#1 fix

[funkymbtifiction]

How do I know if I am a 9 or 1 fixer? I find both very relatable but also not relatable @ the same time — for example, I feel like I have the perfectionism of a 1 and sense of what is right in regards to inclusion/welcoming people/being “good” (but I also tend to accept if I am super wrong about a situation…), but like nuance (6w7?) and to not make people feel judged for small mistakes orghost (unhealthy 9?). Like I think we should confront when we don’t like smth but with understanding & grace?

“I think we should confront when we don’t like something…” <- 1 fix.

That being said, I understand. I’ve waffled on my own 1 vs 9 fix many times, but I always come back to 1 because I experience inner rigidity in my standards. I won’t cut corners if it matters to me; I can’t just ignore the things that “seem wrong,” and I am not open-minded about them, even if I value being open-minded. I refuse to shove my beliefs down anyone’s throat, and I give everyone the endless benefit of the doubt because that’s the “nice” thing to do. More often than not, I remain silent and swallow my anger or resentment rather than confront, because I tell myself it is “wrong” to upset or inconvenience people, rather than passively avoiding conflict. It’s a deliberate choice to be unemotional, stoic, uninvolved, or “composed” rather than a default high level of tolerance. I am also easily mad, but didn’t realize HOW mad until the last few years when I finally started admitting how my automatic reaction is anger about everything.

I HATE conflict. If anyone gets mad at me, or retaliates, or claps back, I instantly back off, because that’s what sp6 does. “Oh no, I’m in danger. This isn’t fun! Retreat!” One time, I told off two people who were escalating into an argument in front of me after a minor car accident, using 1ish language (“Start acting your age!”) and then I was shaking afterward and apologetic for being “rude.”

The stereotype that 6-1 is a hard-ass is BS. For me, it just means I am harder on myself than you can ever imagine, that I have a need and a drive to do things “right” and make them “perfect.” It’s the fix that causes me to endlessly tweak and work at writing Funky profiles, even though it doesn’t matter. I rewrite novels five times trying to polish them, even though nobody cares but me. It makes me look at the people I love and notice their faults, even if I choose not to draw attention to them. Does he have to chew with his mouth open? Why can’t she close a conversation with “IG2G instead of just disappearing? It’s what makes me look in the mirror and fixate on what’s wrong with my face, instead of what draws other people into it. The claim that it also becomes “too certain to avoid uncertainty” is also BS. I’m never sure about anything unless there are indisputable facts to prove it.

Frustration is REAL in fixes. It’s there. Why is this subpar? Why are people so rude? Why does the world suck? Why has humanity always sucked? That is wrong, bad, inappropriate, stupid. You should have tried harder, been less curt with your loved ones, not laid on the couch and watched TV when there is stuff to get done. Are you going to finish your novel or not? Why is it taking you so long?

It has taken me 20+ years to stop endlessly working on things and meeting goals relentlessly all day long. I’m finally at the point where I can sit on the couch and do nothing without guilt, because “nobody cares.” But I had to tell myself that to quit.

You can’t just look at a single fix, either. Look at the entire tritype.

369 is constantly becoming and responding to whatever anyone else wants; there’s no hard edges in that tritype to anchor them.

136 has a hard edge, a rigidity in mind and body, a sense of “no, I won’t compromise ON THAT THING. It could be BETTER.” 136 is a hamster running on a wheel, endlessly exercising and “doing” while making no progress, because 6-1 is sabotaging it from feeling like this thing is “good enough.” I can only let go of that when I tell myself, “no one cares but you.” Literally, no one cares if I watch X-Files reruns rather than finish my novel. Or if I sit there and make a Monster High doll dress instead. I am not famous, and no one is waiting on tenterhooks for my next book. If I died tomorrow, a few people would be sad, and then they would all move on and forget I ever existed. So why the hell am I trying to make perfect things that don't and never will matter?

So, do you have all three attachment fixes, or only two? Do you have two competency fixes or just one?

It will take time to unravel, because looking inward at your motivations without your 3 fix wanting the more fashionable or attractive tritype is going to be hard. IMO, image fixes prevent people from seeing themselves accurately every time. It is deeply upsetting for a 136 tritype to hear, “you have two fixes that do not think productively,” because they pride themselves on their competence. But both 6 and 1 over-think in a way 9 and 3 do not. 9-3 gets to “it’s good enough for who it’s for / without effort” and 1-3 goes “the hell it is, this could be better!”

[azenta]

would you say the projection thing also happens in 6 fixers or only cores?

Yes, but a lesser degree since a fix means it's not the main defense mechanisms. The core defense mechanisms will pop first and the most often, and the fix overlap to kinda hold or reinforce the primary mechanisms if they are failing or encountering too much resistance. They are like back ups to give more ways to avoid your core fears.

Example: let's say I am arguing or in disagreement with someone about something I believe myself knowledgeable and competent, and that I do really care about. Since something huge is at stake for me, then my 5w6 core primary mechanisms trigger =>

Detachment: to not be affected by potential wrongness, and just not show I care a lot to not feel vulnerable.

Repression: again, to not feel fear or any other emotion rising such as anger...

Rationalization: anything that didn't make sense will now make sense, I swear.

Wing 6 Lowkey projection: "The other is soOO fucking insistent GOD" but who is still arguing with the other? Me.

Wing 6 Lowkey Reactivity: Starting to get mad and becoming myself more heated, leveling up the tone, getting pointlessly overly involved in the argument. This is an unconscious attempt to become overwhelming for the other person and kinda make them back down just because what I am doing is just annoying.

And, of course, wing 6 Doubts: instilling doubts in them because I am doubting like crazy, but also I start doubting every single fucking thing. This is also some form of projection.

But then, the other person involved still continues, still have divergent argument, and somehow whatever I say is not taken into consideration or is starting to fall apart, rightly or wrongly. Then my 1 fix pop because: I am doubting myself af and feel insecure, my competency and certitude is at play. But in me, this feels like being pushed past my comfort zone and therefore past boundaries, so I feel not respected. It goes beyond my capacity to analyze and also to handle a different pov = AnGErrRR

Criticism: i am now pointing every flaw about the other person that could explain the flaws in their take. This helps me detach and avoid facing my own flaws.

Self-righteousness: I do feel I am standing on a higher ground and make them know I am being the Good one in this thing. This, again, allow me to not face any wrong in what I said or did so far.

Ultimately, formation reaction: this thingy happen to me when either I am proven wrong or I see that it is going no where and just feel so fucKInG Innerly threatened, because I can't analyze for shit and it's OVERWHELMING, I just switch my position radically and suddenly approve of whatever they were saying just to shut down the argument and preserve any little sense of being Good or Right in myself, and also to restore some fake sense of respect. On the moment, i do really think the other's point were good and true. But later on, i become MAD at myself because I STILL DISAGREE ABOUT THIS, THIS AND THAT YOU FUCKING DENSE FUCKER.

But then, even more repression :)) And no more fear or anger, just pure Thoughts. Then withdrawal to analyse wtf happened and integrate the information more properly. So I get back into my security realm, my fucking head.

Sometimes I rather detach before arguing and then isolate to ponder on my own, and simply dismiss the argument because it is too sensible for me to argue about it, and so more secure to stay in my head. But then I don't need much my 1 fix mechanisms to back me up, because my sense of Self (gut aspect) is not threatened.

So, the second fix also triggers if you get pushed beyond your core priority, like in my case, if my sense of self/boundary also get threatened then the 1 fix will counter because this will even more destroy my sense of security (head stake). A second 6 fix will trigger if the sense of security is at play, and usually it will mean the image (heart core) or self/boundary (gut core) has been attained badly.

The unhealthier you are, the more your ego perceive threats to your core and fixes, so the fixes will trigger quite easily, and so disintegrations.

So, any second fix will also get triggered in this fashion, but tbh it will be more fluid and the mechanisms will overlap more indiscriminately than how I portrayed it. And I haven't mentioned disintegration, but those can kinda happen in the mix. It would be more complex and fastidious to explain tbh since the "psyche" doesn't follow a set in stone pattern. Still, I think what i explained goes far beyond what was asked, but i couldn't help it :')

All that to say, any fix mechanisms will show up, but at a lesser degree because it requires the core to fail and that your ego is attained into the realm of the fix, not just the core. This is abstract tbh, so if you don't fully get it, it's normal. Just reread it another day and let things add up together on their own, this should do -w-

[azenta]

thank you so much for your answer! i have one more question. the example you gave was a 613 and you said she molds her beliefs depending on who she's with, isn't this more characteristic of 9 fixes? arent 1 fixes more likely to have stronger boundaries and stand up for their beliefs? do all p6s have this problem regardless of their gut fix? if so, how is it possible to type their gut fix?

Well, a 1 fix won't suddenly make a 6 core firm and confident in their beliefs, even if it will make them more defensive and critical about these beliefs. A 1 fix will make them worried and care that what they believe in is also "good" and make them good, correct. They'll be more "extreme" in their way of believing and disbelieving, but their main passion is still to doubt as their main worry is how someone or something is un/trustworthy. 

So, yes, a 6 core with a 1 fix will have more solid boundaries, but 6s instability and chameleon aspect doesn't lie in their boundaries, which are rather 9s characteristics like you pointed out, but it is 6s mindset that is subject to molding. What they trust, their judgement, this is what is defiant. The 1 fix won't make up for the 6 insecurities, since a 1 principles are all arount rightness and goodness to establish their personal boundaries and to maintain control, which will color the 6 criterias to decide of a reference to rely on, to decide if something/someone is worth trust.

I think it is important to recall that 6s have lost their superego structure at a young age, since they lost confidence in their authority figures (mainly parents) and thus got left out with an unstable superego. Therefore, they haven't a clear idea of what they can rely on, on who more specifically. This is why they seek guidance and people that can support them. But when you have a defective sense of trust, you then need to rely on something or someone, a reference in order to refer yourself to and gain a sense of certainty to simply function. But 6s doubt easily themselves and others, therefore they easily switch their reference according to what feel safer to trust.

The 1 fix will only taint the kind of people/reference they'll trust, which will be anything that is deemed Good. The trap here is, what is good and right?

6s will even doubt that. This is why a 1 fix cannot make up for 6s doubting and ever changing mind, even tho it makes them more firm in their principles, because when they'll settle on what is good and trustworthy, they will retaliate if anything goes against it while they established a certainty about it. But ultimately, until they grow and learn to trust their own judgement despite the worst, they will mold even what they deem right according to the reference that guarantees the most security.

6s aren't as apparently changing as 3s and 9s might be, but their mindset is highly influenced by their environment around and what will guarantee their safety (IV dependent). The 1 fix will only make them more firm about their boundaries, but not about their inner trust and inner guidance. What is good, right and makes them correct become highly dependent of what guarantees security and support.

Ultimately, if they are a 6 core, they will first and foremost doubt and change according to something/someone, a model, a reference they trust or need to trust to get security and support. The 1 fix will be a criteria for who/what they'll put trust in, and so will in any case model someone/something that needs to be fundamentally good/right according to the 6. They can trust only what is good and right, but what is good and right depends at some point of the reference of the 6. 

It is a loophole. It is not for nothing 6s are so reactive and simply anxious. Even when they trust, they eventually doubt. They model because they doubt but need security at some point, and change because they end up getting distrustful. In the end, a 1 fix will only exacerbate this contradiction. They will firmly believe something is right and trustworthy and defend it to finally doubt it themselves and change of mind if it proves to be safer.

6s are loyal to even what they believe, but loyalty is also the disguise for their inner cowardice. 

So, yes, a p6 especially will always be like this, and to establish what gut fix a 6 core have is to seek how they react about boundaries, which is not the same than their mindset, their guidelines. A 6 with a 1 fix will be more rigid and very critical, all while trying to act As It Should and will spout a lot about good and rightness, and be more axed toward finding what is right. Their boundaries will be modeled to what is deemed right and correct. With a 9, their needs/boundaries will also be modeled according to others around ( IV dependent) and will also be more stereotypically chameleon. With an 8 fix, you'll get a yelling nightmare. Or well, more seriously, you'll get someone extremely reactive about boundaries to a point they might seem like a 6 on steroid, since 6 becomes already reactive if they just feel a tad bit unsafe. Less tolerant of untrustworthy people (and a very subjective sens of "untrustworthy"), extremely "territorial", defiant and wary. More likely to be cp6 too at this point tbh.

Your worst case scenarios are 6w5 with either 9w1 or 1w9 fix. They'll blur the line a lot. But still, a 1w9 fix will still critic and chatter about rightness while 9w1 fix will be more naturally chill and unbothered, especially as fixes as they have less impact. All depends of the reason behind and how they establish their guidelines and boundaries, and which is prioritized over the other.

I hope it could answer your questions.