"I don't like to call myself this umbrella term, therefore this umbrella term is a form of oppression" is a surprisingly common narrative that doesn't make any sense.
Example:
"I am agender, but don't want to be called non-binary" - thats fine. You don't have to call yourself non-binary.
However, when you say "I am agender and I don't like to call myself non-binary. Therefore, being agender doesn't fall under the non-binary umbrella, and if you say it does, you are being bigoted" is completely illogical.
Agender is a lack of gender. The non-binary umbrella includes any gender (or lack thereof) that is not exclusively monogendered woman or monogendered man. Therefore, agender falls under the non-binary umbrella.
You do not have to identify as non-binary personally, but the umbrella term still includes agenderness because it fits under the definition of the umbrella.
Another example:
"I have PCOS, but don't want to be called intersex" - again, fine. But "I have PCOS, and I don't want to call myself intersex, therefore PCOS doesn't fall under the intersex umbrella" is illogical.
You can be uncomfortable with using an umbrella term label for yourself. But insisting that it's somehow oppressive that your identity/experience is categorized under an umbrella term doesn't make any sense.



















