a lot of men and women hold resentment for each other due to faulty assumptions made about the other's upbringing based on personal anecdotes and it's something you seriously have to acknowledge before getting into feminism if you want to be grounded in material reality. we all have more shared experiences (including traumas) than we are aware of, because children regardless of assigned gender are considered subordinate to adults and treated accordingly. you really can't accurately assume anyone you're arguing with on the internet was socialized one way or another.
working through resentment is also important for literally any topic related to punishment. it also feels liberating--your worldview is no longer bound to individuals who ruined your life. they are no more important than any other person. you no longer have a sort of void you feel can only be filled with revenge. i'm not saying you have to forgive anyone, but that life is not like a movie, and you are better off psychologically not living every day waiting for some sort of justice to be enacted that you know will not happen. that may sound kind of bleak or harsh but it's reality for a lot of people, myself included, and it's unsurprisingly a reality that's not easy to accept. I only personally accept it because there isn't really a better option for my mental health, but it's helped me form more coherent politics regardless
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