30 Level Up Lessons I Learned
1. Be mindful of the length of your fingernails. I know I mentioned long nails fit my nails better, but your nails should not be kissing your palms and poking everything and everybody. Keep your nails trimmed to a manageable length if yours grow like weeds.
2. You’ll gain “the stare”. When I was at a steakhouse, I looked at this man I knew didn’t respect this 20-something girl’s worth. He looked through my soul because I knew what they were doing and he was being extremely cheap with her making her eat at the bar when she wanted a table. The Stare makes cheap men feel uncomfortable and angry.
3. You’ll learn what mannerisms you’ll need for the “job”. Practice your tools at home so trial and error doesn’t nab you in behind. Your tiny purse goes in both of your hands when you’re worried instead of rubbing your temples like a man.
Bursting into tears in trivial situations will have an unintended effect like a man putting his wallet back and pulling his phone out for you to call home or a friend.
4. It’s acceptable to be neutral in your attitude. Being all smiles can get you taken advantage of and hurt.
5. There’s ALWAYS bigger fish out there. Don’t compromise on exercising, dieting or practicing your makeup. A lazy eyeshadow can bar you from having your brunch covered. Clothes fitting you weirdly will cause a man to choose another woman to surprise with a fulfilled bill. Be the biggest and best around. Don’t SLACK on your appearance!
6. Don’t be too fast to correct him. If I would’ve been quick to correct, I would’ve spent a lot of money on surprise expenses because I emasculated him.
7. On the way, you’ll learn how to tailor your femininity around women. I’ve mentioned before my feminine demeanor unravels around older (albeit miserable) women.
8. Find smaller targets to practice on. Small doesn’t equal bad or you’re unattractive. It’s as exciting to have your milkshake covered as it is your shopping trip! Hint: Invest in a signature makeup look whenever your intention is shopping. There ARE men out there who look for pretty women to pay for.
9. Appear 2-3 years older than you are when you’ve just entered adulthood. It makes you appear mature and like you know what you want. Don’t look at yourself as a juvenile or confused girl.
10. It’s not your job to make others comfortable with your appearance. Don’t leave the house looking homely because you don’t want to intimidate people.
11. You can look expensive for cheap. Beauty supply beauty can look expensive with lots of alterations. Most of the products aren’t bad, just underrated. I’m not going to pad it, you’ll need a palette mixer and a very good moisturizer to make these shades look good because they are BASIC. I’d allocate a part of my budget and a day or 2 for beauty supply shopping. You’ll find so many gems.
12. It’s not his business how affordable your makeup or outfit was. Your NYX is Nars and your beauty supply makeup is Mac.
13. Average is boring. Average is predictable and shows a lack of preparation. Average means you’re complacent with yourself.
14. You’ll know how to respond to time wasters. I blocked a guy for texting me too early about himself.
15. Learning how to be delicate is difficult. This was a huge issue for me coming from a masculine background when being delicate meant weakness and sacrificing something.
16. Snatch your body before it’s developed into maturity. For most of my followers, your body is most likely changing before your eyes. Not having an exercise regimen can make or break your transformation. Literally, don’t allow your new hips to give away you’re unhealthy.
17. Your real name is not your name in public. I would not use a variant of my name either. Your phone name is your alter ego’s name. He’s not your doctor, roommate, friend or parent. Learn how to not acknowledge someone who recognizes you.
18. You’re whoever you want to be in your element. A socialite, glamorous beauty, girly girl, goth princess, etc. who wears all of the hats in her style.
19. You HAVE to find the standards of a higher class appearance so you won’t be overlooked. What may look appear wealthy in your community may make you invisible in higher end communities. I’ve felt so invisible in affluent areas due to this. The higher class look will equate to more success for you in your own community because men who’ll cover you respect that.
20. Ignore bitter girls. If they’re being aggressive to you in public, find a way to get out of their way as soon as possible.
21. Focus on getting 1 hairstyle right if others look messy on you. 1 is better than nothing or until you get the others right.
22. Wearing wigs doesn’t mean your own hair texture is undesirable. A year into my journey was when I bought my 1st lace front wig. I struggled with telling myself that a wig is a protective style and not a measure of self-hatred.
23. Learn at your pace. I’m grateful I stopped myself before I tried free-styling. The glitz and glam is a lot of fun, until you’re still at square 1 acting the same way you did, only dressed up.
24. Your experience improves with age. I have to educate myself about expensive living and work 3 times as hard to be taken seriously.
25. Etiquette is as important as your appearance. You can look like a luxury queen, and exude being his buddy when you burp without saying anything or scratch your back.
26. Invoke your fantasy aura at all times. You’re not an average woman. Men look for you through matchmakers, spiritual guides and wishes.
27. Your low self esteem can be your demise. It’s not quirky to go out and accept anything thrown at you. Your esteem dictates your outfits, attitude, lifestyle and mindset.
28. You’ll unfollow a lot of your influences becoming more feminine. You’ll discover how your influences feel about you in their music, when they’re angry or under pressure.
29. Resting is very important. Going to bed before midnight doesn’t mean you have no social life, it’s your safety net for your life and mind.
30. You’re saving your life. You’re saving yourself from what your family suffered and what you would’ve suffered. Remember to appreciate all you’ve done.
