Could you please give a list of the harshest things that you think we (general population of women trying to improve on themselves) need to hear
This post is part of my Tough Love Tuesdays series where followers send me their problems and receive a stern kick in the butt. They specifically asked for extremely harsh answers, so if you take offence to this or it makes you feel sensitive, then you need to keep scrolling because it is not directed at you, nor are you the target audience. They don’t want to be coddled, they don’t want sugar coating, they don’t want beating around the bush. They want painfully tough love.
The absolute overwhelming majority of men prefer women who are at a healthy weight.
Hypersexuality does not solve your problems, it's actually probably causing many of them.
A lot of you got useless degrees (from a financial standpoint) that put you several thousands of dollars into debt and got you a job that hardly lets you live a comfortable middle class life. Is that really something to flex?
A lot of you are extremely insecure and need constant validation, but you hide behind a facade of “I’m a bad bitch” as a protective mask.
If you want marriage and children, then spending years and years and years of your fertility window and most desired ages of attractiveness (in the eyes of men) not prioritizing marriage and children is an odd choice, wouldn’t you say?
Adding on to that, if you want marriage and children, there’s no need to pretend that you would be 100% perfectly fine and happy if it doesn’t happen for you. It’s okay to admit that you want it.
Your inability to take accountability for your bad choices in life is leading you down a path of destruction.
Far too many of you have placed yourself in an echo chamber that only promotes the idea that because you are a woman, you are 100% perfect exactly the way you are and you never need to change or grow or improve or better yourself in any way. They are lying to you <3
Not everyone suits the insta baddie look and there are other ways to level up physically besides going for that look.
A lot of the “men ain’t shit” crowd are women who ain’t shit and allow their terrible personalities and behavior to attract men who are mirrors of them.
Your mother caused you a lot of mental health problems. I can see that you are gearing up to keep that cycle going with your own daughters. Stop it. Get some help.
Your son is not your husband. Your daughter is not the second mom of the house.
Being a young single mother/baby mama actually is a big deal and you can’t be upset that it impacts you on the dating market.
Many people nowadays will not be financially secure enough to retire when the time comes. You NEED to start putting your money to the side now, before it’s too late.
Some of you need to finally admit that your weight is where it’s at solely because of you and your diet.
You claim that you don’t have time to do helpful self-improvement things for your life, but if I were to monitor you for a week, it’d be obvious that it’s a lie. You just don’t want to make the time for it.
At some point, you’re gonna have to ditch the vices you use to cope and finally start the healing process.
Many of the things on your list of requirements for what you want from a man point to the sum of a man who doesn’t exist. Your desires are fictitious.
Yes, your looks matter. A lot. Always have, always will.
Your inability to practice long term self-discipline is why your life is the way it is.
