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[mimingcat]

The Wrong Mentality part 2

Karamihan daw sa ating mga Pilipino ay relihiyoso, may takot sa diyos, kasi nga Katoliko. Pero ginagawa nating parang ATM ang Diyos dahil sa mentality natin. Tinatakbuhan lang natin kapag may kailangan. Marami ang natatakot sumama sa mga prayer meetings o small groups kasi nga ayaw natin i-give up ang nakasanayan nating buhay o 'di kaya dahil nga makasalanan ka at nahihiya ka sa Kaniya. Please reflect as I present to you, the wrong mentality, part two...

Skip to the last part if you're not a fan of reading :P

Santa Claus Mentality - Ikaw ba 'yung may mentality na katulad ng kanta na "He's making a list and checking it twice, gonna find out who's naughty or nice"? Hindi ganon si God. Hindi porke't makasalanan ka ay hindi ka na pwedeng humingi sa kaniya. Hindi rin porke't sobrang bait mo rin ay lahat nalang ng hinihingi mo ay mabibigay agad. Ang hinihingi lang ni God sa'yo ay lapitan mo siya, ama mo siya at makipag relasyon ka sa kaniya by praying faithfully. Isapuso mo lang ang panalangin mo and make sure your intentions are good.

Slave or Servant Mentality - Nung bata ka ba ay madalas mong pini-perfect ang mga quiz mo para may ice cream ka? Nililinis mo ba ang bahay kapag gusto mo ng extra na baon? Anak ka ng Diyos, hindi ka niya alipin. Ano ang mararamdaman mo kapag may-ari ka ng Jollibee pero ang anak mo ay naglilinis ng bahay para lang makakain ng Chicken joy? 'Diba unecessary na ito?

Perfect Son Mentality - Dumating ba sa punto ng buhay mo na sinabi mong  "Bakit mo siya binigyan Lord eh ako ang humingi? Mas mabait pa ako sa kaniya ah!! Mas pumupunta ako sa simbahan, habang siya ay hindi! Bakit wala pa akong natatanggap?"  Madalas kasi binibilang natin ang mabubuting gawain natin...pero ang hindi mo naiintindihan ay kung bakit mo 'to ginawa. Kung ginawa mo ito for the intention na may hihingin ka lang, mali na agad. You don't have to impress God, anak ka niya at lahat ng sa Kaniya ay sa'yo rin. Just be humble and patient.

Everything that I wrote will be confusing if you're not a Christian. If you say you are, basahin mo ulet ang story ng THE PRODIGAL SON...(Luke 15:11-31). Kahit anong sama mo man, o clueless sa mga bagay tungkol sa Diyos, pumunta ka lang sa Kaniya at tatakbo siya sa'yo upang yakapin ka at ipagdiwang ang iyong pagbabalik. At kahit sa tingin mo ay binabalewala ka ng Ama mo sa langit, isipin mo lang na kung ano mang pagaari meron siya, pag mamay-ari mo rin yun. Higit sa lahat, magiging anak ka lang ni God kung tanggap mo rin ang kaniyang anak na si Jesus. Erase the old mentality, and start a real relationship with God. Amen? :)

[mimingcat]

Tribute to my Girlfriend (part 1)

"I had enough!! I'm sick of you and all this f*cked up logic of yours!" I can hear my own voice screaming in my head as I type down the words on our chat.  She sent me a voice message. She was crying but I can't understand a word she said. It wasn't always like this. We used to talk calmly and fix our problems before bedtime. This time, I guess I was fed up. I was sick of her jealousy and lack of trust. The accusations were just too much for my mind to comprehend. I lay down my bed and not a glance at my phone. I didn't want to talk to her. I wanted a piece of my mind, or a peace of mind - whatever you call it. I stared blankly at the corner of my ceiling for a while. The tarpaulin hanging on the wall caught my eye. It was the tarpaulin I prepared for her on our first anniversary. It's mostly covered with pink and about 12 pictures representing our 11 months of monthsaries and one of our best picture. Oh yeah, I remembered... Two weeks to go before our second anniversary. It's been a year since then huh? Too bad we can't celebrate it together. She is out there in the middle east and I am stuck in this rotten province. Our communication might be the last thread right now that is holding us together. We had a fight...I think I just broke up with her. What is wrong with me? I feel numb and felt like I wasn't myself. I stood up and washed up my face. My tears won't stop from falling but my mind is floating somewhere else. My chest however, I can feel the ache. Why is it the chest? Is the heart really responsible for love? Then why can't we fix our argument tonight? How did we fight again? Oh yeah.. It started as a simple reply to a girl who messaged me. She is a new colleague at the operating room department that was added to our shift. That girl turned out to be the cousin to one of my closest friends back in college. She kept on messaging me and to avoid looking like an introvert, I replied a few times. One reply she had included pictures of me. I was confused on why she took pictures of me yet I asked her nicely not to post it or upload it anywhere. I stopped messaging her after that. It turned out that my girlfriend, who is the jealous type, has been visiting my own profile for the last few months. She wasn't always like that. She started that habit when she went abroad. Without even asking me nicely or saying what's wrong...she got mad and started accusing me of liking that girl. She said I was "too nice" and didn't even tell her about that girl. I tried to calm her down but the accusations kept on going. She wanted me to admit to a crime I did not commit. I wasn't liking other girls. I have been a loyal man all throughout our relationship yet this always happens each time I get a new acquaintance who sadly is - a girl. Each time, with the same approach and accusations: that I liked that girl. In my surprise, disappointment and anger...I swore a couple times and a couple more along the way. My defense was useless so I blurted out things that I didn't thought I would say. We argued for over an hour until I snapped. I guess shit happens in relationships too. Though the hurt was strong, though the pain is real... we somehow managed to fix things up.  There are things that we need to remember when we are in a relationship...how to nurture it and how to save it at the most critical times.. -to be continued-

[mimingcat]

less than three

. I can't find the right title to describe this happiness that I feel inside of me. Each time I wake up, I look at my cellphone and see her simple good morning text. An act she does that always keep me happy all throughout the day. The moment I hear her voice, or see her face or the smell of her hair makes my heart thump inside my chest so strong that it pulsates through every vein on my body. She keeps me alive, she helped me keep my faith in God. She knows me well, even for a short span of time that we were dating. I have once thought that I it was already love, yet it didn't end well. When I met her, the feelings were so different, so strong and fragile at the same time that it scares my emotions. I am scared to lose her, I am scared to hurt her, I am scared of how much I think about her every minute of my every day. It scares me how many times I've silently cried when she is not around. I am scared how easily she lift me up when I'm down. She makes it all seem easy and her efforts are effortless. She says things best when she doesn't even say a word at all.

. Her smile alone, the touch of her hand, the hugs from behind, the way she wipes my face when we are eating, the laughs we share lets me know how much I'm falling even more in love with her. Whenever it is getting dark, and it's time to walk her home, I feel so much yearning to see her again. It slows down the way I walk with her, it makes me sad not to make her stay, it makes me weak and I want to be with her a little bit longer. Even when she is not around, the way we call each other and pray together on the line amazes me how much faith she has on God. It made me realize how much we needed, not just emotion, but also trust for each other to make things work out. Even in moments where we fight, we never failed to say I love you in the end of our conversations. We are terrified lovers, we are terrified to lose each other. When I look around, no one else could be better than my girl. I love her with all my heart, mind, body and soul and I wish nothing else but her love. I never really had a chance, she caught me off guard from a simple hello. Since then, she owns me. I would never trade anyone for this kind of relationship, it's so hard to find a love like this nowadays in a world full of lies and deceit. I never found someone so pure and innocent as her. I love every part of her character, her good and bad. I want her to be the mother of my children and the only partner. I want to be with her until my hair turns white and my legs turn frail. She's the only one I need and I will never let go. I love her so much and how she loves me back without question or even a hint of doubt. Beth, I love you.

[mimingcat]

Unrealistic Quotes

My girlfriend send me a text one night saying she is emotionally insecure because of my ex-girlfriend. She said that me and my ex lasted for so long and she is not that sure about us. I talked to her that she must not think like that. I told her about a lot of things that she shouldn't worry about and things that I'm pissed of whenever she thinks that way. She didn't reply much. She said she'll be okay in a few days. While waiting for the bus ride home a few days later she asked me again why I'm so insensitive. I told her why she said that. Turned out that she asked her friend this question: "What would you do if your girlfriend is emotionally insecure?." Her friend passed on a quote: "I'll hold her tight and tell her everything's gonna be alright."  I shrugged my shoulders and told her I can do that...though I'm not that sure if it will work.   A few weeks later, we were hanging out at my friend's house. While using my facebook, she saw my ex making a comment on one picture. yes, one picture. Her comment was something about how much she knew me and how much she knows about my cat. lol. In less than 10 seconds her mood changed from happy to shit-wreck. She didn't talk to me. She stood up and walked out of my friends house. I chased her on the road and hugged her tight. I talked to her that it was just nothing, it was just a simple comment. I tried to comfort her and tell her that everything is gonna be alright. I asked her if she's emotionally insecure about that. She just nodded but still didn't talk to me when I brought her back to her house. I stayed for a while but she insisted that I should go home and that I should go back to my ex. It went on for about an hour, so I got pissed off. I then started talking a lot. I said what's on my mind. How I'm so pissed off at the moment, how much nonsense the misunderstanding was, how much I love her and value her and how angry I am that she still have doubts about me after all the love and care I showed to her. On an on I talked until I cried. She hugged me tight and said "It's okay, I was just a bit mad...please don't cry." A bit mad? If this is how girls treat their boyfriend when they're a bit mad, then no wonder there are so many breakups nowadays. They get easily influenced about the world on how boys treat them even if it isn't true.  They listen to others first before they listen to their own partner. I really love her and I said I'm sorry too. I just can't figure out how unrealistic the quotes are that the people pass on to each other. I thought a simple hug would suffice? I thought a kiss in the forehead would make them feel better? I thought that saying how we feel and crying in front of them will make us a better man? I wish people would be more realistic. Problems in a relationship can't be solved by sweet words only, it should be optimistic and present the reality. Romance shouldn't be injected by fantasy. I believe it will better work out if there is open communication and honesty. ugh.. whatever.

[mimingcat]

PEOPLE THINK FAILURE IS AVOIDABLE. IT'S NOT.

You've probably heard the saying, "To err is human, to forgive divine." That was written by Alexander Pope more than 250 years ago. And he was only paraphrasing a saying that was common 2,000 years ago, during the time of the Romans. Things today are the same as they were then: People make mistakes. Don't buy into the notion that mistakes can somehow be avoided. They can't be. Accept that you will err because you're human, but don't let that keep you from pursuing your dreams.

credits: sir baroro

[mimingcat]

The guy makes the first move

In my opinion, we get the reputation of being player because we must do the first move. We always do. That's the role...rather the nature of the guy to do the first step. We approach, talk and do most of the effort in getting to know each other. A guy won't even know that a girl already likes him because it is unusual for a girl to say it to a guy up front that she likes him. Girls also have the privilege to freely express their feelings, most especially to their girl friends. Guys usually keep it to themselves and will sound awkward if they share it to their guy friends. Finally, guys hate it when a girl do too much stuff that a guy must do. It is not a girls role to text a guy so much, or be easily controlled by our wants and needs. When we leave them for this reason, we end up being the bad guy....again. There is a slight glitch in the love system, but we are already used to it. We just didn't care.

[mimingcat]

'Coz breaking up is hard to do..

Breakup is always set as the last option in a relationship,

so don't make it as the first solution for both your problems.

If love is getting cold, find what makes it burns in the first place.

You don’t have to be away from each other to know what you miss about

each other’s company. There is always more than one thing that binds

your relationship together. People usually ignore simple things like your

favorite food, the song you both love to listen, the expression of each other’s

face when your both happy, or even the way it feels to have that person wrap

his or her arms around you. The bad thing is you'll only notice these

things when both of you are already separated. The best way to

solve a problem is to talk about it when you both are ready and calm.

Don’t make decisions when you’re mad, depressed or confused.

You’ll end up making the wrong decisions that way.

Last but definitely not the least...pray for strength and guidance

so that both of you will get through your problems.

[mimingcat]

Worth loving

Someone who doesn’t realize your worth doesn’t deserve your love. You are always worthy to be loved, no matter what kind of person you are. Picture this, when a hundred bill gets spilled by coffee, does it lose it’s value of being a money? The value is still present as long as it’s whole. Now, if you look at yourself, nothing is wrong with you. You are whole, you are still human, so why do you keep pushing yourself to a person who doesn't see your worth? Find someone who will value you, cherish you, and treat you like there is no one else compared to you.  Find someone who will still see who you are behind your imperfection. You are unique, you are a masterpiece of God, you are worth loving!