I have tried and have not finished going through the fraysexual hashtag. However, I have reported more posts as spam under this tag than I had to report as spam under the frayromantic tag. There are more polls too. Someone has tagged the history of the ace flag + word origin of the asexual label under the fraysexual tag…and then, these kinds of posts which are not fraysexual related get boosted under the fraysexual tag.
Tell me why the fraysexual community is supposed to care about asexual history when the ace community doesn’t care about the fraysexual community, makes no effort to raise awareness for the fraysexual community, and actively harms/makes it harder for the fraysexual community to get awareness by doing things like relabeling Asexual Spectrum Awareness Week to “ace week”? It’s frustrating bc you all seem to have no problem with demi awareness, inclusion, education, etc, which is why the demi option on these polls I am re blogging is so high.
Moving on, some other things I have noticed in the fraysexual tag so far is how people, particularly uneducated aces (it seems) will do things like “@/user” is an exclusionist! They believe [exclusionist rhetoric]. Or, I literally saw a post where someone was like “telling someone I was asexual was emotionally draining/hard enough for me. Now, I’m just grasping how vast the asexual spectrum is! Wow. Omg”. Posts like that aren’t fraysexual related and shouldn’t be tagged in the fraysexual label. Keep the fraysexual tag out of posts like that, because it comes across as “gawking” at fraysexuals and treating them like a zoo animal for being so different for you. Maybe if fraysexual awareness, inclusion, and education was normalized, grasping how diverse the asexual spectrum is (and why the ace community needs to do a better job with awareness for acespec labels) wouldn’t be such a surprise.
In other words, I reported a lot of posts as spam. Another thing that was lowkey pissing me off was the art. The only fraysexual art I had seen was bulk/collection posts, where they have tons of labels and do tons of tags, which ultimately boosts their posts. Although it was disheartening to see to posts like this as the only fraysexual art, I really didn’t like how fraysexual was portrayed as the last option, or sometimes even literally “smaller” than other acespec/aspec/queer art options. It really seems to be communicating a vibe of “insignificant” or how fraysexual was quite literally “barely included”, and is the first to be excluded (since it is the last option). How are fraysexuals supposed to feel pride in their identity when it’s treated like this? And if labels like asexual already have the privilege of having the most awareness out of all acespec labels, why are you making them the biggest, first, and most prominent option? When is the fraysexual community feeling included and welcome going to matter? When is pride in fraysexual going to matter? Can we stop spamming the fraysexual tag too on ace posts, while we are at it?
Bottom line: I haven’t witnessed any fraysexual pride (from fraysexuals) on tumblr. I have seen artists, sellers, and aces spamming the fraysexual tag with irrelevant or depressing content, which I have done my best to report those posts as spam so far. This culture needs to change; amplify fraysexual voices and fraysexual-focused art instead of focusing on the maximum number of notes for your blog.
Disclaimer: don’t harass anyone whose content I am reblogging. If they want to read my reblog, they will. Otherwise, it’s probably best to just accept these people don’t have empathy or don’t care about/value acespec/fraysexual awareness. Keep in mind 1) there’s still self-hatred about being asexual. Someone who hates themselves cannot uplift others in their community. 2) the garlic bread culture. There’s a non-serious, silly, “joke” culture that makes it difficult for aces to have serious discussions. Not saying this is an excuse for no acespec awareness or fraysexual exclusion; I am saying some people are not willing to listen or willing to have discussions like this. Do not harass anyone. You may agree or disagree with me on my blog.
