I also believe Elia had good relationships with SOME of the Kingsguard. Not to say there was bad blood, but obviously, some bonds were stronger than others. For example, Arthur and Lewyn are out of question. Both are Dornish, both have known Elia all their lives, and both love her dearly.
It is also believed that Lewyn Martell joined the Kingsguard AFTER Elia had joined the royal family.
Then we have Oswell Whent and Jon Darry. Of these two, I think Oswell would be closer to Elia than Jon. Having said that, I’ve always imagined Oswell as a bit of a rogue, but in a good way, you know? A bit of a joker, a bit rough around the edges but reliable.
As for Darry, Gerold Hightower and Barristan Selmy, I think there was neutrality. That’s their job, if you know what I mean. I don’t think they were particularly close, partly because I imagine there was a bit of an age gap between them and Elia, Rhaegar, etc...
As for Gerold, I think the neutrality stems from him being Lord Commander. These three seem more pro-Aerys than pro-Rhaegar. Don’t stone me, I’m not saying they were 100% defenders of him, but there is evidence.
- The Darrys have always been linked to the Targaryens; it is Ser Willem Darry who takes Dany and Viserys away. Jon Darry was guarding the gate alongside Jaime when Aerys was abusing Rhaella. We don’t know what he was thinking.
- Barristan has several lines in the books referring to Elia with affection but also with a certain distance. It is from his remarks that we know Rhaegar and Elia had a somewhat… complex marriage.
Then there’s my poor Jaime. He’s just a kid at the moment. I reckon he did have a bit of a soft spot for Elia; they knew each other and their mothers even wanted to set them up.
I’d go so far as to say (and like everything on this blog, this is just my own headcanon) that Elia had a certain maternal affection for Jaime, and vice versa.
The only one I think might be a bit of a bitchy character is JonCon, but that’s because he isn’t very fond of the Dornish and was in love with Rhaegar.
this is mainly inspired by this post by sworsandarms