To state things bluntly: Demand more, and start teaching men their place. It’s unfortunate, because I see the pattern with both girls who’ve gained experience and girls new to the industry that they place significant time, effort, and devotion into men who clearly have nothing significant to offer, and I imagine with the cold winter months coming and business beginning to slow down, a significant number of paid companions will be looking for arrangements or be susceptible to compromising their standards as well. Even women who have successfully entered an arrangement for a long-period of time or were spoiled girlfriends and kept women often seem to struggle with setting the standards for a new arrangement, and I would argue that in large part, this wasted effort comes from the conflicting messages that surround how exactly to get a man to spend money on you. Furthermore, just because a man gives you money - or if a man is willing to spend on you, does not mean that he is worth the time and energy.
In large part, this effort seems to come from the belief that you need to prove yourself, you need to exhibit yourself as high-class, or otherwise give up something in order to have a successful arrangement or session. Let me say this: You don’t have to do shit. I see all of this nonsense about wearing the right designer fit, crafting the perfect text message with a singular emoji, and supposedly applying manipulation and playing mind games to obtain what you want. You don’t have to do any of that, and perhaps the women who gave this advice used these tactics to obtain a result, but in reality, this has little to no effect on your rate of success. These are just individual things that they themselves do and feel comfortable with - and that’s great, because they then exhibit a sense of authenticity and expression of their personality, which perhaps lets them procure a successful arrangement, but it’s really not the end goal or point. Pick and choose what you like, what you feel comfortable with, and then be at the right place and at the right time, then to be frank, you shouldn’t have any problem. If you have difficulty with finding the right clientele, I might suggest that you’re looking in the wrong places.
Here is what will happen: he will spend, or he will not. He has the funds, or he does not. He is either generous, or he is not generous. Those are the literal only two things that will happen, and as much as we might like to think that we can manipulate someone into paying, more often than not, the expectation is set by the very first meeting and he already knows whether or not he will spend. Ultimately, everything else is irrelevant, given that we’re looking to be paid. All of the rambling about whether he wants to see you in person first, as he bumbles and blathers about the need for “chemistry”, requiring you to jump through unnecessary hoops is just a disguise for his absence of generosity, inability to understand the rules and standards of a paid companion, and his uselessness. Please stop entertaining unworthy time-wasters who clearly exhibit red flags. You will get nothing substantial out of it.
Some authentic and genuine men are looking to get to know a person and perhaps, would like to initiate conversation and meet you prior to starting an arrangement. That’s perfectly fine, and these are not the time-wasters that I am talking about. Real candidates will know exactly what you’re looking for. The minute that someone significantly younger and attractive matches with them, they should know exactly what you’re looking for, what is about to happen, and should act in accordance with that. That means that even when they initiate conversation, they do so in a respectful way. There’s the discussion of following your intuition, and to some degree that is true, but ultimately, I would argue that there are clear patterns and signs that men exhibit that indicate whether they are a worthwhile client or not.
What I qualify as red flags: If a man attempts to neg you - to insult your appearance, the way that you dress, or otherwise tries to dismiss you in a disrespectful way, particularly on the first match, I report, block, and unmatch. He is trying to attempt to establish a power imbalance. Ignore. The instant a man tries to bring up something vaguely sexual, for instance, calling you ‘baby’, asking for a ‘home date’, or even mentioning a ‘cuddle’ without giving you money, you know this is the wrong man and he is evidently trying to get something for free. An actually genuine man interested in an arrangement will never ask, even if you all text back and forth. If he asks about your body or your measurements or for inappropriate photos, it’s the exact same scenario. Ignore or report. If he tries to make some sort of false justification about the need to know where his money is going, then he is trying to lie and manipulate. Men know the instant they see your pictures and photos whether they like you. Anything else is bullshit.
As for in-person dates, it might be inappropriate to ask for something on the first date if it’s not a client who found you through your website profile. In that scenario, suggest that you meet first. If it’s at a low-brow restaurant, or ‘fun bar’, this is not a substantive candidate. To be honest, any quality client will know that he has to spend to impress you - and every single regular or SD that I’ve had in which I met them in person has not hesitated to splurge on the first date. If it’s not three dollar signs on Yelp/Google, then I don’t go, as this is an indicator this man is not generous, and thus, has nothing significant to offer. There is also significant discussion about, even if a date goes well, how to move forward, how to acquire a regular or an arrangement. Literally, just ask. I’ve come to the conclusion that beating around the bush or trying to communicate in hidden terminology is useless. Just ask for an arrangement. There is no secret code or means of manipulation - he will either say yes or no. If he says no or if he’s not comfortable with those terms of arrangement, I believe that there is nothing more to be gained from the situation. He might be a Splenda, he might pay for dates, he might buy you a few gifts, but at the end of the day, he will not contribute to your pockets. Move on and secure the bag elsewhere.
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