Why 8th House and Pluto Synastry is Karmic and Transformative:
(May feel more true for those who have attachment style issues and that have low self worth/value due to past partnerships/parents)
When someone's Pluto touches your inner planets or if someone's inner planets fall into your 8th house then this type of connection will feel all-consuming, intense, deep and expectations for how the other partner should act is overwhelmingly present; even if you wish their actions wouldn't cause a reaction, logic ceases to exist.
The reason why these feelings are so transformative is because, with this person, once they're next to you they bring you this acceptance within where you allow yourself to let someone in, their presences allows your soul to accept loves offer and for once you aren't afraid of letting that wall you've built crumble down.
With them you look into their eyes and you see the version of yourself not struggling with intimacy, you see the version of yourself not struggling with vulnerability, you look into their eyes and you finally feel like the person you've always wished you were.
But only when you're with them,
Only when their eyes meet yours is when you feel this fulfillment, and every time they walk away the part of your soul that's wishing to be seen leaves with them.
Everyone that causes a shift in your life is a direct reflection of what you feel within, so when someone enters your life and they are igniting parts of you that you bury, their presence becomes this "thing" that you'll always need in order to feel whole.
You want nothing more than to allow yourself to fall for someone that is deemed safe, yet no one's eyes but theirs will give you that green light.
You're unable to feel okay with the idea of having someone be yours and you're uncomfortable with letting this part of you that's been hidden, shunned, confined, out.
They are only a mirror of what your soul is wishing to reach, they create this frequency (or feeling) in you where all the pain, abandonment, loss, disappointment, and fear suddenly is vanished, so how do you choose to walk away from that key that unlocks the one feeling you can't feel on your own?
Within the midst of this, your soul is aware of how damaging the lack of them will cause, you're aware of the destruction you will feel if they walk away, you're aware that if they leave all that pain you've shunned away will reach the surface and overflow into your main airway, leaving you unable to breathe, leaving you unable to feel the version you wish you were when you're next to them.
And yet the second you decide you've had enough, the second you let the value that they give you go, the value and worthiness you've longed for will welcome you in, with open arms, and with grace.
The second you let the version of you that you thought they gave you; go, you'll start to become aware of the change and transformation within, once you choose yourself, once you decide your soul is worthy, valuable, and deserving of the type of care you never got to touch; the you that was once was will no longer be present, the you that once was will no longer take over your consciousness, and it will never hold power over you.
You'll become aware of the fact that the love your soul was searching for was there all along, hiding away into the depth of your consciousness, before that key waltzed in, this part of you was afraid of making itself seen, it was afraid of accepting the one thing it wanted the most.
And so that one key that you were clinging onto was only the first step into receiving the unconditional love your highest self knows you deserve.
They had to walk away for you to be able to find that missing puzzle piece that was hiding inside of you.
This synastry is so transformative because with this type of pain, brings in immense growth, compassion, understanding and self worth that never once seemed plausible, it brings in unconditional love that you never thought was safe, it brings in the self value that you searched for in other people's gazes, and it brings in letting go of the need for others souls to make you feel whole.
Once you grieve and let go of that past self, all your wounds, all your hidden fears, your resistance to embrace love's offer will pave the way for a renewal, birthing the version of yourself that your highest self always recognized within.
Once you're capable of releasing that self doubt and undergo the transformation your soul is asking for within, will you then be able to open your heart to accept true love, care, and acceptance that someone else can give.
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