorship or a rock star. Never make him feel that he is your big break, that he is the man you've been waiting for your whole life. He doesn't know you enough to form the right impression and take your sincerity as it is, all he sees is a woman who is too eager to commit without taking her time because she saw money (so something must be wrong with her), there is nothing wrong if he thinks he had the first chance because of his money, but it's wrong if he thinks that's the only thing that matters to you and it shouldn't. For all he knows there is a million men out there trying to bag you, so keep him guessing and never say or hint that men are courting you even if it's the truth and you feel triggered to throw it in his face, you will just come off as an immature teenager. So, keep your reactions under control and do not insinuate that you are the best woman he will ever meet (think it but just don't say it)
• In the early stages of courtship, never let him see you when you're not ready. No surprises and swinging by your house while you're on your pj's and oiling your hair. Do not budge even if he packages it as a sweet romantic surprise. It's rarely the case and too early for surprises. When you're not ready to meet him, don't. A rule of thumb is to never answer last minute texts that say " hello beauty, are you home?" right away. Also, it helps build a healthy level of tension him thinking that you might be on a date with another great man. When you're from a lower economic class than the man you're dating, in most cases, he will want to check you out, see where your live, how is your home, who you are when you're taken by surprise. Do not allow him to push you out of your comfort zone, and don't make him feel that he is entitled to your presence whenever he feels like it.
• When you want to end up in a loving happy healthy relationship with a wealthy man, you have to look beyond the money. The money gets him at the door, it just gives him a fighting chance. Him meeting your financial standards shouldn't be the only criteria, you need to be conscious of the fact that what makes a relationship work long term is compatibility. He might be the richest man in Babylon and he is just not for you for reasons that has nothing to do with money. Hypergamous relationships are still human relationships, they might end for a variety of reasons. Do not chase titles and numbers beyond a certain minimum that YOU define, not social media, not family pressure ... Stop yourself from being bamboozled by status and wealth, richest doesn't always mean most generous nor most beneficial TO YOU in the long run. Keep yourself in check from time to time and stay connected to your reality and your end goal. Sometimes he is perfect and great on paper, but it's just not working. Don't be afraid of the potential loss of what you've built up in your head, and get rid of the FOMO, and don't let greed blind you.
• Now last but not least, develop a strong sense of pride and have the ability to walk away at any stage of the relationship if your standards are not met. No matter how much you love him, no matter how sad you're going to be. Learn how to deal with heart break in silent dignity, and learn to function when you're sad and don't be afraid of being sad, alone and heartbroken, it will pass like everything else. And learn to live with the harsh reality that he might not chase you back, do not try to give chances when your rational self knows you shouldn't and do not coarse him into loving you and meeting your standards. Keep yourself grounded and humbled and learn how to digest rejection. Sometimes you can do everything right and he is your dream man but it just doesn't work, accept it and move on. You don't need to be loved and appreciated by everyone and you're never going to, don't try to force it. It's very important that you learn how to self-regulate when you're overwhelmed by emotions, and it's very important that you know how to identify when you're weak emotionally and resist the urge to take decisions based on feelings. Do not lower the standards you set for yourself for him, you have set them for a valid reason before he came into your life, trust your rational self.
So that is it for now, i hope it can be helpful for the beautiful women out there who are on the path of success ( and i hope it wasn't too long and boring)
Them lowkey shawties are the most interesting.
I’m slowly learning that even if I react, it won’t change anything. It won’t make certain people suddenly love, understand & respect me, it won’t magically change their minds. Sometimes it’s better to say nothing & detach myself from them.
I’m a warm person, I genuinely don’t like burning connections with people I love or who may not deserve it 😭 but sometimes principals come into play :(
"In the 21rst century, Make sure if you are Buying a house, Close your mouth. If you are Buying a new car, Close your mouth. If you are Getting married, Close your mouth. If you are Going on a holiday, Close your mouth.
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If you are Going to do a course, Close your mouth. If you are Getting engaged, Close your mouth. The majority of your "friends or people close to you" want to see you do well, but Never better than them! That’s why when you fail they will be the first to open their arms and pretend like they care. So close your mouth, let achievements do the speaking. God bless"
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It's so true most people are not on a journey of self improvement, low agency so someone else's hustle triggers them so they will do what they can to sabotage it even on an energetic level. Most people would rather be lazy and keep their limiting beliefs than level up so if they see you succeed they will go after you. Crabs in a barrel.
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I had an incident with someone in the level up community who wasn't putting effort in therapy, in leveling up, in appearance, just reading all the books and implementing nothing. We met two years ago or a year ago I believe. Since then girls who started with us go their engagement rings some married, and definitely many girls had a date at Michelin start restaurant with a multi millionaire even if it did not go well in these groups. She was so sweet in the beginning. As she became more and more and more behind and struggled getting to above a coffee date and ladies around her were surpassing her, she became bitter and started passive aggressive behavior. For example she would deliberately contradict whenever someone who leveled up more than she did speak.
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It's okay if you move slow but you try to implement something and are hopeful and move. We are all at different stages of the journey but the key is to keep moving. People who are not trying to always improve themselves lose hope and then get upset at others.
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At Miss Universe all the ladies were nice to each other, opposite of catty, because everyone was on a self improvement journey. Our success depended on how well we did, not on other ladies. We are our only competition.
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Even a lot of people who say they are on a journey of self improvement are not like the catty backbiter who was nice but after she was behind started back biting. Catina the BackBiter is actually a compose of quite a few ladies I saw and walked away from. I also notice this in person.
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Don't show off. I didn't realize I was showing off but I got attacked for getting engaged and getting married by feminists I met at a conference. Its so funny now they are considered TERFS and the woke mob went after them later.
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Don't trust people who are not actively leveling up and putting effort to be a little ahead next year more than this one, who aren't doing inner work and working on their limiting beliefs. Of course that means networking is difficult - then just keep it superficial with most people unless you see them passionate about growth.
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Stagnant people bite. Growing people don't. Most people are stagnant so be careful who you share your joy with. Don't show your plans until they happened so that nobody sabotages you.
Credit Maria Al Massani
They can't ruin what they don't know.