Not my usual sorts of posts but I just wanted to say, as someone with a disability and possibly a chronic illness (in the process to get diagnosed but it could potentially take years before i get it) idk who needs to hear this but dont let other peoples ignorance make you feel like shit for having a disability! Ik its hard especially being in my 20s and having to constantly hear "just wait til youre my age" from people older than me who are able bodied who KNOW im already in a worse place than them (i have to use a walking stick already) and ik people are going to be shitty, and i also know how hard it is to work past it. But honestly those people are either idiots, dickheads, willfully ignorant or all three mixed into one very nasty concoction. Im still working through this side of things myself having only recently been diagnosed this year with hypermobility due to how badly its affecting me, and this post is also a bit of a reminder to myself to not let those people get to me, to not let them stop me from using my walking stick as and when i need. And for those of you who have family who dont get it/try to talk you out of using aids you have, i get that as well, my mom has a history of trying to talk me out of it cause she percieves it as "shameful" but honestly take pride in using it, take pride in using something that helps you continue to function, to get around and enjoy your days or even just to help you get home after work, whatever you need it for theres a level of pride to have in doing something that helps you, keeps you going. And yk whats also ok? Having days where youre in despair over your condition. Its hard to live with, it can be upsetting, you can grieve the life you could have had or have lost due to medical issues impacting it and thats ok, its normal, cry it out, scream, whatever you need to do, its better than bottling it up. My blog will always be a safe space for all lgbt people and all disabled people. And for people who like me are also in a long winded diagnosis process i wish us luck to get the answers to whats wrong with us! And to anyone who hasnt gone to the doctors yet for a diagnosis thats also ok, i get it, it took me 2 years to go and get diagnosed due to dismissive doctors in the past when i went as a kid, it can be exhausting and ruin your trust in people who are supposed to be there to help but once you do get a doctor who listens things progress so much faster, my doctor didnt bat an eye when i asked her about ehlers danlos, she just had me book in an extensive examination to kick start it, i learned a lot more about my body from that alone, including the fact that im classed as having widespread chronic pain. It helps a lot even if its hard to approach the subject for things like this, to start the diagnosis process, once its started then its just a matter of being told what the next appointments need to be. Also again for people undiagnosed for whatever reason, there is no harm in looking into stuff that you think could help you. If you geel you need it theres every chance you do, just research things thoroughly until you can get to a doctor (please do try to go get an actual diagnosis sooner rather than later so things can be on your medical records for if/when you may need it tho)
