Eris Vanserra cares about public perception!
But perhaps not in the way we’re led to believe…
Inspired by a talk about Eris’s character the other day, I want to address a tendency that I’ve seen among us Eris-enthusiasts: Mainly that we sometimes downplay his canonical dismay concerning how he’s perceived by others.
See, I don’t buy the interpretation of him as this cold, practical realist who doesn’t care what others think of him. Or that he’s “all about appearances” in the somewhat shallow way Mor suggests. That is part of his mask and, in my opinion, self-preservation.
I believe that while he might be forced to think practically and take the bigger picture into consideration, it truly bothers him when he’s perceived and depicted as cruel, and he’s not uncaring in regard to how his actions have rendered him disliked and isolated (in terms of lack of meaningful relationships).
We see it on page several times. Both in ACOWAR and ACOSF.
He gets defensive/upset when Mor and Feyre suggest he abuses females, and that he hunted Lucien and Feyre down because he wanted to, for example. And despite some people’s insistence that he doesn’t have anything to be sorry for (here, I’m guilty as charged) he explicitly states he regrets his choices in regard to Mor. To me, it’s rather obvious that it still weighs on him after centuries, even though he claims not to care what she thinks of him.
And while he does fight Feyre and calls Mor a slut, he also treats Nuan (a female tinkerer hailing from Xian) with respect—which negates the interpretation of him as inherently misogynistic (just to pick one example). But this post isn’t about his character in general. It’s about how he’s affected by the world’s perception of him.
In addition to becoming upset at accusations of misogyny and cruelty, we see him express clear jealousy and/or negative emotions in situations where his lack of meaningful relationships come up. We see it when he tells Cass that he told Beron how the Night Court was “disgusted to arrive and find it was me, rather than someone from the Summer or Winter Courts or whoever stoops to associate with you”. This is clearly jealousy, and even Cassian picks up on it.
In ACOWAR, he tells Rhys that, “Not all of us were so lucky in our friends and family as you, Rhysand” which to me (despite his nonchalant thread-picking in this scene) also testifies to a wish to have those relationships himself.
Furthermore, when he sees Lucien again after the battle against Hybern, even Feyre notes something like regret, like sadness, in his expression. He also gets defensive when Cass expresses empathy towards him (which he refers to as pity) at the end of ACOSF—possibly because he can’t bear it.
Because that would be too close to what he longs for: someone caring about him; someone seeing him for who he is. And the way his eyes blaze when Cass tells him he’s not a monster? That’s not the expression of someone who doesn’t care what others think of him. It’s just not.
So, to sum it up: the Eris in canon isn’t a dispassionate lone wolf who gives zero fucks about others’ opinions and desires to be alone. And he’s not without regret. Regardless of what we think about his actions, or whether or not that regret is warranted, he feels it. That’s canon.
He acts mean and uncaring in the books, and one could definitely argue he’s a jerk. But that’s largely because he’s had to become one to survive, not just in a cutthroat Court with Beron as his father, but emotionally as well. Because it’s been necessary for him to distance himself that way. Otherwise his situation would have broken him centuries ago.
And I think this—the fact that he actually cares about his reputation despite his facade—makes his story even more hard-hitting. More heartbreaking than it already is.
As if he doesn’t have enough of a burden to carry in the first place.