loser (1)- I'm absolutely ugly, no matter how I look at it. I'm extremely skinny and so white I can see my veins through my skin. My hair is dark and thick it's visible even if I shave, and my eyes have different sizes. My best friend said I look like a starving dog. Everyone who ever called me beautiful confessed they did it only to cheer me up. They say I look like a sick person, but I have no healthy problems.
loser(2)- When I start to feel confident, I see another thing that makes me hate myself even more. I just found spider veins on me, and I’m just 17. This broke me a lot. I confess I get sick when I see people saying nice things about being chubby and stretch marks cause I’m envious. They say skinny and white people are beautiful but they are not, I am the extreme and I’m gross. Sorry, I don’t even know what I am doing asking this. I need to get this out, sorry.
Beauty isn’t skin deep. Your looks don’t determine whether you’d be beautiful or not. You’re so much more than your looks. There’s nothing wrong with being skinny, white, having dark hair and all those things. You’re beautiful just the way you are. There will always be things you won’t like about yourself, but for every thing you don’t like about yourself, there’s someone out there who will love that about you, even if that seems difficult or impossible to believe.
Your eyes having different sizes doesn’t make you ugly. It makes you special and unique. It’s rude and harsh of your best friend to call you a starving dog. Every individual has a different anatomy. There are people out there who will call you beautiful and truly mean it. You deserve better than people who make you feel bad.
Sometimes people pick at other people’s looks to feel better about their own insecurities, which is completely wrong to do. Spider veins can indicate that your blood circulation isn’t going all that well. Some exercise can help your circulation to improve. I’d recommend swimming, especially when you switch between swimming in water that’s a bit colder and water that’s a bit warmer, as this will give your blood circulation a healthy boost.
Here are some tips to learn to love yourself:
1. Decide to treat others with love and respect: As you seek to bring joy into others’ lives you’ll find that they repay you with kindness and love.
2. Practice random acts of kindness: “Play it forward” by doing random thoughtful things. That will turn you into someone you respect yourself – and you’ll also find that others are more generous to you.
3. Let go of the past: What happened in the past is merely history now. Today is a new day, and you are starting a new page. Let go of disappointments, hurts and any grievances you hold against yourself, other people – or the world!
4. Forgive yourself: We all make mistakes, or we regret some bad decisions. Don’t ridicule, berate or criticise yourself for that. Instead, forgive whatever happened, and give yourself a break. It simply means you’re human – and are not infallible.
5. Practice positive self-talk: Write down and repeat affirming statements and truths … like “I am gifted” … or “I’m a true and loyal friend”. Post these statements on the mirror and repeat them to yourself.
6. Think through what you really want in life – You can carve out your own path and you choose your own destiny. Your life is a gift and you can choose what you will do.
7. Be persistent: Work wholeheartedly at loving yourself. If you’ve suffered in the past then be compassionate. Be ready to acknowledge and work through your pain. You deserve that respect – and it will help to set you free.
8. Celebrate your accomplishments: It’s easy to ignore or to downplay what we have done – but don’t be blind to your successes and accomplishments. They ought to be acknowledged as they’re part of who you are.
9. Think of someone you want to be like and emulate them: Doing that will build those qualities into your life as well – so it is easier to like, love and accept yourself.
10. Be yourself and trust yourself: Be true to yourself – and don’t care what others think. Learn to trust your instincts and to follow your own heart. Also, learn it’s OK to say “no” and to do your own thing … And you don’t have to feel guilty for not pleasing everyone.
11. Don’t compare yourself to others: Every person on the planet is different and unique. We all have different talents and different histories. Discover who YOU are and then invest in being you!
12. Work on receiving love: When someone pays you a compliment or tries to show you love, don’t quickly brush it off – but try and see it as a gift. That is, a gift that shows you’ve value and are loved, and loveable.
If you want to talk more about this or anything else, don’t hesitate to message us. It’s good to get things out, definitely keep doing that. You can also write it out in a journal, which can help too.