Synthetic Solitude

A place of utter randomness, often of a gaming nature.

[bakwaaas]

I’m tired of everyone using this quarantine to make others feel guilty for not having hobbies, not being productive, not learning something new, not doing xyz, blah blah. just leave people alone man we’re all trying to cope in our own ways, this isn’t a holiday it’s a tragedy

[mochmint]

ARE YOU KIDDING ME

[catchymemes]

[greengay]

:^)

[gaycism]

[thesquishypenguin]

I was talking about my guitar again asking If either parent would chip in just a little for it

My dad said no because it was an expensive five minute wonder, and he 'knows me'.

As if my brother, in the past, has NOT bought things and quickly forgot about them.

As if my DAD HIMSELF has NOT bought things and never used them or it was a huge waste of money. Who has a steam engine that hasnt run since he bought it? Who bought a treadmill and never used it? Who has a boat that doesnt run, has never been used, that he can no longer afford to keep?

I took offence and asked for an example.

The one he gave me?

"The (grow) lights for your plants!" From when my collection was indoors and needed more light.

Excuse me??? I used those for several months then UPGRADED TO A GREENHOUSE??????? I still have them in case the plants need to come inside!

[syntheticsolitude]

Ah yes, because that’s how the power of parental observation actually works.  They only notice certain things and make assumptions and sht if they don’t see it constantly.  or some such.

Now if the argument was “it’s noisy and I don’t want to hear it at all hours” it’d be different, and I wonder if that’s not actually part of it instead, and it’s the BS excuses to avoid outright saying it.

[sitta-pusilla]

updates on the pandemic as of 3/15/20

[gwinny5k]

“…. [I quite unnecessarily locked the Gethenians into heterosexuality. It is a naively pragmatic view of sex that insists that sexual partners must be of the opposite sex! In any kemmer-house homosexual practice would, of course, be possible and acceptable and welcomed—but I never thought to explore this option; and the omission, alas, implies that sexuality is heterosexuality. I regret this very much.]But the central failure in this area comes up in the frequent criticism I receive, that the Gethenians seem like men, instead of menwomen. This rises in part from the choice of pronoun. I call Gethenians “he” because I utterly refuse to mangle English by inventing a pronoun for “he/she.” [This “utter refusal” of 1968 restated in 1976 collapsed, utterly, within a couple of years more. I still dislike invented pronouns, but I like then less than the so-called generic pronoun he|him|his, which does in fact exclude women from discourse; and which was an invention of male grammarians, for until the sixteenth century the English generic singular pronoun was they|them|their, as it still is in English and American colloquial speech. It should be restored to the written language, and let the pedants and pundits squeak and gibber in the streets….]”

— Dancing At The Edge Of The World: Is Gender Necessary? Redux by Ursula K. Le Guin, 1976 [1986] (via trai-all)

[kiraliana]

⚠️Just so we’re clear⚠️

[wetwareproblem]

Y’know, for all the flaws in the 90s Everyone Online Is A Predator Never Say Anything model, it was infinitely safer for kids than the current “your online friends are completely safe and trustworthy, but outsiders are inherently suspicious” model.

Still waiting for the “Most people are basically honest, but people who want to hurt you are really good at pretending to be friendly, so be open and kind but careful” model to take hold.

[robertcapajpg]

here’s my response to everybody saying “coronavirus is just a flu, there’s nothing to worry about”

[aaliyahbreaux]

I wonder how many gay people are actually transgender & dont know it because people thing being transgender is transitioning when it’s literally just not being cis.

[aaliyahbreaux]

like I had a friend tell me last night “all my life I wanted to be a girl. even to this day, like if someone told me I could transition & look like you or *insert another trans woman idk* I would do it in a heartbeat” and when I was like omg ur transgender he was surprised? like he was like wait just wanting to be a girl makes me transgender even if I dont do anything about it? and like its harder to pinpoint non binary people but if u have a desire be a different gender ur transgender. transitioning is a choice but being transgender is not.

[divinegaeity-deactivated2023101]

“One of the symptoms of being a girl is wanting to be a girl.” Don’t remember where I heard that but the quote is my life.

[lumberjackloverboy-moved]

This is one of the posts I can explicitly pinpoint as helping me realize that I might not be cis. The biggest symptom of being trans is wanting to not be your gender. It can also be dysphoria, it can also be euphoria, it can also be presentation, but wanting to be something else is all you really need.

[aceofsquiddles]

#wait so ur telling me#‘i dont want to have a gender’#can mean#‘i dont have a gender??’ I would also like to know… for reasons

[accept-nothing]

Confirmed. How to know you’re agender: You don’t want to be anything else. You look at the options for gender and gender presentation and decide to go back to bed

[aceofsquiddles]

Bold of you to assume I got out of bed

Nah but seriously thanks for the insight

[avon-vila]

So, if I look at gender and say “this is some bullshit and I want no part of it”, I guess that makes me agender?

[saint-batrick]

if that’s how you wanna identify, yeah.

feeling anything mentioned in this post doesn’t mean you have to identify as trans, but feeling anything in this post is literally all that’s necessary to identify as trans if you want to.

fuck gatekeepers forever.

[zim-kinnie]

👏if👏you👏don't👏feel👏cis👏you're👏possibly👏not👏cis👏

[hasenfu]

i mean this is literally what jvn said

[deathcomes4u]

This is one of those things where you can go 25+ years of your life not realising that actually no not everyone secretly wishes they were some mashup of male and female and that you are, in fact, genderfluid as fuck.

[kyraneko]

You can want to be the other gender.

You can want to be another gender.

You can want to divorce all connection to the gender you were born into.

You can want to keep it as an origin point that shapes your journey.

You can want to be more than one gender at once.

You can want to be more than one gender, at different times.

You can want to be no gender.

You can want to be sort of in between genders.

You can want to be both genders.

You can want to be rid of gendered body parts you already have.

You can want to keep gendered body parts while also being another gender.

You can want to be rid of them but not want the side effects of excising them.

You can feel dysphoria at being shaped like/viewed as/treated like a gender you don’t want.

You can feel euphoria at being shaped like/viewed as/treated like a gender you do want.

You can change your mind or adjust your goals or refine your wishes.

You can be stationary and fixed in your identity.

You can be fluid and changing.

You can be extremely gendered in your presentation.

You can be not very gendered in your presentation.

You can be androgynous.

You can be a little of both.

You can be a lot of both.

If gender is a line you can cross, as the words trans (across/on the other side of) and cis (here/on the same side of) indicate, you can cross it in any way you like, including dancing on top of it.

Be happy.

Be you.

[violetwylde]

This is an extremely affirming post.

[mothsandmarble]

A year later, and this is the post that made me understand I was trans.

[aaliyahbreaux]

any regrets? everyone in the notes seems to think this post is gonna make someone do something they regret

[starknight-dreams]

I think I’ve reblogged this twice already, but… it’s important. Not everyone wants to transition. You can just feel like you, and that can be enough (of course, everyone who transitions is just as valid and perfect). ♥♥♥

[nonasuch]

me, helping a little girl pick out a locket at the shop: do you usually like to wear goldtone or silvertone?

little girl: I like silver because of Artemis, the goddess of the moon and the hunt and also she’s a warrior and she never got married.

me, internally: never let the world change you

[nonasuch]

btw this was only a partial listing of the many Artemis facts imparted to me by this very good small child. I told her Athena was always my favorite so she also told me some Athena facts. 

her dad gave me a look like ‘thank u for being patient’ and I tried to convey with mostly eyebrow moments ‘oh please I WAS this kid, only for ancient Egypt and also Marguerite Henry books’ but i’m not sure it got across

[jabberwockypie]

I just blocked at least three people in the notes on this for being snidely superior calling it fake.

REALLY? Really?

It’s that fucking difficult to believe “a child who was interested in Greek Mythology talked about it enthusiastically with an adult who was paying attention to her”? And then the parent appreciated that the other adult was nice to his kid?

THAT’S your cut-off for unbelievable?

Do you know zero children, or are you just being a dick on purpose? Or were you just a boring-ass kid? OR are you just a dick to children who try to engage with you?

[fandomsandfeminism]

My husband teases me because I will unintentionally make friends with children in public ALL THE TIME. LITERALLY all it takes is if a kid says something to you, even of you already know about it, you go “wow, really?” And smile and nod while they excitedly gibber away.

Most kids aren’t used to adults listening to them. If you show (or feign) genuine interest with what a kid is talking about, letting them feel smart and knowledable for a few minutes, you have won them over FOREVER.

[intelligentchristianlady]

Please just stay home.

[luvmangosdope]

Thanks to whoevet made this post!!! My allergies kicking my ass right now. I got scared for a min

[sheltiechicago]

Ass kicking cactus

[mysharona1987]

[syntheticsolitude]

Libraries are perfectly fine.  Anything trying to emulate such will just... not be as nice.  If your problem is that people are there using books, doing stuff, you can usually ignore all that and move on to whatever it is you’re looking for.

Libraries loan books FOR FREE.  If you want to pay for the same service you’re some level of WTH questionable there.  WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO PAY?  Libraries already deal with trying to replace books.  GOOD librarians are constantly working to keep them stocked with new releases and such, and often curate to their customers’ tastes at times too!!  They know and see data on what’s being taken out and such.

A business trying to do the same thing, with ONLY book rentals would be problematic for a host of reasons.  As you can see at libraries, there is a lot of space taken by JUST BOOKS.  Think about that space for a business to do the same.  And a business won’t likely have the same rules and regulations on returns and such as a library.  (And a library can be more forgiving on lateness and fees.  A business would NOT.)

Support your local libraries, support funding them.  Push your local gov’t to definitely keep them alive and well.  And MAKE SURE YOU VISIT THEM.

(Also upgrading libraries to look more modern is costly and takes away from funds for other things, including more staff, books, and other things that are beneficial.)

ALSO OF NOTE: some libraries have serivices for ebooks and such.  Look into it, because you might be able to digital rent books FOR FREE just for being a library card holder.

Why we want to reinvent the wheel is beyond me.

[erinptah]

Okay, granted, it’s been a while since I’ve seen “all trans readers like one kind of fic, and no trans readers ever like another kind of fic, so it is Transphobia when you write the Wrong Kind.”

…but it hasn’t been that long since I’ve seen someone quietly wonder if they’re a Bad Trans Person for having preferences.

So it’s never a bad time to say: different people have different needs, and it’s okay to be fulfilled by different kinds of stories!

(heck, the same person might have different needs at different points in their own life, and that’s okay too)