I Love You

Abuse survivor in recovery. I love you and you deserve good things. Your trauma isnt your fault. I care about you, please stay alive tonight. I post a many cat. Engaged to @little-vybes Side blog @em-powerr 🖤They/Them🖤

[frikiskrew]

[obesecamels]

There’s a lot to unpack here. +the flexibility to get in that pose +the balance to stay on the skateboard +the strength to pull back a bowstring with your toes +the dexterity to hit a target while moving +the coordination… not hand-eye, but foot-eye …I don’t know what to do with these things now that I’ve unpacked them…

[miseducatedmelanicmuse]

🥺🥺❤️💕

[bikinicouch]

Omfg

[darkcomedies-deactivated2022042]

[recoversuggestions]

sometimes you’re not ready for certain things. maybe you’ll take longer than others. and that’s okay. we all grow at different speeds! 

[divinitydawning]

[kernaka]

op: @thefive15

[upliftourday]

[rawhoneybliss]

Moving on from unhealthy connections is good for the soul.

[sk-lumen]

It’s time for you to flourish like never before, it’s time for you to find the happiness and peace you’ve always wanted. It’s time.

[recoverr-a-deactivated20210530]

you shouldn’t have to beg for attention. for an answer. for company. for love, friendship or respect. you shouldn’t have to beg for things that should be given freely and lovingly. 

[saying]

[c-isnenegro]

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[positiveautistic-deactivated202]

Just a reminder in case your mind is playing tricks on you today:

You matter. You’re important. You’re loved. And your presence on this earth makes a difference whether you see it or not.

[wholeheartedsuggestions]

we don’t need to talk if you don’t want to. i love you and i know you love me and that’s all we need to know right now.

[conscious-love]

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Self-Discipline Isn’t Always the Answer

So I wasn’t really taught to brush my teeth every day as a kid. So I didn’t. I got to be an adult and realized “hmm teeth are expensive I need to start brushing them” and brushing my teeth twice a day has been on my actual to do list every single day of my college career. It’s a habit I needed to build.

Have I successfully done it? Absolutely not. I’m pretty good about doing it at least once a day, but some days it just doesn’t happen. It’s not that I forget usually, I just had some aversion I couldn’t figure out, until last week.

I’m at the grocery store, in the toothpaste aisle with my roommate, and I complain about how much I hate mint. I FUCKING HATE THE TASTE OF MINT. The taste and the smell, any kind of minty thing in any form, I HATE IT. But literally every “adult” toothpaste in the aisle was some type of minty disgusting nonsense. And my roommate was like “you know you could like get kids’ toothpaste? You like bubblegum right?”

And y’all, it was like the clouds parted. I got some strawberry bubblegum kids’ toothpaste. I brushed my teeth with it and it was a whole new experience. I have successfully brushed twice a day every day since, because the mental block I had towards it is gone! 

I thought my lack of brushing was just a moral failing on my part; I was too lazy, too undisciplined, to build a good habit. But really? I just hate the taste of mint so much I didn’t want to brush my teeth.

This made me realize that when presented with a change you want to make, a habit you want to build, if you’re encountering resistance in yourself, you should lean into that resistance and really investigate what’s causing it, then work on accommodating that. 

Say you hate washing dishes so they pile up and then you’re overwhelmed by how many you have to do. Why do you hate it? Deep down, what about it do you dislike? Is touching wet food super gross for you? Try thick rubber gloves while you’re washing. Does the sound of dishing clanking together grate your nerves? Do them with headphones in and turned up loud. Do you hate the smell? Light some candles, spray some air freshener. 

Do these things instead of gritting your teeth and forcing yourself, then ultimately failing and getting discouraged by your “lack of self-discipline”

TL;DR: When a task is consistently hard for you, relying on self-discipline, forcing yourself, and gritting through doesn’t always work. Lean in and listen to your discomfort, and find what makes the task hard, then try to accommodate that. Also, mint toothpaste is gross.