NPD culture is seeing “NPD explained by ducks” and being like, “okay okay we’re getting somewhere, probably one of the least harmful videos spreading awareness about NPD I’ve seen (I think?), still a good duck, we love to s—“
and then recently getting jumpscared by the thumbnail weeks later of one of their shorts on my recommended called “What is a Narcissistic Parent?” from Explained By Ducks (diplomaduck on YouTube) , being too scared to click on it because you just have this gut feeling that it will be FULL of misinformation . I have no idea if this creator is considered an ableist creator or not because I’m too afraid to watch the video so if anyone is brave enough to do so let me know 😭 because if so, it’s such a shame really 💀 this is the bare minimum that pwNPD get only for them to throw it out the window……..
The shittiest kinds of NPD demonisers are the ones who acknowledge the fact that no one chooses to have NPD, and that it’s a disorder rooted in trauma that causes extreme fragility, pain and suffering to those who have it, and yet choose to demonise narcissists and tell people very specific ways to hurt them anyway. There would be public outcry if a popular creator told the internet how to push an autistic person into having a meltdown, but everyone cheers when said creators tell the internet how to push a narcissist into collapsing.
NPD culture is getting really excited to watch a video about ActuallyRea’s OCs only for them to describe one of the characters from a movie they watched and were inspired by describe the character as a “narcissistic mother” and then immediately clicking off and getting upset because like . I really wanted to know more about ur ocs are u kidding me !!!!!!! : ((((( this would probably go under ableist creators tag . This is the 2nd time in a row a YouTuber I’ve watched described abusive parents as narcissistic and I hate it here .
NPD culture is crashing when a YouTuber you love makes a video about ‘how to spot a narcissist at a bar’ and it’s completely wrong. Her channel name on YouTube is “thebartenderfromtiktok” and her displayname is Michelle Kimball, not trying to dox, I’m just letting yall know because 1, it’s open information and 2, I appreciated it when another person used this blog to tell others that Actually Rea, a creator I follow but haven’t kept up with, also used the term narcissist wrongly when describing an OC of hers.
Anyway, I adored Michelle because she’s always been so creative and has a ‘I take no shits’ attitude. When I saw the first video and went to the comments, there were people defending us. Her first video was basically “If he comes in when it’s slow and you give him attention and he tips good, and he comes back when it’s busy and you cant give him as much attention he tips poorly, and when you give him more attention again and he tips good again, he’s a narcissist” so. I was hoping she was just misinformed. Then she made a second video where a guy enters the bar with his girlfriend and compliments her, the bartender, on her eyes, and she immediately calls him out for it, asking why he’s complimenting her when he has a girlfriend right there. His girlfriend says it’s okay, he’s literally just being friendly, but Michelle calls him a narcissist, tells them not to tip, tells the girl to come back when she’s dumped him because “seeing her alive” will be the best tip she can receive.
Apparently her ex-husband is someone she considers to be a narcissist, I don’t know if he’s actually diagnosed and happens to be an asshole or if she’s diagnosing him based off stigmatized stereotypes but it doesn’t really matter. I loved her channel, I loved the videos she made, and now that’s all out the window. People in the comments of the second video were agreeing with her more than the comments of the first, probably because in the second video she told the man she was insulting that her ex husband was a narcissist so she knows how to spot them.
I’m just. Really disappointed and sad. She’s someone I looked up to, and now I’m really pissed off and I wish I hadn’t watched a single one of her videos.
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Oh if we're doing ableist creators, Boze vs. The World strikes me as ableist too. I used to watch her, checked in, but now I hate her. She uploaded a video called "How to Hurt a Psychopath" and showed a video of a victim impact statement against Bryan Kohberger (the Idaho murderer) who is NOT diagnosed with ASPD, he's diagnosed with ASD, OCD, and ADHD. Not even a cluster b disorder. She generalizes narcissists and those with ASPD while conflating all of us to serial killers and criminals with no room for a spectrum. And her comment sections aren't much better. "Thanks to you I know how to fight the narcissists in my life". Fuck off, I almost guarantee you the people in your life don't have NPD, they're just egotistical assholes. Here's a direct quote from the above mentioned videos: "These people savor memories of pain." And "These people do not remember anything other than the emotions that they had control over you in the moment." She very much others us like we're not people too. Also, she says sociopath and psychopath like they're not the same fucking disorder just on different levels and also sociopath and psychopath is not clinically recognized terms when she should be using clinically recognized terms with the content she talks about. Overall, she just doesn't know wtf she's talking about and she annoys me a lot.
ableist creators: sisyphus 55 (he has this video titled DONALD TRUMP EXPLAINED: A Guide To Narcissism, and in the cover he wrote: "the psychology of being the bestest" like he could've chosen a better person or character to represent us, but he deliberately used the most villainous person on earth. i haven't watched the video but seeing the title and cover it most likely reeks of ableism) so if you want to watch his videos, download them using ytmp4 softwares so we won't give him any ad revenues or at the very least use an ad blocker even though that's still gonna add up to his number of views
