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Years Later

~ The Possibility of You: A Story of 8th and 12th House Synastry ~

You walk into the room and my breath stiffens in my chest. My heart drops before I can stop it. You're holding her hand, and I'm standing next to him.

I lower my eyes to the floor and let out a quiet sigh, the kind that escapes before you even realize you're carrying it. And suddenly it's there again—that feeling. The feeling of recognizing someone who was never mine.

    Not in this life, at least.

Maybe somewhere else.

Maybe somewhere beyond this version of reality there was a place where we found each other sooner, where neither of us hesitated, where neither of us looked away.

A place where we chose each other before life had the chance to choose for us. Maybe that’s all it is a story, a fantasy, a way of making sense of something that never made sense.

But every time I see you, something inside me wakes up. Not loudly. Not dramatically. Just enough. Just enough to remind me that some part of me never truly left. Some part of me is still standing exactly where I left it years ago, waiting, listening, wondering.

    And that old pull begins again.

    The one I buried.

    The one I convinced myself was gone.

The one I spent years trying to explain away. The one that makes me wonder why standing beside him suddenly feels so different when you’re standing across the room.

A quiet ache begins whispering in my ear, and suddenly all the certainty I fought so hard to build starts unraveling thread by thread. The parts of me that never got the chance to love you rise to the surface.

    And no matter how many times I've repeated the same words—

    It's time to let go.

    It's time to move on.

    It's over.

The second I see your eyes, none of those words matter. Because all I feel is the what if.

    The endless, haunting what if.

    What if you chose me?

    What if we had trusted what we felt?

    What if we had stopped pretending not to see it?

    What if we had finally said something?

Then our eyes meet.

And that invisible thread that has existed since the first time my eyes found yours pulls tight between us, like a violin string stretched just before it breaks.

    I feel it.

   I wonder if you feel it too.

    But neither of us says anything.

    We never did anyway.

The room continues moving around us. People laugh. Conversations happen. Life goes on.

And yet every time you smile at her, every time your hand finds the small of her back, every time you look at her the way I've imagined you looking at me, something inside me twists.

The part of me that still carries the idea of us begins replaying a life that never happened, as if I am grieving memories that don't even exist.

I'm mourning a story that never got the chance to be written and yet I grieve versions of us that only ever lived inside my imagination.

    And I hate how real it feels.

    Because I am with him.

    And I like him.

    Don't I?

So why does the foundation of whoever I'm standing beside begin to disappear the second you walk into the room?

Why does everyone else suddenly feel quieter?

    Smaller.

    Farther away.

Why does your presence make me feel regret before it makes me feel happiness?

    Why does some stubborn part of me still wish it were you?

    We never were.

    We never got the chance to be.

    There was never an us to lose.

And yet my body clings to you as though you were the safest thing it ever knew. As though somewhere deep inside me, you became the definition of home before you ever had the chance to become mine.

You make visible the parts of me I spend my life hiding. The lonely parts. The wounded parts. The hopeful parts that continue reaching for a love I never got the chance to experience, yet somehow still believe exists.

And because of that, the version of us that never existed stays wrapped around me like a second skin.

    I can't scrape it off.

    I can't scrape you off.

No matter how many showers I take. No matter how many new memories I make. No matter how many times I tell myself the story is over.

    The ghost of you remains.

    Not even the real you.

    Just the possibility of you.

    And somehow that's worse.

Because you and I were never given an ending, instead we linger as a possibility. And possibility leaves empty spaces where certainty should be. So I weave stories through those spaces, turning you into a remedy for a loneliness that was never yours to heal, but one I keep hoping you could.

Instead, I imagine myself beside you. I imagine my hand resting on your arm. I imagine your shoulder against mine. I imagine your eyes searching the room until they find me.

    And every time I do, something inside me finally exhales.

    Something starving inside me feels fed.

    Something empty feels full.

For one brief moment, I experience the thing I've spent my whole life searching for.

    Home.

    Not a place.

    Not a person.

    Just a feeling.

    A feeling that says:

    You are safe here.

    You are seen here.

And you are allowed to be loved here.

The feeling is so familiar it almost feels remembered. As if I've held it before. As if I've held you before.

 And maybe that's why I can't let go.

    Because you make me feel every part of my own existence.

    The beautiful parts.

The terrifying parts.

    The parts that want love and the parts that are terrified to receive it.

    And because of that, I don't want to lose it. I don't want to let you go.

    But then you turn away.

    The thread loosens.

    The room returns.

    The noise returns.

    Reality returns.

    I look back toward him.

    And neither of us says anything.

    We never did anyway.

Synastry Aspects:

My Moon (and possible Venus) is in his 12th house. (My Venus could also be in his 1st hose)

His Neptune tightly squares my Moon.

His Moon and Venus are in my 8th house, and those planets make multiple aspects to my inner planets.

His South Node conjuncts my Mercury and Ascendant.

His Neptune conjuncts my South Node.

(Other aspects: My Vesta, Pluto, Chiron Lilith in his 1st house, my Sun, Mercury and Ascendant in his 2nd house, his Mars is in my 1st house/conjuncts my ascendant, his Pallas conjuncts my Pluto and my Eros likely conjuncts his Ascendant).

My Natal Aspects:

I have a 12th house Venus, Mercury, Pluto, Chiron and Lilith.

My Moon tightly squares my Neptune.

My Venus sextiles my Neptune.

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⋆. 𐙚˚࿔ Astrology Observations 𝜗𝜚˚⋆⠀⠀ ⠀

❤︎ With 8th and 12th house synastry connections, you might never actually date the person, yet the emotions they evoke within you can feel as profound and intimate as if you had.

❤︎Un-evolved water dominant or water Moon individuals can become deeply attached to the experience of feeling something intensely, especially if they also have strong Earth placements in their Sun or rising sign. The emotional world becomes a source of validation, meaning, and identity, even when those emotions are painful.

❤︎ Pisces-dominant individuals may fixate on guilt, self-sacrifice, or emotional suffering. They can struggle with self-loathing, escapism, or unconsciously placing themselves in the role of the victim during difficult situations. While unhealthy, these emotional states can feel strangely safe because they are familiar. Pisces energy often absorbs emotional pain deeply, and over time, suffering itself can begin to feel emotionally recognizable or comforting. ❤︎ Scorpio-dominant individuals often seek emotional intensity because intense feelings make them feel alive and emotionally real. They may sit with sadness, longing, or emotional extremes because quieter emotional states can feel empty or disconnected to them. What appears to be “numbness” is not always emotional absence; rather, their nervous system may associate intensity with emotional validity. Without that deep emotional surge, they may interpret calmness as feeling nothing at all. As a result, they can unconsciously gravitate toward emotionally consuming experiences simply to reconnect with a sense of humanity and emotional depth. ❤︎ Cancer-dominant individuals tend to hold onto emotions internally rather than expressing them immediately. They often suppress feelings until they reach an emotional breaking point, at which emotions pour out all at once. Their moods can shift rapidly because they are highly emotionally responsive to their environment and inner state. Cancer placements may alternate between extreme warmth and emotional withdrawal depending on how safe or hurt they feel. In emotionally painful moments, their feelings can easily overpower logic or objectivity, causing them to react instinctively rather than rationally. (That can resonate with other water moons too)

❤︎ 12th House stellium/placements (especially Moon, Venus or Sun) oftentimes deal with being ostracized when they are interconnected with a group of people. This may not happen right away, but more oftentimes than not, if someone in the group doesn't isolate them from others, fear (usually based on past experiences) will cause the 12th House native to isolate themselves.

Usually, when the 12th House native isolate themselves it's because they have dealt with a similar situation before, to where if they didn't leave, they would have been left instead. 12th house placements deal with a lot of pain when it comes to building any relationship with others. Platonic, familial, romantic, there's always constant road blocks, or set backs. These people naturally chooses everyone over themselves and because of that, karmic lessons repeat.

It's self written and self sabotaging to where if they don't walk away from you, you will walk away from them, 9/10 walking away is beneficial because most people in your life are mirrors of your deepest fears and insecurities. It's hard to build a sense of self concept when you are constantly struggling to form any real authentic connection with another. You likely desire and yearn for a relationship (platonic or romantic) and it's hard to tell yourself you do deserve better when everyone around you shows you otherwise. Always talk to your guides or loved ones.

Advice: The universe does not want you to suffer, you are divinely protected however in the moment; when you compare yourself to the life of others, it won't feel that way. Write your feelings and make sure you validate any and all pain or hurt you carry❤︎

If you do not resonate with the above statements that is okay! I have a 12H Venus, Mercury, Pluto, Chiron, Lilith with my Scorpio Moon exactly squaring Neptune. If you don't relate I am glad!

❤︎ 12th house placements also deal with intense admiration (usually from people who do not speak to them openly) to intense animosity (again from people who do not speak to them). If you are not admired by others, you are questioned by them. If you are too kind, one person may view you as "fake" or "inauthentic." Then the next person will view you as "perfect," and someone who can do or say no wrong. These constant idealizations or false projections can make it feel impossible to keep up with. This also ties in to the fact that you may have tendencies to self abandon yourself. If you have dealt with trauma from others misconstruing your character, or by feeling like a burden when you state your needs, you're likely not familiar with sticking up for yourself; or with saying what is on your mind. The more you abandon your internal needs or thoughts the harder it is to create a confident self concept. It's a cycle.

❤︎ Venus-ruled natives—Libra and Taurus risings/stelliums along with individuals who have Venus, the Sun, or the Moon in the 2nd or 5th House; often receive a significant amount of external validation, admiration, and social approval from others.These placements can create a natural sense of desirability, charm, beauty, likability, or emotional appeal that attracts people toward them without much conscious effort. Others may project value onto them automatically, viewing them as someone whose attention, affection, or approval feels important to obtain.

These individuals may rarely experience a lack of attention in relationships, friendships, or social environments. People are often willing to pursue them, maintain connections with them, or seek validation from them even when the Venus-dominant person is not giving the same level of emotional investment in return. In some cases, this can lead them to unconsciously put minimal effort into maintaining relationships because they are accustomed to others doing the emotional labor of keeping the connection alive. There is often an assumption whether conscious or unconscious that affection, interest, or admiration will continue to come to them regardless. This is especially noticeable with strong Taurus or 2nd House energy, where personal value and desirability can feel inherently stable, and with 5th House placements, which tend to attract attention, admiration, romantic interest, and social fascination naturally.

❤︎ 8th house synastry deals with constant loops and cycles. If you're not saying you are over them, you are wanting them.

❤︎ Neptune and 12th house synastry: "You are perfect for me; you feel like everything I could ever wish for in someone."

If you're avoidant, this feeling can be terrifying because it brings a sense of inadequacy, as if you could never live up to the idealized version of yourself they see. You'll long for them deeply, but the way they look at you may feel unsettling, foreign, or out of place. Even if they seem like your dream person, self-doubt can drive you to run. You might fear disappointing them or feel you’ll never measure up to the partner they deserve. You'll view them as some sort of prize from a distance and you'll search for them in other connections but you'll never allow yourself to choose them, not like they choose you.

If you're anxious, this feeling will strike a familiar chord, it'll resonate so deeply within and letting go will seem impossible. You'll feel this pull toward them, you'll feel as if they’re your muse, your catharsis, and you'll wish that they were your person. Even without words, you'll sense that they want you, and this silent connection will consume your thoughts. You’ll compare the way they make you feel to everyone else, and you'll search for that same intensity in other people's gazes. You’ll sit in your head, wondering if your wishes align with theirs, questioning if they feel the same. Over time, you’ll realize the emotions they stir in you are unmatched, which leads you to hold onto the connection longer than you should, you'll rather wish on the what could be's than accept what is.

❤︎ 1H Chiron indicates that the native has deeply struggled with their self image. Especially if they also have a 3rd house Lilith or a 10th/12th house Sun. Bullying was likely a theme in their early development, confidence lacked, and even if they blossomed into their looks, a part of them may struggle with accepting compliments. They likely will always feel like that insecure little kid who was told they were "not good enough."

❤︎ 12th House/Neptune synastry creates an echo that gets louder when words are not being used. Eye contact and body language holds more weight rather than tangible words.

❤︎ In 12th House synastry, the house person often struggles to fully trust or understand the planet person’s intentions, words, or emotional transparency. Even when the planet person openly expresses affection such as saying “I like you,” the house person may still question the sincerity, depth, or reality of those feelings.

This dynamic usually comes from the inherently unclear and subconscious nature of the 12th House itself. The connection can feel emotionally consuming, intuitive, or psychologically significant, yet simultaneously difficult to define or ground in reality. Because of this, words alone may hold very little weight for the house person. They often look for emotional proof, consistency, or tangible reassurance, yet the relationship may continue to exist in an ambiguous emotional space. This is especially common in connections that lack direct communication or a clear foundation relationships built more on lingering eye contact, unspoken tension, imagined meaning, emotional projection, curiosity, or silent emotional exchanges rather than explicit statements and defined intentions. As a result, the house person can become trapped in uncertainty, constantly analyzing what the planet person truly feels versus what is being projected or imagined. The connection may feel deeply significant internally while remaining externally undefined, which creates confusion, longing, mistrust, or emotional fixation. In many 12th House synastry connections, both people can sense something profound beneath the surface, yet struggle to articulate or fully validate it in a concrete, emotionally secure way.

❤︎ Karmic relationships often act as catalysts for emotional awakening and self-awareness. Before the connection, you may have moved through life with parts of yourself emotionally undeveloped, disconnected, or hidden beneath the surface. The relationship shifts something internally, altering the way you perceive yourself, others, and the emotional depth of life itself.

These connections tend to awaken introspection. Through the other person’s presence, words, energy, or even the pain of the relationship, you begin confronting emotions, fears, desires, and wounds that may have previously remained unconscious. It can feel as though the relationship forces you to look inward in ways you never had before. In many cases, the person becomes symbolic of transformation rather than just romance. Their presence unlocks aspects of your identity, emotional world, and inner complexity that may have otherwise stayed dormant for years. Even if the relationship itself does not last, the emotional awareness it awakened within you often permanently changes the way you experience connection and understand yourself.

❤︎ If you have natal 12th house placements (especially Venus with Chiron) and you deal with a karmic relationship; very often, the pain, longing, loss, or emotional intensity of the relationship becomes a catalyst for inner creation. Through heartbreak or emotional unraveling, you may suddenly develop profound artistic abilities, emotional insight, spiritual awareness, writing talent, creativity, or healing-oriented passions that were quietly waiting beneath the surface. Your pain with this relationship becomes a cathartic release for the collective.

You often become translators of emotional pain. Through art, writing, music, spirituality, psychology, advice, or emotional storytelling, you are able to articulate feelings that many people struggle to put into words themselves. Others may feel deeply understood by you because from this relationship, you have already confronted emotional depths that many people avoid or cannot fully explain. In this sense, the karmic relationship acts less as a simple romantic experience and more as an awakening. The connection pushes them into greater self-awareness, emotional depth, and purpose, eventually allowing them to guide others through similar emotional experiences with compassion and insight.

❤︎ 12th House placements, especially Venus's naturally can pick up what the collective will resonate with most when it comes to music/poetry/thoughts/opinions.

❤︎ One reason water dominant people or emotionally driven people especially those who deeply crave connection yet also fear it; hold onto relationships that do not serve them is because that connection may feel like their only access to emotion. Without feelings for that person, they can experience an overwhelming sense of emptiness or emotional numbness.

On a deeper level, maintaining the connection can create a sense of aliveness and humanity, particularly if they struggle to feel emotionally connected to others. The relationship becomes more than attachment to a person; it becomes attachment to the experience of feeling itself. As a result, walking away from the person can feel like walking away from the possibility of feeling anything at all.

❤︎ Pisces or 12th house placements often turn to writing or art as a means of expressing their inner thoughts, feelings, and longings. The more they feel, the more their creativity flows.

❤︎ If you have water placements or planets in water houses (4th, 8th, 12th), deep emotions are embedded within you. The more you avoid these feelings, the more likely physical symptoms such as anxiety or mental struggles will occur. It's your body’s way of processing the hidden emotions you’ve learned to suppress. These unaddressed feelings can manifest in subtle, physical ways, and it's a reflection of the emotional turmoil beneath the surface.

❤︎ With 8th house synastry, the second and I mean very second there's a emotional block between you two the deep seated desire for them becomes less intense.

Ex: If you also share 12th house synastry with them, parts of their actions will feel like subtle hints that are meant for you, in essence you want to believe you are more important to them than others, and you feel like you are. But once something comes to light or if you were shown that what you thought to be wasn't the case, the realization creates emotional distance and the desire for them (in that moment) shrinks. It feels as if the importance that you thought your presence gave them suddenly means nothing, and from that feeling creates a instant "I'm never speaking to them again" mentality.

❤︎ With the 12th house involved in synastry, their actions may reveal their actual character, and while you are able to clearly see these actions (in a objective sense), you might still feel deeply tied to the version of them you feel them to be exists. You’ll observe their behavior yet convince yourself that someone better lies beneath the surface.

❤︎ With 8th and 12th house synastry, there’s a part of you that feels you’ll never compare to anyone else they encounter. Even if you two never dated, there’s a deep sense that the way they feel when they’re with you is unmatched and it's something you intuitively will feel. It's likely that there will be no set actions or verbal affirmations to confirm this knowing.

❤︎ The natal 2nd House–8th House axis often reflects the difference between what is personally earned, owned, and built versus what is shared, inherited, given, or received through others.

People with strong 2nd House placements often develop security through their own resources, possessions, income, or family stability. The money connected to the 2nd House tends to feel personally owned whether it comes from a career, personal effort, or a family foundation that directly supports their material security. By contrast, strong 8th House placements can indicate resources that come through other people or external systems: inheritance, trusts, insurance, marriage, shared finances, government assistance, payouts, debts, investments, or even money tied to complicated family dynamics. The theme is less “this is mine because I built it” and more “this comes through entanglement, sharing, or dependency.” For example: ❤︎ Person A has an exalted Jupiter in the 2nd House. She comes from a wealthy family; her father is an actor, and she has never experienced financial instability. In adulthood, she also maintains a steady career that independently covers her lifestyle and necessities. Her financial security exists both through family background and through income she personally sustains. ❤︎ Person B has an 8th House stellium. Although she also comes from wealth, the money in her environment is tied to shared family resources, insurance, fraud-related circumstances, and a trust distributed among relatives. Her mother married a rich man and now most family members, including her, rely on that shared trust rather than individually accumulated wealth. Her fiancé now financially supports nearly every aspect of her life. Very little of what she owns comes from her own income or long-term career stability. Even the jobs she has occasionally worked such as atmosphere work—brought in money through tips or support from others, reinforcing the 8th House theme of receiving resources externally rather than generating them independently.

❤︎ People with a Capricorn Moon often grow up learning to approach emotions through control, restraint, or self-protection rather than open vulnerability. In many cases, there can be emotional distance or difficulty with the mother relationship, particularly around feeling emotionally understood, comforted, or validated. For these individuals, emotional transparency may feel unfamiliar or even unsafe. When they try to express deeper feelings, they may experience responses that feel dismissive, emotionally unavailable, overly practical, or disconnected from what they actually need. Over time, this can lead them to shut down emotionally, suppress vulnerability, or become highly guarded with their inner world.

Sometimes the mother may appear emotionally cold, overwhelmed, image-conscious, rigid in her beliefs, or unable to meet the child on an emotional level due to her own limitations. As a result, the Capricorn Moon child can internalize the idea that emotions should be controlled, hidden, or endured silently rather than openly processed. This dynamic can feel especially intense for individuals with strong water placements particularly water risings because they are naturally highly sensitive and emotionally absorbent. Internally, they may feel emotions very deeply, yet simultaneously believe they should suppress or ignore those feelings to maintain composure or avoid rejection. This creates a conflict between emotional depth and emotional inhibition: they feel intensely, but struggle to safely express what they feel.

❤︎ Virgo risings oftentimes will do a cleanse on their social media. They will either follow back a very small fixed amount of people, or they will randomly deactivate their account and remove people as followers. They likely limit their interaction with others from time to time. It's similar to 12th house placements however Virgo risings don't receive as much backlash for isolating or going "ghost."

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The COSMIC Blueprint (Universal Synastry and Natal eBook Guide)

I put together a new eBook based on everything I’ve learned and the synastry readings I’ve worked with. It’s a little collection of patterns and insights I’ve been sitting with for a while. You can read more about it here:

An Universal Guide to Soul-Contract Synastry & Emotional Origins

Understanding the Invisible Current

Welcome to a quiet exploration of the deeper patterns that shape how you connect.

This isn’t just about relationships on the surface—it’s about the subtle gravity between people. The kind that doesn’t always make sense in words, but is felt immediately. Familiar, intense, sometimes overwhelming, as if something unspoken is already in motion before anything is said.

Drawing from patterns often seen in synastry, this eBook guide looks at what happens when two lives meet and begin to weave into each other. It reflects not only what unfolds between you, but the emotional undercurrents that give it meaning.

Whether your experience moves through the depth and dissolution of the 12th house, the intensity and transformation of the 8th, or the weight and lessons of Saturn, each section is meant as a reflection—something you can recognize in your own lived experience.

This is a synthesis drawn from many readings and many stories. Over time, certain themes repeat themselves—similar dynamics, similar wounds, similar ways people find themselves changed by one another. I offer this as a way of naming those patterns, so they feel less isolating and more understood.

I think of this as a shared archetype of deep, karmic-style connection. Not to define your experience too narrowly, but to give language to something that often feels difficult to explain.

Take each section as a mirror. Not to tell you who you are, but to help you notice what consistently moves through your relationships—your attractions, your reactions, and the quieter lessons that may be asking for your attention right now.

If you are curious about your connection but do not want to spend money on a 1-on-1 session, this report is for you.

I. Introduction & Foundations

An Universal Guide to Soul-Contract Synastry & Emotional Origins: An introduction to the deeper patterns and "subtle gravity" that shape human connections.

The Importance of the Sun and Moon in a Natal Chart: A guide to how the Sun (identity/father) and Moon (emotional needs/mother) form the backbone of personality.

II. Natal Aspects & Emotional Reshaping

The Power of Tight Aspects to the Moon & Sun: Exploration of how tight planetary orbs influence internalized psychological patterns.

General Theory: How Aspects Reshape the Moon & Sun: A breakdown of how outer planets (Neptune, Pluto, Saturn, Uranus) modify the expression of the luminaries.

Water Moon Aspecting Neptune: Analyzing "Piscean" emotional tendencies, blurred boundaries, and childhood caretaking roles.

Water Moon Aspecting Pluto: Addressing emotional intensity, "all or nothing" mindsets, and abandonment wounds.

Water Moon Aspecting Saturn: Discussing emotional restraint, logic as a safety mechanism, and the "swallowing" of pain.

III. The 12th House: Elusive Connections (Synastry)

The 12th House Elusive Connection: Examining the subtle and often unspoken energy in synastry.

Through the Veil: Understanding 12th House Synastry: Detailed look at Neptunian energy and dissolved boundaries.

Doubt and Devotion: Why love can feel "unreal" or unbelievable in 12th house connections.

The Core Dynamic: Care That Doesn’t Register: When verbal affection fails to convince, but energy and eye contact resonate.

Neptune and 12th House Synastry: Attachment patterns, avoidant vs. anxious dynamics, and emotional idealization.

Synastry Neptune–Sun Opposition: Mutual idealism, projection, and shared illusory dynamics.

IV. The 8th House: Magnetic Connections (Synastry & Natal)

The Magnetic 8th House Connection: Psychological layering and the stirring of deep, guarded vulnerabilities.

Their Venus in Your 8th House: How another's affection awakens profound curiosity and intimacy.

Synastry Pluto Conjunct Mars: The "Transformative Force" and instinctive, magnetic attraction.

Mars in the 8th House Overlay: Immediate intensity and the awakening of unfamiliar desires.

Synastry Sun and Mercury in the 8th House Overlay: Active energy illuminating hidden layers and mental depth.

Natal 8th House Venus: Loving with intensity, fear of betrayal, and the experience of "emotional resurrection".

V. Saturn & Commitment: The Anchor

The Anchor of Commitment: Focusing on responsibility, structure, and long-term foundations.

The Anchor: Saturn Conjunct Descendant: The requirement for substance, shared goals, and direction in a partnership.

VI. The Root System: Natal & Synastry

The Root System Overview: The push-pull of love and early foundational conditioning.

Natal Venus Square Saturn, Opposite Uranus: The tension between desiring lasting love and remaining guarded or seeking freedom.

Synastry Venus Square Saturn: The weight of expectation and misaligned timing or goals in relationships.

VII. Chiron: Deep Emotional Recognition

Chiron Natal and Synastry: Recognition and activation of the inner world.

The IC (Inner Foundation Layer): Background on the psychological imprint of early environment.

Natal Chiron in the 4th House: Wounds stemming from home life and the call for shadow work.

Chiron Conjunct IC: Quiet recognition of another's wounds through shared familiarity.

Synastry: Chiron Touching the Sun: Activation of both the private and outward self.

Sun–Chiron Synastry and Natal: Core identity wounds, visibility, and healing through self-development.

VIII. Emotional Root System: Pisces & Neptune

Part 1: Pisces IC: Blurred boundaries and the early emotional atmosphere of the home.

Core Foundation: Private Inner Life: How Neptune conjunct the IC creates emotional ambiguity and early caretaking patterns.

Neptune Conjunct IC Natal: Secrecy, sacrifice, and unspoken heaviness in the childhood environment.

IX. Specific IC Observations

Random IC Observations:

Natal Scorpio IC: Analyzing the intense, complex, or emotionally charged home environment where nothing was superficial.

IC in Virgo: How the early home environment emphasized structure, responsibility, and practical self-sufficiency.

Aquarius IC Layer: Exploring unconventional or non-traditional upbringings and emotional distance from norms

XI. The Descendant: The “Other” Part of You

Natal Neptune in the 7th House: Themes of idealism, sacrifice, and blurred boundaries in the approach to partnerships.

Summary: The Influence of Neptune: How Neptune blurs logic and attracts emotionally or physically unavailable partners.

Natal Uranus Conjunct Descendant: Relational independence and attraction to unpredictable, non-conforming bonds.

Synastry Moon/Sun Conjunct Descendant: The deep internal pull of "knowing" someone before truly meeting them.

Natal Venus in the 7th House: Love as an accessible, renewing force that restores belief in connection

XII. Natal 12th House Placements & Aspects

Natal Moon in Cancer in the 12th House Squaring Saturn: Managing emotional depth, hidden sensitivity, and inner emotional restriction.

The Mother Dynamic: Analyzing the contrast between parental emotional examples and the requirement to grow up quickly.

Natal Venus in the 12th House: The experience of isolation, invisibility, and the "wall" within relationships.

Natal Sun in Pisces Widely Squaring Pluto: Understanding the impact of the Sun aspecting Neptune through emotional intensity and inner transformation.

XIII. Neptune Influence on Inner Planets (Emotional Ambiguity, Idealization & Boundary Fluidity)

Neptune–Sun/Moon Aspects: Identity Blur, Emotional Complexity & Early Parental Dynamics

Neptune–Uranus Influences on Inner Planets: Emotional Instability, Disconnection & Mixed Early Relational Signals: Early imprint of emotional inconsistency, distance, and unstable connection.

Parental Presence vs Emotional Availability (Conditional Support Dynamics)

XIV. The Emotional Root System (Final Analysis)

Emotional Patterning: Trust & Clarity: How early experiences develop a strong capacity for empathy or lead to withdrawal.

The Split: Desire vs. Resistance: Navigating the internal divide between seeking safety and reacting with caution or hesitation.

XIV. Conclusion

The Final Summary of Soul-Contract Patterns: "Who feels it more?" Reflections on how these placements serve as a "blueprint" for self-awareness and healing.

The Architect of Connections: Encouragement to use self-awareness to set boundaries and find strength in intensity.

The COSMIC Blueprint (Universal Synastry and Natal eBook Guide)

An Universal Guide to Soul-Contract Synastry & Emotional Origins Understanding the Invisible CurrentWelcome to a quiet exploration of th

NOTE: This guide is VERY specific in what I wrote, please read table of contents carefully <3

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Venus in 12H Romantic Synastry

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Some connections that we experience in life feel more like a pipe dream, rather than a lived experience. A fantasy, rather than reality. Even a nightmare, rather than a fairy tale. When we look at Venus in 12H synastry, we see a connection that doesn't need to be seen to be felt. We see the underlayer of our primal instincts and the things that we like to hide about ourselves in these relationships. We see a connection that feels like it breaks the universal law, a connection that doesn't follow the rules. These two people come together with a very specific purpose and could be meeting each other again in this lifetime. I will be focusing on Venus 12H synastry in a romantic relationship or with a POI/SP.

Long post ahead 𖹭

Venus in 12H synastry is a very complex synastry to have with somebody, and in my opinion, it's one of the synastries that sort of embodies a different energy depending on the nature of the relationship. Because of this, I will be making this a two-part series post so that I can go into greater detail about the complexities of this synastry. My following post will cover what this synastry looks like in a non-romantic sense, like with friendships and family members, coworkers, etc. It embodies a bit of a different energy, which deserves its own explanation, so look out for that post! One final disclaimer: This is not going to resonate with everybody, and I will mention both typical things that you could expect and the more extreme side of things that won't be very relatable to everybody. Remember that not everything I post will resonate with you, and try to read it from the perspective of wanting to learn something new rather than wanting to fit a narrative! Other than that, please let me know what you think, and if you enjoy it, please like and reblog or give me a follow. Enjoy!

Venus in 12H synastry

In this article, I will be discussing the good, the bad, the ugly, and everything in between involving romantic Venus in 12H synastry. Starting with Venus' perspective.

Right off the bat, I would say that the Venus person feels the seriousness of this connection first. Even if you don't really know the person a lot, you might feel an immediate pull to them and a deep desire to get to know them. You might want to be their hero or their savior or their protector, etc. You might be put in a situation (at the time of meeting) where you are these things for this person. Nonetheless, I find that the Venus person is very self-sacrificing for the house person in this synastry.

Venus wants to truly understand the house person, and I think this is where the issues really start, because the house person is usually not open to Venus entering such vulnerable spaces in their life. But that's for later. The connection that Venus feels to the house person is very spiritual, and it's definitely something that they've never experienced before. Of course, if the Venus person has natal 12H placements, I find that Venus here can have an easier time communicating with the house person. If not, I do see that there is a bit of a challenge. Nonetheless, Venus feels like either divine intervention brought the two of them together, or that the two of them serve a bigger purpose together. The Venus person knows this deep in their heart and it's like they're just waiting for the house person to get there and accept that fate lol.

I'll be honest, Venus could become a little delusional for the house person. This is because the house person is on Venus' mind 24/7 and rent free. It's almost like an impulse. There is definitely an obsessive element to this synastry, but that could honestly go both ways and I think a lot would depend on your natal chart, transits, and whether any of the house person's planets fall into Venus' 12th house, etc. both could also be equally obsessed with each other but in the beginning it is more so Venus because again, Venus feels very passionate about the 12th house. Venus wants to love on the 12th house, and in a way, Venus wants to pull the house person out of their shell and out of that dark, elusive, mysterious, and unreachable place that they resort to.

This synastry can make Venus an unconditional lover 100%. And in a lot of situations, Venus is not naturally that way. Venus could have had strong boundaries before meeting the house person but it's like when they finally meet, all Venus wants to do is connect with the house person even if that means abandoning themselves sometimes. This is where the ugly starts. Venus will sacrifice things like their time, effort, money, creativity, fortune, etc., just to please the house person. This is going to be different for everybody, but if you are not over-giving to the house person, like giving them your resources, time, energy, and the things that I mentioned, you are over-forgiving of them. This comes back to the fact that you accept them fully, flaws and all. However, you should also understand that they don't have to feel the same way and I think this is where a lot of miscommunication and illusion starts to happen with the Venus person because they feel like they're mirroring each other's feelings. For instance, if Venus is very self-sacrificing or would literally give the shirt off their back to the house person, they may assume that the house person feels the same way, and that's not always true. When reality hits that the house person has their own mind, their own feelings, and their own perspective, the Venus person really is shocked by the house person. They can definitely betray each other because this is the house of hidden enemies. However, betrayal hits them very differently.

But, more on the subject of unconditional love. Venus loves them quickly and Venus wants to protect them immediately. It's kind of like Venus wants to protect them from the BS and darkness of the world, like it's their karmic duty. This is because they could feel like they are the only ones who truly knows the house person. The Venus person may not even fully understand why they feel so strongly for the house person, but they don't care. They know what the house person needs and they want to be there to mend their broken heart honestly. In my opinion, this would be very sweet and flattering IF it was warranted or asked for. A lot of the time, the house person is not asking for this from Venus, so that causes its own problems. But, there are also situations where the house person IS seeking Venus for that nurturing and that kind love that Venus has to offer the house person. They very much have a runner-chaser dynamic, and the house person isn't always pushing Venus away, but they will if they feel like Venus is pushing too far and trying to get too close when they are not ready.

Alternatively, I see situations where this pair cannot be together in the physical realm, but connect in their dreams, in the 5D, etc. I mentioned that this is a very spiritual connection, and a lot of times it really does not manifest into a solid relationship because there's no solid house to build on. When you deal with the 12th house, you are dealing with elusive energy, you are dealing with your deepest thoughts feelings and desires. But there's nothing that is really grounded enough to anchor in a solid connection, especially when there is Venus in 12H and/or harsh aspects involved. This of course is not always the case, but if there is a shorter relationship between the two, Venus definitely never forgets the house person and even romanticizes the time spent with the house person. This could be like the secret affair that the Venus person never forgot or maybe was not aware they were involved in until very later on when the two of them already split, etc. If the two people never come together in union or form a commitment, they still have a very serious spiritual entanglement and contract with each other. Even if the time that you spend together was one week or one year, that impact is forever ingrained in both people, but more so the Venus person. I have read charts for people who have this synastry, specifically for the Venus person, who would often share that they dream about the house person even though they haven't seen them in years, they haven't found the same level of passion with another person as they did with the house person, etc. I feel that Venus often romanticizes the connection so much to the point where sometimes the details are even skewed and the truth of what actually happened between both of them is often false or tainted. This is, again, is the uglier and definitely negative side of this synastry, but worth mentioning.

12H synastry is also about illusions and seeing past them. Often, this connection brings a level of illusion or deceit, and I feel like Venus tries to hang on to the connection a little bit stronger than the house person and could be more forgiving of any deceit or lies, and ultimately tries to keep that illusion of a soul tie or soulmate connection alive even if that's not what's happening in reality. Again, this synastry will literally make people feel crazy and it's not cute. I don't know why so many astrologers choose to romanticize this synastry, because just as often as it's good, it is a lot of trouble for people.I have talked to enough people who have expressed that they thought, felt, and acted in ways that they never have prior to meeting the 12H synastry person (this is a pattern I have noticed in both the house person and venus).

Venus really needs to be careful with how often they are romanticizing the house person's energy because it can get them in trouble. It could get them making poor choices and ultimately abandoning themselves by choosing to trust and believe the house person, even if the house person is playing in their face. Discernment is key, and I often find that if/ when these connections go wrong, it feels like a survival moment for Venus in a sense. A breakup should never feel like you have survived a long and never-ending marathon, but that's sort of what 12H synastry feels like. What sucks is that for a lot of people, that feeling sort of never fully fades.

For the house person, I think it is important to mention that they may already feel like an outcast as a person or they might already feel like people don't understand them. I've noticed that the house person is usually somebody who gets misunderstood, often. When the house person meets venus, the house person finally feels seen. The house person feels deeply affected by the Venus person, but does not understand why.

To the house person, Venus is like a leopard in the wild: Venus is stunning, no doubt, but also scary, intimidating, and frightening to the house person. It's actually very interesting to me how the house person can be both so attracted to Venus and so afraid of Venus. Of course not in a literal sense (usually), but in a way that they are scared to be fully vulnerable with the Venus person. This is typically because the house person actually does feel very accepted and seen by the Venus person but it's scary because nobody has ever made the attempt to connect with the house person in such a way. This is sort of where miscommunication could happen, because the house person isn't all bad. The house person is not mysterious, but rather overwhelmed and tries to keep things together internally. I think that the Venus person doesn't always understand that not everybody wants to put all of their traumas and their hurt and their pain, or even their love out on display.

Venus sees the parts of the house person that they try to hide, and that can definitely stir up some unsettling feelings in them. It's not a good feeling for them to be so sus and afraid of someone while simultaneously being deeply attracted to them. Venus stirs these feelings up in the house person and it creates like an internal storm. This is because the house person doesn't feel like they can really trust a Venus person for whatever reason, usually it is because of the illusion that this synastry comes with. But nonetheless, I would say that house person wants to love the Venus person, but feels like they just can't trust them, like the carpet will be pull from underneath them, etc.

I feel like the house person can sometimes become anxiously attached to Venus, even if they don't express that anxiety or show that they want to be in close proximity to venus. I'll be honest with you, it sort of gives Joe from You, in the sense that he watches the women that he really wants from afar, rather than just trying to approach them in a normal and respectful way. Not calling the house person a stalker but I'm saying that they feel safer watching the Venus person and enjoying their energy, than diving deep very quickly. In a normal romantic sense, this could look like being very sketchy and randomly ghosting, then popping back up, texting at all hours of the night, giving Venus attention, then suddenly pulling away while still watching their social media, etc. It looks like the house person showing just enough interest to keep the venus person thinking of them, wondering about them, and holding onto them.

Another note on issues with being vulnerable with the Venus person: I have noticed that the house person feels like their guard drops for Venus really quickly, and they could feel like they have no control over their reactions around Venus. This makes the house person so self-aware and yet so unable to stop themselves from reacting ways that make them feel out of control.

Out of the two, I would say that the house person can be more of the secretive one, but that is not to say that Venus can't be, too. Both can be pretty secretive. I feel that the secretive nature of the house person comes from this desire to feel safe in the connection. I don't always feel like the house person is hiding things to be malicious (though that can happen). Usually, it just feels safer for them to do that. Another part of this is that the house person doesn't always know how to label how they feel, so sometimes it's easier for them to just say that they're “fine” rather than diving into their actual feelings. The house person also just tends to think more negatively and might assume that their real feelings or "true self" would be "too much" for venus to actually love.

The house person has a tendency of playing mind games with Venus, especially using push-pull tactics to get Venus’ attention. But sometimes, it's not even for Venus’ attention. Sometimes, the house person gets so comfortable with sharing that they let themselves be too vulnerable with venus, and then pull away because that feeling is too intense for them. Sometimes it's about playing games, but sometimes it's genuinely just that the house person does not know how to accept that energy from the Venus person without questioning it or not trusting it.

I think in a lot of ways, the house person can be seen as very inconsistent and flaky to Venus, and Venus could take it very personally, but the house person just doesn't know what to do with Venus, I guess. They may know that they want to explore this connection with venus, but there's something in them that feels like it's intangible. They could feel like Venus is unavailable because maybe Venus is. Maybe Venus doesn't always wait for the house person and lets themself explore, etc. But I think a lot of the time, the house person just projects a lot of their insecurities onto Venus even if it is unfair or unjust.

The way that I see it is that the house person is afraid of their complex feelings for Venus because they have never felt such complexities before. They have never met somebody who has rattled their brain and yet made their heart race a million times over. They have never met somebody that challenges them and could feel totally different from them, or like an utter fantasy. I feel that the house person, whether they admit it out loud or not, gets totally enamored with the Venus person. Just like Venus feels for the house person. The problem is that the house person doesn't know how to express this without feeling afraid of what will happen if Venus leaves.

I think that is the biggest distinction in terms of who is more impacted by this synastry. They both are. They both carry the karmic weight of the connection, even after it's over. However, Venus is the planet of love and comfort and beauty.. Venus can know when to leave or when it is time to, but the house person? The house person might be stuck. The house person will be lingering on the memories of the Venus person until they could fully release that energy and see the connection for what it was. So while on the surface it might seem like the house person doesn't have much of a reaction to the Venus person, I would argue that the reaction is a lot stronger for the house person, it's just internalized. It's like having your insides set on fire and wanting to explode but unable to. It's like your heart breaking and having nobody to turn to. This is what it feels like for the house person if and when the Venus person leaves, and if there was a deep connection.

Sometimes, the house person can avoid deep and meaningful connections because they want to avoid falling in love with Venus. I find that the house person tends to cling on to words and intellectual conversation and just deep dialogue more than Venus, and they find that Venus naturally stimulates them intellectually and emotionally. Having conversations about the meaning of life, the future, the things that we hide, and love, feel scary for the house person because they don't typically connect in such a way with other people and they feel like if they give the Venus person the “key” to their heart, or to the parts of themselves that they hide, Venus can somehow destroy them.

Now more about this synastry, together. This otherworldly connection is one that will be felt throughout their entire lifetime. If this works out, I find that this couple ends up marrying and being together for their entire lifetime. If this situation doesn't work out, these two will not forget about each other. Nonetheless, things feel fated and like you two had a purpose in this lifetime. Sometimes you complete that purpose and sometimes you don't. This is also a very psychic and intuitive synastry to have with someone so they might feel like they can read each other's minds or just know what each other needs without needing to use words.

This is the kind of relationship where you will love each other at your very worst and still accept each other. Though this is mostly on Venus’ end, this could also be flipped. You have to take it as it resonates.

This relationship is very healing when it is healthy. I find that Venus wants to help soften and heal the house person, and house person creates a feeling of safety for the Venus person. And it is also worth mentioning that because this is the house of the hidden, intimacy can definitely be found in privacy.

Now onto the bad and ugly.

What makes this connection difficult is the utter lack of clarity and direction. If this connection never gets off the ground it always feels like it's floating up in the air, and it always feels like one or both people can't let each other go. I don't think it matters who feels this way in the connection because both tend to feel it at some point but they tend to ask themselves and each other, “what are we?” often. Oftentimes, they both cannot define what they want, or they are not on the same page at the right time. It's annoying because feelings can definitely exist but neither one of them knows how to put them into words.

Emotional projection is really strong and I kind of covered that earlier in this post. Usually, it is the house person that is projecting fantasies onto the Venus person, and the Venus person seeing what they want to see and not necessarily reality. This could definitely lead to things like avoiding the red flags in the person because they feel like the connection is too deep to let go. I think in some situations, they might feel like it is better to accept a false narrative or fantasy than to face reality or be accountable for the partner they chose.

There can be a lot of hidden dynamics and sneaky behavior in this synastry, especially if this is negative synastry. Of course, this placement shows up a lot and hidden or secret affairs, so that in and of itself can have its own issues. Besides that, I feel like there could be a lot of emotional manipulation and guilt tripping with this synastry, because the two people know so much about each other that they know each other's weak spots and how to play on each other's emotions. It gets messy as all heck. In the worst-case scenario, one or both people might realize that the other person is their hidden enemy or hidden “opp” in some way. Betrayal is unfortunately not uncommon with this synastry.

It is very important to have boundaries, especially spiritual boundaries with these connections because this could also indicate a draining connection that you experience as well. Pay attention to the red flags, and pay attention to how you feel when you are with this person. I've noticed that if somebody is draining your energy and you have this synastry, you might feel really lethargic and tired all of a sudden when you're around this person. A person who is right for you should make you feel energized and calm, not like you need a 10-hour nap.

Now to just wrap everything up. This could be a life-changing and deeply impactful connection that helps you both evolve as people, and it can definitely be a long-term, spiritual connection as well. But, you cannot sacrifice yourself for the sake of love and that is something that happens way too much with this synastry.

For the best outcomes for this synastry, I recommend radical acceptance and radical honesty. Don't hold back how you feel, and don't spend too much time waiting to define what the connection is. If it feels like it is something, it is something and you should give it a chance rather than fighting the current. But of course, strengthen your relationship with discernment and put yourself first always.

Do you have this synastry with anyone and can you relate to this post? Thank you for reading!

[myun-saidthoughts]

8th and 12th House Synastry: What If I Said Everything I Felt?

(Imaginary story inspired by 8th and 12th house synastry: a fictional confession where I finally say everything I’ve held in for years to someone I’ve wanted for a long time, based on how I feel, and how I imagine he might respond, shaped by our synastry, our dynamic, and the curiosity of where we stand).

He passes me like he always does, close enough to feel, far enough to lose and something inside me finally breaks loose. Before I can think, before I can stop myself, the words trip out of me, clumsy and shaking.

“W-wait… before you go… can I ask you something?”

My voice doesn’t feel like mine. It feels fragile, like the part of me that hides suddenly spoke aloud before the rest of me could stop it.

He turns. His eyes meet mine..soft, curious, unguarded for just a second. “Yes…you can,” he says quietly.

And just like that, every bit of courage I had dissolves.

My chest tightens. Breath tangles in my lungs. Fear floods in, heavy and suffocating. For a moment, I almost let him walk away again. But I can’t. Not this time.

“I just… I…” My voice falters, but I force it through. “Do I mean something to you?”

The silence that follows is unbearable.

But I can’t stop now. The words come spilling out, years of them, raw and for once unfiltered.

“Did I ever mean anything to you? Have you ever felt something for me? Because all this time… all these feelings—I’ve just buried them, ignored them, pretended they weren’t there. But I can’t anymore. I can’t keep holding this in.”

He doesn’t answer.

He just looks at me.

Those eyes—blue and impossibly clear, like sunlight cutting through ocean water. For a second, I see myself reflected in them, small and exposed. And behind that reflection, I felt something else, something louder than words. Something he’s been hiding.

Seconds stretch into something endless, and my chest aches from holding in too much for far too long.

Then he looks down, a quiet, almost nervous laugh escaping him.

“I… I wasn’t expecting that,” he says, stumbling over his own words. “I don’t even know how to answer. You do mean something to me. You always have. I just—”

“Please.” I cut him off, my voice tired now, worn thin. “Please don’t say I deserve better.”

The words come out sharper than I meant, but I don’t take them back.

“All you’ve done is push me away. For years. And it’s not fair. After everything… you really think you’re not someone I want?”

He looks at me again, stunned—not just by what I’m saying, but by the fact that I’m saying it at all. Like we’ve both been carrying this weight forever, and now it’s finally been dropped between us.

"Well..I..I don't know. I don't understand or trust this feeling I have when it comes to you..or us."

He sighs, looking over his shoulder.

"A part of me is scared. It feels like you see something in me that I don’t see in myself. And what if…what if I’m not that person? What if I can’t be the person you think I am?”

I shake my head, confusion mixing with something deeper—frustration, maybe even hurt.

“That’s not fair,” I say. “You’ve never even asked me why I feel this way. You’ve never asked what I see, or why I choose you. You just decided for me.”

My voice cracks, but I keep going.

“There’s never even been an ‘us.’ No story. Nothing real. And still… you’re the only feeling that’s ever stayed. The only feeling that hasn’t left.”

The truth burns on the way out.

“You keep choosing other people. Over and over again. And it makes me feel like I was never someone you cared about at all. And even knowing that… I still—”

My breath stutters.

“I still want you.”

“I’ve tried to forget you,” I whisper. “I really have. And sometimes I think I did. But then I see you again, and it all comes back, that same feeling. It’s terrifying… but it’s the only one that ever stays. And I don’t know how to keep pretending it’s not there.”

My hands tremble at my sides.

“I feel crazy. Like maybe this is all just in my head, like I made it all up and—”

“Stop.”

He closes the distance between us before I can finish. His hands come up to my face, instinctive almost, like he knew how to soothe me.

“Stop,” he says again, softer this time. “That’s not true.”

His thumbs rest lightly against my cheeks, grounding me.

“I can see why you feel this way,” he admits. “And I hate that I made you feel like this. I hate that I push you away… even when I don't mean to.”

I let out a shaky breath.

“That’s the problem,” I say quietly. “Why do you keep pushing me away? I feel it every time. And even when I know you’re doing it… I still feel pulled toward you. I keep trying to ignore it, but I don’t think I can anymore.”

I look down.

He lets go slowly, then sits on the edge of the bed, hands tucked into his pockets like he doesn’t know what to do with them.

“I’ve been telling myself you don’t care,” he says, almost to himself. “That you never did. It’s just… easier that way. Easier than wondering if there was ever something here.”

“I don’t… I don’t really understand what this is,” he admits, his voice unsteady. “Or why I pull away even when there's a part of me that is pulled towards you.”

“There’s just…something in me that gets scared every time you get close. And I hate it, because I know it doesn’t make sense.”

His eyes lift to mine for a moment, then slip away again.

“Still, I notice things I shouldn’t.” He continues. "Like when you’re with someone else—I feel it before I can even think it through. Or when I pass you by and we don’t speak—”

He stops, his jaw tightening.

“It lingers. Longer than it should. Longer than I want it to.”

“And instead of trying to understand it… I kept burying it. Pretending it wasn’t there.” He shakes his head faintly. “Like if I ignored it long enough, this feeling, whatever it is, would disappear.”

“But it never does.”

I look at him and exhale, trying to steady myself, turning over every word he’s just laid bare. There’s a pull in me—to close the distance, to hold him, to tell him the fears gripping him are only stories, not truth.

“I get it,” I say quietly. “I understand why you pull away from me. But I don't feel like this with others. I don’t let people in. I don’t put myself in a position where I can get hurt. I avoid it, I always have.”

I lift my gaze to meet his again.

“But with you it’s different. It’s always been easy, even when it shouldn’t be. And yeah—part of me is scared too.”

His eyes drop to his jeans—black denim, a chain glinting faintly at his hip. His fingers shift in his pockets, tightening as if he’s trying to hold onto something solid while he gathers his thoughts.

And for the first time, neither of us walks away.

For a moment, everything we’ve been holding back breaks.

It doesn’t shatter loudly—it gives way slowly, like a dam that’s been cracking for years, finally unable to hold the quiet weight behind it. All those unspoken feelings rush forward at once.

“I feel that way too…”

His voice is softer than I’ve ever heard it.

“I’ve just learned to ignore it. To suppress it. None of it ever made sense to me, and I… I’m sorry.”

He looks up at me when he says it, and there’s something in his eyes—something honest, something unguarded. And I realize, I can’t be angry. Even if I tried, I couldn’t hold onto it. There’s something about him that softens everything in me.

I step closer, the distance between us suddenly feeling too wide. Then I sit beside him on the bed, close enough to feel the warmth of him. My hand finds his arm, gently, like I’m testing whether he’ll pull away.

“It’s okay,” I tell him, my voice quieter now. “I get it. I really do.”

“But I need you to know something.”

My fingers tighten slightly against his sleeve.

“You’re special to me. Not just… in some vague way. It’s you. The way you are when no one’s watching. When you’re not trying to be anything for anyone else.”

“The quiet version of you. The calm one. The one who doesn’t feel like he has to perform or make people laugh or fill every silence.” I swallow, my voice catching just slightly. “That’s the person I’m drawn to the most. That’s who I see. And I just… I need you to know that.”

For a second, neither of us moves.

Then he slowly pulls his hands out of his pockets and turns toward me.

His eyes are different now, glossed over, shining. I see it before he can hide it.

Without thinking, I place my hand over his.

He opens his mouth to speak, but the words don’t come. His voice catches somewhere deep in his chest, and instead of forcing it—

He lets go.

He reaches for me, sudden and certain, and pulls me into him.

His arms wrap around me tightly, like he’s been holding this back too. His head falls against my shoulder, and I feel the weight of it—the trust of it.

Time loosens its grip, seconds slipping by unnoticed. And in that stillness, something settles. It feels safe. It feels quiet. It feels like something I’ve been searching for all my life.

It feels like home.

After some moments, he lifts his head, clearing his throat softly.

I stand, unsure of what comes next.

But before I can take a step away, his hand finds mine.

He holds it and rises to stand in front of me.

I look up at him, our hands still intertwined—his fingers fitting between mine like they’ve always known where to go. He’s smiling now, not the guarded kind, but something softer, something that reaches his eyes.

For a moment, the room goes quiet again.

But this silence feels different. It isn’t heavy or suffocating—it lingers, warm and fragile, like something we’re both afraid to disturb.

“Just…” My voice comes out quieter than I expect. “For once…let me in.”

My grip tightens slightly, like I’m afraid he might slip away even now.

“Let go. Just this once.”

The words hang there, trembling between us. I glance away, fear creeping back in, curling around my chest.

“I’m not asking for forever,” I admit, barely above a whisper. “I’m just asking for today.”

It feels smaller when I say it like that. Safer. Something he might actually give.

For a second, he doesn’t respond. But I feel it.

His fingers tightening around mine, holding on instead of pulling away.

“Okay,” he says.

Just one word, but it lands gently, like something carefully placed into my hands.

I look back up at him.

He lifts one hand from mine and brings it to my face, his palm warm against my cheek. His touch is careful, like he’s still learning me, like he doesn’t want to break whatever this is.

“I can try to do that,” he says softly. "I don’t… I don’t know how to do this right.”

There’s a small, uneven exhale—half a laugh, half something else.

“But I don’t want to keep pretending this is nothing… and I’m sorry it took me this long to acknowledge it.”

His thumb brushes lightly against my cheek, then stills like he’s aware of it now, like he’s deciding whether to keep going or pull back.

For a second, I think he might let go but he doesn’t.

I take a small breath, and I let that be enough, just this moment, just this feeling, without trying to ask for anything more.

My hand lifts slowly, almost unsure, and I place it over his where it still rests against my cheek. His touch is warm, and I realize his hand feels like something I have held once before.

“Okay,” I whisper. “Well… let’s go back out there then.”

He looks at me for a second longer than necessary, like for once he’s acknowledging every part of me. Then he smiles back and gives a quiet nod.

And we walk out together— not the same people who walked in, but the ones who finally said what fear kept buried.

P.S. I know this isn’t really astrology-related. I’ve been wanting to write a story-like post about a confession that’s been buried in fear between the two of us. This is what I imagine would happen if I ever spoke honestly about how I truly feel, and what he might say if, for once, he let his ego go.

Synastry Aspects:

My Moon (and possible Venus) is in his 12th house. (My Venus could also be in his 1st hose)

His Neptune tightly squares my Moon.

His Moon and Venus are in my 8th house, and those planets make multiple aspects to my inner planets.

His South Node conjuncts my Mercury and Ascendant.

His Neptune conjuncts my South Node.

(Other aspects: My Vesta, Pluto, Chiron Lilith in his 1st house, my Sun, Mercury and Ascendant in his 2nd house, his Mars is in my 1st house/conjuncts my ascendant, his Pallas conjuncts my Pluto and my Eros likely conjuncts his Ascendant).

My Natal Aspects:

I have a 12th house Venus, Mercury, Pluto, Chiron and Lilith.

My Moon tightly squares my Neptune.

My Venus sextiles my Neptune.

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12th House/Neptune Synastry Observation:

In non-foundational romantic relationships, I’ve noticed that the house person often questions whether the planet person actually likes them. The house person will tell themselves, “No, they’re just being nice—they don’t really care,” even when the planet person explicitly says that they do.

(This dynamic can work both ways. The planet person may also question whether the house person is being truthful. Essentially, if one person lacks Pisces or 12th house placements, doesn’t have strong or difficult Neptune aspects to their inner planets, or tends to be more avoidant, the roles can easily reverse).

In one loose connection, I was the house person, and I constantly questioned whether he ever really liked me or if I was just someone he entertained when he was bored. He could have literally said, “I like you,” and I would have responded, “Stop lying.” It was as if his verbal words carried no weight, and he genuinely wouldn't be able to convince me otherwise.

(This is a very general example in that case, I wasn’t that attracted to him and he was objectively noncommittal towards everyone). To add our synastry was mediocre; we didn’t share any 8th house contacts, and I was very unaware of my disorganized attachment style at the time.

We had 10th, 11th, and 12th house synastry, and again, I wasn’t objectively as attached to him because there wasn’t that intense pull (no Mars–Venus, Moon–Mars, 8th house, or Pluto contacts). I bring this up because, in another connection, I’m the planet person in a 12th house synastry and I know, deep down, that he doesn’t believe I genuinely care.

My longing eye contact seems to convince him more than my verbal affirmations, and he’s always surprised when I express how much I do care. In this specific connection, we share intense synastry: Eros, South Node, Psyche, 2nd and 8th house overlays, Chiron/Pluto/Lilith in the 1st, Mars conjunct Ascendant, Venus conjunct Ascendant…the list goes on.

And yet, he still questions my desire to this day. (My Moon and possibly Venus fall in his 12th house.) He just doesn’t believe I only have eyes for him, and every time I verbally express my attraction or give him attention, he smiles and always says, “Really?”

Like yes. It’s been five years this August (on and off), and he’s still surprised when I smile at him or compliment him. (Our 2nd house synastry is very strong, my planets fall into his 2H.)

It really shows how invasive 12th house synastry can be, because it clouds and confuses feelings so deeply. It can create a kind of unrealistic denial, where things don’t feel real or authentic even when the person is being completely honest and genuine.

12th house synastry is extremely nuanced—not every connection will reflect this. Sometimes people are deceptive, and you may not realize it until much later—but that’s a different topic for another day.

Worst-case scenario with this synastry: when someone is telling the truth, you think they’re lying and when they’re lying, you believe them.

Another common, universal theme I see in 12th house relationships is that one person—usually the avoidant—won’t openly or actively choose the other person, who is often more anxious. Yet, they still cling to the emotional safety that person provides. At the same time, they struggle to acknowledge or accept the care being offered, often due to fear, insecurity, or uncertainty.

They (the avoidant) won't let go because in doing so would mean losing the one thing that makes them feel seen and safe. And paradoxically, that is exactly why they can’t fully choose or accept love from the other person.

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8th and 12th House Synastry Poem:

Sometimes I cannot tell where your skin ends and mine begins; whether this pulse I feel is my own blood speaking or the echo of your touch still breathing under my skin.

But maybe it's only me, haunting myself again.

I remain, because even your absence has weight. Even though the story of us never had the chance to bruise, there's a part of me that still feels you.

You never spoke the words, yet I felt them tremble in your eyes, and every time my eyes met yours it was as if I was looking into dark wells of thirsting silence; and in that emptiness that was where your unshed longing lied.

I fell through all the midnight depths, through shadow, ache, and youth, and I still kept reaching downward, hoping to touch your hidden truth.

It was as though desire had become a mirror, and in wanting you, I finally saw the outline of the self I might have been, unafraid of love, had life let me grow into her.

In your eyes, I granted myself the quiet permission to fall not carefully, not halfway, but without restraint. And in the act of falling, I understood that I had always been capable of it. To feel so deeply meant there had always been love within me, not born in that moment, but waiting, patient and unspoken, for somewhere safe enough to be found. That was the buried truth I had carried since childhood, a fragile, hidden thread that bound me to you not only because I wanted you, but because through you I found proof that my heart still knows what to do.

But as we drift on borrowed time, I don't know what I am holding onto when there is no us left to lose. Our story never had the chance to bruise and because of that there's still a part of me that wonders about you.

I think the part of me tethered still clings on both truths: the unspoken wound and the undoubtable proof, the memory of what could be with us, and the mirror of truth.

So for now, it's as if my heart still bends toward your gone light like a flower reaching through the night; petals open to a vanished sun, still blooming for what could be done.

Perhaps because wanting you taught me my own depths too. And in caring for you, I came to see, a fulfilled self I could undoubtedly keep.

You won’t let go of me, yet you won’t choose me, and the longer I wait for your acceptance, the more I feel myself thinning, as if pieces of me quietly vanish in the space between your refusal and your grasp.

So maybe my desire was never about you at all, you were only a mirror I mistook for a doorway’s call; and in reaching for you, I finally saw the outline of someone unafraid to choose love, someone I never had the chance to grow into.

Until I understood the reflection was mine, and the life I had been chasing was not beside you, but rising from within, waiting for me to no longer bend.

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𐙚⋆°｡⋆♡The 8th & 12th House Synastry Cycle⋆°｡⋆♡

8th house synastry has always felt like standing too close to a fire you didn’t mean to build, yet somehow can’t step away from.

It is made of contradictions that don’t cancel each other out, but instead coexist, burning side by side.

The highs arrive first. They always do. They arrive in quiet realizations that escape your mouth before your mind can stop them, you say to yourself, "I am in love" and it feels obvious, it feels inevitable. Their presence rearranges your internal landscape. You find yourself placing them above everything else without hesitation. You show them loyalty not because they asked for it, but because the idea of them doubting you feels unbearable.

And then, as you two go your separate ways, the lows arrive just as suddenly as the highs once did.

Not gently, but like a door closing in another room, one you didn’t even realize was still open until the silence began to echo.

You become numb. Careless. Irritable at things that are not really the problem. You pull away from conversation, not because you don’t care, but because you can’t seem to care about anything at all. Not like before. Not in color.

Their presence had ignited something chemical, something alive, a rush of warmth and light that made everything else feel meaningful by proximity. And now, without it, the world returns in grayscale.

So nothing else quite reaches you, and nothing else stays.

Days pass and then inevitably so, you see them again.

But this time one part of you acts out of fear. They walk into the room, and you tell yourself "I don't want to burden them" and in trying to minimize the emotional charge and tension, you act distant, you make an effort to make them think you don't need them, not because it's true, but because you're scared of showing them how much you do care for them, and so fear speaks before truth. 

You oscillate, you go back and forth, showing intense loyalty to avoidance. 

Eye contact becomes language. Across crowded rooms, your eyes search for them before you even realize you’re looking. And when you find them, there is that moment — that quiet, overwhelming realization of finally being seen, of being accepted without effort, and it fills you completely. You can’t help but smile when they are near. Your eyes speak the million words your voice is too afraid to carry, and the questions you buried deep within yourself dissolve in their presence. Nothing needs to be asked. Nothing needs to be explained.

You know you like them.

You know you want them.

You know that you can let your walls fall down with them.

And it is the absence of questioning that changes everything. In not questioning, something steadies inside you. Something roots itself. It becomes an anchor, it feels unfamiliar, but undeniable.

A kind of self-reassurance you have never known before.

And because it feels like safety, you become afraid of losing the part of yourself that only exists when their eyes meets yours.

On days where expectations are not met, the absence of their attention buries you like an avalanche; and this pit in your stomach consumes you completely.

So you become aware of everyone else in proximity to them. You notice their laughter with others. You feel jealousy coil quietly in your chest. You compare the way you feel when they stand next to you — the warmth, the expansion — to the emptiness you feel when someone else stands there instead.

There is no comparison. There never is.

The highs can last for days. So can the lows.

And somehow, even in the uncertainty, the possibility of loving them takes precedence over everything else. You want them to know. You need them to know.

And sometimes, in a room full of people, you can’t help but tell them with your eyes alone.

"I want you."

But then, after time, the 12th house arrives like fog over still water.

It doesn’t extinguish the fire. It obscures it.

Not all at once. Not enough to alarm you. Just enough to blur the edges of something that once felt unmistakably clear.

What was once instinct becomes hesitation.

You begin to question things you never questioned before. You wonder if you mean anything to them, if they dream of you too, if they want you as much as you want them. The spaces between your interactions grow longer, heavier, filled with uncertainty you can’t ignore.

Doubt is quiet, but invasive.

You wonder if you imagined it. If maybe you projected depth onto something that was never as deep for them. The certainty you once carried so effortlessly now feels fragile in your hands. Now there is confusion. Hesitation. Fear living in the spaces between what is said and what is felt. Insecurities embed themselves quietly, like roots beneath the surface. Fear begins to disguise itself as intuition.

You tell yourself to be careful. Not to assume. Not to lean too much into something that has never been spoken aloud. And without realizing it, you begin to withhold parts of yourself that once came naturally. The fog doesn’t destroy the connection, it makes you unsure of where you stand and in that uncertainty, you stop moving toward them.

The intensity that once felt undeniable begins to feel questionable.

And now fear becomes the author of your behavior.

So one of you steps back.

Not because the feeling is gone, but because the uncertainty has become louder than the unexplainable knowing you feel when their eyes meet yours. And the other, sensing the shift without words, steps back twice as far. Neither of you asks why. Neither of you says what is happening. Silence becomes the loudest thing between you. And slowly, you both begin to rewrite the story to protect yourselves.

"They didn’t like me."

"They never did."

They walk into the room, and your body reacts before your mind can intervene. Your chest tightens. Your awareness sharpens. Every part of you turns toward them in quiet recognition.

But instead of moving closer, you retreat inward.

A thought appears, curious but commanding:

"Did they ever like me? Was this all in my head?"

You convince yourself your feelings are too much. Too heavy. Too visible. To feel this much with no foundation scares you, it scares you because you can't make sense of it. You can't understand why the tension rises when they are in the room, and you fear that if they truly saw the depth of it, they might feel trapped, obligated and overwhelmed.

So you do the only thing fear knows how to do.

You conceal.

You soften your gaze when you want to hold it. You speak to others with rehearsed ease, careful to construct the image of someone whole and unaffected.

Someone who does not need.

Especially not them.

You make sure they see this version of you.

Not because it’s true.

But because it feels safer than being known.

There is a particular pain in pretending you don’t care while caring more than you ever have. It is a quiet self-betrayal. You split yourself in two: the one who feels, and the one who performs.

And sometimes, in protecting yourself from rejection, you create the very distance you were afraid of.

They notice. Of course they notice.

They see your distance and interpret it as disinterest. They see your independence and assume they were never necessary to you. Your silence becomes their answer.

So they withdraw too.

And now, both of you stand on opposite sides of a divide neither of you wanted, each believing you are respecting the other’s absence. Both of you acting out of fear.

Fear spoke first.

And truth becomes something buried, not something named, it becomes something you only feel, but no longer trust.

Dismissiveness is mirrored. Distance is mirrored. Indifference is performed so convincingly it begins to feel real. A self-sabotaging prophecy written by two people too afraid to ask for truth.

The anxious one feels it first — the severance. Not physically, but energetically. Like a cord that once hummed with life has gone still. They feel the block. They feel something shift into something unreachable.

They replay every moment. Every glance. Every silence. They wonder if it meant anything. If they meant anything.

The avoidant one chooses the opposite survival.

They move on. Or try to. They date people who do not stir them. They choose eyes that do not see too deeply. They choose connections that ask nothing of them.

Because emotion means confusion.

And confusion means rejection.

So they convince themselves there was never anything there to begin with.

One holds onto memory.

One suppresses what was felt.

Both feel the absence. And then, time passes. Lives unfold.

Until one day, inevitably, they find themselves in the same room again.

And before either of them can stop it, their eyes meet. And the fire, which neither of them ever truly extinguished, begins to burn again.

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There's No Escaping You. A Story Dealing with 8th and 12th House Synastry:

(From a Disorganized/Avoidant Mindset)

"But just when I believe I'm free, the universe runs you into me."

It could have been months, maybe years even. Time passes quietly and somewhere along the way, thoughts begin circling your head: I don’t care anymore, I don’t think. I haven’t thought about them as consistently… maybe I’ve moved on. So you almost believe it. The ache softens, the longing dulls, and their absence starts to feel survivable.

Then, out of nowhere, on a random night out, you see them.

Your eyes meet, and for a split second it doesn’t feel like pain, or like a forgotten connection buried under circumstances and time. It feels neutral. Strange. Almost calm. It’s just a brief hello, nothing more. But a part of you is so used to wanting them so trained in longing that you slip into a role you know too well. You act excited. You act desirous. You play the version of yourself that never stopped wanting.

You smile at them. You say things you don’t fully feel in that moment. The words leave your mouth a second before you can check if they’re true. The disconnect has been living in your body for months now, quiet but constant, and somewhere along the way you forgot how they used to make you feel — how their eyes once carried warmth and acceptance, how they brought a sense of safety that settled deep in your chest without you even noticing. Your body doesn’t remember it yet; it stands there almost playing along, going through the motions. But your brain does. Your brain has been waiting, rehearsing this exact scene, holding the space carefully as if you never really let them go.

The next day comes, quiet and unremarkable, and you ask yourself, Do I still want them? The low hasn’t hit yet, so you tell yourself, Maybe I’ve actually moved on. I don’t think I care. But it lingers as a question more than an answer. Do I still care? Then the day ends without you asking again.

Then the universe does something.

A week later, you see them again. This time, they walk toward you, smile, and give you a soft hug. In that moment, as they hold onto you, you realize the part of you that thought had waved goodbye was only hiding in the spaces between letting go. With their eyes not meeting yours for months, you had forgotten it was still there, only because you could no longer feel the depth of their touch. You stand there, quietly stunned, recognizing that the version of yourself who “moved on” had only been resting in the shadows of longing, tucked within the parts of you that still crave love.

The moment passes. The meeting ends. You go home, but the echo lingers, warm and heavy, a reminder that some pieces of your heart never truly let go.

You start to ruminate. You fixate. You replay the way they used to make you feel, and slowly—almost subtly, yet suddenly, like a wave crashing onto the shore the emotional gravity of once wanting them returns. And then the low arrives. The inevitable low you were once so familiar with: the low that drags you into stillness, making the world feel muted and distant; the low that settles deep in your chest, the numbness born from the absence of this person in your life; the low that tells you no one else can make you feel this way, the low that whispers, “You can’t feel without feeling them too.”

It hits you with a clarity you didn’t ask for. And now, you remember what it feels like to want someone so completely that their absence casts a shadow over everything else.

Suddenly, all the memories you never got to make with them flood your mind, imagined moments, un-lived futures, the version of you that never got to exist. And all at once, an imagined montage of you two being together starts replaying in your mind, you see their eyes and they see yours. They softly grin while cupping your soft cheeks. They caress your skin, and something within shifts, you're now flooded in nostalgia, longing for what never got the chance to be. And just like that, you feel them again.

You realize how much you miss the parts of them that once lived within you. You miss the pull of their eyes, the way looking into them made everything else feel certain. You ache for the weight of their fingertips intertwined with yours, for the quiet certainty of being understood without words. You miss the consistency of wanting, the way it wrapped around you like a second skin. You miss feeling them, and for a moment, everything that had separated you, the months, the distance, the silences dissolves, leaving only the unshakable gravity of longing.

And now, you’re right back there. As if the ghost of them never existed. As if their absence never lingered for months, as if they didn't choose others over and over again, as if all those months of disconnect ceased to exist.

You say to yourself: I want them again.

Now the part of you that was once so certain about wanting them is in control. It’s no longer quiet, no longer tucked away. It ignites feelings that had been lying dormant, feelings that stayed so still, and with just one meeting there is no part of you that wants to let them go. You hold onto them the way the last light of sunset lingers on the horizon, stretching itself thinner and thinner, reluctant to disappear, as if it knows the dark will feel heavier once it’s gone.

You don’t want to say goodbye, not when their presence has become the quiet anchor you didn’t realize you had been drifting without. With them, you don’t question. You don’t ask yourself, what do I feel? Instead you just know. You know there is a part of you that could fall in love with them, and even after months of distance, it feels as if they never left.

You want to feel this deeply with someone. And with them, you do. Holding onto them feels like you are holding onto a version of love you long to feel. In some quiet way, they feel like they were once yours, and you were once theirs. Imagined moments begin to overflow your mind. You picture them holding you, and your breath slows, your mind quiets, as if your body remembers before your mind can sort out what has or hasn’t happened. Instead it's as if you remember what it feels like to belong to someone, to be held in the quiet certainty when looking into another's eyes. The longing rises above everything else, until it’s the only thing you can feel.

All you’ve ever wanted is to be someone’s person.

And when you look into their eyes, you finally feel that you are.

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A Song About 8th House/Pluto Synastry:

I wrote this song based on a tumblr post I made a few years back, if anyone is curious to listen here is the link:

Lyrics: Your eyes pull me open, a door I can’t unclose, Every fear I’ve ever hidden is the one you somehow know. And I’m trying to stay steady, but you undo me with a glance, There’s a truth inside your presence that I’ve never had the chance, To hold without it hurting, to love without the ache Still I chase the smallest moments like my life’s the one at stake. I should run, I should leave, but I’m tangled in the dream, ‘Cause the quiet in your gaze is where I finally feel seen. So I stay… even knowing how it ends, Half-alive, half-undone, losing pieces of me just to not feel my hollow vacancy And if you walked away, I swear a part of me would fade, But your touch fills up the hollow I’ve carried since the eighth. Oh, the pain of losing you still hurts less than losing me— So I hold you like a lifeline, just to feel seen. You soothe the empty spaces I’ve tried years to ignore, Like you’re stitching back the pieces I believed were gone before. And I hate the way I need you just to feel like I exist, But I feed upon your closeness like a drug I can’t quit. It’s a wound I keep reopening just to feel a little whole You’re the band-aid on the fracture running deep inside my soul. I know love shouldn’t feel like I’m fighting to be me, But your presence is my mirror where I finally feel seen. So I stay… even knowing how it ends, Half-alive, half-undone, losing pieces of me just to not feel my hollow vacancy And if you walked away, I swear a part of me would fade, But your touch fills up the hollow I’ve carried since the eighth. Oh, the pain of losing you still hurts less than losing me So I hold you like a lifeline, just to feel seen. Maybe it’s the parts of me I never learned to love, and you’re the echo of acceptance I dream of. And I know it isn’t healthy how I fall when you appear But I’d rather taste your seconds of closeness than have my own soul disappear... So I stay… even knowing what I lose, Every truth, every bruise, still I'll fold myself into you. If you vanished from my life, I’d lose the parts of me I wish to feel, But your eyes undo the silence I’ve been trapped inside for years. Oh, the pain of walking away hurts deeper than the need So I keep you like a promise… just to feel seen. Your presence is a lifeline, Your absence is a grave And I know I should escape you, But you’re the only place where my body feels safe. Oh you're the only place

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I recently wrote some songs about 8th and 12th house synastry, and if anyone is curious to listen, here’s my channel.

I have a few more with similar themes that I’ll be uploading soon! I got tired of not having any music to turn to when I’m feeling that specific kind of longing—so I decided to write and create my own. <3

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12th House/Neptune Synastry:

If the two parties are inconsistently romantically talking or there's emotional distance where one party has a significant other or there are obstacles with being together: “Maybe if I share this quote on my story, he’ll know this is how I feel towards him” “I don’t want to ruin whatever we have, but I can’t help but just want him.” “I feel like he cares about me but there's something holding him back from admitting it.” “When he looks at me, it feels like there’s so much he wants to say, but he just doesn’t.” “I always wonder if I cross his mind” “Was his story post meant for me?” “I wonder if I ever show up in his dreams.” “I know he was with someone else yesterday, but I feel like there's a part of him that wishes he was with me instead.” “He rarely initiates and all we share is eye contact but I can’t ignore the feeling that there’s still something between us.” “He keeps appearing in my dreams, even when I try not to think about him.” “I'll post this song on my story and maybe he'll look up the lyrics and realize this is how I feel towards him." “It feels like he cares; when he enters a room, we make eye contact and the energy between us shifts.” “It feels like he stays with her because choosing me would mean facing something he’s afraid of.

"He chooses everyone else over me but I can't help but feel like it's because he is scared." "I always find him looking at me, it feels like his eyes have something to tell me but he is too afraid to admit it." Me: “I want him to want me so bad he just grabs me, pulls me in, and kisses me.” Two weeks later… Him: “The moment I saw you, all I wanted was to grab you, pull you in, and kiss you." "Every time I listen to a song it reminds me of our unfinished story. This feeling of longing feels familiar and I don't know how to let that go." "I can't help but feel drawn to him even though there is nothing that I am holding onto." "But it feels like I can help him, save him or fix him, and I can't help but just want too." "He won't choose me, not like he chooses others, but I can't help but feel he's holding something back when his eyes looks into mine." "I had a dream where his hands were cupping my face, his eyes locked on mine, and he told me I make him feel more than anyone else ever has. Is that how he feels?" "Every time I see him I can't help but stare, it feels like there's so much unfinished feelings whenever he is next to me."

If the two parties are consistently talking or there's more of a consistent foundation between you two: " "Do he actually like me? I know he has told me out loud that he does, and we have talked for months now, but does he really?" "Why does it feel like he is unsure about how he feels toward me?" "I don't think he actually cares; he just says he does." "He is probably talking to other people." "I want to make sure he likes me before I fully let him in." "His subtle body language and cues feel like he is drawn toward me, and his eye contact tells me he does — but does he actually?" "I feel like I am not sure if he would choose me over someone else." "I don't think he actually likes me." "I wonder if I am actually important to him." *One dismissive action occurs* I knew it! They never liked or cared about me. Thoughts after the disconnect: "Did he ever actually care?" "I don't think I ever was someone important to him." "Was I ever someone to him or was it all fake?" "I wonder if he is thinking of me now?" "Did I feel different to him?" "Does he look into her eyes and wish it were my eyes he was looking into instead?" "I wonder if he is thinking of me in the way that I think of him." "Is he holding onto the idea of us, of what was or what could be?" "I never actually told him how I really felt." "Was this all in my head?" "We were never official, there was never a real foundation between us but it feels like I am saying goodbye to someone I once loved." "I feel fine and weeks go by, and then I feel this sudden longing for him of what was and what could have been." "It feels like we have dated and it feels like we have said goodbye to each other once before." "It's so easy for me to feel him again even after weeks and months of no contact." "Was I ever the person he wanted? Or was everything I felt only in my head?"

Synastry Aspects:

My Moon (and possible Venus) is in his 12th house.

His Neptune tightly squares my Moon.

His Moon and Venus are in my 8th house, and those planets make multiple aspects to my inner planets.

His South Node conjuncts my Mercury and Ascendant.

His Neptune conjuncts my South Node.

My Natal Aspects:

I have a 12th house Venus, Mercury, Pluto, Chiron and Lilith.

My Moon tightly squares my Neptune.

My Venus sextiles my Neptune.

Book a synastry reading with me or purchase my karmic astrology ebook that is curated towards 8th and 12th house synastry: https://myunsaidthoughts.gumroad.com

[myun-saidthoughts]

⋆. 𐙚 ˚❀⋆.ೃ࿔*:･ The Art of 8th and 12th House Synastry ⋆. 𐙚 ˚❀⋆.ೃ࿔*:･

Months pass. No conversations ignite, and a sudden feeling of longing overcomes me—as if the story of us was something that just ended.

Why am I suddenly feeling this ache I told myself to let go of? We haven’t spoken in months, and all I somehow hold on to is the eye contact that lingers when my eyes meet yours. Something brings me back to you—a song starts to play, and suddenly it’s like I’m holding onto the parts of you I still feel.

You can be vacant from my mind, and I tell myself, It’s over, and I am okay with that. But we never even began. We never even allowed ourselves to see what could unfold if we both let our fears go. What if we had let our walls fall down?

The way your eyes linger, the softness in your body language, and the tension that rises the moment you enter the room all whisper, I feel you—and I know you feel me. What if I said out loud all the hidden wishes I’ve had for you since the day I met you? What if I confessed the longing that ignites every time my body realizes I’m not yours?

But I never have, and I don’t know if I ever will.

I feel the disconnect when your mind drifts elsewhere, and that disconnect feels like I’m finally emerging from the fog that made its home inside my mind. Then weeks can pass, and a sudden wave of nostalgia starts to overflow; is this from my subconscious or yours? Do I still linger in the back of your mind? Did I ever mean anything to you in the way that you meant to me? Are you wishing for something that never was? Do you compare me to everyone you meet? Do you try to find in others the feeling you only find with me— the one that still lingers inside you even when our eyes aren’t meeting?

I’m holding onto the feeling of being seen by you, even when those words—I see you, and you see me—have never left your mouth, and probably never will. Instead, I hold on to the words you whisper to me in my dreams.

You cup my face, kiss my cheek so effortlessly, and say, “You make me feel more than any girl I’ve ever been with.” Your eyes find mine as you confess, “You’re everything I want.” You show me your journal— pages filled with me, dates and entries tracing every dream you’ve had of us. You look at me, steady and certain, and say, “Even when I don’t act like I care, I do. I still think of you.”

In these dreams, I wonder—is it you speaking, or me? Are these your hidden longings, or my desires whispering themselves into me?

In waking life, I know you’re not mine. I know you won’t choose me, even if a part of you wishes to. And still, in these dreams, that truth dissolves, and the distance between us doesn’t exist. And I can’t tell where you and I begin or where we end.

I want to believe it’s your eyes speaking softly into mine, but fear and doubt seep in. What if it’s not you at all? What if these dreams are just trying to fill a void I keep forgetting exists?

And the cycle repeats. Our story won’t end, because it was never told.

In the blur of a crowded room, my body will find you, our eyes will meet, and for a breath, time forgets to move. Unspoken words and tension rise like ghosts, and then I’ll feel it— that thin, invisible thread pulling me toward you through the ache, through the space we never claimed.

And it lingers— the echo of what almost was. It’s always almost, and maybe it always will be— in another dream.

Synastry Aspects:

My Moon (and possible Venus) is in his 12th house.

His Neptune tightly squares my Moon.

His Moon and Venus are in my 8th house, and those planets make multiple aspects to my inner planets.

His South Node conjuncts my Mercury and Ascendant.

His Neptune conjuncts my South Node.

My Natal Aspects:

I have a 12th house Venus, Mercury, Pluto, Chiron and Lilith.

My Scorpio Moon tightly squares my Neptune.

My Venus sextiles my Neptune.

Book a synastry reading with me or purchase my karmic astrology ebook that is curated towards 8th and 12th house synastry: https://myunsaidthoughts.gumroad.com

[divinely-fem]

The Synastry of Yearning ❦

Ever wondered what kind of cosmic chemistry makes someone yearn for you… deeply, endlessly, almost painfully? ✧ Let's look into aspects, and placements in synastry that can make a person yearn for you.

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12th house Synastry

The Ache You Can’t Forget

There’s one house in astrology that creates a longing so deep, it lingers in your bones… The kind of connection that haunts your dreams and leaves you craving them even when they’re gone.

This is why 12th house synastry feels fated… and why it’s nearly impossible to forget them.

Why it creates yearning:

When someone’s Venus, Mars, Moon, or Sun falls into your 12th house, they enter your subconscious realm.

You dream of them before you fully know them, and they haunt your thoughts without trying.

There’s a mystical, karmic familiarity — as if you’ve met in another lifetime.

The yearning is quiet but constant, like a song you can’t turn off.

Most potent:

Venus in the 12th → romantic longing

Mars in the 12th → forbidden desire

Moon in the 12th → psychic & emotional bond

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Pluto Aspects to Personal Planets ✧ Obsessive Pull

Why it creates yearning: Pluto is raw, magnetic, and consuming. When someone’s Pluto touches your Venus, Moon, Mars, or Sun, it awakens something primal and impossible to control.

Pluto conjunct/opposite/square Venus → obsessive desire and erotic fixation

Pluto conjunct/opposite Moon → emotional possession; they feel carved into your soul

Pluto conjunct/opposite Mars → sexual compulsion that borders on obsession

These are the connections where you cannot look away, no matter how hard you try.

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Neptune Aspects ✧ The Endless Fantasy

Why it creates yearning: Neptune blurs reality and turns connection into dreamscape love. It feeds obsession through idealization.

Neptune conjunct/opposite/square Venus or Moon → they become your muse, your addiction, your unreachable dream.

You crave them not just physically, but spiritually, and you’re often left chasing something that always feels just out of reach.

The yearning never ends because it’s built on the illusion of infinity.

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8th House Synastry ✧ Erotic Soul-Merging

Why it creates yearning: The 8th house is the realm of intimacy, taboos, and transformation. When someone’s planets fall into your 8th house, it ignites erotic obsession and soul-deep bonding:

Venus in the 8th → desire that’s tender and possessive

Mars in the 8th → explosive, magnetic attraction

Moon in the 8th → emotional vulnerability and raw intensity

This is where you feel their energy in your body. It’s sexual, yes — but also psychic, pulling you into them without logic. Once activated, it’s nearly impossible to detach.

[myun-saidthoughts]

12th House Synastry and Past Lives

I have a theory.

Not all 12th house overlays indicate a soul bond—but when they do, you feel it before you understand it. I understand why the 12th house is often tied to past life energy—but there’s a very specific feeling, an undertone, a knowing—when it’s truly a past life connection versus a illusion.

There’s one person whose Mars, Pluto, and Chiron all fall into my 12th house. But beyond that, we share these aspects:

My Venus and Vesta conjunct his IC

His Mercury and Vesta conjunct my IC

His Vertex conjuncts my South Node

My Moon and Venus fall in his 3rd house

My Chiron and Pluto are in his 4th

His Sun and Mercury fall in my 4th house

And out of everyone I’ve encountered, he feels the most familiar, the most past life worthy. That being said, there's one other connection that I compare this connection too. My Moon and Venus fall in his (Boy 2) 12th house. And although the feelings with both people are similar, the foundation they rest on feels completely different.

(We also share 8th house synastry but I can profoundly tell the difference between 8th and 12th house synastry)

12th House Boy: With him, everything exists in my mind. Every glance, action, non-action... it’s all imagined and heightened internally. The longing, the unsaid emotions, the ache of what never got to happen, it’s all unspoken, hidden, and private. Nothing has been openly expressed; nothing has ever been said aloud.

With him, there’s this silent knowing. It feels as if we speak through eye contact. There’s a constant stream of thoughts like: "Would we ever actually work out?" "Do I even want him, or just the feeling he brings me?" "Is this story post, tiktok repost, this song he posted on his social media—about me?" "Does he think of me the way I think of him?" "Why does it feel like I’ve already said goodbye to him before?" "I’ve never even dated him, yet it feels like I already have." "It feels like we’ve been intimate...as if there’s a hidden desire he locks away.”

He feels so close, yet feels unreachable. There’s always mystery—never clarity. I don’t know him in a solid, grounded way… I only wonder. I question how he feels about me, what he thinks of me and yet somehow, I know him deeply. I know his inner world, his pain, his wounds… but when it comes to his intentions with me, everything feels uncertain. There are no definitive “I know” moments—only constant “I wonder.” Nothing is ever revealed in full. Everything is implied, hidden, unfinished.

With him, it’s eye contact and desire, but never action. He evokes a feeling of "I feel like I have loved him before, and every time he walks away it mimics a heartache I long to experience." He reflects my yearning to fall in love. He’s the one who makes me want to let my walls down. So even though we’ve never had a real relationship, he represents love for me. He represents the idea and feeling that I have been in love and that’s what makes him feel so enticing and familiar.

Everything I desire about him is born from within me, from my own pain and longing. Because I feel as though I’ve been in love with him, even though he’s never openly chosen me, he becomes a stand-in for the experience of love itself. He soothes, temporarily, my ache to have loved—to have felt. If I am heartbroken, then I must have been in love, and since I am terrified of truly being in a relationship (even as I yearn for it), he allows me to feel like I’ve lived through the very thing I fear and crave the most. He softens my wounds just enough to let me imagine what it’s like to fall—but somewhere deep down, I know he won’t choose me the way I choose him.

Side note: Another theme I’ve noticed is that he seems to respond to my thoughts without me ever having to voice them. Once, when he was with my friend, I stayed quiet—too passive and shy to say anything. But when our eyes met, I screamed to him in my head, “Talk to me.” As if he heard me, he kept looking at me and then suddenly pulled my waist closer to him. He’s also said, word for word, things I once silently wished he would say to me out loud.

4th house Boy:

With him, there’s a familiar feeling that mirrors 12th house synastry—the sensation of “I’ve said goodbye to you before.” My body often reacts before my mind catches up. There have been moments where I instinctively knew how he’d respond to a situation, and he’s triggered insecurities in me that have no logical cause or foundation.

For example, I remember walking with him and passing a girl. In a split second, my eyes, body, and head responded as if I already knew he’d be drawn to her. It was like I was watching my boyfriend eye someone else? The insecurity hit fast and deep—as if we had something to lose? But in that experience, it was only our third time hanging out? There was no actual foundation between us, and yet, it felt like there was.

He feels easy. There’s no confusion, no spiral of questions. I don’t wonder—I just know. I can let go with him, let things flow without fear or tension. Hours feel like minutes. Our communication is layered, natural, as if we’ve met hundreds of times before. Another thing I noticed with this connection is that there's this weird underlying feeling of "I don't compare" when it comes to others? Weirdly enough, it's like I automatically added a layer of trust when it came to us. It felt almost as if it was somehow built between us even though there's been little to no foundational growth in the relationship. Obviously insecurities can still intertwine in their way with this relationship, but there was more of a mix when it came to him. Me immediately knowing he'd be drawn to that girl vs me feeling as if I have a tangible relationship with him, even though there's really nothing to show forth is what mainly contradicted me.

But then, here’s where the 12th house resonance creeps in.

Once I allowed him in, the longing hit. The low set in. I began to mourn something that had never even fully formed. It was so similar to my 12th house experiences: grieving a connection that logically shouldn’t hurt, because it was so brief. And yet it felt like something we’d built over months or even years.

Not being with him felt like losing someone I had already lost once before?

The similarities of both: They each reflect something forgotten but familiar. With both, there’s a sense of history that doesn’t make logical sense. There are no lengthy timelines, no concrete memories, and yet there’s this weird knowing, like I’ve already lived something with them. They trigger longing. They echo wounds I didn’t realize I had. They bring me face to face with my own hidden desires, my fears, my capacity to feel. They expose the line between fantasy and memory, between what has happened and what I feel has happened. And with both, I grieve in ways that don't fit the actual timeline. I grieve possibilities. I grieve what never got to grow. I grieve the goodbye before the hello was fully spoken.

But the difference is where that familiarity leads me.

With the 12th House Boy, the familiarity leaves me with more questions. I live in the ache. The longing becomes the relationship. He is a mirror of my inner world, and I fall into him the same way I fall into daydreams, it feels deep, but there's no grounding. Our relationship is like a ghost I carry, not something I can hold.

Every interaction is laced with doubt. There is always something missing somehow, and someway. Every time I take one step forward he'll take a step back; then when he takes a step forward towards me, I'll act out of insecurity and the cycle repeats. Our fears get the better of us and cause us to avoid our hidden desires for one another. This comes from the fear of being a burden, of feeling that our emotions are “too much” for a connection with no solid ground, no real foundation. The tension between us defies sense; no matter how hard we try, reason cannot contain it. We avoid it, hoping to soften the weight that rises the moment we share a room, yet the tension lingers, unrelenting and inevitable.

With the 4th House Boy, the familiarity grounds me. I relax into him. He doesn’t exist in the in-between; he’s here, now, and present. And while his presence awakens old grief and past-life choices, it doesn’t leave me spiraling in uncertainty. He doesn't stir up a fantasy of what could be, instead he reminds me that safety and depth can coexist.

12th house synastry reminds me of love I’m still chasing—love I imagine, love I crave from a distance. He fulfills a wound I have in this waking life, of being in love but never having to fully let go.

4th house synastry reminds me of love I’ve had—love I remember, love I miss, love I trust.

One makes me long to be chosen. The other makes me feel chosen just by existing near him.

12th house love is like walking through a fog, it's haunting and confusing. It makes me feel like I’m on the verge of fully letting go, but I never quite touch it and because I can never touch it, it feels safe enough to choose. 4th house love is like wearing your favorite childhood blanket. There's no need for approval from within, or outside of you. You already know that this is your blanket that you've had for years. You know within and that's all you truly need to confirm that this blanket is yours. Both carry such similar responses.

With the 12th house connection, you are cracked open quietly, without the other person ever needing to fully participate. They activate something deep within you, sometimes unknowingly—something spiritual and elusive. It's less about the person and more about what they awaken in your subconscious. The ache they leave behind teaches you more about your own depths than any conversation could.

With the 4th house, the healing is warm, embodied, and real. It shows up in the small moments—the ease of presence, the safety to be seen. There's a softness to the bond, a sense that home isn't a place but a feeling you recognize in someone else. You don’t ache in the same way; you’re held. It’s healing through belonging, rather than through longing.

And yet, both create that haunting familiarity. That timelessness. That internal shift that whispers: “I've known this person before.” If you have to constantly ask, “Is this a past life connection?”—if you have to dig for signs, for patterns, for proof—then it might not be.

Because when it is a soul recognition, there's no need to chase for clarity. There’s just simple knowing. It moves through you like a memory that doesn’t need to be remembered. It’s like an echo in your soul that simply says: “Yes.”

So if you ever find yourself wondering whether someone is part of your past life story—remember this: You won’t have to ask. You’ll just know.

P.S I have dealt with 12th house synastry multtipleee times; platonic and romantic alike and each one hasn't evoked a single past life question besides these two boy's I mentioned. I know in the 2nd Boy his Mars is in my 12H, however even if there wasn't an objective overlay he would still feel different. I have had others Sun's, Moon's Venus's etc in my 12H (and my planets in theirs) and there's been nothing on my end. So again using discernment is key.

I also share more past life indicators with both of these boys so if you fall into both of these scenarios that can also be plausible!

Book a synastry reading with me or purchase my karmic astrology ebook that is curated towards 8th and 12th house synastry: https://myunsaidthoughts.gumroad.com

[myun-saidthoughts]

❦♡❦♡ Astrology Observations ❦♡❦♡

❥Dominant un-evolved Libra/7th house placements prioritize romantic partners over platonic relationships. The amount of depth or care that they allow themselves to feel is curated for their partner, and no matter how much consideration or care you show them, the amount of depth they will allow in from you is limited.

❥For Aquarius Moons (or dominant Aquarians) the root of many long-term struggles lies in how they respond to discomfort—by default, they tend to avoid it, which only delays growth and resolution.

❥1st House Chiron (maybe Pluto depending on other factors in the chart) can create the native to have deep self worth issues around their self image. They could lack confidence and there's often times dilemmas on how they "should" act or "should" look based on how others treated them.

❥If the native's Sun has little to no aspects in their birth chart, the chance that their Father is either emotionally or physically absent is likely, especially if the Sun is in the 7th, 10th or 12th house.

❥Nessus (the asteroid) aspecting the Sun, Moon, Mercury, Mars, Venus or the Ascendant indicates the native has dealt with deep abuse with the people they are closest with in their life. This abuse has fundamentally shaped them to become the person they are today.

Sun

Abuse from the father or dominant parental figure

Ego wounds; struggles with self-confidence and identity

Difficulty asserting autonomy; fear of being alone or independent

Potential for codependent behavior rooted in early validation issues

Moon

Abuse from the mother or maternal figure

Emotional manipulation, neglect, or inconsistency

Victim mindset or emotional enmeshment is common (your mother may have shown those traits early on in your life)

May struggle with emotional regulation and safety

Mercury

Abuse from siblings or through verbal communication

Childhood pain transferred into sibling dynamics

Parental abuse may distort thought processes or communication patterns

Mental overstimulation or inner criticism may stem from early verbal harm

Mars

Physical abuse or exposure to violence

Aggression as a learned coping mechanism

Impulsive, reactive behavior tied to unresolved rage from upbringing

Prone to conflict or projecting anger when triggered emotionally

Venus

Abuse from romantic partners or through love and affection

Tendency to seek self-worth through others

Attracting unhealthy relationships due to unhealed abandonment wounds

Love becomes a battlefield for reenacting early trauma

Ascendant

Abuse tied to early childhood and identity formation

The trauma is deeply embedded in how one shows up in the world, the abuse feels foundational, like it shaped your core self

Can manifest as self-protection, masking, or people-pleasing

Deep-rooted need to protect yourself; hyper-awareness of how others perceive you

Can result in either shrinking away from attention or overcompensating through control

❥Air and Fire dominant natives become bored with romantic connections quite quickly when there's no mental stimulation or attraction. Fire Venus/Asc/Mars will stick it out for the most part if there's genuine physical attraction. However Air dominant natives especially Venus/Asc/Mars will likely leave a connection if there's not enough conversation or playfulness involved.

❥Neptune conjunct Descendant can indicate a tendency to be deceived by romantic partners. They may choose partners who withhold a part of themselves, or they have 'rose colored glasses' towards individuals who are not healthy minded. They may see the red flags but ultimately chooses to ignore or give them the benefit of the doubt and forgive very easily. Especially if Neptune makes harsh aspects to the Sun, Moon, Venus or Mars.

❥Mars + Uranus + Pluto in the 5th House can indicate a tendency to form a gambling addiction. It also can showcase an intense need for outside fun, stimulation or adrenaline.

❥A native with an 11th house in Scorpio may experience pain or hardship when forming friendships or when it comes to finding a sense of community—especially if the Moon, Chiron, Saturn, or Pluto is present. The friendships they attract often bring intense lessons around self-worth and self-love. Compared to others, they may find it more difficult to build and maintain friendships, and might also rely more heavily on their friends for emotional support or validation.

❥Scorpio/8th house Moon individuals can have a harsh and emotional distant relationship with their Mother. Either the mother was emotionally abusive, narcissistic, absent or cold (depending on the sign). As the native matures, their relationship with the mother may improve. However, in early childhood, the native likely experienced emotional absence or instability from her.

❥Aries/6th House placements prioritize the gym more than other placements. Routine and a consistent workout schedule mentally calms their mind. They feel their best when they are at the gym, or when they are doing physical self care, such as facials, yoga, pilates, cardio, practicing a fixed diet, and so fourth.

❥5th/10th/11th House Moon, Venus, Sun, Mercury, Libra/Pisces placements are naturally in the Universes favor when it comes to gaining fame online or being noted for their beauty. Their appearance is favored on camera and the chances of gaining popularity online is very likely. They also may have incredibly soft skin and are blessed with facial genetics.

❥12th House placements especially Chiron, Venus, and Lilith often attract unwarranted animosity or jealousy from others. These individuals frequently become targets of projection and are blamed for actions they haven’t committed. They either speak up and are punished for it, or stay silent and are misunderstood. Others often driven by insecurity—construct false narratives about who they are.

As a woman, other girls may misconstrue your character, often withholding trust or projecting unwarranted animosity—especially if they feel you threaten their relationship with a partner or romantic interest. Their insecurities cast you as the villain, leading to you being reprimanded for actions you never took. They might label your behavior as “fake” or inauthentic, causing you to question yourself. Even if you know deep down that these narratives are false, the consistency of these experiences can make you wonder if there’s any truth to their accusations. Constant gossip could occur where these girls talk behind your back and nothing is every stated to your face, if you were to ask where their animosity stems from they will say "Just because."

Insecure boys may treat you poorly as a reflection of their own inner wounds. They might desire you but resent the fact that they can’t have you, which leads them to act cold, dismissive, or rude. Some may react with anger or irritation to your natural behavior simply because you don’t reciprocate their interest. On the opposite end of the spectrum, others may idealize you—seeing you as an “angel” or someone who can do no wrong. If there are aspects of you that remain a mystery, or if little is known about you publicly, they may fill in the blanks with fantasies or projections. You could be deeply admired without even knowing it. Groups of boys may talk about you behind your back, viewing you as a prize or someone unattainably special, yet never expressing these feelings to your face.

❥12th house Stellium vs 5th house Stellium: Both can do the same action, say the same comment and do the same exact thing; however the 5th house native will receive grace and prolonged consideration for their action while the 12th house native will experience backlash, gossip, and repercussions.

❥Moon/Venus opposite Uranus natives oftentimes struggle with consist relationships or monogamy. They may be drawn to polyamorous relationships or place romantic connections at the bottom of their priority list (especially if they are an avoidant or struggle with emotional vulnerability/intimacy). They may desire a partner in one moment then become completely disinterested in the next. This has to do with the fact that their Mother was often erratic or irrational when it came to the natives needs. One moment the mother was emotionally/physically present, and in the next completely fixated on their own needs and desires. So now, consistency forms as red flags and can even create boredom for the native. They may always be on the go or prefer to change scenery. Stagnation creates uncomfortability especially if they have 9th house placements.

❥8th house/Pluto synastry — especially when you carry deep wounds around self-worth, love, value, and abandonment — can feel very similar to the peace people describe during near-death experiences.

When someone’s Pluto touches your personal planets or activates your 8th house, the feeling isn’t just healing — it’s otherworldly. There's suddenly no more abandonment wounds, no more aching past; the deeper your wound, the more powerful their presence will feel.

8th house/Pluto synastry mirrors this freeing frequency, and it's the one your soul knows intimately, the one your consciousness is most familiar with and that's why this person will feel like "home."

❥12th House Venus natives often hold onto the ‘what ifs’ of a connection because the lingering longing creates an illusion of love. This longing allows them to feel as if the person once chose them, and they cling to that imagined moment for comfort. Longing becomes familiar—safe—because, deep down, they know it’s someone they likely can’t have. In truth, these natives often fear real, reciprocal emotional intimacy. They would rather idealize a connection from afar than face the vulnerability of having one.

❥A Leo Moon/Venus combined with a Virgo Sun and Rising can create a complex relationship with praise and recognition.

The native may crave validation and admiration to feel emotionally secure, yet struggle to truly receive it. Deep down, they long to be seen — not just for what they do, but for who they are. Still, Virgo’s influence brings a strong inner critic and a constant push for perfection. As a result, even when recognition is given, they may feel undeserving, leading to imposter syndrome. The tension between their need for appreciation and their fear of falling short can make it hard to embrace success without self-doubt.

Book a synastry reading with me or purchase my karmic astrology ebook that is curated towards 8th and 12th house synastry: https://myunsaidthoughts.gumroad.com