moneyposting -
had a pretty nice + constructive chat w/ my mum the other day actually - she brought up how impressed she was with my independent payments for the wedding bc she said she expected to be asked for money every week but actually we (i, really - ben wouldn't dare lol) have only asked once so far so i was like haha (nervous laughter) thank you but we will definitely need some help in august and she said that by that time granddad's will should have cleared through all the legal hoops anyway (altho honestly like... even without that she'd be fine but i get what she's saying)
re: the will money i said to her that i assumed it wouldnt change my life much bc im a generation removed from the sudden wealth + she was like well granddad would have wanted it to change all of our lives :) and then she sort of asked me if i had any long term plans + i was like well id love to buy a small rural bolthole in wales/scotland - a studio or a 1 bedroom - and she was actually REALLY enthused by this dea and pledged to help us financially if we wanted to do that at some point (obviously the wedding takes precedence + then me and ben want to go to iceland on our honeymoon in 2024 but uh after that) i don't want to move out, i like living with both ben AND ana, but i am v aware that i dont actually own any of this house and should things go tits up id have little recourse to fix things. altho to be clear i don't think anyone anticipates it going wrong - but you know
if me + ben did buy a property somewhere rural i kind of envision it could be something familial like id be happy to let my sister/friends/parents/etc stay there too. like a personal airbnb. this does sound very landlordy tho :( also im unsure how much ben wants to be involved, historically he's been v nervous about the idea bc of how much of a money pit the whole idea could potentially be but yesterday i brought it up again and he was keener. anyway i dont mind doing it alone IN THEORY but yeah that would be a massive massive commitment to do without any benhelp innit
i did spend way too long yesterday looking at old abandoned churches for sale lol.. some of them were like only ("only") 60k but obviouly you'd need to spend probably like at least 3x that to bring them back up into liveable condition and i do not have that
















