30 days of veiling - a follow up
I know, I know. I dropped the ball and stopped sharing photos of my 30 day veiling challenge about halfway through.
I *did* finish it though. I missed a total of 3 days during the month of November. 1 because kids are assholes and I just didn't have the energy, 1 because we were traveling, and 1 because I just plum didn't feel like dealing with it.
I even veiled both days that I saw family over the Thanksgiving holiday. I was nervous about it, because my family likes to ask questions and I tend to clam up if I don't have a 'go-go's answer memorized. But it was great.
For the most part, no one paid any mind to my scarves. My mom asked a few awkward questions and seemed a bit put out that I didn't launch into a full explanation of why I was wearing headscarves, but nothing that I couldn't answer. (She asked: 1 - do you still have long hair under there, or did you cut it all off in a fit? 2 - is it called a snood? 3 - are you wearing your hair up like that because the baby is grabbing/pulling it?)
I'd decided towards the end of November that I really wanted to veil more often after the challenge, not just every now and then like I'd been doing previously. It just feels right. Not necessarily an all day, every day thing, but definitely more of a routine thing.
We're now most of the way through December (happy Solstice to those who celebrate it!) and I've barely veiled at all this month.
And I miss it.
Without the challenge, it's hard to make myself set aside the time to do anything more than a simple bandana tie, and to be honest I don't love that look.
My kids are both crazy and going through growth spurts and teething and whatever other hell babies and toddlers go through. They have all of my attention. It's all I can do to get a decent shower once a week - how can I take time away from them for something as vain as "doing my hair?" (I recognize that taking a few minutes for myself would be a good thing and would not result in harm to my kids, but this is where my mind goes)
My husband doesn't understand my desire to veil, but he supports it because it's important to me, so I'm thankful for that.
All of this to say - when veiling, I feel more like myself than I have in a long time. I miss it when I'm not doing it, and I plan to make it more of a regular thing in my day to day life.
I'm glad I did the 30 day challenge, even if I fell short on the photos here.
To anyone else who is on the fence about veiling/covering/wrapping - just give it a try. It's empowering, but it's something you have to decide to do for yourself.
